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June 8, 2026 · 3:29 am

Not Allowing the Mind to Go to Ruins as We Enter into the Elderly Years

Perfect examples, of how to, age, gracefully, from the movies…translated…

I was invited to watch to very interesting documentary films awhile ago: the Japanese “Tetsuyo Turned 104, Living on Her Own”, and the Canadian film, “Agatha’s Almanac”, the two elderly women live in the east and the western hemispheres, with the combined age of over two hundred.  Living alone on ones’ own is usually quite difficult for the elderly, but these independent ladies filled their days with colors.

Both elderly had nieces who live within close enough distances to care for them.  Tetsuyo always wore that smile, like she’s in a good mood.  She’s not just showing her satisfaction with her life, but is also filled with gratitude too; grateful for the help that receives from all around, felt that living leisurely is not a given.  She worked hard in living her days fully, bend her back to pull the weeds up from the garden, told the interviewer that she didn’t want her garden to turn into a wasteland.  I thought, her words were a declaration of how she refused to allow her own mind to turn into a field of waste.

a short segment of the documentary of the Japanese elderly woman at age 104, from YouTube

Tetsuyo Ishii, 104 years old, has an amazing appetite! This is the secret to a long life / Movie … – YouTube

“Optimism is a skill, if you feel depressed, you can’t change a thing; there are always two sides to everything: a positive and a, negative, I see things on the, positive.”  Grandma Tetsuyo’s philosophy of life, reminded me of Yasujiro Ozu’s “Tokyo Story”, the elderly couple going to Tokyo to visit their daughter, and they were sent to Atami by their daughter who was working busily in Tokyo, they originally thought that they were on vacation, but instead, were bombarded by the loud noises, couldn’t sleep at night, so they returned back to Tokyo, but couldn’t find a stay and almost had to live on the, streets.  The elderly couple who returned in the awkwardness of their situation, on the way back to the countryside, still didn’t forget to give one another the boosts of each other’s, spirits: although the children aren’t as outstanding as we imagined them to be, but they are still working hard for their lives.  They changed their thoughts, accepting the melancholic of not having it, all, and perhaps, that is, what optimism, is?  A skill we gained, after we get tried by our, lives.  The elderly woman, Tetsuyo, who is optimistic, and isn’t stubborn, what she carried in her mind was, “at my age, anywhere I go will be okay, so long as I don’t cause any hardship on anyone else”, and that’s why she’s such a well-received elderly person, that’s her reason for longevity.

The elderly woman, Tetsuyo lost her husband and didn’t have children, Agatha was unmarried, the two documentaries were filmed, because on the coming of the super elderly society.  Explained that it wasn’t only the genetics that’s caused the longevity, but, the state of mind; that the elderly may not always have that positive attitude toward life as they age.  These elderly women who live alone, seemed to be fiercely driven by their own individual desires, and maintained social connection with their external environments.  They both live on their own, but they made their elderly years alone full of joy.  Alone but not, lonely, whether if they go out or stay at home, Grandma Tetsuyo walked backyards, down the slope of her house, but still kept pulling up the weeds that grew from the cracks in the walls.  The days after we grew older, isn’t it like walking backwards, too, in the dangers of being unsteady and unstable, steadily, get back to where we, are, slowly, marching to the most original states of our, lives?  I hope, that I can, take from the lives of these two strong elderly women, to continue to carry that heart of youth, to not allow my mind to become a wasteland as I too become, an elderly, person.

the movie trailer of the Canadian film, “Agatha’s Almanac“, from YouTube

AGATHA’S ALMANAC (directed by Amalie Atkins) ***Official Trailer*** – YouTube

So, this is how to age, positively: maintain social contact with the world outside, do things that you enjoy doing, don’t force yourself to do anything, have a set schedule that you follow, but don’t get too rigid, accept that you’re now elderly, and have the difficulties of physical ailments, because that’s normal, and if you can achieve all of this, then, you’re well on your way, to aging, gracefully, like these two elderly in the documentary films.

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May 9, 2026 · 2:56 am

The Extension of the Monarchy in European Countries

How the monarchy’s meaning had shifted through time, how now, it’s just a symbol of authority, with the actual work being done by these heads of states in European nations…it’s a heritage of the world, that became a legacy…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

  • Richard III Set Foot in American as a Monarch for the Very First Time, Seen as the Important Opportunity for Bettering the Relationship Between U.S. & Great Britain
  • The British Monarch Became the Dummy Head of State, How Could He be on the Same Level as the U.S. President
  • Richard III Was Also the Great Britain Head of Commonwealth, in the Fourteen Countries, the British King Still Had the Status of Head of State of the Country

April 27th, the British King Charles took his Queen, Camilla arrived in D.C. for their four-day visit on national inquiries.  King Charles met up with the American president Trump in the WH, and went to the Congress to deliver a speech.  This was the very first time King Charles set foot as the King of Great Britain onto U.S. soil, and this was seen as a huge diplomatic opportunity to patch up the relationship between Great Britain and the U.S.  back in 1215, King John, under the pressures of British nobles, was forced to sign the Magna Carta, to give up partial of his right as a monarch; the British Royals continued up to date, the King of Great Britain became a monarch with no actual, powers or authority, how can the British King be considered as equal to the American president?

a video explaining the system of monarchy and its role from YouTube

The Monarchy in Britain: What is their role? – YouTube

Since the death of Elizabeth II, there are the voices to repeal the monarchy.  And still in British history, the authority of the monarchy isn’t just a symbol of rule, or of glory, but with the responsibilities of keeping the country in order, and maintain the country’s stability too.  Through the texts from the Medieval times, we’d witnessed, how the monarchy continued its role in history in its death and rebirth repeatedly.

The mid-century system of monarchy had been shaped by the religious and political symbolism.  The records showed, that before the king passed, he would draft up his own final will, and arrange his own funeral, with the march of the coffins down certain paths and route, and the placement of their coffins; the route marched from Westminster Abbey, passing through the St. Paul’s Cathedral, and ultimately, into the London Tower.  This series of ritual, through the passage of time, turned the body of the monarchs into a symbol of eternal rule of authority beyond death.  Westminster is the place where the monarchs are crowned, the St. Paul’s Cathedral, the authority of the Church of England, the London Tower, the power of the current military, the three combined into a geographic secret code of sanctifying authority.

