Too many time I’d, tried, convincing my self, that forgiveness is the, right thing to do, because I need to, keep this, family of “our” (it once was!), together. And yet, with the passing of the years, I’d found that the resentment from me forcing myself to forgive you, growing by the day, to the point, of it, spilling out, in form of me, lashing at the kids out in anger (b/c, they are, partially the reason why I’d, stayed!)…and that damaged me, our young, even more!
Too many times, I’d tried, to make sense of, what happened in this life, and why, and every single time, I ended up, with an, open head wound, from ramming into the walls too god damn hard.
Too many times, I’d, told myself, that it didn’t matter, but the more I tried to convince my self that it didn’t matter, the more it’d, mattered to me, made me, cared too much, and that just, wouldn’t, work!
Too many times, I can’t do it again, I won’t. Too many times I’d, told myself, to say goodbye, and each and every time you’d come crawling back, apologized profusely for what you did, to damage this love we once shared, I’d, forgiven you.
Well you know what, the kids are all grown, they don’t need me to watch over them, and I’m done with you!!!
And what you should’ve done in this “CASE”, is to FILE for that divorce when the first thing that “went” wrong had, happened, instead of making your sorry excuses of how your kids are too young to be without their father or mother, because you’d, put your own young through HELL, because they would’ve, felt the TENSIONS in your marriage, and, got turned into the EMOTIONAL PUNCHING BAGS, and how do you think that will help them grow up into, well-rounded, adults?
See how EASILY, love turned into hate, and hate drives people to, commit, MURDER? Tragic, truly…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
The Investigators Suspected that There were Disputes of Love, Hsieh was Rushed to the Hospital, Already Brain Dead, Chen Texted a Friend for Help, by the Time the Police Arrived, it was Too Late
The thirty-five-year-old man, Hsieh and his ex-wife of the same age, Chen continued to cohabit together after they divorced, Hsieh was suspected of getting into an argument with Chen last night around midnight, gotten drunk, then, took an altered gun, shot into Chen’s head, Chen died instantly, afterwards, Hsieh attempted suicide, by turning the gun onto himself, he was taken to the hospital, and declared brain dead. The police in the prelamination investigations, found out that it may have been that Hsieh wanted to get back together with Chen, but she’d refused to, that was what drove him to murder, the police authorities are investigating the details further.
Based off of understanding, Hsieh had priors of fraud, and assault too, he met Chen, who is a painter through a social networking app, they fell in love, married in July last year, and, rented the apartment complex in Banciao for $30,000N.T. per month for the first and second floors, Hsieh also put in the funds to help his wife set up an art studio to teach the art courses, they live on the second floor together.
Later, Hsieh and Chen didn’t get along, and would argue very frequently, the two had physically engaged outside of their apartment, alerting the neighbors to notify the police, but neither wanted to involve the police, so, there was no case. The two divorced after years of nonstop arguments just last month, due to the shared rents, and the lease, they still live together, and fought, giving the neighbors headaches.
Based off of understanding, after the divorce, Hsieh refused to let go of his ex, begged Chen to take him back time and time again, in the midnight hours of yesterday, the two got into another altercation on the issues, Hsieh left the resident in angry, stated, “I’m going to bring something bad here”, then, went to the shop to buy the alcohols, then, brought an altered gun to the rental residence.
Because Chen feared for her life, she’d texted her friend for help after Hsieh left; her friend immediately called the police, the local Haishan Subprecinct’s Wenshen Substation officers came, but soon as they entered, they saw Chen and Hsieh both shot in the head, on the bed, Chen was clearly dead, Hsieh was still breathing, but in a coma, there was no signs of struggle, with an altered gun by the bed.
Yesterday, an autopsy was done on Chen’s body, Chen’s parents looked sorrowful, the results showed that the gunshot wound on Chen’s head was fatally wounding, with the bullet still lodged in her skull, the district attorneys will schedule an autopsy on a later date. Hsieh, after being rushed into the hospital, showed no signs of brain activity, is still being resuscitated.
