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Nothing Can Enter Your World Unless You Invite It In ~ No One Is A Victim Of Life


If you remove all the Jews, Arabs, and immigrants from this picture, there would be no people.

Whether it is harmony or disharmony, nothing can enter your or my world unless we invite it in. What we focus on grows. We have a choice. We are not single-subject vehicles of life. Rather we are multifaceted individuals radiating the energy of our feelings spiritually, emotionally, psychologically, physically, politically, socially, financially and in many other ways into our world. We are whole. We are One.

There will always be chaos, dysfunction, and lack of peace in this world. This has been the case since its first inception eons ago, echoing out into the ethers and astral realm. Volcanoes belched out destructive lava. Cataclysmic floods ripped apart the earth until its new land masses were unrecognizable, continuing to this day reshaping coastlines everywhere.

Even in when Jesus was born, Herod sought to kill him. As a result Joseph and Mary had to flee to Egypt with Jesus, making them immigrants in an unfamiliar land so he would not be slaughtered along with the rest of the infant boys, age two and under. They were not put in cages. They were met with hospitality for years in their home away from home before it was safe to return. Still, they decided to settle in Nazareth so as not to bring too much attention to Jesus as he grew.

All of us are no different. People of every race, ethnicity, culture, color, creed, gender, and age are all part of the human race. We are all part of nature. We can be volatile. We can be peaceful. It is what we focus our attention on that makes the difference. I can choose to be part of the problem or the solution.

Somehow we expect perfection in our lives and in our countries as if we just think, speak, and do the right things, we could railroad things through. Nothing could be further from the truth. We cannot manhandle, manipulate, guilt or force others into our sense of perfection with the crack of a whip. That’s not how energy works.

What drum are You beating?

We look at the political scene and try to manipulate outcomes by concentrating on what is wrong in order to make it right. What we focus on grows. Concentrating on what is wrong is the wrong basis to build what is right, useful, and sustaining.

We look at spirituality and religions and see what is wrong in the hopes of making them right. Again we miss the mark we so desperately seek to achieve. We erroneously think, “If only people would think, say, and do the same as me then it would all work out.” This also is not so.

Why?

Notice nothing happens when any thought crosses our mind. It is only when the feeling behind the thought grows that it motivates us into action. It is the feeling that is the impetus to change.

What?

Isn’t it my brain, common sense, my thoughts that generate my world, experiences, beliefs into action?

No.

Nothing happens with any thought until the feeling of any subject inspires us into action. Without feeling, we ponder and ponder possibilities. Our thoughts will go round and round the merry-go-rounds of our minds until we decide, inspired by our feelings, to do something about the matter.

Guard your feelings with the shield of awakened consciousness. Feelings ignite all your thoughts into actions. Take the care of a gymnast training for the Olympics, or the runner training for a marathon the same as you prepare your future actions by the life-giving spark of your feelings. How many of us have regrets over our actions when we fuel the renegade feelings we choose not to control?

By the use of our free will, we decide which feelings to follow up on and which would be better not responded to. Decide never again to respond to anything. Instead, consciously decide how you will act, with empathy and compassion or not, with judgment or non-judgment, etc. It is in this conscious decision that we build up or tear down. Nothing can enter your world unless you invite it in.

Feelings are not right or wrong, they just are. However, if you do not like how you are feeling, change how you are thinking. They go hand in hand. Just realize that the power to do anything comes from the feeling, not the thinking. Just like feelings, you can change your thoughts. You are in the driver’s seat of you.

You are not the victim of neither your thoughts nor your feelings. You are in control of them. They are not in control of you. People who play the role of the victim of their lives simply have not yet learned this healing and life-generating principle.

The solution is so simple, yet our misguided feelings distract us to the point of bringing on our own dysfunction, personally, spiritually, politically, financially, socially, as well as nationwide and worldwide. It is when we lack self-control over our feelings that we decide to focus on where we do not want to go rather than the choice to foster and fertilize the ground where we do want to walk.

If only we would use our free will to focus on the good we see as opposed to the bad that captures our attention. Pour your feelings into positive thoughts, energizing them with the personal power to do good.

Pouring your feelings into negative thoughts that harm others physically, psychologically, emotionally, spiritually, politically, or financially is the biggest recipe for failure. It is self-sabotage in the highest degree. It is a recipe for disaster. It is only a matter of time before the misdirected energy is met by its equal and opposite force.

