Showing posts with label the natural parent. Show all posts
Showing posts with label the natural parent. Show all posts
There is a large element of the natural parent in all of us. Some, as we grow into societies wants and demands on us, tend to stifle down our instincts- our gut feelings. My belief is to rear your child as you see fit for what works with you and them. Each child is an individual. a person born of you, but not a part of you. So we have to teach them to that basis.
Teach them the rules to live in society, but don't smother the natural urge to test the bounds and experience what makes them happy and fulfilled.
Pinoch has grown into one of those fellows I love to watch and listen to one minute, while wanting to confine him to the netherlands in the next.
I love this thought he believes for himself.
“…I might be two things.” He thought a little longer and said, “I might be a lot of things.”
Yes, I am a grandmother. Lovely to my Jett Parker Ellington and mommy to his mom.
I'm so excited about the things she is doing with him, with his education. With the expansion of his HUGE four
year old brain and his humongous personality.
I believe in hands on and free learning. The natural way of gaining and retaining information.
I also believe in applauding people I see doing good jobs. Not saying this fellow is an angel-no, he's a total real boy with busted knees and lips. Has been from day one, which is why I call him Pinoch. No strings hold him back.
But his mom is doing an outstanding job when it comes to letting him be the person he is meant to be. His joy and thirst in learning is phenomenal.
She is more of a natural parent than I am/was. Into canning, making soaps, and medications. Gardening, wanting chickens and owning a small plot of "I can do what I want," land.
She's homeschooling him as I did with her and her sisters. She has a lovely post on his blog at Happy Adventures of Preschool Boy
"J likes science, caterpillars and butterflies, horses, fast cars,
rhyming games, silly bits of poetry and though he says he doesn’t like
insects, he’s always looking for them. He has a funny talent for bird
calling, an eye for the tiny details, and an enthusiasm and a laugh
that’s contagious.
We’re making up this schooling thing as we go along but I can guarantee you that it will includes all the things little things he
loves and more. There are days where we lay on the floor and write our
letters, or where we take some time to learn on the computer but more
often than not, we like to be hands-on and right in the middle of what
we’re learning.
I’m hoping that a freedom to learn and indulge and in his interests
in his early years will lead to a deep confidence and personal freedom
as he grows. I’m also hoping that he and I will have several fun
adventures along the way." ~ G.Wade -Adventures of Preschool Boy
via- GWade
They also share so much more on their Tumblr and Facebook page.Articles, experiments, etc.
Enjoy this lesson on how to make Salt Dough from their YOUTUBE page.
That Lovey Feeling. My Grandbaby Can Do No Wrong #parenting #homeschooling
Ey Wade +
grandbabies +
grandmothers +
homeschooling +
motherhood +
the natural parent
There is a large element of the natural parent in all of us. Some, as we grow into societies wants and demands on us, tend to stifle down our instincts- our gut feelings. My belief is to rear your child as you see fit for what works with you and them. Each child is an individual. a person born of you, but not a part of you. So we have to teach them to that basis.
Teach them the rules to live in society, but don't smother the natural urge to test the bounds and experience what makes them happy and fulfilled.
Pinoch has grown into one of those fellows I love to watch and listen to one minute, while wanting to confine him to the netherlands in the next.I love this thought he believes for himself.
“…I might be two things.” He thought a little longer and said, “I might be a lot of things.”
Yes, I am a grandmother. Lovely to my Jett Parker Ellington and mommy to his mom.
I'm so excited about the things she is doing with him, with his education. With the expansion of his HUGE four
year old brain and his humongous personality.I believe in hands on and free learning. The natural way of gaining and retaining information.
I also believe in applauding people I see doing good jobs. Not saying this fellow is an angel-no, he's a total real boy with busted knees and lips. Has been from day one, which is why I call him Pinoch. No strings hold him back.
But his mom is doing an outstanding job when it comes to letting him be the person he is meant to be. His joy and thirst in learning is phenomenal.
She is more of a natural parent than I am/was. Into canning, making soaps, and medications. Gardening, wanting chickens and owning a small plot of "I can do what I want," land.
She's homeschooling him as I did with her and her sisters. She has a lovely post on his blog at Happy Adventures of Preschool Boy
"J likes science, caterpillars and butterflies, horses, fast cars,
rhyming games, silly bits of poetry and though he says he doesn’t like
insects, he’s always looking for them. He has a funny talent for bird
calling, an eye for the tiny details, and an enthusiasm and a laugh
that’s contagious.