The employees at the art studio posted yesterday on the Fans page on FB, “Ms. Chen died due to an accident.”, the students were all shocked, with the messages of “how did it happen”, and, “Ms. Chen, go with God.”
And so, this is, the TRAGIC end of this, love that’s turned sour, because the man refused to let go, and they still lived together, which made it, more dangerous, and all it took was one tiny argument, for the man to, MURDER his own ex-wife, and he’d, turned the gun on himself, and is now, in a, vegetative, state.
You and I, shared, so many, lies, didn’t we??? Started back when we’d, first, locked eyes on, one another…then, we kept on thinking, what we’d found in one another was love, when it actually, was the, exact, opposite… The lies we, shared, because, both us got plagued by lonely way too long, and, we are both, in desperate need of, company. We’d begun, lying out of, habit to, one another, it’d begun small with things like: did you load up the washer? Did you forget to pick up my prescription, that sort of, stuff. And once we’d become, more, comfortable with the lies, we’d, let them grow in, size and, extent. Then, everything started, sliding downhills, and we’re still, rolling down, faster, faster, faster, gaining more momentum still, and we’re still not quite yet, hitting, ROCK bottom, so… And, in the midst of all of this madness, a thought came to me: why am I, still, holding on??? No sound came as reply!
how it’d all, begun…with the FALSE promises of that happily ever after…
photo of the “it pair”…photo from online And, I’d told the first truth, in, how many years had we been, “together” (still “with STUPID!!!”, remember???) again??? Too long is the thing, and it was like, that needed ,wakeup call for me, and that was, that!
Another loser with that, “savior complex” here, an EGO-MANIAC, thinking that everything is about him, that he had the right to continually harass his wife, because she’d divorced him for being ABUSIVE, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
The man, Fang after his divorce, called his ex-wife up, and wrote a very long passage on FB, describing how a Taiwanese man helped a woman from China out of the trials of her life, accusing his wife of being ungrateful. The judge found that Fang’s behavior was close to harassment on his ex, that he’d broken the terms of the restraining order she had on him, sent him to serve in protective custody for fifty days, and two year’s probation.
The verdict pointed out, that the man in his fifties, Fang was divorced from his wife, Yang, because he physically abuses her, the court justice issued a restraining order, prohibited Fang from harassing Yang, controlling her, stalking, and contacting her, and barred him from going one hundred meters within where Yang worked, a nail salon.
Last year, during the term of the restraining order was active, Yang used the excuse of delivery some information to Yang’s home, told her to unban him from FB, and LINE, then he’d left, and through the FB messengers, to contact Yang, he’d also called her, and texted her.
And on Fang’s FB, he’d posted a “Real-Life Story of a Friend of Mine”, allowed anyone who surfed onto his FB page to access the article, stated that thirteen years ago, a woman from China came over to Taiwan, when she didn’t have any money to live on, without anybody to rely on, a man fell in love with her, and worked his best to help her get out from under, and married her.
Eight years ago, the man put up the funds for her salon, the beginning of the business wasn’t easy, but the man, without asking anything in return, without any regret, paid for her, rents. Three years afterwards, the woman’s business was flourishing, and she’d felt that her husband wasn’t as “proper” as the men who are professionals, and started changing her heart. The woman was insistent on purchasing a property, the man put up the first down payment, the property was registered under her name, and last year in June, the woman FORCED the man to divorce.
In the article it said, “without him, will you be a female owner of a nail salon?”, criticizing her for being “ungrateful”, and in the end the article stated, “this story does not reflect reality in any way”.
Afterwards, Yang reported it to the police, the Keelung D.A.’s Office charged Fang for breaking the laws of domestic violence, and the posting on FB, he was found guilty of libel and slander, but they’d settled on the charge of severe libel, Yang withdrew the case.
The judge reviewed, that Fang during the term of the protective order being valid, had twice harassed Yang and illegally infringed her right, considering his motive, and his means, and how it’d affected Yang, Fang was found to serve thirty days each per count, and there would be fifty days of prison term he will be serving, he was also placed on two years’ probation, the case can still be appealed.
