Cool Mist over Warm Water

The Upper St. Croix River

I thought I’d throw this in for once. Early on in our RV life we spent time at Interstate State Park in Wisconsin and on an early summer’s morning the mist over the river was just haunting.

Talk again soon. :-)

You can be too kind (to your plants)

Live and learn!

I guess I have to be a little bit less kind to my plants. I’ve been wondering about some coloration on my plants and I guess I finally figured out is ISN’T some kind of fungus or disease. My plants seem to have gotten SUNBURN!

You may recall that a couple months ago I chatted about adding artificial grow lights. And I still like the setup that I put together but after that long I think I’ve had the light timers set for longer than the plants needed — or could tolerate and there is sign of leaf burn. I turned the lights off yesterday midday and I reset the timers to a shorter duration. I’ll give them a few weeks of significantly reduced light and the take a look at the new growth to see if there’s evidence of sunburn.

Over time I’ll play with the lighting (up and down – more or less) to see if the reduced settings meet their needs or if I need to readjust again.

I really benefitted by joining a facebook group about the plants that I have — someone else gave a photo of the same conditions I have been seeing and I realized that what I had been thinking was the results of pests was in fact just over-lighting. You know how people say certain plants can’t get too much light — well, that’s not true.

Ok — that’s it for today. Just an update and the realization that you’re never too old to learn, and that no matter how late you start a new hobby there’s always new things to learn about.

Take care of yourself and your loved ones and I’ll be around tomorrow again. :-)

Utter Beauty

I could have chosen from millions of images but there was something about the utter flamboyance of this art nouveau entrance that just clicked with my brain. Isn’t it wonderful the way the human animal craves beauty?

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know. There are a gazillion humans whose way of living seems to produce the opposite — but that does not change the exorbitance of the individual examples of beauty created by human hands and brains.

There is something about the ability to sense, to feel, to respond to beauty that fascinates me. The definition of “beauty” boils down to something pleasing to “the aesthetic sense” but where do we get that aesthetic sense? We’re animals. Almost all of what we become is learned behavior. Children are born with a blank slate and develop it as they grow.

And yet from early on even un-educated children — those blank slates — appreciate the beauty of color and sound and smell. No one has had time to teach them any aesthetic — it’s ingrained in them.

And why are there so many artists and would-be artists in the world. People who would rather create something beautiful — and or useful (as usefulness is another form of beauty, surely) — than to work in a mine, or an office, or as police or surgeon. With art comes a sense of freedom from drudgery even though some forms of artistry are far more difficult and arduous and many forms of traditional “work.”

It’s interesting to me that the further we progress through the stages of Capitalism that there is less and less public inclination to beauty. Buildings are more and more practical with only the scantest attention being paid to their aesthetic appeal. Just like workers who are pressed harder and harder to produce more with less cost, buildings and products are less concerned with any artistic value and more concerned with cost per item.

I would not go so far as to say that beauty is universal. Certainly there are things some people think are beautiful that I fail to appreciate, Yet I think Emily Dickinson might have been write when she wrote that “Beauty is not caused. It is.” There have been studies that relate our sense of beauty to symmetry. But not all beautiful things are symmetrical. Definitions of beauty — which are only important if you are trying to “create” something beautiful — fail at describing any universal attributes, or even any predictable attributes.

And that is really the reason for today’s post. We don’t have to define beauty. It’s enough just to appreciate it. Definitions are destructive. They take away anything that does not fit the description — but beauty needn’t fit into a category, it’s sufficient for it simply TO BE.

Our digital world wants everything to be ON or OFF. That’s the nature of the way a computer “thinks”. But beauty isn’t about computers, or binary anything. Being obsessed with quicker, brighter, softer, all the fine points of interpretation and nuance mean nothing when you find a painting, or a flower, or a sunset that simply speaks to your heart and makes you smile. You can’t manufacture a smile. A smile results from a satisfaction of some sense that we have yet to understand in the same way that we fail to “understand” love and yet love is there to be experienced by everyone — without understanding.

I hope you have someone in your life to love. My dear wife just celebrated her 78th birthday a few days ago and with her wrinkly face and wavering steps and arthritic joints she is more beautiful today than ever. It’s not about defining what beauty is; it’s about recognizing it when you see it.

Take care and we can talk again tomorrow. :-)

It was a different time

There are a lot more Millennial and Gen-X YouTubers than there are retirees and seniors. And it’s fascinating getting a glimpse into the culture of other generations in ways that might not have been possible in earlier years.

I heard someone say, yesterday, “It was a different time.” That got me thinking about the fact that personally I never thought a lot about the fact that times change — not until I got older — maybe even retirement age. I suppose in some senses you have to have lived through some of those changes in order to realize that they are happening. When you’re young you just see “old” people behaving differently and you think that’s weird and may not realize that they are behaving they way they did in the world that they grew up in, and that was a different time than the one the youths know about.

