My absolute favorite cemeteries to visit are the old family cemeteries with just a few graves. The old family cemetery has, of course, fallen out of tradition as folks are now more likely to turn to care of their dead over to a trusty funeral director and place in them a local cemetery where perpetual care can handle the chores on mowing around the stone and keeping the final resting places tidy. But once upon a time, it was an absolute necessity to bury the family on the grounds of their home! The dead were laid out in the parlor for neighbors to view, family members sat up with the dead to ensure that they were indeed quite deceased before the burial took place. It was a very different time but strangely one from which we are not far removed. I distinctly remember listening to my grandmother talk about when her father died and they brought his body to the home for the viewing. It especially bothered me when she showed exactly where he had lain in is coffin! At that point in my childhood, I had never known that caring for the dead had been the burden of the deceased’s own family!
As I grew up and began to understand the old ways that my old people taught me, I realized that the preparing and burial of family members was an important part of their lives. It was not macabre but helped them to say goodbye and accept that the end had come. I’ve noticed over the last few years that there has been another rise of newly established family cemeteries and that perhaps the tide is turning again. A whole new generation of family cemeteries are springing up and with it a chance to preserve family history for generations to come. And if there is anyone who knows who to bury their dead, it’s the southern US! Several days of mourning, followed by a big ol flowery funeral and a pan of chicken and dressing. A celebration of the life lived and one last party for the deceased.
The very small family Cemetery of James Monroe Sims family is located off of highway 80 near the town named for him, Simsboro, Louisiana. Born February 17, 1816, James Sims was a true rags to riches story. He was born the son of a poor farmer in Georgia but learned the ways of farming from his father who was hardworking and industrious. As a young man, Sims decided that Georgia was already over-farmed and wanted to travel west to find better soil. He first settled in South Louisiana but found the area not to his taste. He eventually journeyed further north and claimed land in present day Lincoln Parish to establish a plantation. Sims became successful and built a large home. Once the Civil War began, he was unable to go off to fight as he was apparently very nearsighted. He stayed behind and looked after the neighbors and their children while the able-bodied men were gone off to war. He released his slaves during emancipation and most preferred to stay behind and work his farm as paid workers.


His first wife Sarah Wynn Sims died while James was gone away on a buying trip in New Orleans for his businesses. She died quite suddenly and was buried before his return. Family legend has it that when he rode back onto the plantation and was informed of the tragic death, he raced his horse out to the newly established family burial ground and threw himself on top of the fresh dirt and wept bitterly for the loss of his wife. He eventually married again and had several more children but when he passed away on September 22, 1878 at the age of 62, he was buried next to his first wife according to his wishes. James Sims was said to be an animal lover and he was fond of fast and fine horses! He was known to be an excellent horseman. His death was due to a lingering illness and was expected.
The only two other graves in the little cemetery are of two grandsons of James, one died at the age of 28 days and the other at the age of 11 years. His second wife Betty carried on the duties of managing the businesses of James Sims with help from his children. She died in 1932 and is buried in Simsboro Cemetery, the town named after her husband.

Betty Sims, James’ second wife who carried on the family businesses, she is buried at Simsboro City Cemetery.

Betty Sims’ grave.
Another old family cemetery is the Spencer-Sherrard Cemetery which is in the woods near Clay, Louisiana. It has only about eight marked memorials and is surrounded by a iron fence. Judging by what is marked, it appears that the first burial was that of a 5 year-old boy named Josiah Horton. Josiah’s parents were likely settlers in the area and he was buried there due to convenience. His family evidently later settled near Ruston because his parents and sibling are buried at Greenwood Cemetery in Ruston. The last burial appears to be that of Susanna Moore Spencer who was married to John J. Spencer in Alabama before moving east as did her dad and step-mother. It appears that her dad continued to move west and later died in Texas while she and her husband settled in North Louisiana to make their lives here.

And the one last little mystery that I would like to add to this article is the Redwine Family cemetery near Woodville in Lincoln Parish. I am not sure when the Redwine family began their homestead in Lincoln Parish (which their portion would have been in Jackson Parish on those days) but I know just from the headstone that they had a heavy burden to bear. Pierce Lovick Redwine was born in Georgia in 1811. He was married to Diana. She was a couple years older than him born in 1809. The newest stone in the little family cemetery is of their daughter, Frances Redwine Pollard who was married to Dr. Pollard, she died in 1926 at the age of 85. However it is the earliest two graves that grab my attention.


Pierce Redwine died on July 6, 1847 at the age of 36. Next to him is his son, Silas Whitfield Redwine who died the next day at the age of 1.5 years. This raises so many questions that cannot be answered! Did they die of illness? An accident? How did the poor family lose a father and son within 24 hours? It’s a question that I ponder far too often when traveling through the fields of stone in the south! In total there are only 9 marked graves there. Possibly more. Another family cemetery who bears witness to the difficult frontier life!


































































