
There have been several articles lately about how complicated writing female protagonists can be. We want them strong but not too strong. Amazingly competent but not unrealistic. Gritty but not abrasive.
Blech.
By my count, I have now written thirteen female protagonists (maybe more depending on your definition of protagonist) in my novels and novellas. Here’s some of the reader and reviewer feedback I’ve gotten about my female protagonists:
“clever” “boring, plain, over-emotional, and kinda stupid” “kickass!” “pathetic” “spineless ninny” “awesome” “relatable” “no personality” “one-dimensional” “all-time favorite heroine” “weak” “brilliant”
And ladies and gentlemen, this is all feedback for the same character! I’ll leave you to guess for which because honestly, this could be for any and all of them. Reader perception ranges SO wildly (and always has) that I tend to stick with the philosophy that has guided me from the beginning of my writing career. It’s simple, actually. It’s one single question:
“Do I know anyone that acts or has acted this way?”
If the answer is yes, then it’ll probably show up in a character somewhere. Which means my protagonists (both male and female) are kickass! And weak. Often in the same book. They’re so clever! And also dumb. Because that happens in real life. See, the same situation where one person can feel competent will make another, equally intelligent person do something stupid.
Because we all have our strengths and our blind spots. We all have our moments of weakness and moments to shine. That’s life. And even though I write fantasy, I need to ground my characters in reality. There are no real-life superheroes. Or maybe we can all be superheroes if we really need to be. (<-I pick that option personally.)
And yet, all that said, I find myself nervous about my next release, Waking Hearts, because I have created a character more open to criticism than perhaps any other. Ladies and gentlemen, I have written…
An optimist.
A real, honest to goodness optimist.
I can already feel the metaphorical lips curling. Because how banal. How trite. A perky mom of four who always tries to look on the bright side? Her children are even (mostly) well behaved?!
Clearly a fantasy character, the cynics sneer. The pending echoes of “Mary Sue!” chase me off the interwebs.
Okay, I’m probably exaggerating. After all, I’m writing a paranormal romance, right? Everyone expects the happy ending in romance, whether it has shapeshifters or vampires or mermaids. Everyone has read this story before! HEAs aren’t real after all, are they? Romance heroes don’t really exist.
Feel that pat on the head, romance writers? That’s the patronizing pat of dismissal from the “real” writers. The ones who write those “strong female characters” who fear nothing. The cynics and the realists. The scarred NOT-Mary Sue who know that happy endings don’t exist. Continue reading “For Writers: The Audacity of Optimism”













