In Sex is a Spectrum, Augustin Fuentes begins Chapter 6, No Biological Battles of the Sexes, by bringing up John Gray’s 1993 pop psychology text, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus. Gray’s book stayed on the bestseller list for 121 weeks. Fuentes notes that, “more than three decades later, [it] is still selling tens of thousands of copies.” The views expressed in it even continue to be heard among some biologists to this day.
As a true believer of the liberal religion, I have a shameful sin to confess. I read that book in the mid-nineties and, at the time, found it compelling. In retelling an ancient cultural master narrative, it confirmed longstanding Western biases of gender norms and social roles. Ignorant and naive, I didn’t understand how I had been enculturated and indoctrinated. I now seek to make amends for the error of my ways.
Of course, all the way back in the ancient late 20th century, a good liberal such as myself having been drawn into that particular ideological realism simply made me a typical American. Such material was considered enlightened even, as acknowledging these perceived differences was deemed a way of respecting the supposed distinctive and unique worth of each sex, that a mutual balance was beneficial and necessary. A yin-yang kind of thing.
Back then, that was a genuine expression of core values within social liberalism and egalitarian leftism. I was raised in uber-liberal religion, the Unity Church, that already in my childhood had a majority of women ministers and did same sex marriage ceremonies. Books like Gray’s would’ve been popular among Unity congregants. It perfectly fit into New Thought theology and progressive religiosity, along with Jungian-inflected spirituality, of the divine as both female and male.
That theological and cultural brand of left-liberalism was radical for its time and still remains radical in many ways. Take, for example, the Unity minister Marianne Williamson who has twice run as a Democratic candidate with a progressive message of love, compassion, and care for all; and John Gray endorsed her. That’s particularly radical in this moment of rising fascism in the Republican Party and fascist complicity in the Democratic Party.
But the fact of the matter is scientific knowledge has advanced immensely over the past several decades. What seemed obvious with earlier understandings are now seen as, at least partly, to be the product of cultural influences. Culture doesn’t only shape how we perceive but also how we act, each feeding back into the other. Cultural outcomes get taken at face value and so are treated as objective facts, which in turn justifies the cultural assumptions and practices that reinforce those cultural outcomes.
That isn’t to say there are no real biological differences between the sexes, if they’re far fewer and far smaller than we once believed. The problem is that, because of WEIRD bias of researchers and test subjects, we’re forced to honestly and humbly admit we’re downright ignorant to an immense degree. We simply have no practical way to disentangle all the confounding factors so as to make an ‘objective’ assessment. So, we’re not sure what to make of the differences we do detect, as we don’t know what’s causing them.
As an example, in the MBTI personality test, approximately three-quarters of men are Thinking types and three-quarters of women are Feeling types.* That leaves, of course, one in four who don’t fit gender stereotypes of personality. Even if culture played no role, that would still be a significant portion. But then consider that, if we could somehow control for confounders, most likely some of the gender difference would disappear. How much? No one knows.
Speaking more broadly, none of this should be surprising. The challenging and overturning of old binary assumptions about sex and gender has been going on for a while now. I’m not sure when the topic first appeared on my radar. But obviously it’s been a hot topic for a long while. And I was writing about it at least as early as about a decade ago (What is inheritance?; & Is the Tide Starting to Turn on Genetics and Culture?).
Furentes’ book, published in 2025, hopefully will help push changes along. Maybe one day culture and science will more closely coincide. As sex is a spectrum, we should remind ourselves that culture too is a spectrum. If we are to transcend our own cultural reality tunnel, researchers will have to confront the replication crisis by expanding their focus to entirely different cultures, if that’s a challenge. Entirely non-WEIRD populations are disappearing quickly with spreading modernization and Westernization.
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*Note:
Admittedly, I’m biased in my assessment of bias. I’m one of those ‘girly’ men who is a Feeling type. Not only that but specifically one with dominant Feeling and of the Introverted variety (Fi), which is even more ‘girly’. I’m one of the notorious INFPs known as the most idealistic of idealists, prone to unmanly flights of fancy and all things artsy-fartsy. Of course, it goes without question that I lack all proper macho dominance behavior and have been an utter failure within social Darwinism.
It’s probably caused by my having been culturally raised in a ‘girly’ religion with strong women as role models. Besides female ministers who demonstrated leadership, my mother was assertive, confident, college-educated, and financially independent. She had her own professional career and had internalized basic feminist values. And we can’t forget that I’ve spent most of my life in a liberal college town (diversity, political correctness, progressivism, etc). That is to say, there never was any hope for me.
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Sex is a Spectrum
by Augustin Fuente
Chapter 6: No Biological Battle of the Sexes
pp. 111-
Of Minds, Means, and Behavior
The “females and males as very different” camp often points to cognition (“minds”) as the proof of their position. Everyone knows men and women think differently, right? Over the past few decades, massive studies called meta-analyses reviewed patterns in many of these cognitive variables, such as math, verbal, and spatial-ability skills, communication dynamics (verbal and nonverbal), social and personality variables such as aggression, negotiation, helping, sexuality, leadership, introversion/extroversion, general psychological well-being, some motor behaviors (throwing, balance, flexibility, etc), and a few other psychological states and behaviors (moral reasoning, cheating behavior, etc). These meta-analyses involved data form more than twenty thousand separate studies involving more than twelve million participants. The results are clear: Across most topic areas in psychological science, the difference in responses and outcomes between males and females is small or very small.
Here “small” and “very small” are measures of how far apart the means of massively overlapping variations are. That is, pretty much everything being measured in these studies overlaps almost completely between 3G categories (usually based on self-reported genders), but the means of the distributions of the measured variables, when separated by 3G-sex category or gender, can be different from one another. Think of the height example from earlier in the book: 78 percent of folks in the United States are not identifiable to 3G sex simply by height, but the means of the overlapping distributions of 3G-male and 3G-female heights are different. So, on average, one can say 3G males are taller than 3G females. But that might not tell you much at all about any specific individual, or about height as a biological characteristic, given the massive overlap between 3G categories. In the “mind” studies, most of the differences between the means are much, much smaller than in the height example. The difference between the means in these studies is assessed by the common statistical tool called the “cohens d” measure, which reflects how far apart the means in the overlapping distributions of the measurements are in standardized units. So “small” suggests that the means are very close to one another and “very small” even closer (with almost 100 percent overlap). The between-gender differences in these huge meta-analyses were small in 46.1 percent of all cases and very small in 39.4 percent of all cases. The largest and most recent metanalysis demonstrated this same massive overlap, with about 84 percent of mean differences being small and very small across most traits examined. Again, we really aren’t so different. And cognition is certainly not binary.