The death of the monarchs usually bring about the changes of the government.  To prevent the power from being untaken too long, the queen and the Imperial Conference would convene beforehand, to assist the young heir to take the throne, to start up the regency, to ensure the power of rule continues smoothly.

This system of British monarchy had been extended to modern day, in 2022, Queen Elizabeth had passed, Charles III came to the throne, there’s no need for elections or the procedurals from the council.  The day following, at St. James’s Palace in the meeting, the Prime Minister, the Archbishop perform the ceremonies, with the St. Edward Crown that symbolized the power of the monarchy, with the staff and the sovereign’s orb, completing the majestic coronation symbolizing the connection of the monarchy with the church.  This coronation ceremony had continued from the earlier time of British history to modern day, under the news media reporting, became a major global political event.

The meaning of coronation, is the reaffirmation of the systems as a whole; just like the Medieval texts of every citizen vowing her/his loyalty, the modern day monarchy, through these publicized rituals, affirmed the citizens’ will, turning the monarchy into a symbol that connected the memories of the nation, and history.  The duties of the King of Great Britain isn’t just limited to the geographical territories of Great Britain, King Charles III is also the Commonwealth of Nations.  In the fourteen countries, the British King still hold the status of head of state, for instance, to Canada, Australia, and New Zealand, etc., etc., etc., this showed how the monarchy continued to keep its international symbolism intact after the imperialism had been deconstructed.

King Charles III’s personal experiences reflected the adaptability of the system of the monarchy, he was married to Princess Diana and had two sons; in 1997, Princess Diana’s death in the car crash had then damaged the image of the monarchy.  In 2005, the image was slowly being repaired, the monarchy adjusted itself due to the changes in the values of the society, adjusted its role to the public.  At the start of 2024, Charles was diagnosed with cancer, he’d paused his public duties, but continued working in national affairs, showing the principle of the “monarchy isn’t rule but is serving the people.”

Last December, King Charles publicized the progress of his treatment, and that his cancer had been reduced, described it his own “personal gospel”.  Despite the world still being worried over his health, in April of this year, he’d still gone on his scheduled trip to the U.S., completed the most important diplomatic trip of becoming the King of Great Britain with cancer, showed the spirits of the sense of responsibilities being priority to his own personal health.  The authority of the monarchy had long lost the actual governance, but still played that vital role in the symbol of the nation, connecting the cultures, and the historical storytelling.  This system that continued with the faith, system and the texts of law, is how we come to understand the system of government of Great Britain, and a precious cultural heritage.

So, this is on how the symbolism weighs more heavily than the actual functions of the roles, and that’s what these monarchies in Europe is shifting towards, that the titles of kings and queens are just that, titles, and that the rules of these nations need to change with the times, adjust their roles to their countries, and to the rest of the world too.

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May 4, 2026 · 3:12 am

The Lesson about Stealing & Honesty from the Golden Cocoon I’d Stolen from My Instructor

What you’d learned, was not just the guilt, and the lessons of life too, and you’d learned it at a very young age, and you’d, remembered the lesson, to HEART, because you’d not just taken something away that someone cared dearly, you’d also, killed the living thing, and that’s something you must carry with you for the rest of your, life…translated…

Secretly I’m Glad, that Stealing WAS, a Passage of Life in Coming of Age, & It’d Reminded Me of that, Cocoon…………

November of last year, I’d gone to the theatre to see the film, “Left-Handed Girl”, after the movie, we were both in awe at how the child actress, Yeh made the protagonist, Zi-Chi come to, life.  And yet, what stuck in my throat that I’d wanted to tell my boyfriend was, that even though I wasn’t, left-handed, I’d also, stolen things like the protagonist, Yi-Jing when I was a, child too, with a “devil’s hand” that keeps on doing the evil deeds.

The Weirdest Thing I’d Stolen in My Childhood Years

So, how old was I when I first stolen something?  I actually can’t recall my exact age.  I’m guessing that I must’ve been four, or five, the age when the sense of morality began, forming, because before then, the boundaries of “stealing” didn’t exist yet.  What belonged to me, and what belonged to, others—I’d needed to know how to differentiate, that was when the desires of stealing surface.  The cookies brought by the classmate sitting next to, me, the pastel colored pretty, glowing stationery, school supplies…………the more I knew what wasn’t mine, the more I’d wanted to possess, them.

As I got my hands on the items, what did I do with them?  There was no way I could’ve, openly used what I took that wasn’t, mine, I’d stealthily put what I’d stolen into my pockets, then, the guilty, combined with the anxiety, started, circling around in my, mind: did someone see me just now?  will mom find out?  And so, those “trophies” I’d stolen, can only be placed together, and stored, someplace, unknown to others but, me.

Thinking back, the school supplies, the snacks, the toy bracelets, were probably what the children in the elementary school years stole.  But recalling it now, the weirdest thing I’d ever stolen was, a cocoon.

At roughly about third, or fourth grade, there was an etymology instructor, who’d come every Wednesday to the lectures of the group meetings to teach us on “life science”, taught us the knowledge of living things, sometimes, he’d brough the insects that he was keeping for us to observe.  My mom sat in a couple of times, and thought that he was excellent in instruction, then signed me up for his private courses at his own, home.  Because the teacher kept large numbers of insects, reptiles, going to his house meant I got to see more snakes, turtles, and insects, too, to from time to time, he’d taught us how to make insects into specimen, taking us with our lanterns, out to the mountains to catch the insects ourselves.  But, to prevent us, bratty children from messing things up, he’d disallowed us from going upstairs in his house to his room to observe the living things he’d, kept—thinking back to it now, he was more than reasonable, disallowing us to go.

