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I Hear You, I See You

Eleven years ago – yes, it was around eleven years ago exactly – I had a conversation with someone that has lingered with me ever since. I have a photograph of this man… and me. I cannot look at because it reminds me of where I was at the time, the role I as in. It chokes.

He is in a very very responsible role. He is not self-important – far from it. But, he has a heavy heavy load of responsibility. Yes always, a twinkle in his eye and a warm, gregarious smile. He looks like the sort of person you would like to have a hug from – a wholesome, warm, reassuring hug – one that makes you feel as if all of your errors are forgiven and there is something worthwhile in your miserable existance. He is lovely – he is a total teddybear of a man – in the best possible way. You would feel better after having a chat with him.

He and I at that point were peers. I suppose we still are. Only, I have not seen him since – well, not in person. I see him regularly. I don’t have a television, but I do catch up with various videos of him online. I like to hear what he is sharing about the projects he is working on, the stories he has to share from lands he has been sent to in his role.

Eleven years ago, he and I had a little chat. It was little, but had a huge impact on me. It was about an error of judgement on his part made in a moment of weakness, during a period of chronic tiredness. He told me he did not see his own tiredness at the time. He was always on the go, always working, always giving. He made time to rest and relax – he thought that was sufficient – but nonetheless, the chronic tiredness was accumulating. The error he made incurred a cost.

He told me what happened in private. I was slightly shocked. I was also puzzled. Why was he telling me this?

Less than three months later I made an error in judgement. It cost me dearly. The decision I made in a moment of weakness, during a period of chronic tiredness (that I did not recognize at the time) left me in bad shape. I put myself in danger. I was on my own in a park at night – sorry for me, so was a man who saw an opportunity and committed a crime. So foolish – I mean me (what that man did was heinous). I was found by a security guard the next morning who called an ambulance. He saved my life.

A while back, I saw a video of an interview with him (my peer – teddybear of a man). It was a pleasure to hear his voice as always. I listened intently, as he always has something worthwhile to say, and I like to see the things he is doing. But on this occassion he shared something about chronic stress – he said that if you see someone else is going through stress and you don’t know what to say, don’t make the mistake of saying nothing at all. He said just be human – share something human, even if you feel foolish, don’t shut the door of your heart.

I do realize now that when he and I had that little chat eleven years ago, he must have seen that I was chronically tired to the point I could not see how tired I was. I hear his words now. I hear them like they were yesterday. He cared. He tried to warn me.

I am so grateful for men (and women) who care enough to say – I don’t want to undermine you, but I am worried about you. I love people, especially people who are good and kind and giving. I love people like that. When I see someone who I admire greatly and start to worry, I want to find a way to let them know I don’t want them to break or feel the pain of an error of judgement that can shipwreck you.

Life is too precious.

Watch Your Stress Levels

At this time of year…many of my relatives and friends who are already volunteers, spend extra time volunteering because December (and often January too) has become known as one of the toughest times of years for many many people.

There are all sorts of reasons that contribute to this. It is dark and cold, some who are really not happy in their current employment anyway feel the pressure to enslave themselves to debt – they spend, spend, spend whether they can afford to or not (my advice is do not do that! my family don’t) and then a mix of emotions in connection with wishful idealistic expectations (unlikely to transpire), idealized memories of past holidays with lost loved ones, a feeling of emptiness, loneliness, futility, the passing of time, the awareness of aging – there is all sorts that passes through the minds of people at this time of year.

For all of my life, I have had relatives who have worked extra hours supporting mental health services because this time of year often seems to see a surge in stress levels. All these painful emotions that are normally buried beneath the surface, dormant apart from the occasional rumble…suddenly they begin to boil and surge with volcanic force.

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I saw something terrible this week. Someone was being grumpy and rude. The person they targeted absolutely exploded. It was an awful scene. Like lava spewing out everywhere – stress, rage – it erupted in brutal fashion.

Rather than exercising restraint, mildness, forgiveness, there were harsh, demeaning, offensive words spoken by both. But the worst of it was when both wished that the other would die overnight and never ever see tomorrow. Isn’t that just horrendous? I mean, would you really want to say that to your worst enemy? One does not seem to realize that the other is actually extremely ill right now – Stage 4 Cancer.