We’re making up this schooling thing as we go along but I can guarantee you that it will includes all the things little things he
loves and more. There are days where we lay on the floor and write our
letters, or where we take some time to learn on the computer but more
often than not, we like to be hands-on and right in the middle of what
we’re learning.
I’m hoping that a freedom to learn and indulge and in his interests
in his early years will lead to a deep confidence and personal freedom
as he grows. I’m also hoping that he and I will have several fun
adventures along the way." ~ G.Wade -Adventures of Preschool Boy
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| via- GWade |
They also share so much more on their Tumblr and Facebook page.Articles, experiments, etc.
Enjoy this lesson on how to make Salt Dough from their YOUTUBE page.
I don't think there is anything more enjoyable in life than being a grandparent. You get to see parts of your own child reborn. Relive the joy of holding a new life, and see the future.
You get the chance to watch this new being become a person in their own right.
Love, spoil, send back home.
And you get to sit back and cheer a little when karma kicks in, but...
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Don't stand too far back. All new parents need a little advice and will love it when given in a non-condescending manner.
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Don't cheer at the comeuppance your child is getting from their mini. Well,maybe you can just a little. Behind the hand and not too loudly.
-
Do step in occasionally and show how you handle a given situation that's getting out of hand. Not as if you are the only one who could fix the issue, but with the air of instruction and being a help mate.
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Do show that grandchild what behavior you will and will not accept. Shut it down quick.It never works if you let a child believe he/she can get away with any and everything with Lovey, grandma...whoever you are to them. That reinforces bad behavior and doesn't help the parents. You guys are all a team in rearing a beautiful, loving, giving adult.
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Most of all, pass out lots of hugs and parts on back for a job well done.
Ey Wade is the author of several books in many genres. She s at present working on a parenting book.
Enjoy novels written by Ey Wade
Snap of a Grandparent #parenting #grandparent #thingslegendsaremadeof
aging +
children +
family +
grandparent +
motherhood +
the natural parent
I don't think there is anything more enjoyable in life than being a grandparent. You get to see parts of your own child reborn. Relive the joy of holding a new life, and see the future.
You get the chance to watch this new being become a person in their own right.
Love, spoil, send back home.
And you get to sit back and cheer a little when karma kicks in, but...
- Don't stand too far back. All new parents need a little advice and will love it when given in a non-condescending manner.
- Don't cheer at the comeuppance your child is getting from their mini. Well,maybe you can just a little. Behind the hand and not too loudly.
- Do step in occasionally and show how you handle a given situation that's getting out of hand. Not as if you are the only one who could fix the issue, but with the air of instruction and being a help mate.
- Do show that grandchild what behavior you will and will not accept. Shut it down quick.It never works if you let a child believe he/she can get away with any and everything with Lovey, grandma...whoever you are to them. That reinforces bad behavior and doesn't help the parents. You guys are all a team in rearing a beautiful, loving, giving adult.
- Most of all, pass out lots of hugs and parts on back for a job well done.
Ey Wade is the author of several books in many genres. She s at present working on a parenting book.
Enjoy novels written by Ey Wade
Part 3- of setting routines in the book- "The Natural Parent". Content page-The Natural Parent Handbook
Routines-Part3. To Hold or Not to Hold
You can tell when a child is ready to lay on its own by their specific movements. This is a great time to also pay attention to these movements, and the signs the baby will give you, showing the readiness to be put down for sleep. Signs like the wiggle, the grunts and the very obvious movements depicting irritation and the need to be released.
Do you know how you feel when you are so tired no chair, couch or arms of a loved one makes you comfortable and all you want to do is lay on your bed or any bed for that matter? A child feels the same way.
When you shift their positions in your arms or on your lap and they wiggle like crazy and can’t seem to get comfortable, it is past time to put the child in the bed. It is best to take heed to the infants wants and enforce this reaction. The sooner you begin learning the signs and practicing the routines the sooner the habit of going to sleep in the bed, on their own, will be ingrained. How happy your child will be when you or the caregiver (if your child is placed in the care of another while you work) can read his signals for need for sleep. And the best thing is, you won’t have to call Nanny 911 or Super Nanny to tame your sleep deprived 2, 3, 4, or 5 year old youngster.
The major mistake a parent makes during bedtime is the playing in the middle of the night with the infant. When the baby wakes in the night it is best not to use it as an opportunity to play. Sure, I know you worked pass bath and bed routine and miss your little darling, but play needs to wait until the sun is high in the sky.
