In Memory of My Former Dean, Doc. Fely Posecion

In Memory of My Former Dean, Doc. Fely Posecion

Too many goodbyes in barely half a year—and yet death never gets any easier to bear.

Today, I say farewell to one of the most remarkable souls in the academe: Doc. Fely Posecion, my former Dean at Colegio San Agustin–Bacolod, Philippines.

I was then a young twenty-something professional trying to find my footing in academia—still completing my Master’s degree, still uncertain of my place in the profession. But Doc saw something in me before I had learned to see it in myself. She hired me, trusted me, and quietly affirmed the educator I was still becoming.

When I finally earned my Master’s degree, she once again opened a door. She entrusted me with the opportunity to teach in the Graduate School—this time standing before students far older, and in many ways more experienced, than I was.

Some people change your life not through grand gestures, but through quiet belief, steady mentorship, and unwavering faith in your potential. Doc was one of those rare people.

Thank you, Doc. Fely Posecion. I owe so much of my pursuit of further studies, academic excellence, and the courage to keep growing to you.

Your legacy lives on in the lives you shaped—mine included.

Rest well, Doc.

Open Fasting (Iftar)

“A sumptuous meal served as our Muslim brothers and sisters break the fast together in gratitude and fellowship.” 🌙🍽️

Open Fasting (Iftar)

I recently had the chance to join our Muslim brothers and sisters for an Open Fasting (Iftar), and it was such a beautiful and meaningful experience.

For those who may not know, Open Fasting is when Muslim communities invite people from different faiths and backgrounds to join them in breaking their fast during Ramadan. Throughout the day, Muslims fast from food and drink as an act of faith, discipline, and gratitude. At sunset, everyone gathers and waits together for the signal that the fast can finally be broken.

One of the most fascinating moments for me was seeing everyone already holding their food, yet no one was eating. Everyone patiently waited in silence and respect for the sound of the gong that signals it is time to break the fast. When it finally sounded, the feeling of unity and gratitude in the room was truly moving.

Observing this reminded me of the strength of faith, discipline, and community. Fasting for nearly forty days is not easy, yet our Muslim brothers and sisters embrace it with grace, humility, and without complaint year after year.

To our Muslim brothers and sisters, Ramadan Mubarak! May this sacred month continue to bring you peace, blessings, and spiritual strength. Thank you for sharing your tradition and allowing others like me to experience its beauty.

“A generous meal enjoyed in the spirit of unity.” 🌙

“Objectifying Women Is Not Empowerment” (Part 3)

“Objectifying Women Is Not Empowerment” (Part 3)

Recent remarks by a member of the Philippine Congress have once again exposed a troubling mindset that still exists among some men in positions of power. In attempting to justify his comments, he shared an analogy about seeing actress Anne Curtis at a hotel and imagining sexual scenarios involving her. He argued that because these thoughts remained in his imagination, there was nothing wrong with them and therefore nothing he could be held accountable for.

When backlash followed, his response was an apology that did not truly acknowledge the harm caused. Instead of reflecting on why the remarks were offensive, he insisted that his analogy was necessary to make a point. In subsequent television interviews, he even laughed about the controversy, claiming that his male friends found the situation amusing and supported him. He also stated that his wife “just laughed,” a claim later contradicted when she publicly clarified that she did not find the remarks funny at all. Her statement was a reminder that respect for women should not be treated as a joke—especially by those who have daughters of their own.

The situation became even more disturbing when another lawyer publicly defended the congressman by attacking Jasmine Curtis-Smith, the sister of Anne Curtis. He questioned why she posts bikini photos on social media, implying that doing so invites sexual desire or harassment. This line of thinking reflects a deeply flawed and harmful assumption—that a woman’s clothing or self-expression justifies being objectified.

But the truth is simple: a woman’s body, appearance, or online presence does not give anyone permission to sexualize, degrade, or disrespect her.
Unfortunately, this is not an isolated incident. In 2018, during discussions about crime in Davao, then-president Rodrigo Duterte made a remark suggesting that where there are many beautiful women, there will be many rape cases. Statements like these normalize a dangerous narrative—that women’s attractiveness somehow causes violence against them.