I was shaken up by what I had seen. It was deeply upsetting. For me it is another reminder that many of the people who may be walking around right now have heavy hearts, they are burdened with anxiety and apathy, enslaved by debt, trapped in employment they despise, ashamed or scared to admit how much they are struggling, feeling pressure to spend more money on material things.

Watch out for those stress levels. Stay calm. Stay in control…of your emotions, of your expenditure and of your words. Practice mildness – this is a beautiful quality that takes great strength. Recognize that others may be grumpy and rude because they are depressed, burdened, stressed. Don’t react to their weakness by exploding. Look at others through eyes of empathy, kindness, compassion.

Be a beautiful person – one whose heart beats with goodness and love. May your peace flow abundantly like the waves of the sea.

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Reflecting On Our Own Emotional Behaviours

Is it just me or does that title sound rather swish? I am in danger of making myself sound overly intelligent. Let me dismiss any illusions any new readers may have formed as to the type of content my post may contain. I just wanted to write a post about whinging, or huffing and puffing, muttering, grumbling, moaning and generally giving off signals that we are not coping or are feeling overwhelmed with the demands placed upon us. We all do this at times. We all have our moments when we give off airs of “I’m busy, please don’t bother me right now” or “I have so much work to do and need to be allowed to ignore everyone to get my work done”. This is especially likely when we have a deadline or when computers start going doolally – which is common occurrence for many.

I care about people. I am one of those people who is moved by the suffering and pain of others and wants to respond appropriately. Sometimes, that is just by offering my full attention and listening ear, or expressing sympathy/empathy. If there is an obvious solution, I will try to offer it, although I realize that some people don’t want solutions (I am one of them) they just want to be allowed to get something off their chest.

But I have come to realize that sometimes people will be in an almost chronic or perpetual state of feeling stressed and overwhelmed. There are lots of people in my life for whom anxiety or stress is almost characteristic despite many years of receiving support and encouragement from others. I love my family members and friends, and if any of them are thus afflicted, I have unlimited reserves of love and patience and loyalty. But when it comes to work colleagues, I think I sometimes approach the limit of my patience if and when my colleague is requiring so much of my attention, they prevent me from working – and they are doing this regularly, frequently and then consequently, this causes more stress for others.

I love people, I don’t want to ever stop loving people, but finding a way to kindly explain to a colleague that if they are suffering prolonged detrimental work-related stress, they really do need to seek a more appropriate solution or source of support and encouragement than relying on a junior colleague who really does need to get on with their work. In addition, when measures have been put into place to reduce the workload and hopefully stress, and despite those changes, the person is still exactly as overwhelmed as ever – well, that is not good.

It’s a tough situation. We all go through periods of stress, and we appreciate it when those around us are kind towards us. But if we allowing our stress to spill over to the point when our colleagues cannot carry out their work because of the demands we are placing on us to listen and encourage us…well, this can become an issue.

I suppose really, what I am trying to say is that it is helpful if we reflect on our own emotional behaviours and try to address areas of need.

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The Accumulation Of Emotional Tiredness

At the end of last week, I felt that sludgy emotional tiredness that gives you a lump in your throat and brings tears to your eyes with the smallest prompt.

There has been a lot stretching me lately. A new job, lots to learn, lots of new people, I don’t know them, they don’t know me. The enormous emotional and time demands on Jack, and an increase of work for me as we communicate with volunteers who are working with all their heart right now.

I realized….that tiredness, being at the point when I feel ready to break down in tears just because I cannot figure out the coding for an invoice….it is a sign I need some extra rest.

I did try….I really did…but somehow, it has not worked. I have slept well. I think I just genuinely feel heartbroken about what is happening right now….and in some respects, it is hard to care about coding invoices when there are millions of people who are displaced, frightened, bewildered and traumatised right now.

Jack cooked for me last night….and it was actually very nice. He is going to read this and ask why I made it sound like a surprise that his cooking worked out. The truth is….I could fill an entire blog with stories of Jack’s misadventures in the kitchen.

His Sleeping Beauty

I sleep incredibly well. I love that. I do think sleep is such a fundamental part of good health. Jack calls me his “Sleeping Beauty”.

But every now and then, I have a weird spell of upsetting memories that gallop through my mind. It is almost always in relation to the events that caused me so much distress years ago when Jack and I had all that trouble.

