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    Lundy Bancroft
    “YOUR ABUSIVE PARTNER DOESN’T HAVE A PROBLEM WITH HIS ANGER; HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH YOUR ANGER.
    One of the basic human rights he takes away from you is the right to be angry with him. No matter how badly he treats you, he believes that your voice shouldn’t rise and your blood shouldn’t boil. The privilege of rage is reserved for him alone. When your anger does jump out of you—as will happen to any abused woman from time to time—he is likely to try to jam it back down your throat as quickly as he can. Then he uses your anger against you to prove what an irrational person you are. Abuse can make you feel straitjacketed. You may develop physical or emotional reactions to swallowing your anger, such as depression, nightmares, emotional numbing, or eating and sleeping problems, which your partner may use as an excuse to belittle you further or make you feel crazy.”
    ― Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
    tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, abused-women, abusive-men, abusive-partner, abusive-relationships, domestic-violence, emotional-abuse, physical-abuse
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    C. Kennedy
    “Don't judge yourself by what others did to you.”
    ― C. Kennedy, Ómorphi
    tags: abuse, abuse-recovery, abuse-sexual-abuse, abuse-survivors, gay-romance, gay-ya, glbtq, glbtq-romance, lgbtq
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  • #3
    Rupi Kaur
    “do not look for healing
    at the feet of those
    who broke you”
    ― Rupi Kaur, Milk and honey
    tags: abuse-survivors, healing, inspirational, poetry
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  • #4
    S. Kelley Harrell
    “Often it isn’t the initiating trauma that creates seemingly insurmountable pain, but the lack of support after.”
    ― S. Kelley Harrell, Gift of the Dreamtime - Reader's Companion
    tags: abuse-survivors, healing, post-traumatic-stress-disorder, posttraumatic-stress-disorder, ptsd, shamanism, support, survivors, trauma
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  • #5
    “Instead of saying, "I'm damaged, I'm broken, I have trust issues" say "I'm healing, I'm rediscovering myself, I'm starting over.”
    ― Horacio Jones
    tags: abuse-survivors, broken, damaged, healing, healing-the-past, mental-illness, positive-thinking, postive, recovery, reframing, relationship-issues, shattered, starting-over, survivors, trust, trust-issues
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    Bryant McGill
    “Toxic relationships are dangerous to your health; they will literally kill you. Stress shortens your lifespan. Even a broken heart can kill you. There is an undeniable mind-body connection. Your arguments and hateful talk can land you in the emergency room or in the morgue. You were not meant to live in a fever of anxiety; screaming yourself hoarse in a frenzy of dreadful, panicked fight-or-flight that leaves you exhausted and numb with grief. You were not meant to live like animals tearing one another to shreds. Don't turn your hair gray. Don't carve a roadmap of pain into the sweet wrinkles on your face. Don't lay in the quiet with your heart pounding like a trapped, frightened creature. For your own precious and beautiful life, and for those around you — seek help or get out before it is too late. This is your wake-up call!”
    ― Bryant McGill
    tags: abuse-survivors, anxiety, healing, healing-insights, mind-body-connection, recovery, spirit, stress, toxic-friends, toxic-people, toxic-relationships
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    Laura Hillenbrand
    “The paradox of vengefulness is that it makes men dependent upon those who have harmed them, believing that their release from pain will come only when they make their tormentors suffer. In seeking the Bird's death to free himself, Louie had chained himself, once again, to his tyrant. During the war, the Bird had been unwilling to let go of Louie; after the war, Louie was unable to let go of the Bird.”
    ― Laura Hillenbrand, Unbroken: A World War II Story of Survival, Resilience and Redemption
    tags: abuse-survivors, forgiveness, freedom, hate, hatred, revenge, survivors
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    Stefan Molyneux
    “Deep connection is the antidote to madness.”