Try this instead; transform your world, your personal space, your belief system, your neighborhood, your church, your work environment, your social circles, your political and financial aspirations with life-affirming, soul-inspiring goals.

Change your focus from countering the negativity and failure of broken systems to promoting healthy equality, fairness, kindness, loving and peaceful actions. In this way, you begin taking steps forward, healing your own lives and the lives of all around you. From now on, pay no attention to what you do not want to grow.

This works in all areas of life, especially at this time of the COVID-19, Sars Co2 epidemic blanketing the world. The energy of closing your eyes and focusing your feelings on denying the reality of the death and destruction of life at this moment in history will only grow more of the same if that is your focus.

Once your feelings motivate you to whole and healthy aspirations and problem-solving remedies, you will find a quicker advancement into solutions to COVID-19 and every other problem that benefits you personally, as well as in your family, neighborhood, country and world.

Yes, others with dark, self-serving and greedy agendas will continue. It has been this way since the beginning of time on this planet. Tsunamis and worldwide cataclysms will continue to manifest as they always have. Still focus on solutions over problems.

Using your free will to fuel feelings of rage and discord will ultimately sabotage every endeavor. It is only a matter of time before that house of cards crumbles. It always has and always will.

As a counselor, I never advised punching that pillow to get all the anger out, because fueling those negative feelings only fuels more hate. Yes, you will be exhausted afterwards, but you will have wasted a great amount of time not moving forward. That is only a diversionary tactic.

You cannot move forward by looking backwards. If you have been in counseling for years, you are with the wrong counselor. When you are finally ready to heal, (sometimes we are not ready, willing, nor able to heal), then and only then will you see the truth to what I am stating here.

We need to be in balance with every aspect of our human being, not only spiritually, emotionally, psychologically, physically, politically, socially, financially and in many other ways in our world. As a fully formed human, we all need to be in balance and foster good over evil. We reap the seeds we sow in this world.

If we do not like what we are seeing and hearing around us, it is up to you and me to plant everlasting seeds of love, light, peace, joy, happiness, health, faith, equality, forgiveness, empathy and understanding just as Jesus did when he walked this earth beginning so many Christmases ago.

God Bless Everyone Everywhere

The Nature of Wisdom ~ The Natural World and You


“The Nature of Wisdom

For in her there is a spirit that is

intelligent, holy,

unique, manifold, subtle,

mobile, clear, unpolluted,

distinct, invulnerable,

loving the good, keen,

irresistible, beneficent, humane,

steadfast, sure, free from anxiety,

all-powerful, overseeing all,

and penetrating through all spirits

that are intelligent and pure and

most subtle.

For wisdom is more mobile

than any motion;

because of her pureness she pervades

and penetrates all things.

For she is a breath

of the power of God,

and a pure emanation of the glory

of the Almighty;

therefore nothing defiled gains

entrance into her,

For she is a reflection

of eternal LIGHT,

a spotless mirror

of the working of God,

and an image of his goodness.

Though she is but one,

she can do many things,

while remaining in herself,

she can renew all things;

in every generation she passes

into holy souls

and makes them friends of God,

and prophets;

for God loves nothing so much

as the one who lives with wisdom.

For she is more beautiful

than the sun,

and excels every constallation

of the stars.

Compared to the light she is

found to be superior,

for it is succeeded by the night,

but against wisdom

evil does not prevail.

She reaches mightily from one end

of the earth to the other,

and she orders all things well.” Wisdom of Solomn 7: 22b – 8:1

You are nature. You have the ability to let wisdom grow within you. Everyone can do this by allowing our human nature to grow in awareness to greater and greater degrees until we become wise in the things that really matter in this life.

Wisdom is key to solving personal, social, economic and financial, political and environmental imbalances that all human beings have created and contributed to. Growing in wisdom is the beginning of taking responsibility for ourselves and the world.

See all your thoughts and words before the spotless mirror of wisdom to determine the most humane, most loving and most Light and Life generating actions.

Namaste

Healing Nations ~ Repairing Relationships


Hanging onto personal preferences over finding common ground that is mutually beneficial to all is like the white-knuckling grip of the fist hanging on for dear life from a branch overhanging the jagged, steep cliff. It’s a stupid idea that does not work in the end.