The people who I still feel fearful of, dubious about – they appear, they talk, they smile, I see them whispering about me, I remember the feelings of hurt and anxiety and bewilderment. I remember the oppressive sensation that the nightmare would never end.

Then I hear a groan, and feel a warm arm wrap around me….and I remember that the nightmare is over. He is here, Jack is here with me, and that’s all that matters really.

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Who Are You Going To Call?

Yesterday, I introduced to you a series I am going to run this week about a MENTAL HEALTH FIRST AID KIT:

I promised that I would unpack my own MENTAL HEALTH FIRST AID KIT with you. Today I am going to look closely at to me one of the most important parts of a MENTAL HEALTH FIRST AID KIT :

Contact information of people to call when you feel down

I thought I had this in the bag….I really thought that if I was ever in a stressful predicament and I needed to talk to someone I trusted, I knew who I would call. But this is what happened when I was in a mental health emergency….

I have heard some say that when it comes to friendships or relationships – no matter how many people you know, or are acquainted with, really there will likely be only two or three that you feel you could really trust with anything – friends so close you can depend on them in any situation.

For me….right at the top of that list I would put my youngest sister Milly. I have always felt especially close to her, for many years she was my reason to be the best version of me. She is my darling. She knew I was having great challenges because people were targeting me over my connection with Jack.

A close second is my bestie Marta. I was able to share accommodation with Marta when I first moved to London. I worked l closely with her. I grew to respect and admire her greatly. She is a talented, zealous, intelligent and articulate woman. She is a psychologist – and a very good one – and I felt I could discuss anything with her at all. She was aware of the challenges I had been facing in connection with Jack.

I had two other friends – a married couple who I was very close to. He had known my mum when she was in her twenties. They had already given me a huge amount of advice and support. They also had a lot of influence, due to a career which has made them famous. They were aware of the stress I was under and had promised I could call them anytime I needed to talk.

But when was in a mental health emergency – what happened?

Milly was in a remote part of Africa, and I could not get through to her. Marta was also overseas and I could not get through to her. The couple I was close to….his phone was switched off because he was in important meetings, she had just changed her number and had not yet shared her new number.

I saw hundreds of people everyday. But I did not know who I could trust with revealing the depths of my despair. I felt incredibly alone. I think people were detecting that I was starting to unravel. But how could I even begin to explain to them the scale of the challenges that I was facing ever since I had met Jack. I did not want to blame Jack, but neither did I trust him, yet I did not want to drag him down. I felt cornered, pushed, pushed, pushed to the edge. Of course…in the eye of the storm, I made a foolish decision…I did not go home….I went to a park and sat and lingered in my pain. I just could not bear the possibility of seeing Jack again that day.

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…as you may know if you have read my past posts…later than night, I was attacked and apparently left for dead. The following morning, I was found by a security guard who called an ambulance. Just over a week later, I had fled London and was hiding away with family in a different part of the country, miles away from my life and work and home and friends.

My own experience has taught me that keeping my MENTAL HEALTH FIRST AID KIT up-to-date at all times is important. I thought that if I was ever in a stressful predicament, I could turn to one of my closest and most trusted companions. Yet when I was in a mental health emergency, I found that I could not get through to any of the people I was desperate to talk to.

So now….well…now I have an up-to-date list. My list is also longer!

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I have learnt that actually, I have more friends I can trust to listen and understand and not overreact. More of my friends than I realized have been through similar experiences. It was because we have been more willing to have conversations about mental health that I was able to learn just how much empathy and understanding some of my friends really did have. Some of them have been through mental health emergencies and they understand that in a desperate moment of despair – hearing the voice of someone who cares deeply about you is so important.

How about your MENTAL HEALTH FIRST AID KIT – who would you call if you are feeling down or overwhelmed with stress? Are the people on your list in the country? Are they likely to be tied up with work or meetings and perhaps have their phones switched off? Have they recently changed their number?

Please do make sure that you have an up-to-date list of the phone numbers of friends who you could turn to in a mental health emergency. If your phone might run out of battery…make sure that list is also written down in a diary of a piece of paper in your purse or wallet. You really do not know when you may need it!

There Is No “I” In Team

Doctor, Patient, Clinic, Consultation

I keep on thinking about work. I am in a good place mentally about work at the moment. It can be extremely stressful and demanding at times, but right now, I am coping just fine with that. That’s not always the way. Some weeks, I am so exhausted I come home and curl up wishing that I never ever had to go back there.

