Anchors and Butterflies

Broken Reflection

My truth is not your truth! And truth is fluid – what I believed five minutes ago can change in a blink of an eye! There are very few Universal Laws, and I’m reminded of this law of truth in judgement on a weekly – perhaps daily – basis in the work with my clients. We are able to see the personalities and emotions of those around us, and we think we know a lot about ourselves, but it’s rather like playing the game of relationships with mirrors. I can only know who you are through my mirror of my experiences, my wisdom, my strengths and weaknesses, my likes or dislikes… And you can only know who I am through your mirror of your own life journey.

For us to try to bypass our own mirrors to judge those around us is to render distorted opinions and faulty judgement. Jack Nicholson’s line from An Officer and a Gentleman – “You can’t handle the truth” – comes to mind regarding our ability to recognize ourselves in a crystal-clear mirror. Don’t get too close, don’t look too long…the image continues to change, so don’t get too attached! Should we care so much what opinion another person has of us?

• Is it really our business what is in their mirror?
• Which side of the courtroom do you most often support in your own life – the prosecution or the defense?
• Doesn’t this release a lot of need for judgement?