I have always been interested in cross-generational learning. I was fortunate enough to have older folks who saw something in me they thought needed encouragement, so I had three or four mentors in my life whom I loved a great deal for all they helped me out with. As I went from my 30’s into my 40’s I started looking for folks I thought were “worthwhile” investing heavily in. After all, mentoring isn’t something that comes without obligations and to do it right you really have to be fair to them and give them the time they need.

I wonder how much of that goes on today? Then again, the world is so different, what with cellphones and instant everything. Instead of wondering about how other people behave it often seems as if behavior becomes the source of amusement or mockery — just because it IS different.

I grew up with Film Noir — black and white movies, lots of drinking, lots of smoking, sans drugs, sans sexual debauchery — a world of good and bad and cops and gangsters and lots of black and white that had nothing to do with film processing. Nowadays I don’t watch much U.S. television anymore. But when I do, there’s no where near as much smoking, different kinds of drinking, and a lot more debauchery. Watching TV or cinema from other countries changes that — there’s still a lot of smoking in French programming for example but various countries have their unique takes on the world and the differences do put into perspective the culture from which you come to the screen.

I suspect that most of us would just as soon the world never changed — we are accustomed to what we are living in, we know how to cope with it, and it would be nice if we could count on that continuing — sort of. Of course in our current cultural climate the youngest generations don’t see much hope for them. So, what I just said probably applies more to my generation than to them. A great many young folks might sooner welcome drastic revolution and anarchy over the rich-controlled society they find themselves in.

The choices about what the world become — and how different it will be — is much more in their hands than in mine. But I think it’s important to find a way of being aware of how culture has changed as we move forward. In the days of the American Revolution there were individual (read that: MEN) of words and action who framed a constitution out of the situations that troubled them. If we were to face another “revolution” I wonder who would do the framing of the world to come. The thing about revolutions is that they are entirely UN-predictable. And more importantly, anger doesn’t encourage clear thought. Anger clouds the brain. The French Revolution might have seen a lot of anger but there arose out of it some fundamentals: Equality, Fraternity, Liberty. A look at French legal code reveals that those principles keep showing up over and over again. What they learned through their revolution has been empowered in their culture. I wonder what will have been learned in the minds of U.S. citizens moving forward?

It was a different world — surely. The one we came from. And it will be a different world into which we tentatively place our feet over the next decade. The day will come when dRumpf will no longer be around — but those who accompanied him on his rampage through U.S. culture, morals, and economy will remain and they will need dealing with in some way. And what way this turns out to be will depend on the lessons we are learning about the world as it is today — and what we want the world to come to look like.

Providing, of course, we don’t end up in a nuclear war.

ON that happy note, I’ll say enough for today, and stop back tomorrow to chat some more. Take care and cheers. :-)

Wavering Faith

I hesitated using this as the title for today’s post because it sounds too much like a sermon title, and that’s not what I want. Instead I want to talk about aging, about being “not-a-robot”, and changes.

We all exercise faith all the time. No on ever steps off a ladder from the top step expecting that for once gravity will not pull us catastrophically down to earth, breaking some bone or another. We tend to “isolate” the idea of faith as if it were ONLY a religious concept when in fact we have faith in our partners, in our job, in the cost of goods, in the approximate time the sun will rise, etc., etc., etc..

Since retirement I have a lot more time to think. Without the need to corral my thoughts in one specific line so as to earn money, my mind wanders to all manner of topics that I wished I’d time to think about, or research, in my younger days.

Not all chances to think result in positive conclusions. Sometimes thoughts make a wrong turn and you end up pondering things that trouble you, or disturb you in ways you couldn’t have expected. Recently when we had a medical situation come up I have to admit that my mind went to all sorts of places that I would just as soon not have visited. The train of thought didn’t last all that long, but the fact that it popped up reminded me that we aren’t machines, we are desperately human and we are subject to the whims of electric impulses floating around in our brain and the thoughts that they generate. We are great big chemical factories that sometimes send out great clouds of black smoke when they should be whips of white.

Even in religious thoughts I find that my free time often goes to pondering the immensity of the universe and the corresponding minuteness of us as individuals. The concept of sustaining a lifelong relationship with some creator that we can ill understand just boggles the mind — yet I am far from alone in my convictions and no matter how great or troubled your faith might be we are but human and we are subject to glitches and wonkiness and the need to re-boot our way of thinking.

I HAVE learned over time that just as my computer needs a good re-boot, sometimes my brain does too. A walk in the woods, or along the shoreline, or a glance up at the stars when you can see them through the light pollution does wonders to help with a reset.