It must be said clearly: rape and harassment are never the fault of the victim. Suggesting otherwise shifts responsibility away from perpetrators and reinforces a culture where women are blamed for the violence inflicted upon them.

So what is wrong with this kind of thinking?

First, objectifying women reduces them to physical bodies rather than recognizing them as complete human beings with dignity, agency, and rights. When women are treated primarily as objects of desire, their voices, contributions, and achievements are overshadowed by how they look.

Second, when such views are expressed by public officials, the impact becomes even more damaging. Leaders help shape social norms. When those in power casually sexualize women or dismiss criticism with laughter, it signals to society that this behavior is acceptable.

Third, this mindset undermines genuine women’s empowerment. Empowerment means respecting women’s autonomy—their right to express themselves, pursue careers, speak up, and exist in public spaces without being reduced to objects of sexual fantasy.

Ironically, these remarks surfaced during International Women’s Day and National Women’s Month —a time meant to celebrate women’s achievements and advocate for equality. Instead of demonstrating respect and leadership, some officials have chosen to reinforce outdated and harmful attitudes.

Respecting women should not depend on whether they are someone’s daughter, sister, or wife. Women deserve dignity simply because they are human beings.

If those who hold power cannot understand why objectifying women is wrong, then it raises an important question: how can they claim to represent and protect the very people they are supposed to serve?

True leadership requires accountability, empathy, and respect. Without those values, apologies become empty words—and the culture that enables disrespect remains unchanged.

Pt. 1

“Objectifying Women Is Not Empowerment”

Pt. 2

“Objectifying Women Is Not Empowerment” pt. 2

“Objectifying Women Is Not Empowerment” pt. 2

“Objectifying Women Is Not Empowerment” pt. 2

To objectify and use a woman solely to score political points or win an argument is not only reprehensible but deeply dishonorable. It reveals a blatant disregard for human dignity and respect.

This congressman, after his misstep in Congress yesterday, continued to defend his words in interviews. Unfortunately, he dug himself deeper by stating, “I stand by the analogy I made, but if some people were offended, especially during Women’s Month, I’m sorry for those who were hurt. But if you read the context, there was nothing malicious in it.” Really? Nothing malicious? To me, and to many others, this is not an apology. A sincere apology means acknowledging your mistake, taking responsibility, and not defending your actions. The fact that he continues to justify what was clearly an offensive comment is deeply troubling.

He went on to say, “It depends on whether the reader interprets it with malice… I apologize if anyone took it that way.” Now he’s gaslighting those who were hurt by implying that their offense is their problem, not his. Objectifying a woman is, in itself, malicious — and no amount of context or intent changes that. One doesn’t need malicious intent to recognize that what he said was harmful and disrespectful.

Read pt. 1 for more context 👇

“Objectifying Women Is Not Empowerment”

“Objectifying Women Is Not Empowerment”

Original Statement in Filipino:
“Minsan nasa Shangri-La ako, nakita ko si Anne Curtis, ang ganda-ganda pala niya, you know my desire sa loob ko na, nag-iinit talaga at na-imagine ko na lang kung anong pwedeng mangyari, pero hanggang imagination na lang yun. Di naman siguro ako pwedeng kasuhan dahil kung ano-ano naimagine ko eh.”

English Translation:
“One time, I was at Shangri-La, and I saw Anne Curtis. She’s really beautiful, and you know, my desire inside just stirred, and I started imagining what could happen, but it was all just in my imagination. I don’t think I can be sued because of the things I imagined.”

The remark made by one of the congressmen during the impeachment proceedings was not only shocking but also deeply troubling. He openly objectified Anne Curtis, reducing her to nothing more than an object of desire based solely on her physical appearance. To make matters worse, he seemed to believe that there was no harm in sharing such thoughts, even arguing against the motion to strike his words from the record. His refusal to acknowledge the harm in his statement reveals a profound disregard for the basic principles of respect and human dignity.

