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PROXIMITY IS POWER

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At the risk of being even more thoroughly despised, if that is possible, I will give away yet another female secret and tactic that I have discovered with my psycholinguistic models.  Women use their female communication rituals to control, influence, and manipulate proximity with shaming and guilting rituals, casting aspersions, unfounded accusations, etc.

Women keep men from their guy friends, from talking to one another, from talking about women, from strategizing how to deal with their women by suggesting that they are homosexual and that is why they are so reliant on one another.  Women know that the children are the source of their authority so they also keep the men away from the children.  When you get divorced and the kids are below a certain age, NO judge is going to take children away from their mother.  Women use this to hijack the relationship, threatening that if they don’t get their way, if they don’t get to be in charge, if he doesn’t tow the line then she will leave him, and she will get the kids, and the house, and his money.

She also keeps him away from the children by suggesting that his relationship with them is improper or that he has somehow stepped over an arbitrary line that she has created.  Funny thing is that my room mate does this same thing with MY cockapoo.  Saying I am a bad owner if I don’t take her out when she thinks I should and then at other times she spoils Monkey and at still other times she suggests that I am neglecting Monkey, all to control my behavior and to manipulate me.

The next time your wife tries to guilt you about your male friends, this is the correct answer, “YES, I AM A HUGE HOMOSEXUAL AND WE ARE GOING TO HAVE SOME FUNKY BUTTLOVING AND WE ARE GOING TO EAT THE POOPIES, AND WE ARE GOING TO TONGUE-PUNCH EACH OTHER’S FART BOXES, SO CLEVER OF YOU TO PICK UP ON OUR HOMOEROTIC TENSION, YOU ARE SUCH A SMART GIRL, NOW GO MAKE ME A SAMMICH.” 

Oh, yeah, one more thing.  Women will continuously in the course of the relationship describe to you in great detail how you are to treat them and behave when they are around, which means that when they are around they influence your behavior.  Why do they want to be around when they want to be around?  and when they want to be distant from you, why do they want to be distant from you?

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Women are Aggressive Communicators

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All of the nastiness and aggression that men are accused of can be found in the communication behavior of women.  I have spent a lot of time studying relationship and patterns in relationship and events in the world and how they are allowed or created by how people relate to one another.  Ever since I was a child I was hypersensitive to sounds and communication styles.  I used to get sick to my stomach listening to live music, and I developed a psychosomatic response to the sound of Diane Chambers, Shelley Long‘s character on cheers.  It wasn’t until I read A. R. Luria‘s book THE MIND OF THE MNEMONIST that I truly started pondering my sensitivity to sound.  I have an almost autistic level of sensitivity to sound, Diane Chamber’s timber made my heart race and I became agitated and my eyes dilated and I wanted to kill something.  I am not like other people, my mind is always working.  I relax into philosophy and higher thought, I am not happy if I don’t have a good conversation or learn something new every day.  This caused me to ponder the difference in communication styles between men and women. http://alfrodull.wordpress.com/2011/02/20/the-most-annoying-character-on-tv/

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I recently watched this documentary on Seaworld and noticed something interesting, they said that Tillikum was harassed by the two females he was originally put in the tank with, they would bite him for no reason and leave bloody marks on him.  Tillikum was a larger than average male killer whale.  After studying Deborah Tannen‘s male and female communication rituals and coming up with my theory that male and female brains are actually two different type of intelligences with different approaches to life, value systems, and strategies in relationship I found it interesting how similar Tillikum’s experiences were to my own.  Women will henpeck me and provoke me with no provocation on my part just as they did to him.  I began to ponder if this wasn’t because as a large male he represented a potential threat to them so they started testing him or trying to gain psychological leverage over him.

All of the nastiness and aggression that men are accused of can be found in feminine communication rituals and strategies.  When left alone the female mind acts like a parasite to the male mind.  Women are aggressive in passive ways, they are passively aggressive, covertly hostile.  I have always found it fascinating how over time the woman eventually manages to leverage herself to the point where she takes complete artistic control of the relationship and the man while in it is not allowed to be himself or to be interested in what he is naturally interested in.  Women indulge themselves in female pornography, puppies, kittens, babies, but men are judged as bad for being interested in the type of pornography that creates they pornography she enjoys.