Whether we’re talking about repairing relationships with families, friends, neighbors, schools, cities and towns, our own or other country’s politics, or other social settings; repairing relationships takes concerted effort, but it is possible.

We form our opinions, ideas, goals and judgments with the precision ice skaters use when sharpening their blades. It is effective. Ice skaters use their sharp edges to cut through the ice at will to jump, turn and perform outlandish moves. We do the same thing with our opinions, thoughts, words and actions. Now is the time to melt our own sharp edges, using our own will to better serve us in healing the rifts in humanity that we have caused. Maybe we did not personally cause the rift in humanity, or whatever the dysfunction is in our corner of the world. But that does not mean we cannot be part of the healing, repairing relationships process.

Whatever we focus on grows, no matter which subject it is. Focusing on division keeps everyone in division. Focusing on healing relationships works, whether it is personal or social, as in work related issues, or the politics that is tearing nations apart.

Why not focus on healing the relationship and healing the nation?

This is the team building approach. It works in our jobs, schools, clubs, anywhere we want to work together productively to get things done. Finding what is wrong with every different idea, or attempt at success if it is not our idea, and highlighting the faults of everyone involved does not make for a sturdy foundation on which to build. That would be paramount to erecting our building in sand. It will crumble, of course.

Always arguing and proving we are right (even when we are not) is an exhausting way to live, or function in any realm of society. It is detrimental to repairing any broken relationship, no matter if we are the one in the wrong, or not. We all know this. This is nothing new. We need to move past pride, personal pride, political pride, social pride, as if that pride is the cord that cannot be broken. The truth is, that cord is the very thing that is choking the oxygen out of the will to heal and advance common interests.

We can talk ourselves into a willfully ignorant and self-sabotaging mindset when we are hell bent on getting our own way at all costs. Such an approach as we are seeing on more than one political stage serves very few at the extreme expense of the many.

What is the best way to mend fences, build bridges, and repair broken relationships?

First, we need the desire to do so. Not mending fences, building bridges and repairing relationships only hurts us, not the other person or group. Paradoxically, this requires an honest effort void of only focusing on self-serving interests. One would initially think that by seeking only what we want will get us to where we want to be. This is not true. We see this exact thing play out in other people’s lives, but have a much harder time in recognizing this fact in our own life or political goals. It is always easier to see the faults of others, rather than our own faults, or the ramifications of our own poor decisions. We spend an inordinate amount of time doing just that. It would serve us better if we do like the sitcom “Friends” when Chandler tells Joey, “Get there quicker.”

Second, we need to focus on finding common ground. It is possible to work together for a common goal. Not working together for a common goal is like watching two-year-old children who throw temper tantrums because they have not yet advanced in maturity and in their thinking skills to realize there is a better way of communicating. It is a sad state of affairs when adults act like two-year-old children to get our way. These adult tantrums are also a bully mentality tactic, to manipulate systems and people to achieving self-serving goals. It might seem obvious that we all should not be bullies, nor allow ourselves to be bullied, but even schools are having a hard time in effectively dealing with bullies. There are legal and humane ways to stand up to bullies that do not result with rewarding the bully. We simply need the fortitude, integrity and courage to use our God-given free will to use our voice and stand up for our convictions.

Third, we need to realize living our lives is not the same thing as playing a strategic game of Risk or Monopoly. Real lives, ours and others, are affected negatively when we live our lives like a chess game. Lives are not meant to be lived under microscopes, carved out with exacto knives. If we are going to make decisions affecting other people, we need to take into consideration all people whose lives we affect, not just our own, or only people who think the way we do.

Fourth, we need to realize what is the motivating force behind our decisions. Is greed the only worthwhile motivating force to determine a life well-lived? If the bottom line is that there is money to be made at the end of the day, or at the end of the transaction, is that a good enough reason to hurt or harm others, or sell out our countries? Is this the paradigm we wish to make decisions by? Is money the only reason to do any and everything? Are other factors just as important as money?

Fifth, we need to stop playing games, willfully duping ourselves and others. When we speak with a forked tongue, we know we can then go back to say we covered all our bases. Manipulating truth so it is conveniently contorted, lying, cheating and stealing ought not to be the highest goal to achieve, or to be not counted as evil if we can get away with doing it. If we raise the moral standard to all our lives, all our lives will benefit.