We are in March, Women’s Month, a time to celebrate the empowerment of women and to acknowledge their value beyond their physical appearances. However, the congressman’s words do the exact opposite—they dehumanize women and undermine the very ideals of empowerment.

Why this statement does not empower a woman:

• Objectification: This congressman focuses entirely on Anne Curtis’s physical beauty and openly expresses desire without considering her humanity. The comment reduces her to her looks, disregarding her as an individual with her own agency, achievements, and personal identity. When a woman is only seen for her appearance, her full worth as a person is overlooked.

• Disrespect of Boundaries and Consent: The statement goes beyond admiration of physical beauty to fantasizing about what “could happen,” without any mention of respect or consent. It reveals a mindset where a woman’s autonomy is ignored, and her personal boundaries are disregarded. It is not just inappropriate; it is a blatant violation of the respect every individual deserves.

• Dismissal of Achievements: Anne Curtis is a talented actress, a philanthropist, a TV host, and a role model. She has worked hard to build her career and contribute positively to society. Empowerment means recognizing women for their talents, skills, achievements, and contributions—not merely how they affect someone’s personal desires. The congressman’s words strip away Anne’s accomplishments and reduce her to an object of fleeting attraction.

• Perpetuating Harmful Stereotypes: Such statements are not just disrespectful to the individual woman involved but also contribute to a wider, harmful narrative about the role of women in society. They reinforce outdated stereotypes that women exist solely for men’s pleasure or validation, which perpetuates the cycle of inequality and disrespect.

True empowerment for women lies in seeing them as fully realized individuals—people with their own dreams, goals, and worth. This congressman’s remark does the opposite by diminishing Anne Curtis to a mere object of fantasy. It ignores her humanity and her right to be treated with respect.

This kind of rhetoric has no place in any setting, let alone in the halls of power. The fact that this congressman not only made such a comment but also refused to accept that it was wrong speaks volumes about the mindset that still exists in some circles of leadership. I commend the justice committee members who voted to strike his statement from the record and take a stand for dignity and respect.

The very essence of Women’s Month is to celebrate women’s empowerment—recognizing their full humanity and achievements. But remarks like these, from an individual who should be setting a higher standard, only serve to perpetuate the objectification and degradation of women. It’s essential that we continue to call out and challenge such unacceptable behavior to ensure a future where women are celebrated for who they truly are.

“Remembering Our Humanity in Times of Crisis”

“Remembering Our Humanity in Times of Crisis”

In times of hardship, it’s easy to let frustration cloud our compassion. But we must remember that behind every tragedy, there are real people—people just like us—who are suffering.”

As we step into March, we find ourselves confronting deadly conflicts in the Middle East. Whatever the reasons behind the war, we must not forget that innocent lives are being lost, and children are having their futures stolen away.

While watching the news, I was struck by some comments that were so callous and insensitive. In the Philippines, for example, I saw news coverage of the President announcing plans for repatriation efforts in case Filipinos are affected by the crisis. Yet, in the comment section, I read posts like, “Ikaw, kelan ka pa bobombahin?”, “Sana bombahin din tayo para mawala na ang mga corrupt”, and “Ganda ng bomba, kailan magkakaganyan sa atin?”

I understand that we, as a nation, are facing our own struggles, especially with corruption plaguing our society. But it saddens me to see how far we’ve fallen, that we would wish harm or death upon others. What happened to us? Why have we become so indifferent to the suffering of others? Why do we lose sight of our shared humanity?

We can’t forget that, at the heart of all this, there are people—human beings, just like us—who are hurting, struggling, and dying. It’s a moment for us to reflect: In times of crisis, do we allow our frustrations and pain to lead us to cruelty, or do we rise above, showing empathy and compassion?

Blessed Ash Wednesday 🙏

Today, Christians around the world observe Ash Wednesday — the beginning of Lent, a sacred 40-day journey of prayer, fasting, repentance, and renewal leading up to Easter.