Some times, I feel as if I end up doing all the least popular tasks. I don’t mind. I really don’t mind what I do at work. We are all part of a team. I have felt as if some of my teammates were just so stressed and under so much pressure more and more was being left for me to do. I am happy to sort out all the time-consuming, faffy, frustrating tasks and get paperwork finished off so the decks are cleared.

But over time, it has felt as if some of the team began to view it as my job to sort out the rubbishy tasks. I still don’t mind doing those tasks. But what I don’t like the idea is any of the team feeling there is some pecking order and they take on the more “glamourous” tasks. I don’t think anyone is doing it. But I do sometimes notice a spirit of “this is your job and that is my job”, whereas the truth for the most part is that we all need to be able to multi-task and be willing to do whatever is asked of us. Not completing tasks sometimes makes it harder for someone else to come along and work out what we have done and not done and fill in the gaps without a clue.

It’s not really a big issue….it’s just….the way I see it is that we are a team. I don’t believe in individual glory at all. I believe that as a team we work together. All have strengths, all have weaknesses. All are working hard. Some are particularly effective in tasks that mean we meet targets. My boss has sometimes singled me out because of the “results” I obtain in some areas. I feel uncomfortable with that, partly because of having a dislike to personal praise. But partly because I don’t want others to feel discouraged. I don’t want competition amongst the team. I perceive the team as a group of humans, with hearts, that might be close to breaking.

Doctor, Nurse, Healthcare, Hospital

We all have good days and bad days. We all need to be aware that sometimes our colleagues need a little more kindness, or more understanding. When we are tired, we get whingy and start to feel as if the odds are stacked against us, or we are working harder than everyone else.

I don’t know….I just love the people I work with. We have been under so much pressure and so much stress. But for me….I don’t think wages or glory compensate for kindness and love. Some of my colleagues might not see things that way. Some want a lot more than 1% as a reward for all their hard work. Others want to be given praise and verbal appreciation or perhaps promotion. We all want to feel needed. Everyone is needed. We just are different. As a team we are especially amazing. For most of the past year there has been a tremendously supportive spirit amongst the team. I want that to stay. I don’t want anyone to feel undervalued and unappreciated.

That’s one of the reasons why I guess I am happy to take on the rubbishy tasks – because that’s my way of saying to my teammates – you do the work you find more rewarding, I’ll do those annoying tasks no one seems to want to do. I’ll do them because they are part of the work we do as a team. They may be rubbishy….but we have to make sure they are completed as a team. But I am not doing them to win praise for doing rubbishy tasks. I am doing them because we are a team – and I want the team to be happy and enjoy their work. I don’t want anyone to dread coming to work, I don’t want anyone to go home feeling bitter. I want all to know that as a collective – we are really really remarkable – we have been all year.

Stress-Busters

This is a post I originally published almost two years ago….

Fandango, the creator of This, That, and The Other, has asked us another superb question this week:

“How do you manage or deal with stress? Is there a specific strategy or approach that you’ve found to be particularly effective?”

GREAT QUESTION FANDANGO! My short answer is…I need a little time to think clearly and decide whether the causes of my stress are real or just imagined/perceived…and then, I need a combination of taking practical steps to alleviate some of the causes of the stress, and I need to make sure I enjoy simple things rather than letting the pressure I am under take all the pleasure out of life.

I don’t mind a bit of stress. Some stress seems to be good for me. I am fairly easy-going by nature. But when things become intense at work, I become like a machine. A little stress moves me to be more organised and I find my stamina (I have terrific stamina) kicks in and I just don’t stop. The kind of stress that comes from being busy makes me thrive.

