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As I was interviewing one of my contacts, one thing came into my mind: how great would I be in his arms. This is just pure fantasy, I feel nothing for him. But he’s tall and strong, plus a little bit übersexual, and his severe ways makes him a good candidate for discouraging any man who could think I’m available to him. With my friends, we talk a lot about this topic, and we all agree on the kind of protection a guy who’s bigger than us could bring to us. One of my friends says that it’s a question of sex.”Only a guy who’s twice my size can hold me against the wall and f*** me” she says. Another friend of mine thinks it’s more a question of safety. “I know that with a guy like that, nobody would ever disrespect me because he would be too frightening. And I feel he would have the ability to defend me in any dangerous situation” she says.

But do we all look for a strong man? It depends on how strong. I must admit it’s great to feel so small, so frail, so tiny in the arms of a big guy. But apart from that, I’m not sure I would be attracted. Besides, there’s strong and strong. If he’s a big guy who just runs away at the sight of a bee, or is just a cry baby and is very immature, it won’t necessarily do with some women. “I had an ex who was 6 feet high and very muscular. Once, we went hiking in the mountains, and we fell on a bear which was about to charge us. And instead of protecting me, he just shout and ran away, leaving me face to face with the animal. Luckily for me, a forester was just walking by and chased the bear. I decided to dump that sissy guy just after”O., 35, said. “My ex was a big guy, but that didn’t discourage men in general to take a hit on me even if I was with him. He simply didn’t care about me, and was too preoccupied about his little person than playing his role of protector” H., 30 ,said.

A man can be strong physically but not mentally. And the reverse is also true. “My husband isn’t that tall nor that strong, but he has a natural authority and can bring down any pretender or rude man”L., 32, said.

I guess it’s just a question of character. Besides, not every woman wants a man who can defend themselves.

So, do you like to feel protected?

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My angel

One of my friends recently told me about her strange relationship with a friend of her. She said that she has the feeling he’s constantly worrying for her like her father would do. “Since I know him, he has always acted like a protective friend with me. He comes to my defense whenever in a discussion, someone would criticize me. He gives me precious advices and doesn’t hesitate to tell me the truth about myself. He’s a great support, he has always backed me for all the projects I’ve made. But recently, I have this impression he’s taking his distance with me, and I hate that. It’s been two months now that we don’t laugh together, that we don’t share anything less and don’t talk about nothing and everything. The rare and few phone conversations we have now remain polite, but short, and he just calls to ask how I am. Period.  I don’t know what I’ve done badly to repel him like that” she says. “He has even forgotten my birthday this week” .

I told her that he may be in love with her, but realized he could never have her (she’s married, he’s too). That’s why he’s taking his distance from her.

Is it possible to have an angel who’s looking after us and who feels love with no strings attached for us? Personally, I think it depends. Real friends can do that. They will support you in good and bad times. They will love you for who you are. They will give you a hand when you need it. But it stops there. They can be your angels. When they give you more than that, maybe there’s catch.

A friend or person who’s over zealous with you might try to get loved by you. In my friend’s case, her friend has acted with her like her lover, not a friend.

I believe there’s a really thin line between friendship and love.

Do you agree?

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Shooting star

Short men have no chances to score with women. At least, if you believe this study. Yet, I’m not convinced at all, since I have plenty examples around me to prove the contrary. But it’s true that when you ask around you what kind of men women wants, you’ll get a vast majority of preference for tall guys. Why? Some women need to feel protected and to feel like “a little thing to be cuddled”. Of course, we’re not all like that. And one of my friends, who’s lesbian, finds this really stupid, since she doesn’t care at all about this aspect when she seeks for a partner.” I don’t need to feel protected, and I don’t know if I’m able to protect my partner”. I agree (partly) with her.

“Tous les goûts sont dans la nature“, like we say in French. Some women like tall men, some other like short ones. And I believe, when it comes to love, that the problem of height doesn’t matter at all. Look at the celebrities. The most obvious example of this is Tom Cruise.

If you don’t take into account his romance with Penelope Cruz, all the women he married so far were taller than him.

First, Nicole Kidman.

Then, with Katie Holmes.

And Mimi Rogers was also taller than him, if I remember well.

On the celibacy market however, you would probably have a better chance to score if you’re tall (for a man) and short (for a woman). Most of my single friends (and I) have admitted they would spontaneously go and flirt with a tall man rather than a short one. At least, a man taller that they are. And when your height is above 5’9″ for a woman, it gets trickier.

I read recently an interview of a French actress, not very popular, who was elected Miss Corsica when she was young. She said that despite of her beauty, she wasn’t asked out very often because of her height. “I learned that humor and repartee are the most precious weapons of seduction you can have” she said.

So, when Mother Nature didn’t give you any advantage in beauty, you have to compensate with your personality (or something else). In that sense, the actress mentioned above is truly right.

Besides, there’s tall and tall. There will always be someone shorter than you, likewise, there will always be someone taller than you. A short man for one woman isn’t short for another one. A tall woman for one man wouldn’t be tall for another one. It’s a question of perspective.

And when it comes to love, being tall or not has its advantages and its disadvantages. For example, if you’re short and he/she’s short, you won’t have neck problems if you kiss. Likewise, your mutual heights allow you to experiment or not certain positions when it comes to sex.

On this practical aspect :mrgreen: , here’s the question of the day: What do you look for in a potential partner (physically speaking)?

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