Aamar Jiban (An Autobiography) By Rassundari Devi

Aamar Jiban, published in 1876, is an autobiography by Rassundari Devi. It is the first autobiography written by an Indian woman and also the first written by any Bengali male or female. It tells us about the status of women in the 19th century Indian society. It was the first full length autobiography published in the Bengali language.

The Nineteenth century education viewed a traumatic  experience as it uprooted a child from the security of her own home and exiled her forever to the mercy and control of other strangers.

The title in itself mentions all about a woman, Rassundari Devi, that depicts her pain, struggle, determination, hope and success that she has faced in terms of education.

Her life story focuses on issues such as child marriage, caste, education, superstition and discrimination because her writing and her life stood in a peculiarly significant relationship to each other. This was so because she being fourteen was unwillingly thrown into the marriage ritual for which she was not developed both physically and mentally as it was a superstition that if a woman reads and writes, then she is destined to be a widow. It felt to me as if a meek and submissive woman has committed a crime by bringing up the idea of education and also as if she was going against the grain of familial and social expectations. Moreover, in my opinion, a kind of paradox is set in the society that women’s job is to maintain the unending flow of domestic chores of cooking and child rearing. Therefore, it can be said that she in a way has proclaimed her predicament to the whole world through print and by reserving the image of a self-effacing wife who suffers her deprivations with smiling forbearance.

Rassundari Devi had an irrepressible urge to read but was forbidden from the path of education because she was a woman thus highlighting the idea of inequality. But, she holds a strong position in terms of education by the talent of her writing skills thus creating equality in the society by becoming an inspiration for many other women. Thus, it can be concluded by the very famous quote that a feminist author Virginia Wolf has said “A woman must have money and a room of her own if she is to write a fiction.” And lastly, it also states the concept of Bildungsroman as she from a lower stature has successfully developed herself into a published writer.

A must read as it gives a deep insight on the life of Indian women in the nineteenth century India.

Ladies Coupé by Anita Nair

This gem was hiding in my shelf for years and I didn’t notice it. So, when recently, I rearranged my bookshelf, I saw this novel staring at me with puppy eyes as if begging me to read it. And, guess what, I did. And, after finishing Ladies Coupé , I was so angry with myself for not reading this precious possession before! Ladies Coupé by Anita Nair is a book with which dreams are made of.

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Is motherhood a necessity or a choice?

In today’s world of gender equality and feminism, are women empowered enough to decide whether to become a mother or not? Is motherhood a necessity or a choice?

You must be familiar with the saying that the motherhood completes a woman. It is a patriarchal concept which is subtly & slyly embedded in the mentality of both men & women. It is so ingeniously etched in our minds that any woman opposing it is considered to be an outcast. Patriarchy makes sure that every girl is fed with this idea from the very beginning.

How the Patriarchal Tactics Work?

The concept of motherhood is introduced to the girls at the very tender age. It is introduced in the format of a game play. The mother-daughter game play. We see how small girls are given baby toys and are expected to take care of them like a mother does. And, without knowing the concept of a mandatory motherhood is placed in their psychology.

Due to this kind of upbringing, no girl ever questions the idea of motherhood. Patriarchy is so brilliant at controlling women behaviour and female fecundity that even women, inadvertently, become enemies of one other. It is so powerful that it makes women turn against each other if the patriarchal codes are disobeyed.

When certain women, after marriage, oppose the idea of pregnancy, they are either threatened with the concept of divorce or even ostracized from the society completely. This, I shall remind you again, is done by women who act as the perpetrators of patriarchy. It is almost like the idea of motherhood is shown as a natural/necessary phenomenon and not as a choice because of our beloved patriarchy.

I definitely oppose this idea of an obligatory motherhood. I sincerely believe in letting women decide what they want to do with their bodies. Do you agree with me or have some opinions to share? Do let me know your thoughts through your valuable comments!