Yeah, uh, that is, WHAT you get, for harassing, for threatening your ex, because you felt that you’d SAVED her, and she owed you, and this is a loser with a GOD COMPLEX, I mean, his EX-wife WAS the one who picked up the skillsets of manicuring herself, she was the one, who found a VIABLE skill to live off of, and this LOSER wanted to take all the credit for her hard work? That just showed, how LOSERS will find an assortment of excuses, to make them feel they’re all that, well, this LOSER is NOT “all that”, he got CHARGED, and, will be SERVING a whole of FIFTY (still not heavy enough in my understanding) days in prison, and he will be on probation for two years for his harassment of his own EX-wife, and he still learned, NOTHING!
See how, the fight between, these two men, over a woman went??? Yeah, domestic problems, brought to the public’s eye here…off of the Newspapers, translated…
The city councilman from Hualien, Lin accused the police chief of the Ji-An Substation, Wu for having an affair with his wife, the chair of the city council, Chen pressed for an obstruction of family suit. The Department of Police Affairs demoted Wu to a desk job in the Keelung Police Department. Yesterday, Lin criticized Wu for “seducing women overtly”, that this is a huge warning for Wu in his life. Wu stated, that the statements Lin made of his were all lies, and is already suing Lin for libel and slander.
Awhile ago, in the questioning of the city council, Lin accused Wu for having an suspected affairs with his wife, and claimed that his wife was injured by Wu using a fruit knife, had the artery on her right had severed, lost massive amount of blood, and was in a coma, and went for the emergency surgeries for five hours, nearly lost her left hand, and accused Wu for coaching his wife in giving a statement, filing for a restraining order against him, how Wu had turned an attempted murder into a domestic violence case, Wu stated he didn’t, but the Police Affairs Department demoted Wu on the 30th, and will host the swearing into office of the new head of police station today.
Lin told, although he is now divorced, he has the right to pursue another woman, but he shouldn’t have picked a woman who’s already married, nor should he have flirted with the councilman’s wife.
Lin already started suing Wu for destruction of his family, and accused his wife of attempted murder and domestic violence, both had restraining orders on each other. He said, he’d appeared in the Family Court yesterday, and the restraining order he’d filed against his wife had already been signed into effect, his wife will be forced to vacate their home in Ji-An, and the term of the restraining order is for a year, hoping that this gives his wife time to think.
Chen also played the footage of how in the process of fighting for the cell phones, she was pushed to the ground by her husband, how she’d, hit him back, stated that she and her husband should NOT be wasting any more resources on their own private family matters.
Wu stated, that he’d respected his superiors in demoting him, that what Lin stated of him was all lies, that he’d already pressed charges for libel against Lin, and will fight for his own innocence in court.
So, only the involved parties would know who’s saying the truth, and who’s lying, and, this is how the disputes of the families, ARE wasting the resources of the society. When it’s over, it’s, O-V-E-R, stop holding on too tight, and just let go, but we can’t, because we’d, given too much into the relationship, and feel, taken advantage of…
How quickly gone, where those, years of wonder of the childhood years, with the adults in their lives, divorcing…translated…
None of us would have, Ever Imagined that the Fish Tank Could, Help Improve My Myopia, My Younger Brother’s Tourette’s, Along with the Smokes & Canon Powder in My Parents’ Arguments………
Mom told us, not to watch the T.V. while we ate.
How about watching the fish? She didn’t say, so we believed that we could, watch the fish while we, ate.
In my lower elementary grade years, there was that fish tank on our supper tables for awhile. The fish tank wasn’t a wavy edged transparent container, with the few fish, and the floating algae. I’d found, that as I’d described it to my classmates, I had to, stress to my classmates, that this was a rectangular space paved with the pebbles, with a piece of wood inside, to keep the three pots of marine plants in place—with the filtering sponge, the pump, the wire connected, carefully avoiding the rice cooker, along with the flow of the plates of the meals being served, all the way, to the, outlet.
