One of the things that has often troubled me is the disconnect between the kind of man wimmin say they want and the kind they actually go for. It seemed that they were unable (or unwilling) to properly and clearly articulate their desires.

Recently, I cam across two comments that offered some semblance of explanation:

Comment #1
“If a woman has to tell you she wants you to be Dominant, and you do it, you are STILL DOING WHAT YOU ARE TOLD.

Women are usually too dense to be able to elucidate what they really want anyway, and are reluctant to do so too, knowing that what they want is subject to change at all times.

They want you to GET IT

We must also carry this over to other parts of how we function with them. They want to know that you have discretion to keep something on the down-low. They want to know that you aren’t going to turn weird or creepy, because you GET IT.

The more you demonstrate to a prospective girl that you “get it”, the more likely she will be open to intimacy, because she knows you aren’t going to be a fucking idiot about everything.

I think a part of “getting it” is being cynical as all hell.

When you are cynical, you do not travel to unicorn land. You don’t ask her “what are you thinking” because you know that you DEFINITELY do NOT want to know that information. You allow her to offer up statements when she wishes, and never pry them out of her. The prying will only introduce lies anyway. A cynical man also knows that lies are a fundamental part of a relationship, as is mystery. The wise man doesn’t go around dousing the mysteries, pissing all over them with his insecurity.

The man who gets it knows that he must not lay all his cards on the table, because the women like to guess instead. It stimulates them.

Just basic stuff. A man who is not afraid. A man who is powerful enough to never flail about over a damn girl. A man who knows when to laugh at other people’s bullshit and never get sucked into petty attitudes, from others or from her, either.

He never backpedals. He never shoots off his fucking mouth. He is far more stoic than emotional in his outward demeanor. He is the man who would kill people in the zombie apocalypse without one shred of remorse or emotional uncertainty.

He is the man who doesn’t ask awkward dumbshit questions because he knows the answer, and he knows those are awkward, dumbshit questions. He also knows that he does not always need the answers, or to look for them instead of pleading for them.

Just get it. Act like you know what the fuck you are doing.

Comment #2

The girl’s original question was never actually answered, though. She may or may not have any conscious idea of what “getting it” would practically mean, outside of the immediate problem, and quite possibly does not want to even think about what it really means. This is because of the actual answer to her question, “Why can’t guys just get it?”

They can’t get it because they’ve been lied to. Women have lied to them from childhood, men who’ve bought the lies have repeated earnestly them, and society in general (who was it that said women are society?) lies to them daily, about what a man is and should do. Fearful and resentful women (a.k.a. feminists) have, as a reason for all they do, a vested interest in perpetuating the lies because they make men less able to commit the crimes we’re all supposedly on the verge of during every waking moment. Women with better motives, partly buying the fearful feminist pseudo-logic, partly (arguably) setting up a society-wide screen to weed out weaker men, and partly out of a very feminine tendency toward magical thinking, are possessed of the notion that somehow we’ll find our way to the truth. Beta men, of course, simply keep repeating the same fruitless crap, hoping for a different result (c.f. definition of ‘insanity’) and wary of more masculine impulses which nonetheless yield a better harvest.

What the frustrated yet thoughtless girls have created, though, is not so much a filter for men who will defy the stated – and consciously believed – proper ways of male behavior, but fewer and fewer men who actually know to deliver mature masculinity to a world where it was scarce enough already. (Immature masculinity being the feminists’ true hobgoblin is for a different post. See Jung, Moore and similar for details.) Countless men have been turned away from the best parts of their nature, only to be punished for trying to do the right thing. That magical thinking I mentioned is straight-up fantasy, a baseless notion that a man of thought and honor will ignore what he’s been taught and, without aid, guidance or learning curve, somehow land exactly where he should have been to begin with. It’s on the level of other romance novel/movie idiocy, where the hero surprises the heroine with a full set of clothes that miraculously fit perfectly, or similar nonsense. Ever notice how B&D erotica is always about training the sub, while the dom has never needed to learn his role? Same fantasy. Same source.