One time after the lessons, as the other students had all left, only I remained in class.  He saw that I had nothing to do, and, broken his own rules, allowed me to go to the second, third floor of his home, the space where he’d kept his, creatures.  I was curious, looked all around me, the snake aquariums stacked to the ceiling, there’s that air of pungent, excitement in the air————to this very day, I’d already, forgotten what kind of reptile, insects he had there, only remembered that there was a corner reserved for the insects, I saw a really beautiful cocoon I’d never seen, before.  The cocoon glowed of, gold, with the light that moved on it, it’d glowed that golden luster.  Something took over me, as the instructor wasn’t paying attention, I’d, extended my hand, and wrapped my hands around that, cocoon.

illustration from UDN.com

That cocoon was the, weirdest thing I’d ever, stolen, also the time that I’d, regretted the, most too.  Because that cocoon never, became anything else.

I’d observed it day after day, until it’d gone past the time when it was supposed to, break out.  I’d placed it by my window, prayed that the butterfly can come out of it—but, that cocoon started, withering out, drying up, what caused me to steal it, the pretty glow was gone, instantaneously then.

Seeing My Desires in All Honesty

I’d thought that my teacher had kept so many living things, that he wouldn’t note that the cocoon was, missing.  But he had, he’d told my mom, helplessly, that a cocoon of his had been, stolen, that he’d suspected me.  When my mother turned to ask me, I’d, admitted, it.

Right at the moment when the cocoon died, it was that moment of truth, that my stealing it was, a huge, mistake.  Not only because I wasn’t supposed to have my hands on someone else’s belongings, but because I was shocked to realize, that this “thing” I’d stolen, wasn’t just something nonliving, that it was originally a cocoon, with life under my instructor’s, care, and I wasn’t worthier than my instructor to, own, it.  He had hundreds of other living organisms he was looking after, but, this tiny a cocoon being missing, he’d still, noticed it.  And I, even if I had a stolen cocoon, I’d not known how to care for it, couldn’t help it grow inside and break out into its metamorphosed state.

I think, that was the very last time I’d, stolen anything.  My mother took me to the instructor, had me apologized to him, and he’d lightly joked about it, and brushed it all, past.  And up to current times, my mother would still talk about this, complained that I was really a trouble maker for her.  And thinking back, I’m really glad that the instructor found it, otherwise, at the tender age of eleven, I’d had to, withstand the death of a butterfly that’s, trapped in a, cocoon all by my, self, that if he’d not found me out, I would’ve, had to, carry this secret by myself, and not told anyone.

A few days ago, I’d listened to the podcast “The First Choice of Commute of Taiwan”, because the daughter of the host, Cheng-Cheng is at that age of stealing things from her classmates, and the listeners started calling in to tell the host about their own individual experiences of stealing things.

The host told, that what scared him the most, was that sense of loneliness after he’d stolen something.  So as he’d found that his daughter had taken something from a classmate, he’d told her seriously: you know the hairclip wasn’t yours, you will feel nervous.  You will think of it constantly, would someone realize, that this wasn’t, mine?  You won’t dare wear it to school, and can, only place it under your, pillow, worrying that mom and dad will find out.  You will be on edge all day long, because you took something that you loved, that doesn’t, belong to, you.  And maybe, you will come across a situation like this one, but you must remember how you feel at this very moment.

Hearing the words that the host said to his own daughter, I’d felt very glad, that maybe, taking things that aren’t ours is a part of coming of age that’s absolutely, necessary, it’d also reminded me of that, cocoon.

Thinking closely, this was not a memory about stealing, or maybe, it’s more about, honesty instead.  Honestly, I’d seen my own desires, then, I’d, honestly, let it, go—because in some moments of our, lives, we were once, that cocoon that relied solely on someone else, and prayed, that we get to, meet up with someone who’s, honest, who loved us as we metamorphosed, more than their needs to, possess, us.

So, many of these lessons in our lives, we don’t even realize, that we were, learning, or at the moment, when it’d happened, we were still, way too young to understand, to comprehend the meaning of what we were, learning, until when we’re much, much older, and an instant came, and it all came, flying back to us, and then, we realized, what we learned back when we were younger, was for this moment’s time.  That’s how life works sometimes…

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May 2, 2026 · 1:26 am

Parents Who Deceive Their Own Young

How the children will pick up on the adults’ deceiving them, and they will grow up in your lies, and will in turn, LIE to you when you grow old too, because they always MODEL after their adult counterparts’ behaviors and attitudes too…translated…

The Children Learn to Deceive from the Parents at a Very Young, Age………

As I was, sorting through the diaries I’d written during my children’s younger years, I was surprised to see, that I’d recorded how my eldest child, at age five, already knew to question the adults, “are you trying to deceive me?”

The Children Model After the Parents’ Deception by Observing

The English word he’d used, meant both deceiving, and coaxing, and most of it, weren’t about the serious betrayals, or the truths getting turned upside down, that sort of more severe kind of lies, but it all had the state of mind of the adults’ slyness in the way we interact with one another, plus a sort of an add-on kind of dishonesty when we tried brushing him, off.

I believe, that I must’ve written this down, as I saw how my child was growing more intelligent, and becoming adult, and I was, intrigued by him, and I deeply believed, that spending the huge amounts of money to send him to a Montessori preschool was money well-spent, and I’d not thought much about the rest.

For the children of that age, the way we parents can, fool our kids, were mostly on fooling them to eat the foods we believe would give them the nutrition they needed but they’d disliked, not wanting our kids to become picky eaters; reminding, to warning them of what sorts of behaviors, and situations might be, dangerous, not wanted them to get hurt.  For the parents, we’d used all we got, to coax, to educate, to socialize our young, and ultimately, we only set sight on the results and disregarded the processes, and being evasive became nothing more than a means to an, end.

illustration from UDN.com

Actually, when kids are quite young, they’d learned the many ways of deceptions from the adults.  These means may seem harmless at first, but as they accumulated, it may become misleading.  Especially as our children grew older, and can tell the difference between our tones of voice, detect our motives, then the evasive means we used stopped being about “you should eat your vegetables”, these smaller matters of their, lives.  It may switch into, “just follow instructions, stop asking so much questions”, or, “you will understand when you’re older”, to a sort of the authoritarian adults’ ways of not explaining things to the children, using delayed gratification as the way we can, coax our young.