However, there is another kind of stress that rarely, but occasionally, grips me. It is when I feel absolutely overwhelmed. Just over four years ago I felt that way. For almost five years I had worked between 40-60 hours a week (I did not have one day off sick in all of that time) on a rota of early shifts, late shifts, night shifts and normal day shifts. I had a very busy social life. I thrived on the packed schedule and the wonderful work I was involved in. The problem started when people started to talk about Jack and I…it started tame, but after a couple of years, it was nasty. The worst was what people posted about me and Jack online. I was very upset. In addition, everyday for months I was confronted in person by both friends and strangers who had something to say about Jack and me. I was taunted by people daily about Jack and called names like “slapper”, “slut” or “slag”. People made comments suggesting Jack and I were suppressing sexual desires for one another. Then they clearly became bored and started to say that sexual acts were taking place between Jack and I. Later they talked about arguments we were supposed to have had. Then they said I was sleeping with other men to make Jack jealous. It was all rubbish – but boy did it hurt. I didn’t see it at the time, but the thousands of comments I received did amount to taunting or a kind of bullying.

distressed…Anyway, I do not want to think about that stress right now. But what I would say is, stress that is because of a situation that goes on for a long time, and becomes more intense, and despite all of your efforts, nothing changes – that kind of stress, is very challenging to see a way out of. You become accustomed to the way you are being treated. You accept it as normal, but inside are crumbling. You start to feel yourself drowning and you cannot see an escape. I knew the situation was “stressing me out”. I did a lot more exercise – started running more, swimming more, playing basketball and going to a boot-camp style fitness class. I did the things I loved and spent time with great friends. There were some wonderful events I went to and great days – but the pain and stress were always there. That night that I did not go home – I was overwhelmed by despair. That’s how much the stress had accumulated. I lost sight of my own safety. I don’t know how long I sat there on the bench in the dark next to my attacker. I was in a world of my own. And I know the consequences of that were awful, but it certainly broke the cycle of despair. It brought a host of different challenges with their own stress.

stressedThat was a very bad case of stress of course. A couple of weeks ago, I found myself becoming overwhelmed with stress. This huge amount of money disappeared from my bank account in order to buy my ticket for Australia which was scary. In addition, I have felt as if I was “burning the candle at both ends” for some time and I will be doing so right up until my holiday. The combination of tiredness, worrying about my close family member who has cancer, money concerns, the sheer amount of people depending on me not to let them down…it just seemed such a heavy weight and I found myself becoming emotional and irrational. Symptoms that I was STRESSED!

What did I do about it? A number of things. I had to calm myself down and think about what I had to do one step at a time. I made lists of all the tasks I have to squeeze into my schedule. I made a start on doing what I could, so that  could reduce that list and feel a little relief. I had to reason with myself that my financial situation was not as dire as it may seem. After all, I carry no debt. Living a debt free life is a brilliant way to avoid stress. I might have wiped out my savings, however, I do not owe anybody or any bank, or organisation a penny. It will just take time to build my bank account back up again. Sometimes being able to think clearly and reason with your anxieties – is this a real problem or a perceived one? Is this level of stress justified? I really do need that time to think and reason to get control of my thoughts.

There were some physical things that quickly brought me relief. Trying to get more sleep helped. Trying to do a bit of extra walking, although I did not have time for as much as I would have liked. I love walking out in the woods and through parks. One evening I arrived in an area where I do some work once a week, and found I was too early; they don’t want me to arrive before 6:30pm. I have a friend who lives round the corner, so sometimes, if I arrive early, I will pop by to see her and have a cuppa and a chat. But she was not in that evening. It was very sunny, so I headed down to the local common and I discovered a park I had no idea was there. It was lovely – a little pocket of paradise. Sitting down on a bench with warm evening sunshine bathing me and listening to birdsong and the rustle of the leaves in the light breeze, breathing in the fragrance of the flowers around me – I closed my eyes and said a little prayer of thanks for all the wonderful in my life.

When I am rushing around, I sometimes forget to enjoy life. So when I can tell stress is creeping in, I deliberately slow down events like meals. Rather than gulping down my food, I take my time eating it and absorbing the flavours so that I can have the full enjoyment. Silly little things that bring pleasure like pressing my nose to my fresh bed linen and smelling the lovely fragrance of the linen spray I use. Closing my eyes in the shower and enjoying the sensations of the water streaming down my back. Moisturising my skin with coconut body butter. Little pleasures that help me not to be in such a crazy rush but to make the most of each moment.

cuupaAnd…very importantly, I make sure I spend time talking with the people I love and who love me the most. My family and close friends. Just knowing that you are not alone. There is a team around you rooting for you. Just knowing that you are loved is sometimes such an invigorating impetus that stress seems to melt away. And making sure you communicate openly with lots of people, helps you to realize that everyone has their load to carry. Stress is common. And talking helps you realize that others have also had times when they have been overwhelmed with stress. They often have great advice and experience to share. If there was one huge mistake I made with the situation regarding Jack, it was not talking to my nearest and dearest about how it was effecting me. I hid it from them because I did not want them to be upset by the awful things that were being said about me. Keeping that stress to myself, isolated me emotionally. I did not know who to turn to and despair crept in.

