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Grief Counsel For Loss of Life ~ Relationships ~ Careers ~ Identity


“I’ve told my children that when I die, to release balloons in the sky to celebrate that I graduated. For me, death is a graduation.” Psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, the Swiss American psychiatrist who pioneered the study of many near death experiences, authored numerous best-selling books, and taught about the five stages of grief, may not have known that mass balloon releases are illegal in several states, cities, and countries. Releasing balloons and sky lanterns could be considered illegal everywhere, because after all, it is simply littering. The United States that have laws against mass balloon releases are California, Connecticut, Delaware, Florida, Hawaii, Maine, Maryland, Rhode Island, Tennessee and Virginia. But this is beside the point.

As a graduate of the University of Zurich and the University of Colorado Boulder, she learned the deeper layers of life and the energy of the soul, by studying people in all stages of near-death as well as helping people cope after the death of their loved ones.

I have also spoken to people who have had near-death experiences, only to return to their current lives, never to be afraid of death again. But that is little consolation for the living left behind.

Even if you have read her books, or studied and written about this rather unpleasant subject, when death of a loved one arrives at your door, the often sudden and unexpected shock of it rocks your world.

The blanket of grief also covers the loss experienced in ending relationships, careers and employment endings, and change in identity. All of the stages of grief that apply to the death of a loved one also apply to unexpected major life alterations.

You have always been you ever since you were born. I thank God for you. Just because hard emotional times appear to hijack your life when unexpected change enters your reality, does not mean you are not worthy of living the best life you possibly can.

Life can seem as if you are just going through the motions, void or any meaning, and moving in a robotic way. This is part of the shock of the first stage of grief.

There is no escaping your emotions as you process grief. You may also find yourself going back and forth between stages, hopping over some, or thinking you are past a certain point, only to be thrown back a step or two by a simple smell of perfume or cologne, or the sound of a favorite song.

How is a heart to heal?

For adults who are grieving the loss of a loved one, you can also hold a candlelight ceremony, make a memory book, gather favorite recipes of the loved one, buy some of their favorite flowers to grace your home. This is done to help the heart acknowledge your loved one, and helps to transition bottomless grief into appreciation, honor, love, empathy, and understanding.

In sudden loss of jobs, know that your worth is not based on what you do. Your personal worth is based on who you are. You are worthy. Brainstorm new possibilities that breathe life into ideas. Try something new. Help out others in your situation. Volunteer. Stay active. Do not give up.

In loss of your personal identity, feeling undervalued in relationships, and in dramatic awareness of the change in your personal identity in relationship to others, find yourself blooming like the bud of a flower blossoms into a beautiful seemingly new creation, yet it is not really new. It has been you all the time. The loss of friends and those familiar around you are not what your self-esteem is built on. You are more than who and what people thought you were. You cannot be put into a box of other’s perceptions. Be yourself, regardless of color, race, gender, age, creed, or any other difference human beings can contrive in the separation and caste system agenda. You are a precious human life with no one else like you. Again, you are you, the beautiful soul you have always been

Why is understanding the life of the loved one who has transitioned important?

Before birth, families of souls decide to work together in order to learn the necessary life lessons here in this school of life. The vast experience any one person can have in one lifetime cannot possibly gain all the knowledge of trillions of other lifetimes. One lifetime simply is not enough time to learn and experience all there is to know. Lives lived focusing on greed and personal achievement at all costs, by the choices they make in their lives, may never know what it is to need or want for anything.

Perhaps one person needs to learn patience in adversity in order to learn how to be sympathetic rather than judgmental and quick to anger which unbalanced karma in that last life, or vice versa. There are as many reasons to incarnate here on earth as there are trillions of sparks of life that issued forth from Eternal Universal Life Energy’s Big Bang.

Notice, according to the laws of thermodynamics, that energy cannot be created nor ended, only changed. If energy cannot be created, then it is infinite, eternal. It helps to understand this rather arbitrary fact when healing from any form or stage of grief. While some in science point to the Big Bang as the working theory for the creation of everything, it is important to realize that energy always was.

If energy is infinite, as the laws of thermodynamics suggest, then the energy of the eternal souls of ourselves and our loved ones are also infinite. They may be physically gone from our present life, just know that they are not gone forever. This means the life of the soul of your loved one is still existing on the spiritual plane. If they have achieved perfection of all human thoughts, words, and actions, the energy of the soul, complete in all myriad experiences, will merge back into the I AM Presence of Itself.

