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#1

“We need this help from the outside because we don't know how to to do this for ourselves. We start with a deep deficit—a chasm really—when it comes to understanding and being tolerant of ourselves, and that's even before we go forth to do battle with the rest of the world. As soon as someone judges, criticizes, dismisses, or ignores, the cycle of pain and reactivity ramps up, compounded by shame, remorse, and rejection. The act of validation, simply saying, 'I can see things from your perspective,' can short-circuit that emotional detour.”
― Kiera Van Gelder, The Buddha and the Borderline

tags: borderline-personality-disorder, mental-illness

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#2

“This will sound strange, and yet I'm sure it was the point: it was a bit like being high. That, for me, anyway, had always been the attraction of drugs, to stop the brutal round of hypercritical thinking, to escape the ravages of an unoccupied mind cannibalizing itself.”
― Norah Vincent

tags: addiction, anxiety, borderline-personality-disorder, depression, mental-health, mental-illness, ocd, recovery

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#3

“Yet I also recognize this: Even if everyone in the world were to accept me and my illness and validate my pain, unless I can abide myself and be compassionate toward my own distress, I will probably always feel alone and neglected by others.”
― Kiera Van Gelder

tags: borderline-personality-disorder, mental-illness

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#4

“In the life cycle of an intense emotion, if it isn't acted upon, it eventually peaks and then decreases. But as Dr. Linehan explains, people with BPD have a different physiological experience with this process because of three key biological vulnerabilities (1993a): First, we're highly sensitive to emotional stimuli (meaning we experience social dynamics, the environment, and our own inner states with an acuteness similar to having exposed nerve endings). Second, we respond more intensely and much more quickly, than other people. And third, we don't 'come down' from our emotions for a long time. One the nerves have been touched, the sensations keep peaking. Shock waves of emotion that might pass through others in minutes keep cresting in us for hours, sometimes days.”
― Kiera Van Gelder

tags: borderline-personality-disorder, mental-illness

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#5

“To stave off the panic associated with the absence of a primary object, borderline patients frequently will impulsively engage in behaviors that numb the panic and establish contact with and control over some new object.”
― Christine Ann Lawson, Understanding the Borderline Mother

tags: borderline-personality-disorder

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#6

“I couldn’t trust my own emotions. Which emotional reactions were justified, if any? And which ones were tainted by the mental illness of BPD? I found myself fiercely guarding and limiting my emotional reactions, chastising myself for possible distortions and motivations. People who had known me years ago would barely recognize me now. I had become quiet and withdrawn in social settings, no longer the life of the party. After all, how could I know if my boisterous humor were spontaneous or just a borderline desire to be the center of attention? I could no longer trust any of my heart felt beliefs and opinions on politics, religion, or life. The debate queen had withered. I found myself looking at every single side of an issue unable to come to any conclusions for fear they might be tainted. My lifelong ability to be assertive had turned into a constant state of passivity.”
― Rachel Reiland, Get Me Out of Here: My Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

tags: borderline, borderline-personality-disorder, bpd, diagnosis, emotional-pain, mental-disorder, mental-illness, self-blame, self-doubt

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#7

“Never give up on someone with a mental illness. When "I" is replaced by "We", illness becomes wellness.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#8

“I'm so good at beginnings, but in the end I always seem to destroy everything, including myself.”
― Kiera Van Gelder, The Buddha and the Borderline

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#9

“Your perspective on life comes from the cage you were held captive in.”
― Shannon L. Alder

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#10

“That was the crux. You. Only you could work on you. Nobody could force you, and if you weren't ready, then you weren't ready, and no amount of open-armed encouragement was going to change that.”
― Norah Vincent

tags: anxiety, bipolar-disorder, borderline-personality-disorder, depression, healing, mental-health, mental-illness, recovery, sadness

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#11

“She has become so well versed in good-byes, the spoken and unspoken, the planned and unplanned, the teary ones and happy ones. Don’t be angry she begs, she surrendered and gave up long ago on anyone reading her, her life, her fears, her accomplishments, her gifts, her tears, her happy, her weird, her crazy, and all of her story. She screams I’m not the chapter titles or the end paragraph, don’t you see, I’m all the words written between.”
― DC Allen

tags: fears, goodbyes, life-story, love

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#12

“If someone thinks you’re being dramatic or selfish, then they obviously haven’t walked a mile in your shoes. It’s not important for you to explain yourself. You get a pass here. Don’t let anyone else try to saddle you with guilt or shame. If you need your space, take it.”
― Sarah Newman

tags: child-abuse-survivors, child-sexual-abuse-survivors, dealing-with-people, healing-insights, healthy-boundaries, setting-boundaries, taking-space, toxic-people

