
A longtime friend passed away in May, and as much as I will miss Kim’s laugh and her spunk, I am glad she is no longer in pain or lost in the swirl of her final days due to increasing dementia. I had known her since kindergarten — she was part of some of my craziest high school days, which will stay in the past.
We lost touch for several years in college, but Patty, another forever friend, brought us back together for long lunches and visits whenever I returned to my Iowa hometown — and I am grateful to her for that and so much more. She visited Kim in the nursing home regularly, and encouraged me to write some memories for her to share with Kim, who still had her good days. And so I wrote this poem about a moment that still burns brightly.
The last time I saw her, after prompting from Patty, I went to the nursing home and found her sleeping. I waggled her foot and called her name without much luck. I called Patty and told her so — feeling a little guilty while telling myself I had tried. Patty told me to try again (I knew she would). So I did, and this time Kim woke up. I got her out of bed, into a wheelchair, and tooled around the nursing home sidewalks and parking lot on a humid August day. I reminded her of the many times she had driven me (and other girls) around in her family’s station wagon — and all the good times we shared. And then I took her to lunch, where an aide urged her to eat a few bites. And that was it — it was the last time I saw her.
Losing friends and family at my age is common, but I am especially in awe of Patty, who continues to show up for so many people, to be there to honor their lives and their stories. I want to thank her for all she does. Peace.
“Jazzman” is a 1974 song performed by Carole King, from her album Wrap Around Joy. King composed the music for the song, while David Palmer (formerly of Steely Dan) wrote the lyrics.
Kim’s obituary was especially beautiful, so I thought I would share that here too, if you’d like to know more about her.
Kim Ann Daum (Alesch) Obituary May 10, 2026 – Fisch Funeral Home
Oh! Lauri! So good to see your comment here. still remember your poetry workshops at the Barrington Library. I hope…
Thank you, Mary Ann! Hope all is well up your way!
This was beautiful, Julia. May she rest easy. MASent from my iPad
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