From the angle of language usage, what this attitude duplicates is not the contents of what we’d told the children, but how we used this attitude.

When the children learned that languages are being used in exchange for compliance, omitting the explanations to delaying the conflicts, they will interpret it as: the words I say don’t need to be factual, so long as I get what I needed.

Deception Should Not be Use as a Coping Mechanism

Even later, they will use similar manipulations in other areas, realms of their, lives—the adults’ perfunctory means of the systems they live under, the flexibilities of adults’ following the rules, the going back on their promises; the ambiguous ways the teachers spoke to us, the magnified effect of the advertisements, and all the policy proposals in society that’s everywhere.  All of these, scattered experiences, combined with what the children learned of how the adults had used the evasive means to socialize them, can respond to each other, and slowly set up the understanding of “this is how the world works”.

And the adults simply don’t stop being evasive because the kids are older now, and harder to fool.  Unfortunately, there are the parents whom, with their children are growing more mature, who’d stopped deceiving their young.

The effects of being evasive, won’t vanish on their own with our coming of age, but they would change in forms: from the coaxing of the childhood years, turned into the flexible explanations for promises failed to, keep, the words when we can’t fulfill our responsibilities for some things, along with avoidance in issue in our relationships.  All of these, seemingly smart ways of handling, it’s actually, and extension of the same logic in deceiving those around us with the words.

a child getting caught for lying! Photo from online

We all have the chances, to change this behavior at any given time, to not allow being evasive to turn into how we interact with our external environment.  Or, at least, we shouldn’t mislead our children into believing, that being evasive should get used as a tool.  Because, the coming-lately corrections of their behaviors will boomerang, back to us, the adults who are, parents to the children.

You will see, that the grown children will soon, deceive their aging parents, just as the parents had deceived the when they were, young.

And so, this is how something we think would be harmless, like those, little white lies, snowball, into something MAJOR, because this IS accumulated, and because we adults believe that it’s no big deal, that we don’t tell our young the truths, we think we can get away with it, but ultimately, this bullshit we used on our young, will boomerang back towards us, and it will be with a lot more strengths, forces compared to when we began bullshitting our own young on the smaller stuff.

So, do NOT lie to your children, because they would know it, and children are still, WAY more intelligent than all you, STUPID adults, COMBINED!

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April 19, 2026 · 2:58 am

Someone to Hike Beside Me Whom I Can Share a Deeper Conversation, with

The quality of connections we’d found, became way more, important to us after we passed a certain, age…translated…

It’s just, that the Older I Got, the More Clear it’d Become, that Casual Conversations are Different than, Heart-to-Heart…………

I’d been hiking for a long time, and I’d aged too, and only begun to understand, that someplace, seemingly very populated, but these places don’t connect people in the hearts to, one another.

Casual Conversations is Different that Connecting on a Deeper, Level

I’d gone hiking daily, before light came, there’s that coldness of the humidity in the, air.  The entrance of the trail was already, populated, men, women, similar in age, and there were, a few, especially, young faces among them too.  Some were stretching out, some, adjusted their hiking canes, some panted, and complained of how s/he’d not gotten a good night’s sleep the previous night.  The good mornings, hellos came here and there, seemingly, connected, but it was always, very, superficial.

I was, among the crowd, nodding, smiling, responding back, all that needed to be said, I’d said them, all.  How’s the weather, which passage of which road is under construction of late, which hospital had the best doctors……………all of these, conversations, like the road signs by the hiking trails, clear, safe, no matter where we turn, we can’t and won’t, get, lost.

It’s just, the older I got, the clearer it’d become to me, that casual conversations and real genuine connection with someone, isn’t, the, same.

The higher we climbed, the line lingered on longer.  Some were going at a very fast pace, some, slower; some would chit chat while climbing the trails, some had the earphones, on, quarantining oneself away from the outside, world. I’m used to hike along toward the bottom half of the, line, not fighting to go ahead, not fallen, behind either.  This is a perfect position for me, I can hear the voices of, others, but without the need to, chime into others’, conversations.

People are very welcoming, but there are rarely those who would stop and wait.  Once the subjects of discussions got too close to the hearts, there would be the diversions used.  Some joked to divert, some paced faster, and there were also those who’d, started discussing what brand of knee braces is best for use.  It was like so long as we don’t prod any further in, we won’t be held, responsible.

illustration from UDN.com

It wasn’t that I’d not tried.

Once as I got to halfway up the mountains, the green covered us, my casual, “coming out to hike now, it’s not solely for the exercising, it’s just that I don’t want to lock myself in my own, home.”, I’d used a noncomplaint tone, nor with the expectations of needing a response from anyone, else.

But those ahead of me didn’t turn around, nor responded back, just kept hiking upward.  Their footsteps stayed steady, and firm, quickly, the group left my line, right where I’d, blurted it, out.  Those from behind, or around me, nobody responded either, no one pressed on, and my words became, nothing more than the echoes of the wind.

I’d, paused a bit, then, continued forward.  At that very moment, I’d come to realize, that some words, it’s not that they shouldn’t be blurted aloud, but even if they’d gotten out, nobody listened to them.

The Friendships that Came in Our Later Years, We’d Not Demanded that They, Last

Later, I’d learned to, disclose only, a little, bit.  No longer was I, too eager to share, nor expected anyone to understand me.  If we can carry on in conversations, we do it, and if we can’t, we, smile at each other then, let one another, pass.  And, as I’d hiked longer, I’d come to the realizations, that being reserved, is a sort of understanding shown to, others, also to, oneself.

The seasonal changes are, especially apparent in the, mountains, the fogs would cover the trails completely in springtime, the cicadas sounded so very loud in the summers, the winds of autumn, with that wakeness of the crisp of the, air, the chilly winters, fitted better for the slower paced hike.  At my age, I’d stopped, pursuing speed, only steadiness, one foot in front of the other, adjusting my breathing, and, smoothing over my, emotions.

