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#1

“do not look for healing
at the feet of those
who broke you”
― Rupi Kaur, Milk and honey

tags: abuse-survivors, healing, inspirational, poetry

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#2

“Of pain you could wish only one thing: that it should stop. Nothing in the world was so bad as physical pain. In the face of pain there are no heroes.”
― George Orwell, 1984

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, agony, agony-of-torture, chronic-pain, pain, torture

623 likes

#3

“In order to escape accountability for his crimes, the perpetrator does everything in his power to promote forgetting. If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacks the credibility of his victim. If he cannot silence her absolutely, he tries to make sure no one listens.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, abuser, abusers, attack-on-character, attacking-people, backlash, break-the-silence, child-sexual-abuse, child-sexual-abuse-survivor, crazy, credibility, denial, false-memories, false-memory-myth, false-memory-syndrome-campaign, healing-from-abuse, hysterical, incest, insane, just-tell, lack-of-accountability, lying, perpetrator, perpetrators, pschological-abuse, rape-culture, rape-myths, rape-survivor, secrecy, sexual-abuse, sexual-assault, sexual-violence, survivor, survivors, unstable, victimized, victimizing

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#4

“Toxic relationships are dangerous to your health; they will literally kill you. Stress shortens your lifespan. Even a broken heart can kill you. There is an undeniable mind-body connection. Your arguments and hateful talk can land you in the emergency room or in the morgue. You were not meant to live in a fever of anxiety; screaming yourself hoarse in a frenzy of dreadful, panicked fight-or-flight that leaves you exhausted and numb with grief. You were not meant to live like animals tearing one another to shreds. Don't turn your hair gray. Don't carve a roadmap of pain into the sweet wrinkles on your face. Don't lay in the quiet with your heart pounding like a trapped, frightened creature. For your own precious and beautiful life, and for those around you — seek help or get out before it is too late. This is your wake-up call!”
― Bryant McGill

tags: abuse-survivors, anxiety, healing, healing-insights, mind-body-connection, recovery, spirit, stress, toxic-friends, toxic-people, toxic-relationships

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#5

“Often it isn’t the initiating trauma that creates seemingly insurmountable pain, but the lack of support after.”
― S. Kelley Harrell, Gift of the Dreamtime - Reader's Companion

tags: abuse-survivors, healing, post-traumatic-stress-disorder, posttraumatic-stress-disorder, ptsd, shamanism, support, survivors, trauma

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#6

“We are all damaged. We have all been hurt. We have all had to learn painful lessons. We are all recovering from some mistake, loss, betrayal, abuse, injustice or misfortune. All of life is a process of recovery that never ends. We each must find ways to accept and move through the pain and to pick ourselves back up. For each pang of grief, depression, doubt or despair there is an inverse toward renewal coming to you in time. Each tragedy is an announcement that some good will indeed come in time. Be patient with yourself.”
― Bryant McGill, Simple Reminders: Inspiration for Living Your Best Life

tags: abuse-survivors, betrayal, betrayal-trauma, depression, grief, healing, healing-insights, hurt, injustice, patience, recovery, survivors

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#7

“Nobody has ever killed themselves over a broken arm. But every day, thousands of people kill themselves because of a broken heart. Why? Because emotional pain hurts much worse than physical pain.”
― Oliver Markus Malloy, Bad Choices Make Good Stories (Omnibus): How The Great American Opioid Epidemic of The 21st Century Began - a Memoir

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, betrayal, cheating, emotions, pain, suicide

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#8

“Invalidating someone else is not merely disagreeing with something that the other person said. It is a process in which individuals communicate to another that the opinions and emotions of the target are invalid, irrational, selfish, uncaring, stupid, most likely insane, and wrong, wrong, wrong. Invalidators let it be known directly or indirectly that their targets views and feelings do not count for anything to anybody at any time or in any way.”
― David M. Allen

tags: abuse-survivors, abusive-parents, abusive-people, abusive-relationships, crazy-making, dumb, emotional-abuse, feeling-stupid, insane, invalidate, invalidating, irrational, irrational-thinking, psychological-abuse, psychology, selfish, stupid

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#9

“You can recognize survivors of abuse by their courage. When silence is so very inviting, they step forward and share their truth so others know they aren't alone.”
― Jeanne McElvaney, Healing Insights: Effects of Abuse for Adults Abused as Children

tags: abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, childhood-abuse, childhood-sexual-abuse, effects-of-child-abuse, harrietta-s-happenstance, healing-abuse, healing-insights, jeanne-mcelvaney, spirit-unbroken-abby-s-story, survivors-of-abuse