Whatever your belief system, and even atheists have a “belief system,” it’s only realistic to realize that doubts and fears are part of being human. Many times fears save us — from immediate danger, from longterm mis-steps, from all manner of undesirable things. So “fear” isn’t a bad thing. It’s a tool that we have developed through maturation to protect us. And I think fear and doubt which is strongly related have to be accepted as a part of life that is necessary but doesn’t need to be permanent.

Being afraid, or doubting something for a period of time produces changes in un. Being afraid or doubting something continuously and never letting go becomes debilitating and unhealthy. We recognize that about activities, but we often stumble over it when it comes to the fleeting thoughts that cross our consciousness.

Coming to terms with the value of doubt, of a wavering faith enables us to push forward. It also helps us steel our courage to do the things needing doing. Pressing forward in illness, or because of changed circumstances takes on new meaning when we realize we have done so IN SPITE OF our doubts. In effect, doubts strengthen our faith, doubts strengthen our resolve. doubts move us forward even when they appear to hold us back.


It’s a sunny day here, but still cooler than I would anticipate for the calendar date. We have yet to get to our “summer place” but I hope soon.

That’s it for today. Take care of yourself and your loved ones and I’ll be back soon. :-)

Suffering

I get so tired of people saying that the Bible doesn’t give us an answer to question of suffering. This is, in my estimation, one of the most damaging messages of the modern American church. I hear it from so many pastors, even POPULAR ones. It’s all over Christian media. “We don’t know why God allows suffering.”

Bullshit.

  • God is sovereign and we are not. Shall a faultfinder contend with the Almighty?
  • Suffering exists because sin exists. God allows the world to persist in the tension between redemption and extant sin so that more might be saved. Not one of His sheep will be missing.
  • Man is born for trouble. Nails are made for pounding. We were made to be pounded into the shape of Christ. 
  • Pain exposes out true hearts. Often, suffering kills the god we thought were worshipping and reveals to us the truth of who God really is. 
  • God ordains our suffering, and if we believe that He is good, we must also believe that He will not allow us to suffer needlessly. 
  • God will allow evil only to the degree that it brings about the very opposite if what it intends.
  • We are only a small part of redemptive history. Perhaps it’s true that nothing good will come to the sufferer out of his suffering, but if that’s the case, immense good will be produced elsewhere in ways that are beyond the sufferer’s ability to see.
  • Suffering is an integral part of God’s redemptive story. It is through suffering, not in spite of it, that God choses to extend His reign and rule to the world.  
  • Jesus took on a real, human body and carried not just our sin, but all our suffering to the cross. “He himself bore our sickness and he carried our pains.” He has suffered with us and for us to the last spasm.
  • Faithfulness requires bearing pain in bodies meant for love, just as Christ did. When we suffer faithfully, we are powerful witnesses to God’s faithfulness and love. 

Scripture is not silent on the subject of why we suffer. We have answers!

Stop saying that we don’t know why we suffer. We do!

The church is so very wrong to propagate the idea that it’s just a mystery. Our specific suffering may be mysterious to us, but suffering writ large is very much not. Truer and deeper answers are yet to be revealed, but the profound and compelling answers that Scripture provides are not to be ignored. 

Yes! This exactly!

The world was NOT DESIGNED for suffering. There was NO suffering, NONE, ZERO, until sin. (This is why evolution is incompatible with Christianity, because evolution requires death.)

The whole story arc of the Bible, the whole point of Jesus coming and dying on the cross, is BECAUSE OF SUFFERING CAUSED BY SIN.

Knowing how and why suffering exists is the foundation of understanding the miracle of the cross.

So much suffering is caused directly by present-day sin and people seem not to notice. AH… but there’s the rub. We don’t want to be responsible for anything, much less our own problems.


Taking the long view isn’t easy. I know I suffer with myself when trying to do so. It’s hard on the brain.

So, that’s it for today. Take care of yourself till the morrow. :-)

That Wonderful Peace Between Couples

Back in the day I used to marry a significant number of couples and the one thing I was always amazed at was the ‘peace’ that each couple had found between themselves even though they might — or usually WERE extremely different personalities. This morning my wife decided that even though it’s early in the season, and even though we would have preferred a No-Mow spring, waiting until mid May wasn’t going to be in the cards this year as the grass and dandelions got a head start on their growing season.

I knew that there was a scant little gasoline in the mower after Mike tuned it up for spring, so I’d need to purchase gasoline before she could mow so the day got off to a more active start than our usual Saturday mornings.