We do not have to do any of these suggestions. It is possible to keep on the path we are on. It is possible to thoroughly destroy our planet and force it into cataclysmic, life-ending cycles. We can chose to lose democracies in the world by ignoring democratic principles as if they are the same thing totalitarian ideals, which oddly enough is exactly what we will get when we give up on democracy. We can close our eyes to the realities we do not wish to look at or address because it bothers our peace of mind to think about. We can do nothing and hand over our own responsibilities to other people in order to blame them for all the evils of the world, as long as the world exists.

What is evil?

Evil is the result of events when good people do nothing. The biggest dupe of all is the most successful trick Satan has accomplished in this world, which is, the lie that he does not exist.

God Bless

NEVER MAKE A DECISION OUT OF FEAR ~ EVIL ONLY TAKES ROOT WHEN ENOUGH GOOD PEOPLE DO NOTHING


When making decisions about next steps to take, there are many valid considerations toSee the source image ponder, but fear ought never be one of them. Fear should never tie us into knots. Whether it is in our personal lives, or civic, educational, financial, moral or even political futures to be weighed, decisions need to be made from a basis of intelligent information, goals to be attained, moving towards where we want to go. Decisions focusing on what we do not want, moving in a direction we do not want to go, or fear of something happening is the worst foundation of any decision.

Solid foundations to base any decision on include desires made from the highest goals with the most love of all people, support of life for all people, fairness and integrity of all people, for the up-building of all people.

See the source imageMaking decisions in life can seem so confusing, as if there are so many possible sides to consider. There is a way to streamline the thinking process and step off the merry-go-round of “spin.” Governments do this. People do this. Both usually have their own agendas. “Spin” does not help you. You know what your goal is. Focus on your goal.

First, stop thinking of all the fear-based thoughts surrounding the issue. Focusing on what you do not want keeps you focusing on what you don’t want.

Second, list all of the positive benefits leading to your end goal. Write down as many as come to your mind without dismissing any positive benefit.

Third, do not allow any influences to give you negative input in the guise of “looking at both side.” You can kindly inform them that they can make their decisions that way if they wish, but this is your decision. Do not listen to anyone who tries to instill fear.

Fourth, map out the steps you need to take to accomplish your goal unhindered by negative thoughts or negative people.

These steps might seem like common sense, but so often we give away our own personal power to someone or something else. All too often we cave in to fear, fear of this happening, fear of counter-attack, fear of loss of popularity, fear of judgment, fear of failure, or even fear of success, fear, fear, fear. The list goes on.

Imagine a country who only wanted the best for all people with no fear; to be a haven for war-torn countries with no fear; to have the means and opportunity to feed the poor and shelter the homeless with no fear; to build and repair roads and bridges with no fear; generate more technologies and innovation for the health of the future in all countries with no fear.

Imagine a person, who despite past failure, gets up and tries yet again to realize a dream fulfilled, based on their hopes and life-giving qualities, until their goal comes to a life of its own.

Imagine a world with a goal of peace, mutual cooperation with multiple benefits to all citizens in all countries.

We are living in a time where we have a host of positive plausible possibilities, in our personal lives, in our communities, in our states and in our countries. We need to tip the scales of thinking good, saying good, being good, and doing good.

Evil only takes root when enough good people do nothing.

Are You Safe In Your Relationships? How To Protect Yourself Against Emotional Blackmail, Bullying Threats And Violence In Your Personal And Social Circles ~ Recognizing Personality Disorders ~ When And When NOT To Use Tolerance


Rule #1:   MAKE SURE YOU ARE SAFE.        National Domestic Violence Hotline             800-799-7233

Rule #2:   MAKE SURE YOU ARE SAFE.       National Domestic Violence TTY Hotline     800-787-3224

Rule #3:   MAKE SURE YOU ARE SAFE.       National Domestic Violence Deaf Hotline   206-518-9361 (Video Phone ONLY for Deaf Callers)

The Hotline provides referrals to agencies in all 50 states, Puerto Rico, Guam, and the U.S. Virgin Islands. Persons can also contact the Hotline through an email request from the Hotline website: http://www.thehotline.org.

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There is nothing you ever did that deserves you being abused, violated nor bullied.

