Changes

It has been a while since I’ve written anything. Honestly, it has been a while since I’ve had time to write anything. There have been so many changes. At the end of June we moved out of our tiny two bedroom apartment and into a three bedroom house on probably a half acre lot. The back yard is fenced in and we have a sidewalk for the kids to ride bikes. To make it even more great, it is right across the street from my mom.

School started in August which put us into a whole new routine. Our two oldest boys are both in the running club at school, on top of soccer and football. We have soccer and football practices on Monday, Thursday, Friday, and two on Tuesdays. Games are on Monday, Thursday, and Saturday. I love watching them enjoy their sports though. No matter how much running around I have to do… I would never be okay with them not doing what they love. 

September brought another amazing beginning. I am so thrilled to say that I have opened up my own small business. It is still the beginning but every day I get more and more excited. This business is something I have wanted to do for years but have never had the opportunity. Holiday Custom Creations is my brain-child. As of right now, I make wreaths, gift baskets, and yard signs for the holidays. By holidays I mean, everything from birthdays or baby showers to Christmas or New Years. It has always been my dream to create quality custom gifts and decorations for any occasion that requires it. There is nothing like a personalized gift. Giving has always been the fun part for me, so this is perfect.

I ask that you check out my website and Facebook page. They are both up and running and get updates daily.

 

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Advisory System

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I saw this on Facebook the other day and thought it was spot on. Low and behold this morning I see it again except this time I see where it came from. Fellow blogger Rants in Mommylandhttp://www.rantsfrommommyland.com/2010/05/mommy-will-lose-it-advisory-system.html?m=1 created this. It was too great not to share. Her blog is refreshing and a great read. Please check it out.

Our Story

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Our story is the most important story to me. It has all the twists and turns of your typical fairy tale except this is real life.

A little over ten years ago I was a senior in high school. My last semester of senior year and in walks Reece. Six foot five, brown eyes, and a dazzling smile. I had already heard he was a ladies man. He was only in class for a few weeks but I could definitely understand why. He was funny and had a way of talking to people that sounds just make you swoon. Unfortunately he graduated early and left school.

A week after I graduated I got a phone call from a few friends saying they were down the street and wanting to know if they could stop by. Low and behold, Reece walked in with them. They had just left the tattoo parlor because it was his birthday, and he got a tattoo. On his right leg he had gotten a sun. At my house that night was my best friend who I found out had dated Reece a few years before. It seemed as though they picked up where they left off. And that was that.

Fast forward six months…
Out with my cousin one night,we decided to go to McDonalds (the local hangout after football games). Sitting at one of the booths was Reece and another guy I knew. They had been drinking so I offered them a ride home and a place to stay. The next day he woke up and went on his way. We didn’t exchange numbers or agree to hangout again. A few days later, I get a phone call unexpectedly. He had gotten my number from a friend and wanted to hang out because his family was moving to another state. I did, and it was wonderful.

After that, he moved and we talked every day. He came to see me as often as possible. I was happy. After about eight months together he asked me to move where he was living. I gave it a lot of thought, even talked it over with my mom, and decided I would do it. Then I didn’t hear from him for almost a month. When I heard from him again things seemed different. This continued for a few months and then he came to visit one weekend. My birthday was the next weekend and when he asked what I wanted I said I just wanted to spend it with him. The next weekend came and I didn’t see him…not even a phone call. That was the end.

I started dating someone else, got married, and had three boys. Life was far from prefect though. I thought about him all the time and wondered where and how he was. I loved my husband but it never felt the same as how I had felt about Reece. When things got bad it was always Reece that I wanted. After seven years together we called it quits.

A year after I was separated I was on Facebook one day and saw a post that said one of my friends was now friends with Reece. I had been looking for him for years and suddenly there he was. I sent the request and waited, very impatiently for him to add me. On June 4, 2012, he added me and wrote me back. That was all it took. We started talking that day. Within two weeks he moved to where I was living. Two weeks later he asked me to officially be his girlfriend. That was one year ago today.

We have had our ups and downs over the last year, but in my heart I know he was always the man I was meant to be with. As he puts it…

“we just had to go on our own adventures before we could make it work”.

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believe it completely because our “adventures” have changed us for the better.

So Happy Anniversary to the love of my life! Noone else has a story like this which is why its ours. I will love you always.

Thank you for being my forever and always.

You aren’t My Mom

My step-children are visiting for a week. My husband and I have been together for a year, but it doesn’t seem to be getting easier when it comes to his children. There are moments when I just don’t know if I’m cut out to be a step-parent. I love him though and I love them too.

It seems our biggest problem is that the children don’t respect me because I’m not their mom. They believe that the only people they should listen to are their mother and father. This bothers me a lot because I have raised my children to respect all adults. I’m raising my boys exactly how my mom raised me. My husband was raised the same way too. We expect children to listen and do what they are told, to clean up after themselves, and to always respect your elders. These are things that I just won’t budge on. Unfortunately, this is obviously not how my step-children are being raised.

When the kids are out of line, their father does not discipline them for what I believe is him not wanting to seen like a bad guy because he doesn’t get to see then as often as he’d like. I can understand how he feels but what he fails to realize is that its teaching them that they don’t really have to listen. My step-daughter asked for $20 and when I told her we didn’t have that kind of money to just give her she got upset and said “I wasn’t talking to you, I was talking to my daddy and asking him for money, NOT YOU!” I tried to explain to her that it was not just his money. She then told me that I would just have to “get over it.” My husband laughed which only encouraged her. When we got home she was very rude yet again. It was at this point I asked to see him in the bedroom. “I DON’T CARE! GO AHEAD AND TALk ABOUT ME! YOU AREN’T MY MOM ANYWAY!” This was being yelled from the living room. It was only then that he realized what we were dealing with.

Again, not wanting to be the bad guy, he left it to me to figure out, except this time he would support me. I let it be known what would be expected while they are here. They seem to understand but it is still difficult. I continue to try to be the best I can possibly be for them. I just hope that one day they can understand that although I’m not their mom, I’m not their enemy either.

Quick and Easy Dinner Idea

I had an amazing dinner recently. I’ve been participating in a program called BzzAgent for years now. I received coupons for a free fried chicken dinner from the Kroger’s deli. I know what you are thinking… Fried Chicken from a grocery store? Yes! After a long day at work, who really wants to go home and cook a batch of fried chicken. Not this lady!

The chicken was surprisingly very delicious. It was perfectly seasoned and fried to a golden brown. My husband thinks of himself as a fried chicken connoisseur and he LOVED it. He ate four pieces of it. Dinner was quick and easy.

By the way, they are guaranteed to have chicken between 10 and 8 or you get it free. Another great aspect is that an 8 piece only cost $7.99. I dare you to go anywhere and get chicken this tasty for that price. Give it a try and let me know what you think. I promise you won’t be sorry.