Tag Archives: marriage

Raising Teens: Do you ever feel like puking?

Posted on March 4, 2013 by Chaz

Do feelings of being used by your teen ever leave you feel like puking? You love them from the bottom of your heart. You adore them. You celebrate their achievements, give them things you only dreamed of when U were … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged alcoholics anonymous, fathers, husbands, marriage, mid-life, parenting, recovery, second marriage, step-parenting, twelve steps | 15 Comments

Enemies at the gate or enemies within?

Posted on February 8, 2013 by Chaz

A significant thought … no, revelation… appeared the other day. It was then reinforced through a dialogue with my wife. While external hurts and setbacks (enemies at the gates) are constant factors in our lives, our energies are far better … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged 12 steps, alanon, alcoholics anonymous, blended family, celebrate recovery, fathers, marriage, over 40, personal growth, positive thinking, second marriage | 12 Comments

Challenging my AA: All of our affairs

Posted on September 20, 2012 by Chaz

” …. and to practice these principles in all of our affairs”. (The oft-overlooked second half of step 12). I am going to discuss two issues in this post: Hooking up in AA Living our program beyond sobriety Invariably most will … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged 12 steps, aa, alcoholics anonymous, alcoholism, celebrate recovery, christian recovery, fathers, marriage, recovery, twelve steps | 19 Comments

Strongholds revisited

Posted on September 6, 2012 by Chaz

I read this article recently from a great site, dysfunky.org It is amazingly bang-on to my experiences and outlooks. It even uses one of my frequently-used phrases, “strongholds”. Yet verbalizes ideas in quite a different way. Less verbose too! The title … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged acoa, alanon, alcoholics anonymous, celebrate recovery, fathers, marriage, over 40, positive thinking, twelve steps | 4 Comments

The past…

Posted on January 15, 2012 by Chaz

Recently, I have reached a new level of surrender with respect to painful events of the past. Mainly with regrets of my own behaviours. On a much deeper level, I am learning to let go of these regrets that at … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged 12 steps, alcoholics anonymous, celebrate recovery, depression, divorce, marriage, over 40, personal growth, positive thinking, recovery | 27 Comments

Distilling the Gospel?

Posted on November 28, 2011 by Chaz

A profound quote from author, Philip Yancey, in his book, What’s So Amazing About Grace? “It has taken me years to distill the gospel out of the subculture in which I first encountered it”. This sentence sums up so much … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged 12 steps, blended family, celebrate recovery, Forgiveness, husbands, marriage, personal growth, philip yancey, positive thinking | 6 Comments

Why 50?

Posted on July 15, 2011 by Chaz

In a conversation with my teenage daughter tonight, I found myself saying that I am looking forward to turning 50 in a few years. “Why 50 Dad”?, my daughter asked. I didn’t have an immediate answer. Now, a few hours … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged 12 steps, alcoholics anonymous, blended family, career change, celebrate recovery, depression, divorce, fathers, Fitness, healing, husbands, marriage, mid-life, new beginnings, over 40, parenting, parenting teens, personal growth, positive thinking, recovery, relationships, second marriage, starting over, step-parenting, success, twelve steps | 10 Comments

Dads, Step-Dads, lets take the subtle heat.

Posted on July 10, 2011 by Chaz

A shortfall I experience in our culture is that we Dads and Step-Dads often are not willing to take the subtle heat for our families. By subtle heat I mean the less conspicuous injustice and pain of everyday family life. … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged 12 steps, adolescence, blended family, celebrate recovery, depression, divorce, fathers, healing, husbands, marriage, mid-life, new beginnings, over 40, parenting, parenting teens, personal growth, positive thinking, recovery, relationships, second marriage, starting over, step-parenting | 4 Comments

Doing away with woulda, coulda, shoulda

Posted on July 1, 2011 by Chaz

I experienced a new level of freedom when I began to learn to shake off thoughts of woulda, coulda, and shoulda. What are these anyway? I’ve come to the conclusion that they are expectations. Expectations that may never have been … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged 12 steps, alternative health, blended family, career change, celebrate recovery, depression, divorce, fathers, Fitness, healing, husbands, marriage, mid-life, new beginnings, over 40, parenting, personal growth, positive thinking, recovery, relationships, second marriage, starting over, step-parenting, success | 10 Comments

The Tudors and The Corporation

Posted on June 3, 2011 by Chaz

I recently completed watching the full set of episodes of The Tudors; the British TV series portraying the adult life of King Henry VIII. I also recently watched The Corporation. A few fascinating and disturbing thoughts came to mind. The … Continue reading →

Posted in Uncategorized | Tagged blended family, celebrate recovery, Corruption, fathers, healing, Henry VIII, human behavior, marriage, mid-life, Monarchy, new beginnings, organizational behaviour, over 40, parenting, personal growth, political science, positive thinking, recovery, relationships, second marriage, sociology, sociopaths, starting over, success, The Corporation, The Tudors, twelve steps, Tyrants | 4 Comments