Duty & Desire by Anju Gattani

Sheetal Prasad is a beautiful young Indian woman who is in love with a man that is considered below her means.  Her heart was broken by the man she loved when he chose money over her.  Her father has already made arrangements for her to marry Sanjeet Dhanraj.  Sanjeet is a highly respectable business man but his family has many secrets.   The backdrop begins with Sheetal getting ready for her wedding which her family has spent a great deal of money on.  The elaborate Indian wedding is one that is the talk of the town and her father has put up a huge dowry for her to wed Sanjeet Dhanraj.  Sheetal moves in with Sanjeet after they are married and amazed at the amount of secrets and deceptions that are kept.  With a husband who begins to play mind games and a Mother in Law who is determined to control every aspect of Sheetal’s life; Sheetal finds comfort in the only thing she knows her paintings.  She is beginning to learn that there is something seriously wrong in the Dhanraj household things that her Mother-in-Law wants to hide.  Force by his step-mother to start showing Sheetal some attention he begins to fall in love with her against his own will.

Anju describes in great detail Sheetal’s wedding and the details that are involved in an Indian wedding.  This was an outstanding book.  One that demonstrates how women choose between duties doing what is expectant of her and desire what she believes is right for her.  At times Sheetal’s duty and desire intertwine but still in her own right becoming the modern day Indian woman.

I highly recommend this book.  It is a great read that goes into the elaborate planning of Indian weddings; but most importantly a woman’s choice between Duty and Desire.

Have you ever had to choose between Duty and Desire?

Duty and Desire

Tis The Season

I love the holidays!  It is my favorite time of the year; the food, clothes, smell, music and the atmosphere.  Growing up my mom always made this time of the year special.  This would be the only time of the year where she would cook or shall I say bake.  So I think that is the reason why I love baking so much.  She made it an event of putting up the Tree or acting like she saw Santa in the sky on Christmas Eve.  She played the music and made sure I had my favorite songs playing.  Of course at that time it was all about the presents and my parents did not disappoint.  But it was also about family.  I enjoyed waking up at home on Christmas and later that day making the rounds to my relative’s houses.  I am from a small town in Alabama called Oxford and nothing is less than 10 minutes from your house; so making the rounds wasn’t hectic.  So in honor of my mom I will be baking a different recipe each week.

My mom does not bake a lot anymore she has actually started cooking more especially when my kids go home.  But I would like to start some similar traditions with my own children.  Plus my kids love to cook and they will enjoy this challenge.

So for this week I will do two recipes a Honey Bun Cake and a Lemon Pound Cake because I didn’t start last week.  I will post the recipe and pictures of the joy and excitement of my kiddies.  Since I have a 4 and 7 year old things can be a bit messy but hey that’s the joy of it all.

What were some of your favorite holiday memories and recipes?

Till next time find your haven and dream!!

Picture of Amiri’s and Kali’s first Xmas together!  Gotta find an more updated pic!

So Sorry

OMG I am sooooo sorry!  I haven’t been blogging like I should have.  I have really been thinking about changing some things on my site.  Starting Monday I will be more focused and dedicated.  A great friend of mine told me about an editorial calendar that I will be doing to help me focus more.  I have my motivation back and my focus on track.  I will be talking about more things but the blog will still be about what I love the most BOOKS!!  So I hope you all are excited because I am and can not wait to get this journey started.

 

Harlem Girl Lost

I have really been slacking on reading these last couple of months.  Normally I would have read around 3 to 4 books by now.  I have also been slacking on blogging as well.  So please forgive me; I promise I will TRY to do better.  😉

Around a year ago I started reading books by Treasure Blue and the first book I read by him is titled Harlem Girl Lost.  When I say I finished the book in a day I am not lying.  The book was awesome.  The books story is based in Harlem (hence the name) about a young girl name Silver Jones.  Silver’s life has not been easy.  She has had to overcome obstacles’ that not many people have to go through; from a mother who is a prostitute to staying with a drag queen from being beaten by her grandmother.  The story line is simply magnificent.  This book touched me because I have a daughter and my greatest wish is that she will grow up and do great things.  My daughter’s life is nothing like Silver’s life but the rules that Silver’s mother taught her is something that I teach my daughter.  I appreciate Treasure’s honesty in his writing.  The book is not a light read meaning a lot of things happened in Silver’s life and the choices that she makes will either have her living her dreams or going down the wrong path.