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#13

“As highly sensitive empaths, we are particularly prone to experiencing the Dark Night of the Soul. The less defined our sense of self is and the more toxic energy we take on from others, the more we are prone to losing touch with our Souls.”
― Aletheia Luna, Awakened Empath: The Ultimate Guide to Emotional, Psychological and Spiritual Healing

tags: dark-night-of-the-soul, empath, empaths, energy, highly-sensitive-people, intuition, sensitivity, soul, toxic-people

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#14

“If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you're allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind.”
― Shannon L. Alder

tags: anger, battles, betrayal, consequences, divorce, fights, hurt, judgement, justice, letting-go, love, low-self-esteem, moving-on, pain, relationships, revenge, self-worth, seperation, vindication

1878 likes

#15

“It's hard to tell who has your back, from who has it long enough just to stab you in it....”
― Nicole Richie

tags: betrayal, friendship

1132 likes

#16

“Betrayal is never easy to handle and there is no right way to accept it.”
― Christine Feehan, Dark Demon

tags: accept, betrayal, handle

241 likes

#17

“It's effortless to let go of self-absorbed people. It's challenging to let go of someone you care about and it's exceedingly difficult to let go of an ideal and a belief in someone because what exacerbates the disappointment of finding out they weren't who they presented themselves to be, is the betrayal of it.”
― Donna Lynn Hope

tags: betrayal, letting-go

247 likes

#18

“He who trusts the world, the world betrays him.”
― Ali Ibn Abi Talib AS

tags: betrayal

166 likes

#19

“Trust, once lost, could not be easily found. Not in a year, perhaps not even in a lifetime.”
― J.E.B. Spredemann, An Unforgivable Secret

tags: betrayal, disloyalty, loyalty, trust

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#20

“She would see it as betrayal. Nothing more. Nothing less.”
― Samantha Young, Blood Will Tell

tags: betrayal, blood-will-tell

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#21

“Nobody has ever killed themselves over a broken arm. But every day, thousands of people kill themselves because of a broken heart. Why? Because emotional pain hurts much worse than physical pain.”
― Oliver Markus Malloy, Bad Choices Make Good Stories (Omnibus): How The Great American Opioid Epidemic of The 21st Century Began - a Memoir

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, betrayal, cheating, emotions, pain, suicide

91 likes

#22

“So this was betrayal. It was like being left alone in the desert at dusk without water or warmth. It left your mouth dry and will broken. It sapped your tears and made you hollow.”
― Anna Godbersen, Rumors

tags: betrayal

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#23

“Adults who were hurt as children inevitably exhibit a peculiar strength, a profound inner wisdom, and a remarkable creativity and insight. Deep within them - just beneath the wound - lies a profound spiritual vitality, a quiet knowing, a way of perceiving what is beautiful, right, and true. Since their early experiences were so dark and painful, they have spent much of their lives in search of the gentleness, love, and peace they have only imagined in the privacy of their own hearts.”
― Wayne Muller, Legacy of the Heart: The Spiritual Advantage of a Painful Childhood

tags: adult-children-of-alcoholics, broken-families, dysfunctional-families, sensitive-people

54 likes

#24

“If my Master is lost, I'll find him. I'll lead him back to himself, because to serve doesn't always mean to follow.”
― Joey W. Hill, Hostile Takeover

tags: bdsm, erotica, love, master, slave

114 likes

#25

“You so need a Daddy, little girl.”
― Breanna Hayse, The Game Plan

tags: bdsm, bdsm-daddy, erotic-romance, kink

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#26

“I look at him ready to cry again. Not out of pain. Not out of need. But because his words rub that part of my soul that suffers, that wants to be explored like a virgin land that has remained intact for centuries and craves to be occupied, appreciated and transformed.”
― Aileen Rose, Girl In The Woods

tags: bdsm, bdsm-paranormal, erotic-romance, shapeshifters

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#27

“I knew instantly that I wanted that type of love in my life. To have someone I could take care of in every sense and who would trust me to do so. No matter what I asked of them.”
― Breanna Hayse, The Game Plan

tags: bdsm, bdsm-daddy, erotic-romance, romance

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#28

“It's like an itch, isn't it? You can feel it in your throat. You want to scream for me.”
― Nenia Campbell, Bound to Accept

tags: bdsm, bdsm-quotes, bdsm-romance, bdsm-sex, dirty-talk, sex, sex-quotes, sexy

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#29

“Can I tell you that in my eyes not even God would be good enough to command you?”
― Kele Moon, Beyond Eden

tags: bdsm, devil, erotic-romance, god, heaven, hell

34 likes

#30

“It was good for her though, to submit to things that weren’t for her pleasure, but his.”
― Annabel Joseph, Cirque de Minuit

tags: bdsm, erotic, erotic-romance

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