When my mother was on her earthly journey, she’d watch cooking shows back to back.

I was always a bit annoyed when I visited, wanting to change the channel from these toxically chipper people having nothing but fun cooking, not a hint of real life foibles in sight.

Well through out life, I’ve been taxed with taking care of myself. And being a bit of a foodie myself, the making of a dish would capture my attention from time to time.

These days I liken myself a very tasty cook, and it’s the chore I spend the most amount of time on.

So now, I willingly give cooking instruction videos in my feed a chance.

Which is how I found “Kay.”

Kay…. prepares the most exquisite meals… and characteristically does so through a darker lens than the vast majority of chefs you may encounter on social media. She is the Edgar Allen of bunch.

And most times seems genuinely taken with her process, not you.

Important because I want to think my own thoughts, and have my own experiences with what I’m watching. I don’t want to feel pressured to feel like the chef is a chum.

Her process is enough.

It’s already the best and highest bar for what it is.