Those whom we can get intimate with, are normally, coming late.  It’s not those with whom we hit it off with the very first meet up, but those who would, pause a bit, and thought of what to respond, after I’d told them, something, those who aren’t rushed to reply, but with the willingness to, listen, and to chew over what I’d, told, them.

Once as I was heading downhill, I’d slowed my paces down on purpose, and naturally, those who are behind me, slowed, too.  The two of us walked together, shoulder-to-shoulder for a short while, without much to say, except for the small talks in the directionality of the windows of our, homes, what we each did regularly in the afternoons.  The conversation wasn’t deep, but it was, genuine.  Before we parted, the individual asked, “same time next time?”

We’d met again a week, later, he’d remembered me mentioning my atrophied knee cap, and reminded me that a small part of the trail may be damp and slippery.  And, at that very moment, I’d felt, that long-awaited feel of, comfort—not from the feelings of being, needed, but, being, remembered.

So, the friendships in our elderly years, we need to travel with each other all the way, but only for a short passage.  No need to see each other regularly, no need to share all in conversations.  So long as knowing, that when we slow down, the individual wouldn’t criticize you for it; and when you say something more heartfelt, the person wouldn’t try to, redirect the conversations.

without any need to, establish a, more intimate connection with anyone…photo from online

The mountains are still here, so are the, hiking, trails.  I’d stopped, intentionally walked with anyone, nor forced myself to act passionate to connect.  Someone there with me, I’d chatted with the individual, without people around, I can, also, be comfortable, hiking by my, self too, to finish the rest of the hike.

Life is not about being in the crowds, but to know, who is, worthy for us, to slow our paces down, for.  And if we’re lucky to meet, then, we shall, cherish the part of roads we get to, travel with each other; if not, no need to feel, disappointed.  Because, as we walked onward, the focus isn’t on how many had walked with you, but who had, slowed their, paces down for, you.

So, this is on, the quality instead of the quantity, maybe, when we were younger, we cared too much about the number of those whom we can, connect with, to interact, socialized, with, but as we grew older, we settled ourselves down, and the center of our friendships, connections now revolved around whom we can share things with, how deeply we can, or cannot connect with someone else.  We shifted from quantity to, quality of social interactions as we reached a certain, age in our, lives.

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April 15, 2026 · 2:57 am

My Daughter’s Orderly Mess, a Lesson of Letting Go I was Forced to, Learn

The mother finally realized, that her “for your own good” doesn’t, benefit her young, and stopped doing what SHE believes is good for her daughter, and let her daughter handle her own life!  Translated…

My daughter is a stereotypical engineering major, she’s now in her doctoral program, and yet, her bedroom was, too messy.  The books, clothes, and other objects, items, set in her own, orderly, mess, and I just, couldn’t understand the logic behind this, so-called order of, hers.

In the past, I’d still gone to her place, to help her clean up, and of course, I’d had to get her, consent first.  The suite she now lives in, was originally my husband’s, studio for work, later, we’d allowed her to live independently there.  Every time before I was to go, I’d always told myself, just pick up the mess in the general sense, don’t go into the detail cleaning, and yet, as I’d entered into the apartment, I’d always, started from the floors in the living room, the bedroom, the kitchen, from the tabletops to the, floor, to the point my back ached, my legs were, completely, numbed out.

the parent sees this…photo from online

I’d read awhile back of the YouTuber blogger, QQmei on FB, shared her understanding of her kids’ ways of, life, she didn’t talk about education to her audience, but on how the parents should, take a step, back from the kids’, lives.  That post of hers, it’d, made me, halt, and I’d, thought about it a long, long, time, and it’d, made me, review over the things I’d done repeatedly up to the, point.

Actually, I saw the problems.  That every time it took a lot out of me, to tidy up my daughter’s apartment, then, she’d returned it back to its, originally, unkempt, state shortly thereafter.  More importantly, I’d slowly come to understand, that my daughter didn’t need her living environment to be that tidy, nor did she need the living space of hers to be, completely, dustless.  That was my standards, and maybe, she didn’t take it as, hers too.

This understanding, it’d not just made me feel loss, but also, a reality I can’t avoid any longer.  All this time, I’d been doing all of this “for her own good”, she may see it as me, meddling into her, life.

And so, I’d learned to, back up.  We live in our, separate, spaces, we don’t see one another often as is, then, I shall, ignore all the mess I see then.  Otherwise, I’d driven a long, time to go see her, spent all my energies in  cleaning up for her, and, I’d only gained the temporary cleanliness, and the repeated feelings of, my own, defeat, it’s too, meaningless.

And slowly, I’d realized, that I’m the one who’s, overly, anxious.  She’s the one living in that space, she can accept living like that, and it’d not, interfered with her work, her studies, or her plans of life.  Looking now at me, I kept on, not being able to let go of the sense of my responsibilities of “the duties of a mother is to set things up completely for my young”.

And still, the kids will eventually grow up.  They will, eventually, take responsibility for their own, lives, if the parents still clung on to them too tightly, it will only, burden both sides.

and she’d felt compelled to do this…photo from online

Letting go isn’t not caring completely, but to admit to ourselves, that our child’s life, is hers to, shoulder, her, responsibilities to live.

This for me, is a lesson in parenting that came at the right, timing.  Learning to respect my daughter for her choices in life, and also, giving the me, that feels too anxious all the time, worrying about my daughter too.

And so, this is this mother’s, finally, allowing her daughter to grow independent psychologically from her, in realizing, that hey, maybe my daughter’s mess IS her order for her, and if I kept on picking up her mess (b/c it looked messy to me!), I’m only doing what I THINK is good for her, without actually asking, hey, am I doing what’s benefiting to you kid?  And with that, this woman stopped, slaving herself away, in cleaning up her own daughter’s, orderly mess, because she realized that hey, her daughter’s mess (perceived by her subjectively) IS order to her daughter in her daughter’s, life.

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April 4, 2026 · 4:24 am

Trump’s Insistence on Invading Iran, Speeding up the Decline of the U.S.