Ash Wednesday invites us to pause. To reflect. To examine our lives — our actions, our priorities, and our relationship with God.

It is a season to remember the betrayal of Jesus by Judas Iscariot — and perhaps to gently reflect on the “Judases” in our own lives. Those who stay close for what they gain. Those who quietly undermine. Those who wait for us to stumble.

But even more importantly, it is a moment to look inward.

Are the relationships around us helping us grow?
Are we becoming better, or are we being held back?
Are we aligned with purpose, or distracted by noise?

“Remember that you are dust, and to dust you shall return.”

These words are not meant to instill fear — but humility. Life is temporary. Time is precious. What truly matters deserves our attention.

Ash Wednesday sets the tone for a season of spiritual growth, discipline, forgiveness, and renewal.

May this season refine us.
May it strengthen our faith.
May it help us release what no longer serves our purpose.

Where Memory Walks

Where Memory Walks

let your memory be etched in sand,
where tides may come, yet marks remain—
so those who walk these shifting shores
will pause, and know you once were here,
and carry forward your face, your name,
your living legacy.

Sadje’s photo prompt

I have never wanted to make my grief public. Loss has always felt like something sacred—too fragile to expose, too heavy to explain. But the events of these past weeks have made me pause and wonder if perhaps the universe is trying to tell me something. Maybe it is time to share—not for sympathy, but so others may learn something from it.

I lost my mother on New Year’s Day. It was sudden and completely unexpected. We were not ready. The pain is unexplainable, the kind that sits quietly in your chest and steals your breath when you least expect it.

Even now, I cannot fully put into words what it feels like. Maybe, in time, I will be able to speak about it more clearly.

During her wake, I encountered someone from my past—my former teacher, Mam Phoebe. She was the one who fueled my passion for creative pursuits long before I believed in myself. I wrote about her recently, because seeing her again stirred something profound in me. (https://michnavs.wordpress.com/2026/01/15/the-teacher-who-believed-in-me-before-i-believed-in-myself/ )

In the midst of my deepest grief, my heart strangely rejoiced. I was finally able to thank her. A significant part of who I am today as a creative exists because she once chose to believe in me.

Today, my heart is grieving again.

I lost a very dear student—suddenly, painfully, and without warning. Even now, my mind struggles to accept it. She was my high school student, exceptionally brilliant. I was her coach and mentor in public speaking and writing competitions. I would personally drive her to contest venues, and along the way we would talk about her dreams, her hopes for the future. I remember telling her once that she would make a brilliant lawyer someday.

She did.

And through all the years, she never forgot me. She always remembered to thank me. I wrote about her too, because her quiet excellence and gratitude deserved to be remembered. (https://michnavs.wordpress.com/2025/02/10/silent-wins/)

To lose a mother and a beloved student just days apart is unimaginable. And yet, in the middle of that loss, I was reminded again of the power of belief—of being seen—by reconnecting with the very person who once trusted me when no one else would.

All of these things happening at once feels overwhelming. Grief and gratitude. Pain and joy. Loss and remembrance—colliding in ways I never expected.

So here I am, sharing both my sorrow and my gratitude. And perhaps the wisdom behind it all is this: life is profoundly unpredictable. Time is fragile. People are irreplaceable. We must love fully, speak our thanks openly, and make the most of who and what we have—while we still can.

The attached video shows Leny speaking about my book, What If Snowflakes Don’t Fall in Winter. Hearing her words now holds a deeper meaning than I can fully express.
The second slide contains Leny’s most memorable message to me.

The Teacher Who Believed in Me Before I Believed in Myself

The Teacher Who Believed in Me Before I Believed in Myself

Long before I became a poet, a storyteller, or a writer, I was a performer.

I joined declamation contests and won. I became part of theater productions. For a time, I even imagined myself pursuing professional acting. Performance came naturally to me, long before I fully understood its power.

It All Began at Ten

I was ten years old when everything began.