    ― Stefan Molyneux
    tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, freedom, philosophy, psychology, trauma
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    Judith Lewis Herman
    “In situations of captivity the perpetrator becomes the most powerful person in the life of the victim, and the psychology of the victim is shaped by the actions and beliefs of the perpetrator.”
    ― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror
    tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, abuser, belie, belief-system, captivity, complex-ptsd, core-beliefs, domestic-violence, healing, healing-from-abuse, healing-insights, intimate-partner-violence, perpetrator, powerless, powerlessness, prisoner, ptsd, recovery-from-abuse, stockholm-syndrome, survivors, trauma, traumatic-stress, victim
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    Judith Lewis Herman
    “when traumatic events are of human design, those who bear witness are caught in the conflict between victim and perpetrator. All the perpetrator asks is that the bystander do nothing. He appeals to the universal desire to see, hear, and speak no evil. The victim, on the contrary, asks the bystander to share the burden of pain. The victim demands action, engagement and remembering.”
    ― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror
    tags: abuse-survivors, child-abuse-prevention, childhood-trauma, evil, hear-no-evil, society-denial, survivors
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  • #11
    “In order to believe clients' accounts of trauma, you need to suspend any pre-conceived notions that you have about what is possible and impossible in human experience. As simple as they may sound, it may be difficult to do so.”
    ― Aphrodite Matsakis, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder: A Complete Treatment Guide
    tags: abuse-survivors, denial, disbelief, post-traumatic-stress-disorder, posttraumatic-stress-disorder, society-denial, trauma, traumatic-experiences, traumatized
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  • #12
    Jessica Gadziala
    “If you put a frog into a pot of boiling water, the fucker will jump right back out. It knows it’s wrong, it hurts, it will kill him. But if you put him in a pot and slowly raise it up to boiling, he’ll stay. That’s what abuse is like. You might not even notice it’s happening at first. You’d brush it off as him having a bad day, you pissing him off. But then it starts getting worse in small ways until you’re in so deep and you’re so hot and your skin is peeling and you don’t know if you even remember you can jump anymore. That doesn’t make you weak. You got out of that shit, baby. That makes you stronger, a lot stronger, I think, than you even realize.”
    ― Jessica Gadziala, Shane
    tags: abuse-survivors, strong-women, unconditional, women-power
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    Dr. Patricia Dsouza Lobo
    “SPEAK TO THE CHILD WITHIN YOU: Tell the child within you, the one that has remained buried that the “adult” in you is positively safe and sound. Start treating the damaged “you” just the way you would have wished to be handled when you were a child.”
    ― Patricia Dsouza, When Roses are Crushed
    tags: abuse-survivors, child-abuse, healing, recovery-from-abusey
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    Olga Trujillo
    “I opened my eyes and felt better, exhausted but relieved of a burden. The pressure to tell and the weight of the emotions had been with me for weeks. Now that I'd told what had happened, the burden lifted a bit.”
    ― Olga Trujillo, The Sum of My Parts: A Survivor's Story of Dissociative Identity Disorder
    tags: abuse-survivors, child-abuse-survivor, healing-from-abuse, recovery-from-abuse, trauma-memories, untold-truth
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  • #15
    “As a little girl I was scared of monsters. My parents told me they didn't exist. How I wish they would have told me the whole truth. Monsters do exist; they're just not hiding in closets.”
    ― Leah Darrow, The Other Side of Beauty: Embracing God's Vision for Love and True Worth
    tags: abuse-survivors, abusive-relationships, bravery, doubt, fear, monsters
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  • #16
    David M. Allen
    “Invalidating someone else is not merely disagreeing with something that the other person said. It is a process in which individuals communicate to another that the opinions and emotions of the target are invalid, irrational, selfish, uncaring, stupid, most likely insane, and wrong, wrong, wrong. Invalidators let it be known directly or indirectly that their targets views and feelings do not count for anything to anybody at any time or in any way.”