Labeled as a three-generation, long rectangular table with seating for eight, and ever since, there was, only the surfaces that can be, used, with all our plates and bowls, clamped against each other’s. The suppers from my house became, like the western style buffets, everybody with individual servings; the pot of soup kept on the gas stove, as we finished our rice, we’d gone with our bowls to the kitchen to get the soup.
illustration from UDN.com
Ordinarily, pops and I sat on the internal side of the table, against the walls, mom with her large pregnant belly, with my hyperactive younger brother opposite, making it easier to get in and out. In the middle, a biosphere of the tanks, we’d had guppies, cold fish, and for the most extravagant few weeks, there were, three shrimps at the bottom of the tank. The two of us kids, would assign ourselves the tasks, for instance, who counts the largest female guppy’s spots on her tail, the other would count the number of pieces of chicken we got from the curry served for supper today, we’d competed in our speed. Or, more often, we both got, nagged at, and my brother and I couldn’t help, but chewing down the meals, tapping the glass of the tank with our utensils, guiding the fish in the tank to come toward our individual, sides.
I’d asked dad from time to time, why did the shrimp that’s inside the tank looked like the cooked up shrimp in the Japanese noodles? Or that, mom used her something’s clearly wrong high pitched voice, grilled my younger brother why he’d pulled the hair of that girl in preschool? At this time, I’d heard him lied about the fish in the tank looking ill, tried to divert her attention.
We never could’ve guessed, that the tank delayed my myopia, and helped reduced my younger brother’s Tourette’s symptoms, along with the smokes and gun powders of my parents’ interactions, and it’d not made it to the day that my mother’s third birth came. From the toothpastes to the education of the children, my younger brother and I woke almost everyday to the sounds of our parents’ arguing, watching mom packed up the things for three, and finally, she’d placed the items onto the moving truck one early evening around sun down, left that familiar alley of our, home.
Mom told us, that based off of the verdict, we live with her. My younger brother asked, what about the fish tank? You didn’t bring it over, what do we watch at suppertime?
Later we’d, found the answer to my younger brother’s question, on that T.V. hung on the, apartment wall that’s, high-def, with the studio surround sound.
And yet, that was, the end of your, childhood innocence, with you and your younger brother moving out of your first home, with the fish tank, and the fish tank can be interpreted as a symbol of the memories of childhood that you were, forced to, leave behind, because your parents were, divorced, and your mother had custody of the two of you!
As he should, L-O-S-E, for having the incestuous relationship with his own son’s WIFE, and wanted to, divorce his wife too? Yeah, that’ll FLY, in court all right!!! Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
The male high school student Lai just inherited five hundred million dollars N.T., then died from falling off of a building, it’d caused his identity to get found, Lai was actually the child of his own mother and father-in-law, back then, as Lai’s incestuous sexual relations with his own daughter-in-law had been discovered, his wife divorced him, and, Lai’s own children can’t helped but wonder, “from before, the boy called you grandpa, what will he call you now?”
Lai stated in the claims, that back in 2004, the families hadn’t gotten along, causing the civil suit cases to come repeatedly, and to settle the matter, he’d, signed over the deeds of his property to his own wife, but she’d separated from him, and not contacted him for more than a decade, and he’d even, written a confession too, but his wife ignored him, that they will never patch things up, and he’d, filed for divorce.
Lai fought the divorce, that her husband had an incestuous relationship with her daughter-in-law, and had, chased her out of their home, and, before her husband committed adultery with her daughter-in-law, the family of three generations lived together, and were very well together, but, after the incest was found, her husband had, chased the rest of the family out, and only allowed her daughter-in-law, and the son she gave him, to live at home, her husband had no shame over what he’d, done.
The courts called the children of the two adults, the children testified, that back then, there was a family meeting, and as the eldest daughter went to inquire their father of the incest, he’d smashed a potted plant toward her, and told them to go to hell.
The children testified, that since the incest, the families never got together on the New Year’s for the meals, and their mother had stopped interacting with their father since; another daughter also testified, that she’d asked, “my younger brother’s son called you ‘grandpa’, but what would the child whom you had with your own daughter-in-law call you?”, then her father got angry, and, acted like he was going to, hit her.