A Short Interview on Feminism

A short interview of mine, taken by Abi, about the commonality of prevalent myths surrounding feminism in both USA and India!

Hey folks,

I’m very excited to share with you, a short interview of mine taken by Abi about #feminism. So, as you guys know, that a few days ago I posted a blog post under the topic –Exploding the myths about feminism – this interview is an elaboration of that.

After I posted that blog post, I got a mail from the team of ‘Sparemin’ ( it’s a free app built to provide a wonderful platform to connect to people worlwide and talk on trending topics) and they asked me to do a mini podcast session with Abi.

So, we managed our time since she is from Los Angeles and I’m from India, and we talked about how there is a common thread of myths prevalent in US as well as in India (basically, around the globe).

I’m sharing the link of our conversation below, please listen to it by simply downloading the app and share your views about it, in the comments section below 🙂

Cheers!

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Also, guys, this is my profile link on Sparemin. You can connect with me here (free calls) and we can discuss about novels, blogs or can even have casual talks 😀

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Exploding the Myths about ‘Feminism’!

Get a clear understanding of what ‘Feminism’ really means.

We all have been listening and even debating a lot about this term called ‘Feminism‘ since so many years, especially, it has gained a lot of momentum nowadays. These days, we try to scrutinize almost every issue through the lens of feminism, be it entertainment sector, education sector or political sector (which is definitely a good thing to do). Everybody is supporting this radical movement and are trying to associate or have already associated themselves with the idea of being a feminist. But when asked what the term means, people often come up with lame answers and they don’t even know what it really signifies.

This word has become like a fashion statement, especially for girls and a reason for boys to shun girls down as if they are breaking up because you are too much of a feminist (WTF, I know). People have a lot of myths about this term, ‘Feminism’ and it is extremely dangerous to propagate feminist ideas without even having a complete knowledge about it. Hence, I have decided to explode some myths about feminism in this article, so that, next time you say you are a feminist, you’re aware what you are uttering.

Main Agenda – Equality (Not Feminism as an opposite of Patriarchy)

Feminism began as a movement to give equal voting, property and educational rights to women as they were being given to men. The agenda of this movement has always been – Equality. Feminists wanted and still want an egalitarian society, where both the sexes will be equal. A society devoid of gender biasness; a society where neither gender has an upper hand over the other. To believe Feminism to be an opposite of Patriarchy (a social system dominated by men where women are believed to be an inferior sex) is a myth that needs to be exploded. Feminists are equally concerned with the societal pressures suffered by men ( for eg – should have strong financial status, well-built, shouldn’t cry, etc). There is no upper hand which feminists are seeking over patriarchs, if this would be the case, then what difference will remain between Patriarchy and Feminism? We will simply be substituting one system of domination with the other. Thus, people need to know that feminists do not believe in the extinction of entire race of men (and if you were believing this concept till now, then you are wrong my friend, correct your facts).

Anybody (any gender) can be a feminist!

This is the biggest myth surrounding this term! Feminism is not a prerogative of only ‘women’, anybody can be a feminist, it doesn’t matter which sex you belong to. If you are a guy and you support equality of sexes and totally believe that women should have as much rights (related to freedom, education, etc.) as men have then you can also be a feminist. Even there are cases where certain women are not feminists; they prefer Patriarchy, they prefer men dominating them. Hence, either of the sexes can be the supporters of Patriarchy or Feminism. Being born as a girl doesn’t make you a feminist.

So, these are two of the biggest myths which surround this term of ‘Feminism’ and are misleading many people in believing things which are not even related to it. I hope this article helps in clearing your myths about this term, so that, you can proudly state why you support ‘Feminism’.

 

 

 

 

Frankenstein – Mary Shelley

Okay, so, it is  considered as being one of the first Gothic and scientific novel by a woman. It was published in 1818, by famous female prodigy, Mary Shelley. Mary was the daughter of two famous radicals of England – Mary Wollstencraft and William Godwin and got married to the most famous radical poet of Romantic era, P. B. Shelley.