    ― David M. Allen
    tags: abuse-survivors, abusive-parents, abusive-people, abusive-relationships, crazy-making, dumb, emotional-abuse, feeling-stupid, insane, invalidate, invalidating, irrational, irrational-thinking, psychological-abuse, psychology, selfish, stupid
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  • #17
    Jude Gibbs
    “Grief does not demand pity; It requests acknowledgement" - Jude Gibbs”
    ― Jude Gibbs, Gifts from the Ashes: Hope in Jesus for Bereaved Parents
    tags: abuse, abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, bereavement, child-loss, christian, grief, hope
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  • #18
    Diane Langberg
    “Too often the survivor is seen by [himself or] herself and others as "nuts," "crazy," or "weird." Unless her responses are understood within the context of trauma. A traumatic stress reaction consists of *natural* emotions and behaviors in response to a catastrophe, its immediate aftermath, or memories of it. These reactions can occur anytime after the trauma, even decades later. The coping strategies that victims use can be understood only within the context of the abuse of a child. The importance of context was made very clear many years ago when I was visiting the home of a Holocaust survivor. The woman's home was within the city limits of a large metropolitan area. Every time a police or ambulance siren sounded, she became terrified and ran and hid in a closet or under the bed. To put yourself in a closet at the sound of a far-off siren is strange behavior indeed—outside of the context of possibly being sent to a death camp. Within that context, it makes perfect sense. Unless we as therapists have a good grasp of the context of trauma, we run the risk of misunderstanding the symptoms our clients present and, hence, responding inappropriately or in damaging ways.”
    ― Diane Langberg, Counseling Survivors of Sexual Abuse
    tags: abuse-survivors, child-sexual-abuse-survivors, complex-ptsd, counselling, cptsd, crazy, mental-health, mental-health-stigma, nuts, psychotherapy, ptsd, sexual-abuse-survives, survivors, therapy, trauma-survivors, trauma-trigger, traumatized, triggered
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  • #19
    Beverly Engel
    “As you recover, you will feel more conscious of your surroundings. Freed from the ‘fog’ of your pain, fear, and confusion, you will awaken and see the world revealed as never before. You will begin to observe things, especially yourself. You will be aware of what you do and why you do it. You will begin to observe your own behavior and attitudes.”
    ― Beverly Engel, The Right to Innocence: Healing the Trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse: A Therapeutic 7-Step Self-Help Program for Men and Women, Including How to Choose a Therapist and Find a Support Group
    tags: abuse-survivors, child-abuse-survivors, confusion, fog, healing, healing-from-abuse, healing-insights, healing-journey, healing-the-emotional-self, narcissistic-abuse, recovery-from-abuse, self-awareness, survivors
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  • #20
    Talena Winters
    “For the first time in years, she felt a yearning for something different, something real. Something more than the life she had.”
    ― Talena Winters, Finding Heaven
    tags: abuse-survivors, inspirational, overcoming, women-s-fiction
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    Lorraine Nilon
    “Abuse is never contained to a present moment, it lingers across a person’s lifetime and has pervasive long-term ramifications.”
    ― Lorraine Nilon, Breaking Free From the Chains of Silence: A respectful exploration into the ramifications of Paedophilic abuse
    tags: abuse-survivors, abused, childhood-sexual-abuse, childhood-trauma, indifference, indifference-and-bullying, narcissism, peadophilia, pedophile, recovery-from-abuse
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  • #22
    Eskay Teel
    “I'm still not sure if I was a victim or not... and if I was, who was my abuser?”
    ― Eskay Teel, Alice in Worcestershire
    tags: abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, abused-children, child-abuse, childhood-abuse, childhood-traumas
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  • #23
    “In healthy development, trust evolves. How do we decide whether to trust? We share a feeling with someone and watch their reaction; if the response feels safe, if it is caring, noncritical, non-abusive, the first step of trust has developed. For trust to grow, this positive response must become part of a relatively reliable pattern… Trust develops with consistency over time.”