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#10

“Memories demand attention, and these memories will have teeth.”
― C. Kennedy, Slaying Isidore's Dragons

tags: abuse, abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, boys, boys-self-image, memories-truth, memories-with-children, psychology, teens

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#11

“You can recognize survivors by their creativity. In soulful, insightful, gentle, and nurturing creations, they often express the inner beauty they brought out of childhood storms.”
― Jeanne McElvaney, Childhood Abuse: Tips to Change Child Abuse Effects

tags: abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, childhood-abuse, childhood-sexual-abuse, effects-of-child-abuse, harrietta-s-happenstance, healing-abuse, healing-insights, jeanne-mcelvaney, spirit-unbroken-abby-s-story, survivors-of-abuse

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#12

“The damage and invisible scars of emotional abuse are very difficult to heal, because memories are imprinted on our minds and hearts and it takes time to be restored. Imprints of past traumas do not mean a person cannot change their future beliefs and behaviors. as people, we do not easily forget. However, as we heal, grieve, and let go, we become clear-minded and focused to live restore and emotionally healthy.”
― Dee Brown, Breaking Passive-Aggressive Cycles

tags: abuse-survivors, emotional-abuse, emotional-health, emotional-pain, emotional-wounds, healing, healing-journey, healing-process, healing-the-emotional-self, healing-the-past, hearts-and-minds, hope-for-the-future, invisible-wounds, recovery, restoring-happiness, scars-of-the-past, trauma-memories, trauma-survivors, traumatic-experiences

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#13

“Abusive relationships exist because they provide enough rations of warmth, laughter, and affection to clutch onto like a security blanket in the heap of degradation. The good times are the initial euphoria that keeps addicts draining their wallets for toxic substances to inject into their veins. Scraps of love are food for an abusive relationship.”
― Maggie Young

tags: abuse-survivors, abusive-parents, abusive-relationships, daddy-issues, feminism, feminist-writers, maggie-young, maggie-young-quotes

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#14

“It is a rare person who can cut himself off from mediate and immediate relations with others for long spaces of time without undergoing a deterioration in personality.”
― Harry Stack Sullivan, The Interpersonal Theory of Psychiatry

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, abused-children, abusive-parents, complex-ptsd, dissociation, domestic-violence, effects-of-child-abuse, interpersonal-partner-violence, interpersonal-trauma, isolation, mental-health, mental-illness, personality, personality-change, personality-disorder, social-isolation, structural-dissociation, survivors, traumatic-experiences, traumatized

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#15

“Like revenge, the fantasy of forgiveness often becomes a cruel torture, because it remains out of reach for most ordinary human beings. Folk wisdom recognizes that to forgive is divine. And even divine forgiveness, in most religious systems, is not unconditional. True forgiveness cannot be granted until the perpetrator has sought and earned it through confession, repentance, and restitution.”
― Judith Lewis Herman

tags: abuse-survivors, child-abuse, child-abuse-survivors, forgiveness, forgiveness-quotes, rape, trauma-survivors

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#16

“Instead of saying, "I'm damaged, I'm broken, I have trust issues" say "I'm healing, I'm rediscovering myself, I'm starting over.”
― Horacio Jones

tags: abuse-survivors, broken, damaged, healing, healing-the-past, mental-illness, positive-thinking, postive, recovery, reframing, relationship-issues, shattered, starting-over, survivors, trust, trust-issues

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#17

“Survivors of abuse show us the strength of their personal spirit every time they smile.”
― Jeanne McElvaney, Healing Insights: Effects of Abuse for Adults Abused as Children

tags: abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, childhood-abuse, childhood-sexual-abuse, effects-of-child-abuse, harrietta-s-happenstance, healing-abuse, healing-insights, jeanne-mcelvaney, spirit-unbroken-abby-s-story, survivors-of-abuse

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#18

“Deep connection is the antidote to madness.”
― Stefan Molyneux

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, freedom, philosophy, psychology, trauma

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#19

“In situations of captivity the perpetrator becomes the most powerful person in the life of the victim, and the psychology of the victim is shaped by the actions and beliefs of the perpetrator.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, abuser, belie, belief-system, captivity, complex-ptsd, core-beliefs, domestic-violence, healing, healing-from-abuse, healing-insights, intimate-partner-violence, perpetrator, powerless, powerlessness, prisoner, ptsd, recovery-from-abuse, stockholm-syndrome, survivors, trauma, traumatic-stress, victim