Still, to assist you in the personal grieving process, during your candlelight ceremony, review your life as it intersects with the life of your loved one who has moved on.

What have you learned in your life thus far?

Can you see the life lessons you taught each other in this life?

Did love win?

Where are you at in the grieving process?

Knowing this information does not help the emotional pain. If only knowledge would take the pain away. But knowing how to cope with the loss, the emotional pain, can also make you feel self-empowered as opposed to feeling emotionally dead inside yourself.

While nothing you do can bring your loved one back, knowing that you can heal and the next steps to be on the lookout for can let you know what usually comes next.

In the meantime, transitioning from feeling helpless to feeling appreciation for their life lived, can be a balm to the emotional upheaval. Time never stands still. Know that there is a reason your loved one was in your life, and you were in your loved one’s life. This was no accident.

You can apply these emotional steps to every category of loss mentioned above. Deciding to not stay stuck is helpful.

Now is not forever. You may feel you dropped into a black hole. Trust the process the five stages of grief offer you. Make a plan. Allow yourself the two years it usually takes to adjust to major life upheavals.

Kubler-Ross has helped countless people by letting people not feel abandoned in their feelings. You are not alone. There is joy in your future, joy for new beginnings, joy in meeting new people, and joy in new opportunities. None of the joy coming your way in any way diminishes the experience of life you shared with the loved one who has passed, nor does this knowledge hurt your loved one on the other side. This loved one of yours is also continuing to experience the Eternal Universal Life of the soul, which cannot be snuffed out by the transitioning of the fleshly garment of life. You will get to see them again on the other side.

This also means that the present energy of your life is yet to transform into whatever you decide it to be. You are worthy. You are part of nature. You are energy changing with your awareness in appreciation for all those who have gone before you, and all who are yet to cross your path.

Grieving opens unexpected and often unwelcomed doors of empathy and understanding, and makes us realize that life is bigger, more exciting, and more dynamic than we might have first thought.

Namaste

Spirit vs Soul ~ Your Silver Cord ~ Your Life Stream ~ Part I


Silver Cord

Have you ever heard that you have a Silver Cord that your Stream of Life flows through?

Years ago, my sister asked me if I had ever heard of the Silver Cord. I told her, “No.”

Last night, in a dream, the thought of this Silver Cord came to the forefront of my mind. It was many years ago she asked me this. I wasn’t sure what to think of it at that time.

All of a sudden, last night in this dream that unfolded more as a memory of my actual, present life, I remembered myself between the ages of three and five. I remember many things extremely early in my life, so this was no exception.

I remembered, as my mother can attest to, each morning we used to go for walks to the Taft Public Library two blocks away. We lived in what we called the Tetreault house on Route 16 in Mendon, MA, diagonally across of what was then known as Lowell’s Dairy. We lived in the apartment upstairs. Cousins lived below us, and not long after my Memere and Pepere lived in a smaller apartment in the lower level in the back. One of my cousins broke her arm in the old-fashioned wringer on the washing machine in the cellar. I love all my many cousins and cried along with her. I still remember the smell of my Pepere’s sweet chickory smelling pipe in the stairwell that led from Memere and Pepere’s apartment up to our apartment upstairs. I LOVED that smell. It meant Pepere was around. When I smell that same smell these days, I get a sweet nostalgic, tingling washing over me.

Mom and I would cross the street at the triangle shaped Memorial “square” before any memorial existed, and began our walk down Maple Street. There was a small white house and a fascinating tree just before the Old Lowell’s Dairy. There was also what is now a very small stone wall, but for me at that tender age, was quite a step up so I could get to this tree.

I loved to walk in circles around this tree. It was the most wonderful part of my walk. When Mom was tired of seeing me walk in circles around the tree, she would say, “OK Honey. It’s time to go.”

I would always respond, “Not yet Mom. I have to unwind my string.”

“You have a string?” Mom would ask.

“Yes, and I don’t want to get it all tangled up.”

Mom humored me, as she always did, and allowed me to go as many times in the opposite direction, so that I could unwind my string.

Transport your mind now to the present moment in time. I no longer walk in circles around trees, nor need to “unwind my string.” But this thought, that as a young child, I knew for certain that I had an invisible string connected to me is fascinating, given this resurgence of the “Silver Cord” to my mind today.

I never realized it had any biblical nor practical reference. I did know, from my many years of metaphysical studies, that our Spirits go back to their Source. Some people call this Source of All Life, God, or Mother/Father God. Some people with more scientific minds call it the Big Bang. However you think of it, there is a Source to all LIFE, LIGHT and LOVE, including your and my LIFE. In Reality, it is ALL that there is, and ALL that truly matters.

