Archive | July 2013

Guard Your Heart (Boundaries – Part 5)

Jul30

This was an extraordinary read because I sincerely believe women most especially have to be realistic about what kind of world we live in when it comes to love and or friendship. There are all kinds of people in it, and some of those people are profoundly damaged.

Not everyone is wonder and light (male or female) because of what you share, like in them, want with them etc.

And too many of us let emotion cloud our judgements concerning what is acceptable.  We end up trying to manipulate something out of others to get what we want because we can’t just say it straight (so we try to steal it), or we allow others to step all over us to keep an association intact. Both are toxic behaviors and I just see so many of us doing one or the other. So I wanted to post this for any bold reader, willing to look at all sides of herself.

I know I instantly found a few examples here that apply.

Check it out….

dianarasmussen's avatarPrayers and Promises

More from “Boundaries”.  This lesson was the one that did it for me.  After reading/hearing this lesson, I finally understood what I was doing  that attracted the “thieves, robbers, and abusers”.  But, there is hope, thank you God, I can be taught!  Today I can say NO, today I can enforce consequences and protect myself! Today I know what to look for, and what to avoid, thank you Jesus!

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Keep your heart with all diligence,
For out of it spring the issues of life. NKJV

Guard your heart above all else,
for it determines the course of your life. NLT

Keep your heart pure for out of it are the important things of life. (NLV)

Above all else, guard your heart,
for everything you do flows from it. (NIV)

4 TYPES OF BOUNDARY PROBLEMS 

1. COMPLIANTS – SAYING YES TO THE BAD

The inability to say NO to the BAD is…

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Harlem Magic

Jul28

A really good friend of mine and I take Tai Chi on Saturdays in Harlem,  after which we walk around enjoying the sites, talking, listening to some type of live music at an ongoing mini festival (or as part of a parade), laughing.

It’s usually great fun, and we get to share about our lives, support one another concerning any current life challenges, catch up, plus just plain have fun engaging with others along the way.

I have to say, we thoroughly enjoy, even celebrate Harlem’s culture together and  it’s just magic.

In some ways it reminds me of Africa. The people are warm, connected, relaxed and cultural. But connected plus relaxed makes it stand apart with just that vibe alone (in NY). But I suspect that is because Harlem is steeped in history you can see all around you as you walk through.

So, Harlemnites sparkle with warmth and pride. They enjoy one another and you can enjoy them.

Today, we ended up at an African drumming circle.

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My friend is Cherokee but she loves all things African so we arrived, saged, sat and listened. But I thought, wow, only in NYC would you be at a drumming circle with Africans, African-Americans and a Native American, enjoying the vibes, drumming, the outdoors, and friendship.

And we arrived, to smiles. A silent and happy welcome. I’m sorry, but in no other borough.

And before that we had healthy wraps (we’re both health nuts) from a mom and pop that makes possibly the best wrap sandwich I have had in my life. And the servers were the same, relaxed, proud, connected!

Moving onto – the MEN.  Harlem has some of the most fabulous looking African men, out in full form, as they make business. My friend and I are always stunned, then giggly happening upon this.  She is alot less jaded than I, so she will find a way to  start up a conversation with them, about anything, then we get to engage (happily) for a few minutes.

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I just love it, because for me, there is nothing like a man who genuinely enjoys being a man and who genuinely enjoys the exchange with women in a grown up way.

Some people won’t know what I am talking about here, but when you are it, you know it, and when you experience it, you can tell it. Well, I’m very much a grown up who enjoys grown ups so this is always a treat for me.

And  it reminds you what “men” are like.

Ah, I just love Harlem and we are happier than bees in honey when there….

The Swedish Version (Yeah).

Jul25

“Very Dangerous behavior by dangerous individuals.”

Loved the Book, loved this Film. Appreciated the lack of forced stylization. I’m an adult, I don’t need spectacle if the story is powerful.

Thank-you Niels.

Once this song-video gets going…..

Jul24

..it’s stunning. Absolutely, but the beginning struggles to be a pop song. To be catchy to young listeners who talk like this.

But then gritty, real, heart comes out.

Even in the acting. Just wow, this is what videos can be. Watch at least to the middle.

Just glad she got outta “that.”

♡ {Dirty Laundry}

In the Booth with Ruth – Rachel Moran, Author and Survivor of Prostitution

Jul23

Ruth Jacobs's avatarRuth Jacobs

Can you tell me about ‘Paid For’, your newly released book?

I wrote ‘Paid For’ because I so badly wanted to tell the truth about prostitution, not just as I had lived it, but also as I had witnessed it. Some of the personal accounts of prostitution that have been released have been written by women who’ve only ever worked in one area of prostitution, or who have always worked alone so have never had a conversation with another prostituted woman during the time they’ve been working, so naturally those accounts are limited in scope. In my case I worked in every area of prostitution; the streets, the massage parlours, the escort agencies etc. I also worked as a stripper and was photographed pornographically and I worked alongside hundreds of women, so I knew that I had a very broad base of experience to draw from. I wanted to tell…

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