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#20

“It is strange... the reasons one feels he doesn't deserve things.”
― C. Kennedy, Slaying Isidore's Dragons

tags: abuse, abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, heartache, heartbreak, hope, lgbt, lgbtq, lgbtqia, psychology, psychology-of-self, romance, triumph

24 likes

#21

“Sometimes we self-sabotage just when things seem to be going smoothly. Perhaps this is a way to express our fear about whether it is okay for us to have a better life. We are bound to feel anxious as we leave behind old notions of our unworthiness. The challenge is not to be fearless, but to develop strategies of acknowledging our fears and finding out how we can allay them.”
― Maureen Brady, Beyond Survival: A Writing Journey for Healing Childhood Sexual Abuse

tags: abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, anxiety, healing, healing-insights, recovery, self-sabotage, survivors, unworthy, worthlessness

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#22

“Many survivors struggle to believe the abuse happened. They don’t want to believe it. It’s too painful to think about. They don’t want to accuse family members or face the terrible loss involved in realizing “a loved one” hurt them; they don’t want to rock the boat.”
― Laura Davis, Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child

tags: abuse-survivors, avoidance, child-abuse-survivors, denial, denial-of-abuse, denial-of-child-abuse, denial-of-incest, disbelief, facing-reality, parental-abuse, rock-the-boat, survivors, survivors-of-abuse, trauma-memories

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#23

“He was a pitiful thing. He had always been a pitiful thing. Why had she never seen that before? There was a hollow place inside her where her fear had been.”
― George R.R. Martin, A Game of Thrones

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, escaping-abuse, game-of-thrones, overcoming-fear, self-reliance, self-worth, strength

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#24

“I had no fight left in me. Mentally and physically, I was drained. So, for now, Jack had won. I was an empty shell. I avoided conflict or discussion.”
― Paul Mason, The Cupboard Under the Stairs: A Boy Trapped in Hell...

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, child-abuse, rape

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#25

“Walking away from someone you love is not an immoral thing. If that person isn’t good for your wellbeing in any way, it’s important to step away from that relationship.”
― Arien Smith

tags: abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, abusive-men, abusive-mother, abusive-relationships, healthy-relationships

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#26

“Dear Liar, I've collected evidence from my family, friends, and even online. It proves that I'm not what you told others I was. I'm not crazy. I'm not alone. I'm not unloved. I'm not useless. I'm not stupid. In fact, I'm intelligent. I'm beautiful. I'm useful. I'm loved. I am not alone.”
― Mitta Xinindlu

tags: abuse-survivors, fighting-back, healing-quotes, inspirational-quotes, narcissism, narcissistic-abuse, self-realization, winning-mentality

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#27

“The abuse experience might have made her suspicious of anyone wanting to help and support her. Her abusive partner probably twisted the concept of trust in such a way as to shatter her willingness to trust others. It might be hard for her to fathom that an anchor has no agenda except to care about her. However, it is the very process of learning to trust her anchor which can help an abused woman. Through that relationship she can be reminded what real trust is, who is trustworthy, and how to trust someone again or for the first time.”
― Susan Brewster, To Be An Anchor in the Storm: A Guide for Families and Friends of Abused Women

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, trust

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#28

“There are people whose whole life is a punishment. Kids who literally don’t know the difference between right and wrong, people who ‘know not what they do,’ to quote the Master.”
― Patry Francis, The Liar's Diary

tags: abuse-survivors, child-abuse, empathy, guilt, right-and-wrong

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#29

“Over the years, I had come to understand many things, but one was the clearest of all: you can survive anything if only you have one true friend.”
― Meara O'Hara, The Wanderess and her Suitcase

tags: abuse-survivors, friendship, healing, love, recovery, survival

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#30

“One thing was certain: life was a maze. There was nothing “straight forward”. Everything that pretended to be straight somehow ended in unexpected twists and turns, only to leave you full of wonder at how you possibly made it through to the end. You couldn’t just pack a pair of hedge trimmers to take a shortcut and hoodwink fate. No, you had to walk the path of life given to you with all its detours. The goal wasn’t to avoid getting lost sometimes—in fact, that was most unlikely given that you were in a maze. The trick was simply to keep walking. To enjoy the process of getting lost and finding yourself again, different and more grown-up than when you had left. One step after another, that was all that it took. One step after another, so simple and so utterly enough.”
― Meara O'Hara, The Wanderess and her Suitcase

tags: abuse-survivors, healing, hope, life, maze, one-step-at-a-time, recovery, wanderess

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