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#1

“In order to escape accountability for his crimes, the perpetrator does everything in his power to promote forgetting. If secrecy fails, the perpetrator attacks the credibility of his victim. If he cannot silence her absolutely, he tries to make sure no one listens.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

tags: abuse, abuse-survivors, abuser, abusers, attack-on-character, attacking-people, backlash, break-the-silence, child-sexual-abuse, child-sexual-abuse-survivor, crazy, credibility, denial, false-memories, false-memory-myth, false-memory-syndrome-campaign, healing-from-abuse, hysterical, incest, insane, just-tell, lack-of-accountability, lying, perpetrator, perpetrators, pschological-abuse, rape-culture, rape-myths, rape-survivor, secrecy, sexual-abuse, sexual-assault, sexual-violence, survivor, survivors, unstable, victimized, victimizing

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#2

“Often it isn’t the initiating trauma that creates seemingly insurmountable pain, but the lack of support after.”
― S. Kelley Harrell, Gift of the Dreamtime - Reader's Companion

tags: abuse-survivors, healing, post-traumatic-stress-disorder, posttraumatic-stress-disorder, ptsd, shamanism, support, survivors, trauma

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#3

“You can recognize survivors of abuse by their courage. When silence is so very inviting, they step forward and share their truth so others know they aren't alone.”
― Jeanne McElvaney, Healing Insights: Effects of Abuse for Adults Abused as Children

tags: abuse-recovery, abuse-survivors, childhood-abuse, childhood-sexual-abuse, effects-of-child-abuse, harrietta-s-happenstance, healing-abuse, healing-insights, jeanne-mcelvaney, spirit-unbroken-abby-s-story, survivors-of-abuse

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#4

“Instead of saying, "I'm damaged, I'm broken, I have trust issues" say "I'm healing, I'm rediscovering myself, I'm starting over.”
― Horacio Jones

tags: abuse-survivors, broken, damaged, healing, healing-the-past, mental-illness, positive-thinking, postive, recovery, reframing, relationship-issues, shattered, starting-over, survivors, trust, trust-issues

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#5

“Toxic relationships are dangerous to your health; they will literally kill you. Stress shortens your lifespan. Even a broken heart can kill you. There is an undeniable mind-body connection. Your arguments and hateful talk can land you in the emergency room or in the morgue. You were not meant to live in a fever of anxiety; screaming yourself hoarse in a frenzy of dreadful, panicked fight-or-flight that leaves you exhausted and numb with grief. You were not meant to live like animals tearing one another to shreds. Don't turn your hair gray. Don't carve a roadmap of pain into the sweet wrinkles on your face. Don't lay in the quiet with your heart pounding like a trapped, frightened creature. For your own precious and beautiful life, and for those around you — seek help or get out before it is too late. This is your wake-up call!”
― Bryant McGill

tags: abuse-survivors, anxiety, healing, healing-insights, mind-body-connection, recovery, spirit, stress, toxic-friends, toxic-people, toxic-relationships

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#6

“We are all damaged. We have all been hurt. We have all had to learn painful lessons. We are all recovering from some mistake, loss, betrayal, abuse, injustice or misfortune. All of life is a process of recovery that never ends. We each must find ways to accept and move through the pain and to pick ourselves back up. For each pang of grief, depression, doubt or despair there is an inverse toward renewal coming to you in time. Each tragedy is an announcement that some good will indeed come in time. Be patient with yourself.”
― Bryant McGill, Simple Reminders: Inspiration for Living Your Best Life

tags: abuse-survivors, betrayal, betrayal-trauma, depression, grief, healing, healing-insights, hurt, injustice, patience, recovery, survivors

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#7

“when traumatic events are of human design, those who bear witness are caught in the conflict between victim and perpetrator. All the perpetrator asks is that the bystander do nothing. He appeals to the universal desire to see, hear, and speak no evil. The victim, on the contrary, asks the bystander to share the burden of pain. The victim demands action, engagement and remembering.”
― Judith Lewis Herman, Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence - From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

tags: abuse-survivors, child-abuse-prevention, childhood-trauma, evil, hear-no-evil, society-denial, survivors

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#8

“Most survivors are cope-aholics, people who cope with whatever is thrown at them without reliance on others. They do not seek sympathy for their pain and feel undeserving if it is offered. They are especially adverse to sympathy from others.”
― Renee Fredrickson, Repressed Memories: A Journey to Recovery from Sexual Abuse

tags: abuse-survivors, coping, coping-mechanism, overly-independent, overwhelmed, self-reliance, self-reliance-independence, survivors, sympathy-vs-empathy

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#9

“Sometimes sex is the price that is exacted from her for warmth and attention. And if these sometimes wonderful moments of closeness must coexist with terrifying, confusing moments of abuse, she learns to see the two as parts of the same experience. She grows to think she wanted the incest itself. Because they’ve become enmeshed, she doesn’t know that it was love she wanted, not sex.”
― E. Sue Blume, Secret Survivors: Uncovering Incest and Its Aftereffects in Women

tags: abuse-survivors, child-sexual-abuse, enmeshed, healing-insights, incest

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#10

“You can avoid the issues from abuse for only so long. Sooner or later, the problems in your life cause you to either face it or go deeper into denial. Most of you will eventually be forced into admitting that it is indeed the sexual abuse that is the root of your problems. Even then, the tendency will be to ‘forgive and forget’ in the belief that by doing so the pain will be assuaged.”
― Beverly Engel, The Right to Innocence: Healing the Trauma of Childhood Sexual Abuse: A Therapeutic 7-Step Self-Help Program for Men and Women, Including How to Choose a Therapist and Find a Support Group

tags: abuse-survivors, child-sexual-abuse, healing-insights, sexual-abuse, survivors-of-abuse

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#11

“do not look for healing
at the feet of those
who broke you”
― Rupi Kaur, Milk and honey

tags: abuse-survivors, healing, inspirational, poetry

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