Yes, I said, “before she could mow.” That’s one of the curious compromises / understandings / preferences that mark our couple-ness. And every couple has them. One part of the couple likes to do some things, in a well-tuned marriage hopefully the other party likes to do the things the first party shies away from — but in a working relationship there are always trade-offs between the partners as to WHO does WHAT.

When I agreed to marry a couple I always insisted upon several sessions of “pre-marital” discussion. Not so much “counseling” — I have no license as a therapist of any sort. But before I would do the deed I insisted that we get to know each other and that they spend time actually THINKING about marriage and what it might mean in their circumstances. I even asked them to separately write down a list of the things they DIDN’T like about their future spouse — and sneakily we talked together openly about what was on each person’s list — which produced some very interesting discussions — but never put the brakes on the intended marriage. So, at least they had an idea going in that there were things that might not be hunky-dory and the cause for some angst.

Between Peg and I — well, frankly it’s hard to remember all that way back — we married in 1968 after an engagement of 3 months, after I had proposed to her by mail before we actually went out on a “date.” We’d seen each other at church events, and spent some time together doing group things but there had been a specific event that marked her out as THE girl for me and I acted on that realization rapidly. We were living 4 states away from each other and we had just parted after seeing each other at a conference and I didn’t want to wait several months before a scheduled event I expected we would both attend. In fact, by the time that event took place we were already married.

She is from a small family — mother, father, and 7 year her senior brother. As you know I’m an only child so it was just the three of us at home — and my dad worked rotating shifts for the local electric utility so my time with him was a bit odd. Sometimes he was on days, sometimes on afternoons, sometimes on nights and every month he had 4 days off in a row at the end of the cycle and 2 days split apart in the middle of the week on other weeks. It was confusing to say the least but he was a good dad and made up for peculiar absences in other ways.

My point being that we had similar backgrounds. Both father’s were union men — her dad a painter, mine a boiler operator. My mom didn’t work outside the house, but hers did in the latter years shortly before we married. And her mom passed quite young — at age 50, while the other three parents lived to their early 80’s.

In spite of our similar backgrounds we were still very different people. She was sporty — I was not — am not. I loved food and had learned a lot cooking with my mother, aunts, and grandparents — my paternal grandfather was quite the bread and pastry baker. Suffice it to say that many of the daily chores that go along with living a life together just sort of magically happened to work out. What I wanted to do, she didn’t, what she loved doing I didn’t care so much about. We found a peace between us that just magically worked.

I’m sure that’s not the case for many couples. And I wish it could be. I’m saddened when I see couples who struggle to find that peace between themselves — and horrified when it drives them apart even though I understand that sometimes being away from the other person is really the only right end to a relationship.

I’ve recently been made aware once again of couples where one party assumed that they could change the other party. You know, make those annoying bits go away. That’s a tricky thing. Not only do people rarely change in significant ways — without some major trauma or event that causes the change — but also almost everyone I know really, really, really resents being FORCED to change. That does terrible things to the trust that is needed in a working relationship.

Whatever “love” might be it amazes me beyond words. Whether it happens in an instant, or takes years, there can be a melding of personalities that is truly amazing. When I look back to 1968 and think about the people we were then, and who we are now I’m not sure I ever would have expected to be where we are today. In a lot of ways.

And during much of our marriage I had jobs that forced me to travel extensively while she had a job that kept her tied to the same desk. We spent weeks apart, with nothing but phone calls and often not even all that frequently. There were times I had do stop alongside the highway and find a high spot on a hill to get enough of a signal to call home. There were times when our daughter or she were ill and I was going out of my mind with worry. But we got through all of those times and separation brought us closer together. Today — 15 years into retirement we don’t go anywhere alone. Well, almost no where. This morning I DID go to the gas station to get 2 gallons of gas for the mower. I did that 6 or 7 months ago too, and that’s about the only time I have gone anywhere without her.

She had a follow up doctor’s visit yesterday and we both went. Aging has taught us that we don’t remember as well as we once did so two sets of ears listening to what the doctor has to say is better than one set of ears. (by the way the followup to the E.R. visit went just fine and we think the problem is resolved) We just don’t care to do things alone. We married to be together and a half century later that’s still what we want. I know that’s not the case for everyone, or even for a majority, but it has worked for us and made life an awful lot easier.

I have no idea how “love” works. I do know that it does truly exist. In spite of what nay-sayers may think. Just because someone hasn’t found it for themselves doesn’t mean it exists for no one. Still, I expect that it takes some effort — hopefully not effort that one minds exerting — but still the desire for both of you to be happy and fulfilled in your couple-ness.

That’s it for today. I’ll be back again to chat soon. :-) Cheers.

Egret on the railing

I’ve been yammering away lately so I thought today I’d just throw in an image for a change.

Talk to you tomorrow.