With this explanation I am splitting hairs or attempting to do the impossible. For example, Infinite is Infinite, not finite. The Generator of All Life is Infinite, ever spiraling outward, expanding, searching, experiencing. Yet, in our human understanding of the Big Bang or start of ethereal and phtsical reality, here we are as limited beings with Infinite Spirits gifted to us from the Infinite Being, or Infinity, however you can grasp this illusive concept. You and I are energy.

Energy cannot be created or destroyed. It can only be changed. This is the first Law of Thermodynamics.

Therefore, your and my Spirit is eternal. Spirit that is eternal. This post originally spoke of our Soul connection to Source. But our Souls refer to our physical lives also, such as, there were 200 souls on the plane.

We could think of this Silver Cord as our Spiritual Umbilical Cord. It carries our spiritual DNA through the ethers to where we are and sustains us through LIFE. The only difference is, when we have depleted our Chi, Prana, Qi, Life Force, we go back to where we came from.

The people I have spoken with who had near-death experiences (NDE) say they will never again be afraid of death. They ALL told about the LIGHT and LOVE surrounding them. One client told me she was held by a Beautiful Angel, her head in the angel’s lap, until help could arrive, and told her that she would be OK. When the paramedics got there, they told her no one was there. This client, now friend, is alive and well this very day.

They ALL told this LIGHT and LOVE BEING that there is more they wanted to do, that they wanted to share this LIGHT and this LOVE with their loved ones here on Earth. I find this comforting and enlightening.

Our Spirits walk among other Spirits, all in mortal bodies while here on Earth. We usually shorten our metaphysical sight to the physical forms and shapes around us. But for a moment, with your mind’s eye, picture any scene you like with not only physical people, but also the LIFE-Giving Spirits that surround all of them. It is an amazing interaction.

There is a concept you might like to try regarding your bioenergetic force field, which is fueled by this same LOVE, and LIGHT of Source. Since you are in charge of your energy, (it is not in charge of you), you can  use it in specific situations where you feel you might need more assistance, like during a job interview, dealing with a difficult subject you need to speak with someone about, or any situation where you feel you could use a boost.

Everyone has this energy field around them, if they are living, breathing individuals. It is not a belief system. It is a measurable thing. In the previous post, you read where some refer to this Protective, LIFE-Sustaining Energy Matrix as your Guardian Angel. It is particular to you. If the Guardian Angel concept works for you, fine. If not, just imagine using this Energy, which is there at your disposal, waiting for the Direction of your Free Will.

Now, before the encounter, using your THOUGHTS and FEELINGS, imagine you are sending your Guardian Angel, or Mass of Energy to that job interview, that difficult conversation, or that seemingly impossible situation you need to address. Be specific. Tell this Guardian Angel or Energy, to greet the other’s Guardian Angel or Energy, before you get there. Tell your Guardian Angel or Energy exactly why this would be beneficial for you and the desires you have for it to be completed in the way you would like.

This is how I manifested every person, place and thing in my life, from the age of three years old until now. This is no joke. I did not always know the correct terminology or technical information of why this worked. All I knew then and know now, is that it does in fact work. It has never been known to fail me. Perhaps this is why after so many years of “trying to push a square peg into a round hole,” and finding I was near a nervous breakdown in the process, that I was drawn to the best metaphysical school in the world, DoveStar Institute in Hooksett, New Hampshire. Unfortunately, with the deaths of the founder of the school, Kamala, and her daughter, Saryna, the school closed. Fortunately, I AM still in touch with some of my teachers and former students there, and teachers and former students in New Paradigm Multidimensional Transformation (NPMDT) all over the world. This is my metaphysical family.

You can keep this Stream of LIFE, your Silver Cord, vibrant, through the daily practices of meditation, prayer, and by the use of crystal and gem vibrational frequencies,  flower essences, and by the active use of NPMDT,  and all energy work including Yoga, Qigong, which all connect with this PURE LOVE and LIGHT-LIFE Energy. It will revive you.

YOU ARE WORTHY.

YOU ARE LOVED.

YOU ARE COMPLETE.

WAKE UP TO THE SILVER CORD OF LIFE THAT RESIDES WITHIN YOUR SPIRIT.

It is LIFE Giving.

It is LIFE Sustaining.

You are the Divine Presence walking on this Earth in the body of You.

Namaste

 

He Died And Met God ~ And He Wasn’t Ready …


 

God Bless