The children testified, that their mother kept wanting the daughter-in-law to move out, that it would be awful and wrong, for their mother to share a household with the woman with whom her husband committed adultery with. That their mother had given all she had to the family, and their father was, divorcing her, that this was, too, funny to them.
The courts considered, Lai had a son by incest with his daughter-in-law, but never admitted to the incest, not only did he break the duties of being faithful to his own wife and he’d, chased his own wife and his children out of his home, that he had no claims that are valid to get a divorce from his own wife.
Of course this LOSER did NOT have the “just cause” to divorce his own wife, but his wife surely has the reasons to, and, this elder had put up with this SHIT long enough, and, hopefully, she will SUE him for divorce, for his infidelity, for FUCKING their, daughter-in-law, and fathering his own, grandson too!
The “dissections” of why there are more divorces in the golden years in the world right now, off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
With Three Primary Causes the Couple’s Relationship Can’t Return Back to What it Once Was, the Steady Growth of Divorces in the Population of Thirty-Years and Over Marriages
As those born in the fifties to sixties passed through the baby boom era, the economy taking flight, they’re now faced with retirement, or already are, retired, but, the multiple statistics showed, that the marriage relations of this particular age group is slowly, altering. The total number of divorces, those over fifty years of age took up more than twenty-percent, especially for the couple who’d been married more than thirty years, there’s this, fast growth in numbers. The experts analyzed and found, that this may be due to how women’s becoming more economically independent, the changes in the interactions of after retirement, and how the couple viewed life after retirement too differently.
There is no precise definition of “divorce in the older years”, the famed family law attorney, Lai stated, that what she defined as “mature divorces”, are those who’d been married for over ten years, that they’d entered into the later relations of interacting as husbands and wives for a long time, and getting to divorce; the trend of divorcing after more than a decade of marriage, after retirement right now in Taiwan, had already started trending in Japan more than a decade ago.
Becoming Economically Independent, Getting Out of the Roles of Wife, and Daughter-in-Law
In 2007, the Japanese government, in order to protect women’s rights to receive their living assistance, after retirement, the wives can file for half of the retirement assistance the ex-husband earned (similar to the social securities benefits here), shortly after the law was set up, there’s the massive numbers in exiting out of marriage in the golden years. Lai stated, that although there are similarities of trends in Taiwan and Japan, on the matter of economics, based off of her observations, the causes of divorce in the elderly years is mostly due to the maladaptation of the changes in interactions between husband and wife after the retirement.
how the interactions goes, after we both, retire…
photo from online
The women of the postwar baby boom era, compared to women in the eighties, nineties, are all very, economically independent, as they entered into marriage, the value of the society was “man in charge of work, women in charge of running the homes”, the women became the sole caretaker of the men, the in-laws, their children, and as the husbands retired from work, they get to stay at home, and barked out orders, while the women are still, chained to the duties of “wife” of “daughter-in-law”, women also wanted to, walk out from the roles of wife and daughter-in-law, plus they’re relatively economically independent, and have a better chance of finding the self.
Nothing to Say, Staying Together for the Children’s Sakes
The second kind of divorce in the elderly years is due to how after retirement, the couple had nothing to say to one another, in the past, their relationship was built on resolving the matter of childcare, childrearing, working together to get on better terms with the in-laws, but as the children leave the nest, the in-laws died, the two can’t build their relationships back up again; the third, when the males lost work, they’d lost that long-term sought after competitiveness, lost the focus, and couldn’t face ones’ own selves, if at home, they can’t find that competitive edge, then, the men will search for that fulfillment out, which often affected their own, bottom half of, life.
The counselor, Lin said, for couples married for over twenty years, the two became “companions” to each other, and, giving up on the companionship, partially it’s because of the long-term bad relations, and just putting up with each other for the children’s sakes, and as children flew out of the nests, the relationships end. Another being how after men retired, they’d had time and money on their hands, and became in pursuit of youth, and started pursuing after younger women, to prove that they’re, capable.