If you are feeling overwhelmed with stress and it is having a detrimental effect, it is wise to take some practical measures so that it doesn’t develop into severe distress or despair. Do not be afraid, a little stress can be healthy, but too much stress can be harmful. Many other people will be able to relate to you. But not all people are kind or empathetic, so make sure you seek out those who do want to help. There are some tried and tested recommendations on how to deal with stress at the links below:

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/reduce-stress/

https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/stress-anxiety-depression/understanding-stress/

https://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/g201405/

https://www.bupa.co.uk/health-information/mental-health/stress

Anyway…as soon as I decided to call this post “Stress-Busters”, I started to hum a certain tune, and it was stuck in my head until I re-wrote some of the lyrics:

Your problems mount up
There seems no way out
What you gonna use?
Stress-busters!

If life’s getting tough
You’re feeling tired
What you gonna use?
Stress-busters!

I ain’t ‘fraid of no stress
I ain’t ‘fraid of no stress
What you gonna use?
Stress-busters!

You’ve got bills to pay
But you ain’t got cash
What can you use?
Stress-busters!

If life’s getting hard
And you don’t look good
Ow, what you gonna use?
Stress-busters!

I ain’t ‘fraid of no stress
I ain’t ‘fraid of no stress
What you gonna use?
Stress-busters!

Fandango’s Provocative Question #23

FPQ

What A Week!

I think….I think that this was probably one of the toughest weeks at work since the start when we were all baffled back in March 2020. It was real tough. I won’t tell you everything that happened – but I will say this – when your adrenaline levels are so high for so many hours for so many days – it is exhausting!!!

I have pretty much done nothing except sleep, work and tried to make time to eat. It has been intense and at times we felt like we had lost control. But even when things are a nightmare – we keep going. We keep going.

I was shocked to come home on Friday and to see a well-known billionaire being interviewed on the news by the staggering amount of money he has spent on launching a rocket into outer space. I found myself filled with annoyance. “GET REAL!!!” I thought to myself. There are so many people who need some help to cover their basic cost of living. Why is he wasting all that money on something so ridiculous?

Oh dear! I was so cross with him.

In other matters – it has become more apparent than ever this week because of what we have seen that the vaccine really is just one string of the bow. The vaccine, testing and social distancing will need to continue to work side by side for several months to come. You cannot have one without the other.

If you have had the vaccine or if you have already had the virus you will have some protection if you come into contact with the virus again. However, you can still breathe it in and carry it within your airways. You can still test positive for the virus. You can still carry it around in your nose and then breathe it on to another person who has not any protection because they have not had the virus and/or they have no antibodies because they have not had the virus before.

So for some months ahead – vaccines, testing and social distancing have to continue to work in tandem. We cannot abandon any of those yet. Never forgetting the basic foundation that we relied on throughout 2020 – good hygiene and quarantine for those who have symptoms – two basic foundation pillars of modern medicine which were recorded in the Mosaic Law over 3,500 years ago.

Please understand that we are in the eye of the storm. Do everything you know you need to do to keep yourselves and other safe.

Freezing Fog

Nature, Dawn, Winter, Sky, Tree, Water, River, Bach

These past few weeks, there has been a lot more fog than I remember for a long time. Freezing fog. I have arrived at work shivery and soaking wet.

I know the way to work like the back of my hand. It is interesting to me, because when it is foggy, I have only been able to see around three or four metres ahead of me. Then there is a thick white grey cloud that obscures everything ahead. But I don’t worry, because I know the way. I know the route. I have been here before, many times. I am not afraid.

When you sense a fog descending in your life, don’t despair. You can do this. Keep doing what you know you need to do, one step at a time. I know from my own experience that it can be frightening – to be stuck in a life fog. To not see the way out, to not see the route ahead can be scary. But take the few steps right in front of you.

The fog will lift.

Soon the choice that all humans will have to make will be as clear as daylight.

Who is qualified to rule mankind?