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As I become aware of the subtle processes and strategies that women use I realized two things, society in general doesn’t detect them because they are considered normal.  Society has been trained not to scrutinize women or look for them to be the cause of the bad.  Society in general has a feminine bias.  Society will blame other things for the behavior of women.  If somebody says, “man that lady is a bitch, she really did a number on me.”  Somebody will respond, “she must have really gotten screwed over by some man.”  Not only is she rescued from her own behavior, blame for her behavior is put on some imagined male scape goat and she is allowed to go on her crazy way, unscrutinized or blamed, working her evil will on the universe.  The ancients didn’t keep men and women separate to protect women, they did it to protect masculinity from femininity.

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Millions of years of gender reinforcement create neural myelination that passes down through cellular memory.  Men are insensitive to their own feelings because life is hard and they have to do unpleasant things so that they and their women and children can live, and women have to be sensitive to their own feelings because they need to feel that feelings are valid in order to be good mothers and take care of horrible little maggot poop factories that wine, because babies communicate no analytical data and only emotional data.  Women and men and children are insensitive to men.  Go figure.

Not just that, you can see that women have adopted communication strategies designed specifically to manipulate the male mind which is sensitive to sound.  They speak in a high pitch, with a rapid cadence.  Persian women have adopted the behavior of speaking in low manly tones to communicate dominance and to turn men off sexually.  All of this works on a subliminal level, women don’t realize they are doing it, and neither do men.

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Women ask for mercy from their man, they beg for quarter, they start the relationship by asking him to tell her a lie or perform a herculean labor and then when he fails or fails to protect her from reality of the truth she blames him for a situational problem.  Women use leading questions herding men in certain directions.  “Why don’t you play with the children?”  and then when they start liking him more than her, “How come you spend so much time with the children?  are you some kind of freak?”   Women use humiliation rituals.  “How come you spend so much time with your boyfriends, are you gay?”  She tries to define a real man by what he does for her and what he puts up with from her.  How is it that women are the arbiters of what it means to be “real men” are men the judge of real women?  ‘Cause I have some ideas, just sayin’…

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Anatomy of the Female Mind

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When I say “the female brain” I am referring to several things: the emergent patterns in the way women as a group behave and make judgments, men that have been indoctrinated into the moral superiority of women, and in a conflict or a relationship the more irrational person or psychopathic person, male or female.

I will give a brief synopsis of my theory on “organic computers”, Neural Myelination is passed on through cellular memory, successful techniques are passed on by people that survived, patterns that were repeated are neural myelinated, this myelination influences the way we perceive reality and make judgments, our judgments were informed by the need to survive of our ancestors, those patterns were created in situations where survival was difficult, those instincts in modern times can be out of touch with reality.

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Now, Nature, for lack of a better word compartmentalized functions into male and female functions.  The consideration set of the female mind was edited to be concerned with and for babies, to presuppose an environment created for her in which she could indulge herself in the concern for which her brain was created.  In doing so the female brain makes certain presuppositions and ignores certain factors.  Those concerns which would not be conducive to taking care of a child but would be useful in providing a safe environment for woman and child were the business of the male mind.

Men and women are essentially the same, but compartmentalized by nature to deal with two different concerns and topics in two different ways.  I discovered this when creating my psycholinguistic philosophy.  My philosophy states.

“All narrative is doxography.”

Which seems innocuous at first but it is much deeper than one might expect.  All narrative is point of view, which means that everything said characterizes the person speaking *(assuming you know how I deconstruct narrative).  It wasn’t until I started studying Deborah Tannen‘s research on Male and Female communication patterns that I realized there were two completely different consciousnesses talking to one another.  She refers to this as complimentary schizmogenesis, I think it is more like two alien species that have different values and speak two different languages.

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Babies start off as objects, entirely dependent on their mothers, incapable of doing anything for themselves.  They can’t defend themselves, think for themselves, or provide for themselves.  Babies communicate no analytical data and only emotional data, so from the perspective of the female mind emotions have to be valid.  That which has NO value or negative value in the heat of battle is valid to women.  Deborah Tannen refers to the interpretation of the emotional data by these little piss and shit factories as “ventriloquizing”.  Where the woman acts as the pythian oracle to interpret the omens sent to her through the medium of the squirming and whining of the child.

The mother protects the child’s psychosis and aberrations as well as the child.  She doesn’t care if the child is insane, or is capable of dealing with the world at large, that has never been a concern for her, she has a man for that.  She just wants the child to live and be as happy as possible.  This is why historically there was an age or a trial to mark the end of the authority of the mother and the beginning of the training and teaching that would make the child suitable for their transition to the world.

