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DJ Mister Cee and Bimbo Winehouse

Sep16

I think everyone in the black community should listen to this discussion:

Our Language and Misunderstanding is Creating Victims

But not ‘just’ black folk, anyone who celebrates hip-hop and who may be a DJ Cee fan.

However, Bimbo Winehouse identifies as a gay male who is a drag queen, very different from transgender.

I think the points in the first discussion, still apply though. There is a ton of stigma around both (straight) trans dating and gay relationships.

So thanks for checking out this post, because I think we need to tune in and educate ourselves about one another (for a better functioning  society).

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*Additional Note*

One thing I think that hasn’t been introduced into the conversation about DJ Cee is that he is a sex addict. For me, the employment of prostitutes at the risk of his career proves that. The cheating is another issue. This may have to do with his sexuality, but I think this adult man needs to have the room to figure this out for himself.

However for the sex addiction part, Cee really should get treatment. It’s not just a fascination with prostitutes, it’s a fascination to the exclusion of regular dating. It’s a hit. No pun intended.

The Other Side of Cheating: Narcissism?

Mar11

I have been reading alot about sex addicts, porn addicts, men who are addicted to adult services (prostitution) and the reaction of others to their habits i.e. spouses, family…

I have because when I worked as a stripper (century ago), I’d discuss the patrons who had girlfriends and wives. The presence of a marriage or stable relationship often made me a little angry.

It did because at the time, I was in a struggling relationship (one I couldn’t figure out how I’d get to marriage or engagement through). And here these guys were – in my eyes – taking their relationships for granted. So I’d question them (where does your girlfriend think you are), make monetary demands that were imposing, throw my boyfriend’s name in their faces, and suggest the worst outcome to their patronage, in their ear.

Then as my relationship hit the rocks I become even more jealous of their marriages and live-ins. Here I was fighting for mine while they were here, at the club, taking their stable relationship for granted. So I then became meaner and more sarcastic toward them.

The ones I actually liked as people (not just customers), I’d tell to stop coming to the clubs. Only to be disappointed when they reappeared after a week or two of stopping.

They seemed greedy and spoiled to me, and I hated that. Now…years have gone by and these are not my direct concerns anymore. However I have been watching the effect the sex industry has on dating through the years. I’ve noticed how mainstream it’s all become and have become interested in the effect it has on the lives of people who use, and those surrounding…

Some men don’t even use the services, but living in a society that says they can have it all (in terms of women), makes quite a few of them go for it. So that means an extra lover or two, even though he’s married or coupled up, a favorite webcam girl, stripper, masseuse, porn star they can create a happy ending with every day.

But what happens when she catches him, when other loves catch him, but he begins assuming the stance that he’s entitled to whatever he uses (over and over)?

Well, I think something else is going on…

WATCH:

What do you think?