Tag Archive | help

What’s Your “Big” Goal? (Blogger Support)

Oct9

I exchanged words with makeyourmarkonlife earlier, where we were speaking about stepping out of the comfort zone like the previous post alluded to.  Our conversation sparked the idea of a blogger support group for ONE of each of our BIG GOALS (one that would produce magic in our lives if we achieved).

Take a second.

What would yours would be? What would the one thing that would take you from comfort zone to magical existence in a big way, be?

It may appear like that big dream, you promised to achieve this year, before it got caught under the bus. You may be resigned to it now, or might be chipping away at it, enthusiasm waning (with you getting discouraged).  But you know it would revolutionize your life  *if you achieved it.*

Think of what that thing is, or one of them you think you can achieve between this year and the end of next.

Now what if interested readers of this post, form a team, to support each person’s goal (who volunteers for this)? My idea is that each person email me, with their goal and timeline, and I send a blast back to all of us of each person’s goal, timeline and blog. So we can all get introduced. Then every two weeks everyone in on this list could blast out a short email of their progress to the group and everyone would reply by hitting reply-all.

We just have to commit to respond with one another’s update.

I believe our listening (rather reading one another’s efforts) is a kind of helping hand out of the comfort zone.

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My only request is – no lecturing. Example: You know if you lost that extra 15 pounds it would be better for your blah blah blah. Or You said you wanted to meet someone and you haven’t yet, that means blah blah blah. Encouragement only. And lite questions, no hammering.

I don’t think anyone would do this, but ya never know, so I just wanted to address it ahead.

Okay.  Send email by Friday the 11th, if you’d like to do this.

(Your BIG ONE…)

When Charity is a Stage

May24

I just saw this story on Yahoo news.

http://news.yahoo.com/video/woman-celebrates-birthday-random-acts-232658518.html

I thought what this woman decided to do was a sweet idea – for a second. Yeah. I’m pretty cynical and I don’t know if this is New York at work or my life experiences.

Anyway, I instantly thought: Wait a minute, why is she allowing herself to be interviewed about her random acts of kindness?  I dunno about this…

To me, in so much of life, what we’re seeing is not what we’re getting.

Most people are not doing charity or activism out of the goodness of their heart. But we rush to make good of the act  so most times we don’t even pick up the true intention beyond it.

And to our defense – of course not.

The acts are usually masked as goodness, kindness, concern, humanity, connectedness, a spiritual ethic etc, etc., And masked really well.

However a closer look at things sometimes reveals a narcissist getting pay back in the form of acknowledgement for their acts or a manipulator presenting an act without strings right now. For the manipulator the act is executed as an investment in a later return, that return being access of some kind.

Which is okay, we’re human, but folks rarely call these acts what they are.

On the other hand, when corporations ‘give,’ there is an understanding about that support, that  there will be an exchange.

Wouldn’t it be great if regular people practiced an iota of that? Here’s money but I want a favor. Or here’s money, but I want to sleep with you, or here’s money, but I want you to help me with a recommendation. Or I’m baby sitting, but I want you to advise me through my situation, or I’m raising you to be taken care of when I’m older. Or I’m recommending you as a candidate for that position, but I want to use your discount sometimes.

For better or worse, honesty just treats you like a grown up. Swindling treats you like a child, as it serves up a story to get a result.