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Are you romantic?

When I talk about love with my friends, it always boils down to romantism. Most of us cannot conceive love without a bit of romance in it. And when it comes to sex, most of my friends and I admit that we can’t yield to anyone’s advance unless he’s done a proper courtship. A friend of mine recalls that once, during a party, a guy tried to flirt with her, and  managed to pull her out of the room. Outside, he just unbelt his trouser, and let his undies down. He told her to take him. She ran away. “Even if I was drunk, I would have never had done that. It’s just gross. Raw sex, with a guy a barely know, has nothing exciting on me. Who does he think he is?” she said.

When I was in College, I was once invited to a party where my friend’s roommate spent the evening trying to get a hit on me. I just had my heart broken at that time, and cursed on men all of the time. So, I wasn’t in the mood at all for the guy. And he didn’t manage to flirt properly with me. Instead, he spent the whole evening looking at me, and tried several times to tear me in one of the dark corners of the room. I just told him to get lost. Three days later, I bumped on him again at another party, and he tried the same approach with one of my acquaintances. And scored. I just thought to myself: geez. Like my friend, raw sex has nothing exciting on me, with a total stranger.

I guess that my friend and I fall into the category of the romantics.

Why romance is so important for most of us? For women, it’s because we all have the dream to meet an everlasting love. And if this dream may never come true, or just gets lost along the way, at least, we will have those precious moment from the beginning. So, courtship is important. But not especially like in a Danielle Steel novel. Eeewwww.

Most of my friends and I hate when it gets too cliché. For example, if he invites you to dinner and ask the local Mexican band to sing a serenade for you. If you hate to be the center of attention, chances are this won’t do the trick. At least, for one of my friends, it didn’t. She told me she thought the guy was a total loser for doing this. But it depends. If the guy does that to you on your first date, for sure, this sucks. But if you’ve been in a long term relationship, this might make you laugh. And produce an effect on you.

We all agree on one thing: if he does something that does touch your heart, that is considered as romantic. An example?

“He wrote me a song” C., 34, said.

“He invited me to have a walk with him, in his special place. Then we talked for hours about nothing and everything. We ended up caught up in the heavy rain. And we just laughed” N., 35, said.

“He got me the impossible interview no other journalist could have. And I didn’t even ask for it” F., 36, said.

“He wrote me letters, sent me flowers, invited me to dinner, told me everything of his little secrets”O., 40, said.

So, are you romantic?

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Take me away

Waltz

For the moment, in my newsroom, there’s a little game going at my expense consisting in asking me when I will go to Venice with B., among others. If it’s not him, the same goes for every male contacts I have in my job, so the list can be long, and the jokes become heavy for me. The thought of running away with one of my professional contacts doesn’t appeal to me at all, because let’s be honest, I don’t want any of them for lovers.

But recently, I had a chat with my friends about this, and we all agree that it’s good sometimes to leave with the one you love for a heavenly place during two or three days. When it comes to the destination, Paris (France) is often mentioned as the number one on the list, followed by Prague, and then Venice. This depends of course, if you belong in the category of the hopeless romantic. Some of my friends find these destinations so cliché and would want to avoid them at any cost. One of my friends told me that her dream would be to take her fiance on a trip to Himalaya, but certainly not Paris.

Personally, I would love to go to Vienna, eat a Sachertorte and waltz. I’m a bit old fashioned…

So, where would you want to be taken away?

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Length of love

Valentine’s Day is slowly approaching, and I’ve noticed everyone around me is starting to choose his camp, between the allergic-to-starry-eyed-couples and the ones who will celebrate this event. I must say that I don’t like all those obvious signs of love during this period of the year, and that it is purely artificial. But each of us has his own opinion about the question, so let’s close the chapter here.

Since I’m in a jolly mood right now, I’ve asked around me what is the sweetest/ most touching  declaration they’ve ever received, and it was truly heart warming (even for me, that is not that romantic) for some of them. It goes like this.

“I’ve been looking for you for 30 years, 3 months, 2 days, 3 hours, 34 minutes, 56 seconds“  L., 31, said. “He wrote that on my mirror after the first night we spent together” she added.

“You’re the only one that can handle me”  G. 32, said.

“I was a total jerk with you. Give me another chance, I won’t make the same mistakes again” T., 32, said. “And he kept his promises“.

“It’s not a declaration, but I received once a box full of candies in my office. I still don’t know who sent it, but it was really, really sweet” H., 35, said.

“Please, stay” B., 29. “It was the first night we spent together, and after a disastrous evening at his apartment, I was about to leave, but he withheld me with with those two  simple words” she added.

“Let me clear you debts. I don’t ask for anything back, except your love” F., 37, said. “I was in a really, really delicate financial  situations when I met him” she added.

“You make a better man out of me” G., 31, said.

“You make me happy”I., 30, said.

“He wrote a beautiful song for me” M., 34, said.

What makes those simple sentences so special? According to the women who answered to this question, it really depends on the sincerity of their man, but also, on how deep it is for them. “If he says that all the time with ease, it doesn’t count. I really appreciate what he said to me because I knew how hard it was for him to pronounce those words. It was an effort for him, and it had more impact on me than if he used to say frequently” G. told me.

Circumstances play also an important role, as B. proved. If there’s a bit of drama involved, simple words can take a completely different meaning and be more powerful.

Besides, maybe this is an explanation for the success musicians have on women.

So, what are the words that could melt your heart? And what are those that make you run away?

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