Do I recommend this book?  Yes I do.

Will everyone enjoy it?  No Why because some individuals cannot handle harsh lifestyles.

*Disclaimer: I purchased this book and all opinions stated in this review are my own.

Sitting & Waiting

I was talking to a friend the other day and we got on the topic of me being a stay at home mom and do I enjoy it?  My answer was yes and no.  Yes because it allows me to a more focused mommy and wife.  I am able to get things done that normally would have to wait until the weekend to get done.  Now the weekend are reserved for family time.  No because I have always dreamed of having this amazing career outside of my home.  My problem is that I need my perfect career.

However doing these last couple of month I have realized that I need to do some serious soul searching and praying.  I really want a fulfilling life and to be able to enjoy it with my hubby and kids.  The question is what am I willing to sacrifice; is it the quality time with my kids or time establishing a career that may take away time from my kids.  I do know that financial security is important and sometimes I feel kinda guilty not working while hubby is working like crazy outside of the home.

I feel like God really has a plan for my life.  He allowed me something that I was scared I was going to miss out on which is my daughter’s first day of school.  I just knew I wasn’t going to be there because of the schedule I was working, but I was there watching her walk through the doors like a big girl and turn around and tell me bye and I will see you later.  But through it all God has truly been soooo good to me.  I thank him for the many blessings that he has bestowed upon my family and me.  I canno wait to see the plan he has for my life.

Until next time find your haven and dream your dreams.

 

Random Day

Hey there!  I am on a roll two posts within two days.  Go me!!!!  So this morning after I dropped everyone off meaning kiddies and hubby I stopped at Wal-Mart.  Why did I do that I don’t ever walk out of there with just what I went in there for.  Anyway I have wanted a spinach omelet with parmesan cheese for the longest so I decided that is what I was going to make myself for breakfast.  Like I said I went in there with the intentions of only getting some spinach and parmesan and walked out of there with other stuff.  Any hoo I got home and started making my breakfast which was very yummy.  Sorry I was soooo hungry I didn’t think to take pictures of it.  But trust me it was good and it hit the spot.

So after I ate my breakfast I have been on this mission to wash up all the laundry in the house which seems so impossible.  But I started reading and what am I reading you ask The Hunger Games by Suzanne Collins.  So far so good I must say!  I will be posting my next review very soon on Harlem Girl Lost by this magnificent author Treasure Blue.   Alrighty I must get going.

Till Next Time Happy Reading and Eating!

 

End of the week

So this has been one busy week.  I have been registering my kiddies for school and trying to prepare my son for the big change.  A NEW school!!  He has been at the same school since he was three years old and now he is 7 in the 2nd grade and changing schools.  Too be honest I was nervous about it and didn’t want to change him.  I don’t like change.  I like stability which is my comfort zone.  However; I don’t want my bad habit to rub off on my son by not being able to handle change well.  So my hubby and I moved forward with it and changed schools.  Another big change for me is my baby girl is going to school OMG she is starting school.  It’s like I knew this day was coming but it’s here and now it seems like it came to fast.

Besides getting the kiddies ready for school I have been researching Telecommuting Jobs where I can work from home.  I really would like to be able to participate in my kids activities especially since this is a first for both of them and I want to make sure that everyone is going to do what is expected of them (kids and teachers).

So this weekend the kids are off to their grandparents and I am trying to make sure everything is organized for next week and I really don’t feel like slaving over the stove but I found some turkey fillets on sale and decided to cook them with some rice and peas.  I must say it was delicious.  It didn’t take too long to cook and it was healthy also (accept for the white rice shhh).

So all in all this has been a very productive week and I cannot wait until Monday. 🙂