The mother manipulates the child to do things and to think that it was the child’s own idea.  Women use these exact same strategies on men if they can get away with it.  That is just how their brain works.  Women also keep on bringing the attention of the child back to a subject and then communicating emotional data to try to influence the way the child feels about the object.  When women do this to men it is called nagging and whining, or henpecking.  I call it jingling the keys.

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Due to the feminine bias that is innate in the human organism, and due to the nature of superficial, aesthetic, snap decisions coming from the feminine part of the brain.  We judge the flow of negative emotional data as good or bad.  Negative emotional data flows from the child to the mom and from the mom to the dad.  We have a negative reaction to seeing the negative emotional data flowing in the opposite direction.  This patter in collective human judgments creates emergent properties that create disparate impact in favor of unreason, women, and children.  What looks good is not always good for you.

Allow me to illustrate in this way.  The Neural Myelination created over millions of years predisposes us to think that foods that are more densely packed with Macro nutrients are good for us, because that neural myelination was created in an environment in which survival was difficult.  The more packed with positive survival data it is, the better it tastes, to the point where the animal will never eat its natural diet if it has the option.  This makes the horse fat and sickly to the point of death.  Neural Myelination wasn’t created in an environment where survival was easy so our instincts are WRONG!  We as a society redouble our efforts in the wrong direction, compounding the problem because we are not aware of the organism through which we experience life and we are thinking sentimentally instead of analytically and logically.  If you don’t know the logical fallacies and the cognitive biases you can’t keep yourself from making them. 

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*It always annoys me when I tell people that everything said characterizes the person speaking and then they start trying to psychoanalyze me without knowing my method and having NO experience themselves, and never having thought about it until I brought the subject up.  What a bunch of idiots. 

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HIDDEN SUBJECTS IN MALE AND FEMALE BRAINS

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I created this image to demonstrate my theory on how the female brain is in relationship with the male brain and emergent properties in peoples normative judgments.  Women presuppose their own moral authority to judge the male mind.  While the man defends the woman and child from the world, she defends herself and the child from the man.  Women presuppose their moral authority and their right to judge the male mind and correct at will the masculine narrative and perspective.  While the male stares into nature and contemplates the world, the woman scrutinizes the man and judges him, concealing her narrative from him, but mistrusting him.

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This happens because of neural myelination from nesting rituals that was passed on due to cellular memory.  Evolutionary psychology shows us that the man creates a surplus, a nest, to attract the female, and she feels that she and her children will be well taken care of.  The man’s mind becomes a room.  The woman enters the room and moves objects around to suit herself, to make herself comfortable.

The male mind relaxes into chatter, noise, because this has positive survival data for her.

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it communicates to her that she is surviving well because people are happy, the babies are breathing and their are living bodies in the house.

Men on the other hand relax into silence.  This has positive survival data for them because they know that nobody is attacking from the outside, and nobody is dying inside. So he is doing a good job.  But because of the way in which the male and female brains relax the woman can coerce and irritate the male mind by nagging and whining bickering and complaining.  Woman use guilt and shame to manipulate the male brain, moral authority.  Women use an invasive narrative.  Women even pitch their voices to be more irritating to the male brain as a subtle form of abuse.  This hadn’t occurred to me until I read Mind of Mnemonist, and he spoke of how because of his synesthesia, when he was remembering something to himself, if he heard a loud or irritating noise it made a blur in his memory.  I experienced something similar, I also have synesthesia.  When I was younger I developed a psycho-somatic panic reaction to the sound of Shelley Long’s voice on Cheers.  Men speak as little as possible and women think outside their own heads.

If you examine the diagram above you will realize that their is a flow of negative emotional data that we judge as correct and appropriate.  The baby complains to the mother and the mother to the father, but we don’t like negative data moving in the other direction, the mother yelling at the baby or the father yelling at the mother. Image

The existence of the baby reifies the authority of the mother.  Allowing her to block the communication from the father to the child.  To corrupt the message.  To protect the child’s diseases mental and emotional.  The mother doesn’t just protect the child she also protects it’s delusions and fantasies.  From the perspective of the female Moral authority is the highest and only authority, her own authority.  It flies in the face of reason.  That what you must do in order to survive.  Women argue for mercy and charity, they protect the weak and the cute and the destitute and everyone that shows them a harmless face and tells them what they want to hear.  Women protect and expand feminine authority.