    ― E. Sue Blume, Secret Survivors: Uncovering Incest and Its Aftereffects in Women
    tags: abuse-survivors, boundaries, building-relationships, building-trust, hard-to-trust, heading-the-past, healthy-boundaries, survivors, trust, trust-issues, trustworthy-friends, trustworthy-quotes
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  • #24
    Ellen Bass
    “In spite of the horror, in spite of the
    tragedy, in spite of the weeks of sleepless
    nights, I'm finally alive. I'm not pretending.
    I feel real. I'm not playing charades anymore. I wouldn't go back to the way I was for anything. I'm really like a different person. I'm where I am, and I'm making the most of it. I know I'm courageous now. I found out I had it in me to face this. — Barbara”
    ― Ellen Bass, The Courage to Heal: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
    tags: abuse-survivors, authentic-self, charades, child-abuse-survivor, child-abuse-survivors, deciding-to-change, face-your-fears, feel-alive, gave-your-fears-choice, healing, healing-abuse, healing-from-abuse, healing-journey, hope, hope-and-disappointment, new-me, real-self, recovery, recovery-from-abuse, survivors, true-self
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  • #25
    John Bradshaw
    “Perhaps nothing so accurately characterizes dysfunctional families as denial.”
    ― John Bradshaw, Bradshaw on the Family: A New Way of Creating Solid Self-Esteem
    tags: abuse-survivors, child-abuse, child-abuse-deniers, denial, dysfunctional-families, dysfunctional-family
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  • #26
    “The capacity for dissociation enables the young child to exercise their innate life-sustaining need for attachment in spite of the fact that principal attachment figures are also principal abusers.”
    ― Warwick Middleton
    tags: abuse-survivors, abusive-parents, attachment, child-abuse, child-abuse-survivors, dissociation, dissociative-disorder, grooming, psychological-defense, trauma-bonding
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  • #27
    “So for those who think abuse survivors can simply logically process their situation and get out of and over the situation easily, think again. The parts of our brain that deal with planning, cognition, learning, and decision-making become disconnected with the emotional parts of our brain – they can cease to talk to each other when an individual becomes traumatized. It usually takes a great deal of effort, resources, strength, validation, addressing wounding on all levels of body and mind, for a survivor to become fully empowered to begin to heal from this form of trauma.”
    ― Shahida Arabi, Becoming the Narcissist's Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself
    tags: abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, narcissist
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  • #28
    “Most people expect survivors of this type of abuse to be extremely damaged and seriously disturbed individuals. Certainly most people around expect them to be in great need of psychiatric help... No matter what the survivor is in contact with a particular agency for, the assumption is quickly made that, because of the [ritual] abuse, there must be mental health problems of some kind present. Yet, this is not always the case.”
    ― Laurie Matthew, Behind Enemy Lines
    tags: abuse-survivors, labeling-someone, mental-health-bias, ritual-abuse, ritual-abuse-myth, ritual-abuse-myths, ritual-abuse-survivors, satanic-ritual-abuse, stereotyping
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    A.C. Grayling
    “It is always a mistake to underestimate how long it takes for mankind to understand the traumas it has suffered, especially the self-inflicted ones.”
    ― A.C. Grayling, The Meaning of Things: Applying Philosophy to Life
    tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, amnesia, child-abuse, child-abusers, holocaust, human-rights-violations, survivors, trauma, traumatic-experiences, traumatized
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  • #30
    “Shame evokes anxiety about what will happen if someone really knows is, but, because it is impossible to for anxiety and anger to be felt simultaneously, we can dream our anxiety by employing anger or rage in the form of contempt... Contempt, because it feels more powerful has always helped us feel safer and more powerful than the anxiety we feel when we experience shame. [3]”
    ― Wendy Mahill, Growing a Passionate Heart
    tags: abuse-survivors, ashamed, avoidance, contempt, healing-insights, psychological-defence, self-contempt, shame
    4 likes



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