Well, I think I enjoyed reading the lives of people that were there in the Romantic Era more than their poetry -Wordsworth, our opium guy Coleridge, the rake Byron etc. Their promiscuous lifestyle and eccentric habits, made me their fan.

Coming back to the novel review, it is a novel which is written in a Chinese box tradition – a narrative within a narrative – there are 3 narrators. So, the story goes like this – Victor Frankenstein, a scientist, creates a creature by collecting the dead body parts from the grave and infusing into it life. But the sad part begins, when Victor having thought of making such a discovery which would abnegate nature laws and he will be worshipped as a great scientist, turns out to be a disaster! The creature he makes, has abhorring physiognomy and detestable eyes, due to which without even talking to his creature or nurturing it, Frankenstein turns his back on it. He abandons the creature he makes and ahead in the novel we see, the creature becomes a monster because everybody starts negating it because of his detestable looks!

Creature tells his story of abandonment and how he became a bad guy to Victor and he tells his story to Walton, who tells all this to his sister through letters. Walton is that character whom Victor meets, when he was following the creature to make it dead. 

Interesting novel plot but more interesting are the questions it raises – the question of parent-child relationship(Victor father, Creature child), the issues of male-motherhood, the treatment of women writing in 19th century, patriarchal society, and the most important question – are we born monstrous or the world’s cruel treatment makes us a monster?

These are the questions that Mary Shelley raises in this novel and this novel has also been considered as being the finest example of l’ecriture feminine (feminie writing), a concept introduced by Cixou, Irigaray and Kristeva. This style of writing, was the goal of many feminists to achieve that female style of writing which was not patriarchal and more libidnal & plural like a woman’s body!

 

Jane Eyre – Charlotte Bronte

“I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”
― Charlotte Brontë, Jane Eyre

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The free spirit writing of Bronte and the depiction of “wild” spirited Jane (protagonist) in the novel “Jane Eyre”, has been the attraction for many readers towards this feminist and widely read novel.

The Gothic elements, a critique of 19th century Victorian society, representation of repressed sexual desires of women, the Christian dogma and the bildungsroman of a rebellious protagonist, are some of the words which sum up this exquisite piece of writing by Charlotte Bronte.

Not like Austen’s “fairy-tale” romance, which although gives its readers a hope of feminism but eventually culminates into the hands of patriarchy, Bronte shows far more audacity and writes something which can be called feminist in a true sense.

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The novel starts with “Jane Eyre’s” autobiography presenting to us a protagonist ten years old and orphaned. She lives with her “cold-eye, stern-looking” aunt Mrs. Reed at Gateshead Hall, with her three cousins. The constraining and indifferent behavior of her aunt towards Jane does not stops her in-built rebellious nature against the injustice and she raises her voice against such cruel treatments. Although, the rebellion lands Jane into Lowood institution, where she is sent and abandoned by Mrs. Reed.

After completing her ten years of restrictive and Christian education, Jane finally finds a way to her freedom and applies for the post of a governess at Thornfield, where, our protagonist finds the love of her life, Mr. Rochester, a wealthy man of handsome property but older than Jane.

Jane’s character does not possesses any class-consciousness, instead her egalitarian and open responses towards Rochester, is what that attracts him towards Jane. But their marriage becomes a fail because of the exposed bigamy of Rochester and Jane runs away from Thornfield to Moor house, where she discovers her another cousins and gains wealth from the demise of her wealthy uncle.

 

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The temporal shiftings, not only suggests the external hardships of Jane, which has led to her unsettling character from place to place, but also becomes the manifestations of her inner on-going conflicts as well as struggles. The novel ends with the matrimony of Jane and Rochester (one-eye blind and crippled due to the mishap after Jane left Thornfield), which shows the winning of internal beauty over external and also the strong bond of love, which can overcome anything!

A benchmark novel with an undoubtedly the most intriguing love-story within it! ❤