Men do not feel that their value is increased by being men, but women do.  Men will not defend another man because he is a man, but women will.  Men will defend another woman against a man because they know there will be more eligible pussy available for themselves.

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Women also take advantage of their position, being closer to the center of the herd to manipulate and influence the reputation of their man if they can’t control him.  They use their relationships to spy on him, to deny him entrance to the herd if they are not pleased with him.  How many times have you had your girl ruin all of your friendships when you broke up with her?  Women consider this their prerogative.

Women argue for quarter, you have to be pleasant with them and then they are as aggressive and ruthless with their men.  Remember this, women are submissive with the herd and aggressive with their men.  From their perspective the herd is more important than the man, women are natural social climbers.  Remember to that people make judgments in a predictable manner.  The same way that herding animals choose who gets to die first in the presence of a threat.

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The gomer men get to stay at home while the manly men go off to war….

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EMERGENT PROPERTIES FROM COLLECTIVE JUDGMENTS

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The mind is averse.  It is 90% more interested in avoiding things it doesn’t want than it is in recognizing the actual problem and moving towards a solution.  It just attacks or avoids what it doesn’t like.  Hating the problem is not the solution.  What are you going to do?  Throw poop at it like a monkey?  But that is how people act, this can predict their behavior.  People do this unconsciously.  If you don’t know all of the cognitive biases and logical fallacies you can’t prevent yourself from making them.  What you don’t know about yourself will kill you. 

In the presence of a threat almost all herding creatures form a certain pattern. 

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Men are on the outside of the herd, women inside that, and children inside that.  This behavior was necessary for survival.  That is why it was passed on.  But the neural myelination from the repetition of this behavior was also passed on to us in the form of a brain, and it informs are judgments unconsciously.  It is as though you were driving a rickety cart down a dirt road and your cart keeps following the grooves in the road.  Assuming that maybe in the span of a lifetime there was only the presence of an actual threat maybe 10% of one’s life, this model still predicts 90% of human decisions and judgments. 

People are naturally hostile and insensitive to masculinity.  While the male mind contemplates Nature, and the enemy and the world and struggles with it for his benefit and the good of the herd, the worst evil the woman knows about is the man. Men are even insensitive to themselves and their own emotions and this was necessary for survival.  Watch little boys playing they imagine that they are things without emotions, dinosaurs, robots, cyborgs, samurai, gunslingers, G.I.Joe’s.  Watch little girls playing they pretend they are princesses and faeries and they indulge in their emotions.  This was necessary for the survival of the species.  Emotions have to be valid from a feminine perspective because babies communicate no analytical data only emotional data.  From the feminine perspective the emotions have to be valid.  The irrational has to be valid.  Deborah Tannen talks about how mothers ventriloquize for their babies, acting as a translator between fathers and babies.  Interpreting their facial expressions and gurgles and twitches. 

We can extrapolate even further from the model to see how it incorporates more people into the judgment schema. 

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Imagine that there is an old woman standing next to a young athletic man?  She is scared of him.  Is he intimidating her? or is she intimidated by him?  

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HIDDEN SUBJECTS IN M.C.R. AND F.C.R. pt. 1

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In my psychology/philosophy/system, a persons thoughts are congruent with their words and their actions.  The discrepancy between these is how you recognize strategic behavior and the psychopath.  The disconnect between what they say they are doing and what they are actual doing.

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If you observe the narrative of men and women it is obvious that they come from two different narratives, two different perspectives, two different minds and philosophies with different value systems.

The female narrative and the female brain was designed to deal with children, it presupposes an up down relationship a vertical relationship where one person is smarter and far more capable than the other.  This is also the narrative of authority.  Not a democratic narrative, but a pleasant authoritarian one.  Babies start out not being able to do anything for themselves and relying completely on their mothers.  The existence of the baby reifies the authority of the mother, but in the absence of the baby the woman’s emotions take the place of the baby.  She will indulge her own sentiments as the baby.

Male communication rituals evolved from two full grown worldly wise men talking to one another as they talk about the tribe and policy and the world and the problems, like a mafia don and a Consigliere they are both undeluded about the nature of reality, and you participate not because it was said in a pleasant way, because it wasn’t I am sure there were plenty of f-bombs and more than one reference to fecal matter, my point being you do it because you want to survive or win.  You don’t have to be coddled and bribed and kept happy like a baby and you might even get threatened.  You are expected to take personal responsibility and do it because it is the best option and it maximizes value for you and the family.  It is the language of the philosopher, the language of reason and it is a horizontal language, that presupposes an equal or approaching equal relationship.