Limit your interaction to changing, feeding, and returning the infant back to the crib with the minimal of conversation and the softest light or you will have the baby believing he should wake and play in the night. Not cute when the child becomes older, refuses to go back to sleep and you are tired and have to get to work in the morning.
*Go to Bed Kid. Routines- Part 3*~The Natural Parent #thingslegendsaremadeof
Ey Wade +
parenting +
Routine +
schedules +
sleep +
the natural parent
Routines-Part3. To Hold or Not to Hold
Do you know how you feel when you are so tired no chair, couch or arms of a loved one makes you comfortable and all you want to do is lay on your bed or any bed for that matter? A child feels the same way.
When you shift their positions in your arms or on your lap and they wiggle like crazy and can’t seem to get comfortable, it is past time to put the child in the bed. It is best to take heed to the infants wants and enforce this reaction. The sooner you begin learning the signs and practicing the routines the sooner the habit of going to sleep in the bed, on their own, will be ingrained. How happy your child will be when you or the caregiver (if your child is placed in the care of another while you work) can read his signals for need for sleep. And the best thing is, you won’t have to call Nanny 911 or Super Nanny to tame your sleep deprived 2, 3, 4, or 5 year old youngster.
The major mistake a parent makes during bedtime is the playing in the middle of the night with the infant. When the baby wakes in the night it is best not to use it as an opportunity to play. Sure, I know you worked pass bath and bed routine and miss your little darling, but play needs to wait until the sun is high in the sky.
Limit your interaction to changing, feeding, and returning the infant back to the crib with the minimal of conversation and the softest light or you will have the baby believing he should wake and play in the night. Not cute when the child becomes older, refuses to go back to sleep and you are tired and have to get to work in the morning.
Still working on the WIP "The Natural Parent"- I decided I would write this book online and see how it goes.
Bedtime Routines-Go to Sleep Kid
When it comes to the sleep habits for infants a new parent is always bombarded with advice. When Mhia, my youngest was released from the hospital at two weeks old she weighed 4lbs. 12 oz. and slept all night. I was ecstatic with this. The child ate well during the day, was very curious, slept soundly through the night and woke around 5 in the morning. The pediatrician had a problem with this. She felt I should wake the baby every three hours for a feeding. Mhia wasn’t having it. She would refuse to nurse and after a couple of nights of us both being harassed, I left her alone. Who was I to know how her internal clock worked? At each weekly visit to the pediatrician the child had gained her required weight and everyone was happy. With the older girls that was a different story. Maybe the fact they stayed in the hospital for five and six weeks respectfully, had round the clock hand and foot wait service, and a nervous mom who constantly put her hands on their backs or chest to check their breathing, all added up to twitchy sleepers. I had to establish a routine with them quickly.
I believe in rules, discipline and set times for bath, bed, and beyond. Children should be in bed by 7 p.m.-8 at the latest. And if this bedtime routine is implemented in the child as an infant by the time the child has entered school, it will have been ingrained into their system.
In my home as the girls were growing up we would eat dinner together by 6 p.m. have baths by 6:30 p.m. and then enjoy some form of quiet entertainment until 8 p.m. After that it was bedtime. This would give me time to clean and enjoy whatever I wanted to do before I went to bed. This routine never wavered until they were at least ten years old. If they didn’t go to sleep they had to be in their rooms.
The first place to start the bedtime routine is the first night after birth. Whether the child is born in the hospital or in the home, the first night is the best time to begin a bedtime routine. If your baby rooms with you it will be extremely hard not to hold him while he is asleep or to cuddle and snuggle with your sweet smelling little girl until she wakes, but whatever you start with the baby will become its habit. If you pat the back or rock or hold the pacifier in the mouth until he sleeps, in the middle of the night when he wakes you will have to do the same. Remember the old saying ‘whatever you did to get her you will have to do to keep her’? It works the same with everything you do with an infant because you are imprinting. It is never too early to teach a child to sleep on its own. I’m not saying not to hold your baby and show it love what I am suggesting is for you to help the baby to learn to put itself to sleep in its own bed.