 

Do you feel safe? Do you feel safe in all your relationships? Do you feel safe in your home? Do you feel safe in your school? Do you feel safe at your employment? Do you feel safe in your social circles, friendships, neighborhoods, affiliations, clubs, including social media? Do you feel safe when you are alone?

Do you feel unsafe in some situations? Do you feel unsafe around certain people? Do you feel threatened or intimidated by anyone legally, physically, emotionally, financially, politically, morally, or even religiously and/or spiritually?

It is most important to feel safe in your own skin, safe in your own mind, and safe in your own soul.

Much has been written about promoting tolerance, getting along, defusing situations, and compromising for the greater good that can be experienced in this beautiful and amazing life. But those of us who have more tender mental constitutions, and weaker willed individuals can be bullied beyond belief by strong personalities, louder and more demonstrative characters, bowling over any and all attempts that might possibly arrive at a healed and more whole relationship.

These are lessons school children learn, how to get along. But sometimes we carry this attempt at normal too far, but trying to apply tolerance and compromise to abusive and dysfunctional relationships, when we really should be running for the hills.

Your feelings and emotions are your accurate, internal measure of what you should do next. Emotional abuse feels bad, makes you nauseous, gives you anxiety attacks, with a generalized feeling of malaise, depression and low energy. The intensity of your feelings and emotions is a signal that things need to change if you are going to re-gain your mental, physical and spiritual health.

There is never any reason to tolerate physical, mental/emotional abuse, or bullying as a normal behavior. This seems like it is common sense, but it is not that easy to the person who is being physically abused, emotionally blackmailed, and threatened by law suits or any other kind of manipulation and/or blackmail. The longer bullies bully their victim, the more debilitating fear cripples the victim. Domestic violence and abuse of any kind, which bullying is a part, is never OK under any circumstance in civil society.

Freedom comes when you gather your courage, and STAND UP. Stand up for yourself, speak out to someone you can trust. Do not remain silent. Silence is not golden. Silence is deadly, literally. Bullies do not go away. Bullies get stronger the longer they stay at it. The longer bullies stay bullies, the more brazen they get, and  the more their bullying tactics escalate.

An important point to make here is to realize that people with destructive personality disorders most often look just the same as you and me. Mass murderers do not look like mass murderers. They look like regular people, for the most part. Abusive partners also dress in expensive clothing, can be financially successful, and have no tell-tale marks that make them stand out from no-abusive partners. They might even appear to have wide circles of “friends” around them, but the truth is, these are usually superficial trophies. Do not be intimated by any of this. This presentation of how bullies portray themselves is a facade. However, the vengeance the bully feels is very real, and must be dealt with, not ignored.

The question is how to stand up and deal with bullies, emotional blackmail, and threats of mental, emotional and physical abuse. Again, go by how you feel. You need to get to a safe place on all levels: mentally, emotionally, physically, financially, and spiritually. If you feel unsafe addressing these problems yourself, seek immediate help from a counselor, police and/or fire personnel or a shelter. Do not wait. Your health and well-being depend on getting help for yourself and the innocent ones around you.

Abusers need psychological help. Bullies need psychological help. Abuse and bullying is a sickness not a positive psychological trait to teach our children or anyone else, or let people off the hook thinking they will get better on their own. This type of behavior is a type of addiction. There is never a time to tolerate abuse.

Manipulating behaviors tend to show up ever so subtly in the earlier days of the relationship, but can also manifest later in the relationship if stressors change. Pay attention. Pay attention to how you feel when certain things happen. You might even keep a journal of your feelings, if you feel safe to do so.

The important thing to know is there is no tolerance for abusive behaviors. Verbal abuse can be even more detrimental to the health and well-being of children, spouses, and everyone living or working under the same roof.

Sometimes abusive behaviors manifest over time, after the relationship is well-established. The person being abused knows that even the abusing person has a good side from time to time, and at the good times, has earned their love. The person being abused wonders if they have done or said something to trigger the abuse. Most often the person receiving the abuse is told it is their fault that the abuser is abusing. Know this is not true.

Everyone is in charge of their own feelings, emotions and actions. There is no way you are ever in charge of the abuser’s feelings, emotions or actions no matter what has happened.

You count.

You matter.

You are a gift from God.

You are beautiful, and I am so very glad you are here.

NAMASTE