So today I stepped out of the house without eyeliner or lipgloss. No perfume either.
You see, I thought wearing abaya would make me stronger in my faith but then there were all these little things that were holding me back (well, I didn't really figure this out on my own. a little bird educated me).
Some of you might think that light makeup is OK, which is what I used to think/still think (?). But if I was being honest to myself, I will admit that I put on eyeliner to look nice. I don't stink either but I just like how my perfume smells.
A girl friend (note the space) used to comment on how lovely I smelled and imagine what the boys with their raging hormones might think. This very same girl friend is the one who goes and blabs my secrets out loud and how I regret trusting her with these details. She might point out a good looking male to me and I might agree. After that, she starts referring to him as if he is my crush which is obviously a lie. Embarrassing. i am keeping my mouth shut around that girl.
I'm working on the little things, InshaAllah...like oh SOCKS :D
OH, maghrib. bye i need to break my fast.
About Me
- xoxo, nadia
- Completely irked that even things like shampoo have pork in them. I don't need pork on my hair, thanks. I don't have accounts on Facebook, Twitter or MySpace because I'm terrified of social networking and being addicted to telling people what I'm doing every fifteen minutes. It doesn't mean I'm antisocial though, I'm just really shy. :D
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14 comments:
MashaAllah. :)
One thing about perfume on a young lady is that when she passes by some brothers, they are prone to looking at her after thinking, "mmm wheres that smell?"
That's why scholars have made it forbidden to go out with the purpose of letting non-mahram men smell it.
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/9105/perfume%20woman
Adib, thanks for the reference there! :D
you see, I thought it was pk to wear perfume I mean, everyone else wears it and I dont see boys commenting about it.
but I guess if Im wearing abaya to make sure noone is looking at me, then I have to make sure that noone is smelling me too.
I don't think it's too much of a problem if you keep the perfume soft and light. No one but me really notices if I'm wearing it or not. Like washing powder that makes the clothes smell softly scented,not a big deal. Not like some people who smell like they dumped the whole bottle on them. Of course that's what I think. No one has to agree.
Also becareful around that girl. Those kind of people like to cause big problems.
That gal is a no, no for u...
u already know roughly that she spills false tales about u, and of course you do not know what exactly in detail what she says in front of those boyz...
just keep away from her because she is brewing more trouble than just telling lies...i am just saying that been quiet around her is not enough...
just keep away as far as possible in order to plug her mouth off.
Nadia, I remember telling this girl in my class that it wasn't right to wear perfume, then she just joked around and wasn't serious about it. Then another friend sitting in the circle was like, yeah its true. After that she got all pissed off about it. That's why I'm taking extra extra caution when telling that to any girl who wears perfume.
@ My Getaway: LOL @ dumping a whole bottle of perfume. I hate it when someone leaves a room and her/his smell lingers on.
Yeah, that girl is getting on my nerves.
@ Saafir: It's hard because she is like my -only- friend and I'm not exaggerating. Thing is, she doesn't see things the way I do and she's not muslim so it gets quite difficult to get her to understand.
I have told her off on several occasions and yesterday I told her it was my final warning because she is ruining my reputation.
She texted me this morning and I completely ignored her because 1) I was out of credit and 2) I didn't want to encourage any conversation.
Someone once told me it was haram to show my awrah to non muslim women but then someone else told me that it isn't haram.
I think this is where it's better for me to not show anything to this girl.
She has already told people about my hair.... ): Horrible I tell you.
@ Adib: Lol, girls are sensitive duh :D but if you show them proof I'm sure they'll get over their hypersensitivity and understand the fact that you're just advising them.
Maybe you could pass her a note saying 'PS- You don't stink. Lay off the perfume.'
lol
Nadia???
isn't it obvious that she is not worth your friendship? she crossed the line the moment she started talking about u to other boys
like i said, u don't know what damage she has done to your reputation as a Muslimah...there is something called technology and she could be doing more than just backbiting, u just never know
@ Saafir: You're right but I gave her a final warning so I'm going to stick to that. If she crosses that line then I'm staying away from her.
Thanks for the advice! (:
Assalamualaikum Nadia...
Mabrook u started wearing abaya..
Yeah its best to abstain from any makeup if ur face is visible to non-mehrams and perfume is just absolutely no no. My mom doesnt even let me put it in my home..well since there are very strict hadeeth regarding perfumes used by women i have become totally oblivious to this product..hehe.
Every committed Muslim woman should avoid anything that might trigger temptation. In public, there is no need for the Muslim woman to wear perfumes whether light or strong ones in order to remove the smell of sweat as such smell can be removed by bathing or washing the places in which sweat is usually found.
It is reported that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “If a woman wears a perfume and then passes by people who smelled her perfume, she is then considered an adulteress. And every eye is liable to commit adultery.” This hadith was reported by An-Nasa’i, Ibn Khuzaymah, and Ibn Hibban in their compilations of authentic hadiths. It was also reported by Al-Hakim who regarded it as authentic.
for the full article u can click here islamonline
~Cool Muslimah~
@ Cool Muslimah: Waalaykum Assalam. Thanks so much for another reference. There are indeed clear guidelines regarding the use of makeup and perfumes. (:
I hope one day I can be just like you and not be tempted to spray a little perfume on my hijab. I had to avert my eyes away from my table full of eyeliners, lipgloss and perfumes!
I think you can wear perfume... but something I do is put it on lightly before you put your abaya on. So then no one else (seriously) can smell it, it's just something special for yourself.
A view I've heard of on makeup is that you can wear it but as long as it doesn't look like you're wearing it? Like nude lip balms, small amount of powder or whatever. The annoying thing is is that you have to take it off for wudu anyway >.<
And that friend sounds like a crap friend, grr.
@ ellen: yeah i guess i never thought about putting perfume before abaya but right now im trying to stay away from it completely and not tempt myself.
lol have you seen my nude lip balm/gloss? it makes my lips look ultra juicy and wet :/
oh,i use normal lip balm though to moisturise...no color or shine!
i know a girl who carries around her makeup just so she can reapply after wudu. i am not capable of that, i just cant be bothered lol.
hey sis nadia dont say" I hope one day I can be just like you "...it makes me feel guilty..u ont know how i am!
just remember in ur duas mate...
take care
~Cool Muslimah~
P.S- I'm yet to post those pix of abaya shops i took for u..i'm such a procastrinator!!
hi nads....\me too...
am totally adddicted to my lip color....
i went widout the color for bout a month or so....
but now am bak to it....
actually.. no one seems to bother if i hav appllied lipcolor or not.. so i thot wlllll... y not do it if i feel better this way than that... i know am wrong.. but i seriously cant help it.... :(
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