The fall of America, the rise of China, and yet, the FUCKING DDP still, sucks up to its MASTER, Uncle Sam, with the rest of the world, now realizing, that the DST (no longer the U.S.A.) is totally, UN-reliable as an ally here!  How the ideologies will, kills us, ALL here!  Off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

Trump made a speech on the Iranian War, that the U.S. is expected to destroy Iran in two, three weeks’, time, that if Iran doesn’t agree to the truce, then the U.S. will air-raid Tehran’s electrical plants, and put Iran back into the Stone Ages; to respond, Iran immediately fired the missiles on Israel, and stated that it will start a destructive attack on the U.S.

Trump told, that the U.S. military had accomplished all the core tactical goals, but started air-raiding Iran again; if victory had been announced, and the air-raiding, bombings resumed, this is, illogical and ambiguous.  Trump had evaded taking responsibilities for his starting the war in the Middle East, causing the rising costs of fuel, and inflation, and blamed the rest of the world for it, this is, a classic America first, also reflected on Trump’s neglecting of the moral responsibilities, centering only on himself, the realism.

a new world order, that takes America OUT of the “equation” here…video from YouTube

Will China Replace America In Global Leadership? | Insight – YouTube

Trump’s original estimate, after he destroyed Venezuela, he will take down Iran, the three countries made up for thirty-percent of world’s total crude oil production, with the total reserves of more than thirty-percent each, all ranked top in the world, U.S. would have the right to list the selling prices for oil for the whole world, and become a major crude oil empire of two hundred fifty years of U.S. history.  In the Trump-Xi Conference coming up, he will be able to talk of what America wants from China arrogantly then.  And now, the Iranian war is stagnant, the U.S. is stuck, he’d miscalculated, and, the Trump-Xi Conference would go the, opposite direction.  The U.S. proposed 301 inquiries, China counterattacks with the rare earth metals, said that China wants world peace, that it won’t sell the rare earth metal resources to the U.S. to make the weapons and ammunitions; U.S. only canceled 301 sanctions toward China, lowered the tariffs, after all, without the weapons supplied, the wars between U.S. and Iran, the Russo-Ukrainian Wars can’t continue on.  And, the Trump-Xi Conference will also set a fourth requirement of U.S. against Taiwanese independence, supportive of the unification of the two sides of the Taiwanese Strait as a fourth agreement.

Trump is too shortsighted, can’t see the complexities of global issues clearly, he doesn’t listen to the advices of his chiefs of staff either, he has his mind set on using an iron fist to rule this world, destroying world order.  He only does what he wants, and, if things go his way, he would call the Iranian War “fun”, and if things don’t go his way, he would then, blame his vice president, Vance, for not getting a fitting agreement with Iran.

As Trump began war with Iran, China and Russia didn’t get sidelined, they saw that the world still has its security to consider, and saw an opportunity.  Due to the rising costs in crude oil, Russia’s treasury had gained more money, which gave it more it needed to continue to attack Ukraine; China also took this time to refuel its battle strategic reserves, fully engaging in developing in the renewable energies of wind energies, hydro powered energies, solar energies, and imported in more foreign oil reserves to ensure that the country would have enough for six months.  Xi and Putin now, watched what Trump does to Iran, and learn, like Napoleon told, “When your enemies made an error, do not interrupt him.”  The Chinese merchants are also studying the impacts of the powerplants in the Middle East in the fires of war, they estimated: that the Iranian War won’t last for long, and by the time U.S. retreats, it would be the time when they go into the Middle East to get the work orders for rebuilding the countries that had been impacted in the war U.S. started with Iran.

The Iranian-American War told the world, that the cores of economy of a country lies in the energies, with the military and economy built upon the physical resources.  Crude oil, rare earth metal, chips are the industries’ lifelines, U.S. is already a huge country with a ton of energy reserves, and it still robs the crude oil resources in Venezuela and Iran too; China will fight U.S. with the rare earth metal resources.  Other than the rare earth metals, there are many of the rare metals that are necessities to the high tech and green energy developments, and, all of the countries that produces these things, all tried to merge forces with China tactically too, to set up a “rare earth metal league of nations” to combat the U.S. together.

China’s strategy in countering Trump and the U.S., off of YouTube

How China Plays the Long Game Against Trump – YouTube

The United States is now marching down the path of Nineteenth Century Great Britain, bullying Iran with its world power status, which will speed up the decline of the U.S., with the countries in the world, just standing by and watching, see how the country, will fall.  So, why would Taiwan need to clench on tightly to a country that’s, slowly atrophying?  Treating a country that’s growing stronger by the day, like an enemy from without, how foolish Taiwan, is!

So, this is, how the blindness of the leader of a country, kills off the country’s competitive edge, and how blindly following the leader, leads us, nowhere, and yet, this is what’s currently happening, because the TWO cults one in the D.S.T. (no longer the U.S.A. remember???), one in this SHITHOLE, are still going down that dead-end road off of a cliff, and both are, speeding faster and faster, as they “drive” toward the abyss, and it will be, a long way down, to a painful DEATH for both!

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March 31, 2026 · 4:28 am

Other than Pulling the Plugs on the War on Iran, Trump Has No Way of Getting the U.S. Out of Troubles

How Trump’s way of doing things can, be a BAD example for this FUCKING SHITHOLE, that the DDP DICTATOR should BE taking example from, but he still, doesn’t, which in turn, ruins the entire some 23.89 million population on this SHITHOLE here…off of the Front Page Sections, translated…

The American-Iranian War had gone on for over a month to date, the U.S. and Israel seemed to be controlling the war, but they can’t achieve any real victory.  Especially, the war spilling out had caused the rise in prices of crude oil, shortages in chemical fertilizers, the costs of energies, costs of living to rise too fast, causing the instability of global economy, now the world’s countries are starting to, feel upset.  Trump is now, stuck between a rock and a hard place, other than ending the war, there may not be a, better way to escape; and he still has to find a way for himself to step down, gracefully.