That same year, my father discovered my gift for words and my ability to craft compelling verses. My mother, a schoolteacher, became my first coach. Under her guidance, I joined a district-level declamation competition—and won. I was the youngest competitor, facing students far older and more experienced than I was.
Winning at the district level meant moving on to a higher competition. But because of my age and lack of experience, many teachers doubted I could represent our district well.

All except one.

The Teacher Who Fought for Me

Ma’am Phoebe—Ms. Phoebs, as we fondly called her—fought fiercely for me. She believed I deserved the chance, regardless of my youth or inexperience. Together with my mother, she coached me patiently and tirelessly, pouring both skill and heart into every practice session.
What I remember most from that time is how much fun it was. Practice never felt heavy. Even on competition day, I felt excitement more than fear.

There were more than fifteen contestants, if I remember correctly. I performed second to the last. I was the youngest—and quite literally the smallest. The program ran late into the evening, with other categories still waiting to be announced.

Exhausted, I went back to our quarters and fell asleep.

In my ten-year-old mind, I was certain I wouldn’t win. So why stay awake?

“You Won!”

At midnight, I was jolted awake by excited screams outside. Three older girls—Guada, Darlene, and Judy (I often wonder where life has taken them)—came running in, shouting, “You won! You won!”

Ma’am Phoebe hugged me tightly and said:

“I knew it from the start. I never had a single doubt you would win.”

That hug stayed with me for years. So did her unwavering belief. At one point, she even joked, “I think you have the making of an actress.” And yes, Ma’am, I did try my hand at acting later on—though my father was firm that it wasn’t the path he wanted for me.

Carrying Her Belief Through Life

Life moved on. I left for the city to attend university, finished school, and continued building my life. Somewhere along the way, Ma’am Phoebe and I lost contact. But her belief never left me. Whenever doubt crept in—and it often does—I reminded myself that once, there was a teacher who believed in me when no one else did.

Meeting Her Again

Recently, I received an unexpected and beautiful gift: I met Ma’am Phoebe again after decades apart. The joy of that moment is hard to put into words. I had been looking for her for years—perhaps just in all the wrong places. Seeing her again felt like closing a beautiful, unfinished chapter from my childhood.

A Thank You That Still Echoes

Thank you, Ma’am Phoebe, for seeing me before I learned how to see myself.


Your belief in me ignited my passion for creativity and excellence—and it continues to fuel everything I do.

Happy & Blessed Christmas

This Christmas, I want to remind us of something important: we have the capacity to love with all our hearts, unconditionally—even when things aren’t perfect. But we also know when it’s time to set boundaries. True love isn’t about endless sacrifice; it’s about respect for ourselves and others. We can love deeply, but we must never forget that boundaries are not selfishness—they are a form of love.

Boundaries protect our peace and our well-being, allowing us to continue giving from a place of strength, not depletion.

Over the years, I’ve learned that people come and go. They will treat you however they choose, but will still expect you to remain unchanged—always giving kindness, always giving love. That’s okay for a while. But there comes a time when you must realize that it’s okay to protect your heart. And that’s not selfishness. It’s self-respect. You can still love people from a distance, wish them well, and pray for their happiness—without letting them have access to your peace.

This Christmas, my wish for you is the love you truly deserve—the kind that fills you up, not the kind you have to beg for. I wish for you the courage to say “no” when you need to, the courage to protect your energy, and the courage to just be yourself. You deserve to be surrounded by people who uplift and support you, not those who drain and take.

And just like Jesus was born in a humble manger, may we learn to stay humble, kind, and forgiving toward those who have wronged us. But remember, forgiveness doesn’t mean giving them full access to your life again. It’s okay to forgive, but it’s also okay to walk away.

Gift yourself the freedom to let go of people who don’t contribute to your well-being—those who are toxic, those who only show up when they need something, and those who drain your spirit. I once heard, “If you’re in a group of five fools, you’ll be the sixth.” Don’t let that be you. Cut ties with anything or anyone that holds you back from your true potential.

Wishing you all a Christmas filled with love, joy, and the courage to be the strongest version of yourself. Happy holidays, my dear friends.

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