After you have bathed and fed your infant, cuddled together for a little bit and read or sing a soft lullaby, place the child in the bed just before she goes to sleep. I repeat, before she goes to sleep. This will allow the baby the opportunity to learn what sleep position she likes best. Turn the light down low, turn on a little soft music, classical or a soothing learning CD like “Sounds Like Fun” by Discovery Toys. There are two reasons I suggest this CD, one is because I have had this selection way before the birth of my daughters. Two, I first bought “Sounds Like Fun” as a cassette, used it all of the girl’s lives and integrated it into use for my home based childcare center. When the tape finally broke I called Discovery Toys hoping to be able to buy another and was informed the company would replace the cassette with a CD for free! I was sold on the Discovery Toys for life because everything you buy has a life time guarantee. The songs go through the range of singing about manners, days of the week, counting, letter sounds, Spanish and a lot more all with soft music playing in the background so the baby sucks in a little knowledge as she sleeps.
If you start and continue the sleep routines from infancy you will have none of the bedding problems seen on the television shows as the child grows older. Put your routines in writing (carve in stone) so any emergency caregiver or babysitter will know how to maintain the consistency which will keep the child comfortable, secure and on the right track.
*Go to Bed Kid-Part 2*
Ey Wade +
parenting +
Routine +
schedules +
sleep +
the natural parent
Still working on the WIP "The Natural Parent"- I decided I would write this book online and see how it goes.
Bedtime Routines-Go to Sleep KidWhen it comes to the sleep habits for infants a new parent is always bombarded with advice. When Mhia, my youngest was released from the hospital at two weeks old she weighed 4lbs. 12 oz. and slept all night. I was ecstatic with this. The child ate well during the day, was very curious, slept soundly through the night and woke around 5 in the morning. The pediatrician had a problem with this. She felt I should wake the baby every three hours for a feeding. Mhia wasn’t having it. She would refuse to nurse and after a couple of nights of us both being harassed, I left her alone. Who was I to know how her internal clock worked? At each weekly visit to the pediatrician the child had gained her required weight and everyone was happy. With the older girls that was a different story. Maybe the fact they stayed in the hospital for five and six weeks respectfully, had round the clock hand and foot wait service, and a nervous mom who constantly put her hands on their backs or chest to check their breathing, all added up to twitchy sleepers. I had to establish a routine with them quickly.
I believe in rules, discipline and set times for bath, bed, and beyond. Children should be in bed by 7 p.m.-8 at the latest. And if this bedtime routine is implemented in the child as an infant by the time the child has entered school, it will have been ingrained into their system.
In my home as the girls were growing up we would eat dinner together by 6 p.m. have baths by 6:30 p.m. and then enjoy some form of quiet entertainment until 8 p.m. After that it was bedtime. This would give me time to clean and enjoy whatever I wanted to do before I went to bed. This routine never wavered until they were at least ten years old. If they didn’t go to sleep they had to be in their rooms.
The first place to start the bedtime routine is the first night after birth. Whether the child is born in the hospital or in the home, the first night is the best time to begin a bedtime routine. If your baby rooms with you it will be extremely hard not to hold him while he is asleep or to cuddle and snuggle with your sweet smelling little girl until she wakes, but whatever you start with the baby will become its habit. If you pat the back or rock or hold the pacifier in the mouth until he sleeps, in the middle of the night when he wakes you will have to do the same. Remember the old saying ‘whatever you did to get her you will have to do to keep her’? It works the same with everything you do with an infant because you are imprinting. It is never too early to teach a child to sleep on its own. I’m not saying not to hold your baby and show it love what I am suggesting is for you to help the baby to learn to put itself to sleep in its own bed.
After you have bathed and fed your infant, cuddled together for a little bit and read or sing a soft lullaby, place the child in the bed just before she goes to sleep. I repeat, before she goes to sleep. This will allow the baby the opportunity to learn what sleep position she likes best. Turn the light down low, turn on a little soft music, classical or a soothing learning CD like “Sounds Like Fun” by Discovery Toys. There are two reasons I suggest this CD, one is because I have had this selection way before the birth of my daughters. Two, I first bought “Sounds Like Fun” as a cassette, used it all of the girl’s lives and integrated it into use for my home based childcare center. When the tape finally broke I called Discovery Toys hoping to be able to buy another and was informed the company would replace the cassette with a CD for free! I was sold on the Discovery Toys for life because everything you buy has a life time guarantee. The songs go through the range of singing about manners, days of the week, counting, letter sounds, Spanish and a lot more all with soft music playing in the background so the baby sucks in a little knowledge as she sleeps.
If you start and continue the sleep routines from infancy you will have none of the bedding problems seen on the television shows as the child grows older. Put your routines in writing (carve in stone) so any emergency caregiver or babysitter will know how to maintain the consistency which will keep the child comfortable, secure and on the right track.
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