Couples counseling, for me, is more difficult than individual counseling. I have to maintain a balance so that each feels heard, each feels safe, each feels some validation of who they are and what their point of view is. Much of the time I succeed and some of the time I get fired.
Couples come into therapy/counseling each convinced their own viewpoint is correct. They work hard in therapy to prove their partner’s viewpoint is wrong.
Much of the time I tell them they are both right. This often stops them in their tracks (IF they are listening to me instead of formulating the argument in their mind to convince me they are the one who is right),
After watching this video I’ve decided I’m not going to tell couples they are each right. I’m going to tell them they are both WRONG.
It starts off a bit slowly (from my viewpoint) but I encourage you to listen through to the end.
You can go wrong.
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