Lin said, those who filed for divorce after eighty are mostly women, they’d felt, that they’d served the families their whole life, didn’t want to get buried with the families that they hated after they’re dead, divorces aren’t just due to the upset with their independent spouses, but also, toward their spouses’, families too.
And so, as we women age, we became, more and more independent, and we come into the realization of hey, I’d worked hard, slaved my whole life for this god damn family, and what do I get out of it? Not much, so I am getting a divorce, simple as that.
This just showed, how late it is, that women came into the awareness of their own, selves, finally realizing what they want for their lives, what they don’t want to do anymore: to SERVE the families hand-and-foot!
On the debate of whether or not the party that’s had an affair is allowed to start up the decree of divorce or not! Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…
The debates in the Constitution Courts got started, the debate is on “whether or not the party at fault in a marriage is allowed to start up the process to divorce”? the side that’s in support of the current law, believed, that the party who was wrong at first, should NOT be allowed to benefit from her/his own illegal actions (having an affair and be allowed to divorce one’s own wife!), in restricting the right to file for divorce would be justified for the ethics code of love that people are living by. The side that believed that the current law should be unconstitutional stressed that the laws guarantee the freedoms of marriage, including the rights to divorce, that the laws needed not step in, to an already, broken marriage.
This is something that needs thorough evaluation, the values, the benefits, and also at the same time, the matter of, “consequences”, an issue that needed thorough, contemplation. Is it unconstitutional for “the party who’s to blame to not have the right to divorce”, this is dependent on the individuals’, interpretations of the, matter. But in the constitutional debate and the legal realm, and when people start discussing this matter, there’s a trending belief that needed to be evaluated over: marriage is freedom, and it shall NOT be bound by the morals and the ethics!
This group set ethics, moral against freedom, believed, that modern day countries’ constitutions protected the freedoms, to allow the individual to go up against the majority, so ethics, moral, and personal feelings (marriage and divorce), the freedoms, should NOT be restricted.
Under this belief system, “freedom” is a neutral value, with the ethical considerations taken out. Those who preached personal freedoms, are considered advanced and modern; and when those who’d preached about ethics, and values, that’s, oppression. Similar beliefs are used in debating the validity of same-sex marriages. Some who are for same sex marriages claimed, “two people who love one another, why are they restricted by the country to love each other?”. While anyone who’d equated marriage to ethical values gets attacked.
Another case was in the decriminalizing of adultery. The Grand Justices, although didn’t deny the responsibilities of both party being faithful to one another in the marriage, but the reasoning books stated, “in a marriage, personal freedom ranked higher than the functionality of the society”. Which showed the grand justices’ leaning toward “freedom as priority” more.
And yet, putting “Freedom” opposite of “ethics”, believing that the constitution protects the former, and not the latter, this is, quite problematic. In recent times, the major debates of laws have to do with the ethical values, the reasonings behind the laws. Marriage (same-sex, adultery and divorce), punishment (death penalty), forced apologies, abortions………. if we don’t have a proper conversation with the ethics, the morale of these, then, the problems simply, can’t be, solved. But, as people get into argument on the issues, they’d always dodged “ethic”, the MOST important consideration of all. The side that supported freedom believed, that ethic is the leftover from the caste systems, the side that fought for the ethics only stated that current situation, traditions, are a product of, ethical values that’s passed down from ages ago, not mentioning the interaction of the modern values with these age-old beliefs.
A lot believed, that laws and ethics should be separated like church and state, or that these are the most basic of freedoms that humans are endowed, that simply can’t be restricted by morality. These beliefs of freedom that’s “demoralized”, is slanted. The debates of ethics, the arguments of law, can’t avoid.
Marriage is a form of contract too, but, how come, the “contract” between two people needed the law to enforce, to, guarantee? This is a matter of, “ethics”, and, on the marriage itself, or the assets, people need to discuss thoroughly on. Personal freedom or not, what constitutes as a “breach of contract”? And, what’s the difference between identity and the laws on assets?