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Remember, if you will, that the gymnasium is where people practiced philosophy and were initiated into society.  It is also where they practiced, pugilism, pankration, and Greco-Roman wrestling, those are martial arts if you don’t know that.  Back in the day a duel was considered the highest scientific experiment.  Remember too that Domo, from India, taught the shaolin monks kung fu only as an exercise because they were too out of shape to meditate properly.

Men, left to themselves, without the influence or judgement of women, will whip themselves into the peak of physical perfection.  Picking on one another until every one of them is a lean, mean, killing machine. They do not pick on one another to weaken themselves or the tribe but to strengthen one another to protect the tribe.  This makes no sense to the female mind.  She perceives it as unnecessary cruelty.

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THE LANGUAGE OF SELF DISCIPLINE

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Ponder this,

you have to hate who you are in order to change.  

As long as you like yourself you will not change, as long as you are content with yourself you will not change.  You have to despise yourself, loath your self, you have to be unpleasant with yourself, harsh with yourself.  Like a vociferous army general you have to bark at yourself and snap to attention for yourself. 

If I am fat, and I don’t want to be fat, I have to want to kill fat Joxua.  I have to humiliate and ridicule fat Joxua.  I have to take fat Joxua’s ass and put him on a treadmill.  I have to keep my eye on him like he is a criminal and he wants to steal some fat and become one with it again,  And once I kill fat joxua, if he starts crawling out of his grave again I have to stomp on his fingers and cave his head in with a shovel.  

My point is this, Male communication rituals are the language of self transformation, they are the language of self discipline.  Female communication rituals are pleasant.  Without Masculine communication rituals you don’t have the thought tools, the thought technology necessary for self transformation.  there is a theory, linguistic determinism, that essentially states that our vocabulary determines what we can do.  And its true, unless you are a wizard, or a linguistic philosopher or a shaman, you can’t break pattern without the words.  Without MCR you can’t and wont discipline yourself and you won’t change unless an outside force exerts itself on you. 

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COMPLIMENTARY SCHIZMOGENESIS and the I, You, and We Narratives

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Deborah Tannen, the foremost expert on male/female communication rituals refers to arguments between men and women as complimentary schizmogenesis.  She is referring to a pattern that is created between tribes and nations where in their relationships they keep on repeating their party lines.  I wanted to give credit to her but I want to be clear that much of my stuff is my understanding and my personal philosophic calculus, so don’t think that all of what I am about to say is coming from her.  I like her and I think we would have a very interesting and edifying conversation.  However we disagree on many aspects.  Scientific materials are descriptive, prescriptive and predictive.  Linguistics chooses to focus on the descriptive part of language, the patterns and processes that occur within living languages without making judgments as to what is good and what is bad.  My focus is on how to make relationship work, how to create the most value in a relationship for the most people, so I do judge and I do prescribe.  

What happens in complimentary schizmogenesis is that each person retreats behind their shibboleths and they start repeating the behavior they believe to be dominant.  Each thinks they deserve to win or deserve their way because of either the masculine solution or the feminine solution.  Each has retreated from the We narrative into the I and you narratives. (my personal philosophic calculus).  She communicates femininity to him and he communicates masculinity back to her.  They do not compromise and create a we narrative.  In my SHARED STATE THEORY OF COMMUNICATION there are 4 shared states, communication, understanding, agreement, participation.  Proximity could be a shared state too and it is necessary for the other 4 more or less but it has less to do with communication.  

I believe in “equality under reason” which means that the most reasonable person gets their way or the most reasonable solution is created.  Everybody hearing that agrees with it, but women think that I am talking about pleasantness, and moral authority and they nod their head in agreement and the go,  “MMMMMHMMMMMM!”  and men do the same but they think I am talking about pragmatism and the end result.  

Women consistently use moral authority to discount, judge, block, criticize, prevent, and not participate with the masculine solution or desires.  When women do not want to participate they will leave the we narrative.  When they require or desire participation they will say “we need to do this.”  and when they refuse to participate they will communicate tautologies of non relationship, “you need to use your own resources”  or, ” I think everybody should do what they are comfortable doing.”