As the war started, Israel continued assassinating the higher up commanders of military of Iran, air-raiding the major power facilities, but the various local military bases in Iran continued to defend themselves autonomously, and not sunk into the chaos that the Israeli attacks intend to cause.  The U.S. declared that the Iranian Navy had been completely destroyed, but the IRGC had, effectively, locked down the Strait of Hormuz, to date, there’d been twenty cargo ships, oil rigs getting bombed, with the global energy transport, stuck in a dead halt.  And, Trump declared that he had, destroyed the nuclear capabilities in Iran, the missiles too, but the rest of the world doesn’t see that the ground missile systems getting destroyed.  Reuters quoted American intelligence, that the U.S. is only certain that it can destroy only a-third of the Iranian massive missile reserves.

This is not a war that the U.S. can afford to fight.  Even for a country like the U.S., with the surpluses of resources, but a nine billion dollars U.S. per week in military costs, will only worsen the national debts of the U.S.  The Department of War under Trump already demanded the Congress to allocate an emergency military funds in $200 billion, but the Congress’s against it is rising up.  The more the situation is at a standstill, the less beneficial it is to the U.S., it’s no wonder that someone had compared to this war to the Vietnam War.  Trump is hurry to wash his hands of war, but no matter how he’d claimed that U.S. had won, or in his attempt to divert public attention, the realities of the war updating on a minute-to-minute basis pulled him back into the mess.

Currently, the entire world is complaining about how Trump had caused the crises in rising costs in living needs, and the rising costs of energy.  The U.S. isn’t short on crude oil supplies, but the oil refineries in the U.S. had come under fire, which caused the prices of gas to rise.  And Iran being the second largest urea export country, close to half of the food supply chains’ needs of fertilizers is exported through the Strait of Hormuz.  With the Northern Hemisphere about to enter its spring planting season, if the supplies of fertilizers is on shortage, it will cause a global food crisis.

The Iranian retaliation on the countries in the Persian Gulf, the American military bases, also caused an unexpected impact on the financial markets.  In the past, the Persian Gulf Countries had gained the surpluses in the sales of oils, which they’d invested into the American high-tech, bond and stock markets, which helped in getting the U.S. its prosperity.  And now, the oil producing countries in the Persian Gulf, the fundamental facilities are being destroyed in the war, the funds that originally went to the American stocks and bonds markets will not get pulled back, to help rebuild the countries in the Middle East; the markets worried that this may cause a chain reaction, causing the economic bubbles in the A.I. industry.

from just a week ago, from EXPERTS, off of YouTube, and yes, the link works.

Has Trump ‘CHICKENED OUT’ on Iran ultimatum – experts explain – YouTube

Trump may not care about the energy crises of the other countries in the world, or the people’s sufferings, but he can’t ignore the stock markets crashing, and how the people in the U.S. feel.  The most recent polls showed, many of the Americans blamed Trump for the economical difficulties that they’re face, and surely, the Republicans are expected to suffer huge losses in the mid-terms elections; and Trump can’t ignore this.  To lower the cost of oil price internationally, other than lifting the sanction on oils from Russia, he’d also allowed 140 million kegs of oil from Iran into the U.S. market.  The former action, upset the European allies of the U.S.’s; the latter, was, self-contradictory, because Trump had, TACO-ed, again.

The rock and the hard place Trump is faced with right now is, if the U.S. entered into negotiation with Iran, continued to allow Iran to control the Strait of Hormuz, it would be a destructive hit to the credibility and deterrence of the U.S.  But, if the U.S. Military is to take the Strait of Hormuz, it would need to, implement the use of armed battleships to escort the cargo ships across the Strait of Hormuz, with a total of eight thousand soldiers in three Marine Corps Special Operations Command and Airborne Division, the U.S. couldn’t complete this mission.  And so, the U.S. resorted to boasting itself in words, stating that it may increase 10,000 more military servicepersons, with the goals of, pressuring Iran to back off.

And if Iran continues to stand firm, Trump may be deadlocked in the situation; reason being, if the wars on land is to be fought, it may turn Iran into the next Afghanistan and Iraq, sinking the U.S. into the abyss of, war.  If U.S. watches Iran charge the ships a passage fee, and the countries in the world all started, begging Iran to get the passage fees waived or reduced, it would completely destroy U.S.’s dignity.   Iran has the foundations of Persian civilizations, it’s not Venezuela or Cuba, and it’s expected that Iran will fight until the very end.  There’s no chance of U.S. winning whether it be by the land operations, or if U.S. expand the military forces.  Other than swallowing his own pride, to admit defeat, there is, no other way out for Trump in this, war.

On the terms of international politics, the U.S.-Iranian War is a global catastrophe.  Whether it be inflation, energy crises, to the crises of food or energy, the fazing out of A.I., every one of these will be severely, impacted.  But, the government of Lai only proposed to restart the nuclear powered energies, and not have a plan to tackle the rest of the impacts brought on by the U.S.-Iranian War, clearly, the president is still, underestimating the impacts of things.

and THIS, is what’s reigning OVER the D.S.T. right now! Photo from online, and it’s still NOT served by Taco Bell either!!!

And so, here we have, the Taiwanese president’s, marching to the same drums as our “daddy”, and, despite the REAL LIFE lesson by Trump playing in the international realm, the DDP president still keeps going down this path that he wants to go down, he’s not just putting the ENTIRE island in danger (of food shortages, of ENERGY crises, not to mention how the DDP already SOLD TMSC out to the D.S.T. already!), and, eventually, this SHITHOLE will become a complete WASTELAND, where NO humans can live, because all of us on this FUCKING island would’ve, EVOLVED and GROWN fish lungs so we can breathe under water, to SURVIVE the ATTACKS…uh yeah right, get real here!

And you DO realize, that this is, one MORE precedence of the WORLD that’s playing out RIGHT in front of our (the “collective” I mean!) eyes, that we still don’t take heed over, right???