Anyways, the forefront of freedom is ethics, forgetting ethics, morality, the claims of freedom would be without confound. The beliefs of freedom need to respond to ethics, stating ones’ own values clearly; the conservatives should NOT use ethics like a magical spell, not talked about the contents, and just using it as a motto. In the legal debates of ethics, if there’s the lacking of the delicate conversations of moral values, then we would become like the Pharisees, using the edicts to hurt people, and feeling that they are, just. Same should be considered in the debate of whether the party at fault should have the right to divorce.
And so, this goes beyond the law, there are still the socialization, the ethic code, the expectations of society to consider in the matter of whether or not the party at fault should have the right to divorce. And I do NOT believe, that the party AT fault should have the right to divorce, because you’re the ones who’d fouled up in the marriage first, and that’s why, you do NOT have the right to call your spouses out, to divorce them, the spouses that weren’t cheating are the ones who have the rights to divorce, that’s only fair, after all the ones who’d not cheated aren’t the ones to screw around outside the marriage.
Reasons W-H-Y, a divorce should be, allowed, by the courts, off of the Newspapers, translated…
The Civil Law stated that of the ten reasons for divorces, one was “with untreatable illness” but, there were the two couples, one in Taoyuan, the other in Yunlin with the wives filing for divorces on the reason because both husbands had strokes and became, paralyzed, and one couple was allowed to divorce, the other, wasn’t, the legal experts stated, that on reviewing over the decree of divorce, the justices would not just see the illness that one party has, but whether or not the marriages can keep going.
The couple, Wang in Yunlin had been married for twelve years, the husband is an alcoholic, later he’d suffered a stroke, became bedridden, the wife filed for divorce on the fact that he can’t get better, she said, she kept consoling with him to stop drinking, but he’d refused to listen, that was why he’d ended up having a stroke, became paralyzed, and so, her husband played a major part of damaging the relationship; and the husband’s legal representative, the mother-in-law, went to court, and, agreed with the daughter-in-law’s, claims.
The mother-in-law told, that her son had been an alcoholic for more than a decade, three years ago, he’d had a hematoma, and became paralyzed and was placed in a care home, that her daughter-in-law wanted a divorce, and, she would be willing to set her daughter-in-law free. The judge based off of the diagnoses, confirmed that Wang couldn’t care for himself in daily living, that he couldn’t communicate with the outside world, causing the marriage to only be valid in the form, that there’s no way of affirming if his stroke has direct relation with his long-term alcoholism, and so, the courts approved the divorce on “other major reasons”.
The couple, Liu in Taoyuan, the wife also used the fact that the husband had a stroke, and became untreatable in his condition, to file for divorce, but the judge tossed the case, based off of the verdict, the man suffered a stroke two years ago in February, causing him to become paralyzed, and because of the increase in care expenses, plus the woman had conflicts with the means of caretaking, and the assets, she’d started having depression, and wanted to divorce.
But the judge based off of the diagnostic confirmation from the hospital, that although the man had a stroke and is paralyzed, he’s still lucid, and after physical therapy and medication, his movements, responses are, improving, that there’s still the possibility of him recovering, and found that the husband’s conditions aren’t bad enough, that the woman’s not getting along with her in-law’s side of the family isn’t related to the husband, tossed back her divorce claims.
The legal experts analyzed, that the judge would consider on two levels the reasons of divorce was “untreatable conditions”, one, the illness itself, two, does the illness affect the marriage, what’s defined as untreatable illness doesn’t mean that it has to be terminal, normally, it means that there’s no curing the person in the futures to come; as for the untreatable conditions means the diseases that would cause harm to the spouses’ body, like the STDs.
But, with the advancements of medicine, practically, the definitions of the clause needed to get updated too, the highest courts had a newer explanation, that “the untreatable illness” should be interpreted as “enough to impact the maintaining of the marriage, and an illness that’s hard to treat”.
And so, this still showed, that you can’t find your way out of a marriage, just because your spouse is ill with something as these cases showed, that the cases are decided separately, that each case with its own unique situations, and that should be considered.
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