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March 27, 2026 · 2:47 am

The Mistakes of Sharing Intimate Details of Life with a Casual Acquaintance

The lessons in the art of, communication here, that’s learned, the HARD way, because you’d, offended a friend of yours, with your, bluntness, because you failed to, consider her, perspectives, first…translated…

Language is the tools we used to communicate with one another, like the bowls and plates for placing the foods, in, the bowls used in the soups, the plates, for the sides and entrées, depending on the depth or shallowness of the tools; it’s like this between people too, those whom we’re only acquainted with, we don’t feel fitting, pouring our hearts, out, because you have yet to understand the other individual’s personality traits, so we only needed to maintain the general courtesies of nodding to acknowledge and to smile; and when we meet those with whom we are, completely opposites of in our, values, it’s also fitting, that we don’t, say too, much, because we’re not on the same, page, to avoid getting ourselves into, too much, troubles.

That day, my friend came to me, complained angrily, “yesterday I’d gone out for coffee with a best friend, there was an unwelcomed guest, I didn’t know her, only knew that she was a foreign woman from my same country who’d married to, Taiwan.  It was the very first time we ever met, and she’d begun, prodding into how I was doing here?  It’d upset me so.  I kept thinking, do I look really poor?  Although my husband died earlier on, but I do make my own set pay, I’d saved money, and purchased a home already, how can I be, barely, making, it?  And, other than with her husband still with her, how can she possibly, compare to, me?”

Actually, what she took to be offensive, sounded to me like the casual greetings of strangers, and for those who shared the similar backgrounds of marrying abroad, living away from one’s own hometown, it’s no big deal that others may show care or concern for our living situation, there’s no fakeness in that, so how come my friend was furious?  I, being simpleminded, couldn’t, figure it out, alter, I’d told my husband about this, he’d pointed out, that this was due to the faults of “depth of, connections”.

Think on it, for someone you’d first met, you’d, hurried to ask about the details of the individual’s life, like you were, peeping into her/his private life, it would, make us, upset; especially for a widow, this is, a deadly, negative.  She had already lost someone she’d, relied, on, shouldered the burdens of the family’s economics all by her, self already, how can someone still, doubt, her?

On those whom we’d met for the, very first time, or those whom we aren’t, very acquainted, with, it would be justified, if we greeted one another using the casual greetings, besides, when the individual didn’t answer, that meant, that s/he may not want to, talk about, it, is there a need, for us to, keep on, prodding?  I’d also, broken this rule of thumb in relating to someone I’m not, familiar with, toward an acquaintance in my interest group, with the careless show of concern, I’d, stepped on her, toes, she’d seen me as, a peeping tom into her, private, life then, and she never gave me another chance to, explain my intention wasn’t like that to her again; I’d, introspected, and realized, that I’d, made the mistakes of, prodding into the lives of, a casual, acquaintance too.

Conversations are a form of, art, but it’s something that must be, learned for us all.  In The Dreams of the Red Mansion by the Chinese author, Tsao, he’d used the dialogues of the characters, to show how close or distant the characters are to each other in relations, by reading, we could learn a lot about the skills of, communicating with, others well; the plot that stayed with me was, as the elderly, Liu entered into the big city gardens, and asked to borrow money, to ask for some pieces of silver so she could be okay through the year, in the eyes of Mrs. Wang, the woman in charge of the Jia household, she knew why the elderly came.  But Wang said to the elder, “Thank you, ma’am for not forgetting our family, to come and connect with us from so far, far, away, you’d, placed us all on that, high pedestal…”, she’d not only, pressed down her own status quo, and had, the kindness of, elevate that stature of the elderly who came to, ask for money, gave the elderly enough stature, what a well-socialized, character she, is.

Even if we can’t be with the character’s sort of foundation of “rich but not proud, poor but not inferior, still, we should be able to, differentiate the differences of level of connection we have with all whom we interact, with, to know who we’re, interacting with, and not get into, trouble for saying the, wrong, things.

So, this is, all on the art of, expression, how we must, watch what we say to another, even IF we are, of a better standing than the individual, we still should, help them keep their, dignities, intact, because, we would NOT want to feel demeaned, when we’re, down and out, do we?  So, have some, empathy, and don’t be, too, blunt about it.

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March 16, 2026 · 10:16 am

Until We Knew, Better…

Everything is, dreamy, until we knew, better…

Everything is true, until we knew, better…

That’s how it goes, isn’t it?  I mean, we’d been, LIED to since we were young children, remember how our parents told us, that the Easter Bunny or Santa Claus exists, and how we feel, so disappointed (or not!), when we realized, that they, don’t?

Until we knew, better, we’re always, living in the, dark, I mean, other than, not having any light we can see with, it’s not, that bad…I mean, humans only “invented” fire (and that was, a total, FLUKE, wasn’t it???) from, a couple of, 10,000 BCs, ago, right?

Until we knew, better, but we never, know better, we’re, just about, the DUMBEST species on this god damn planet, I mean, DOGS can learn, with a little, implementing of, punishment, and yet, what do we learn, from doing something bad?  OUCH, we get spanked, then, over our heads, forgotten…

So you see, we will, NEVER know, better, ‘cuz we are a species that needed to constantly, repeat the mistakes of others (b/c we don’t know just how HOT that fire gets, until we get burned ourselves???), where as if you spank a dog that peed on the rug in front of another dog, I’m more than certain, that the other dog would NOT pee on the rug, because it doesn’t want to get SPANKED like its, “buddy”.

Until we knew better, but do we?  As a species, are we really, intelligent enough, to KNOW what’s good AND bad for us?  I mean, look AT this god damn planet with all these messes, how many of the most awful things in this world, aren’t caused by man?  Global warming, that’s caused by us humans, how much CO2 emission would a carnivorous animal (like a LION???) make, very little, and how much CO2 emissions do those, chimneys cranking out the, toxic chemicals, and smokes?

Until we knew, better, but unfortunately, we never know better, otherwise, this FUCKING(so???) planet, wouldn’t be in ITS, conditions, with all FOUR of the Horsemen of the Apocalypse (see, I CAN get, “biblical” too!) takes over the planet, oh wait, the four horsemen had already been, “present” on earth, for only a little SHORTER than we man had been, around…

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