What do you do if your mentor doesn't understand your social media expectations?

1 Assess the situation

Before you approach your mentor with your concerns, try to understand where they are coming from. Maybe they have a different background, experience, or perspective on social media than you do. Maybe they are not familiar with the latest trends, tools, or best practices. Maybe they have a different style, tone, or voice than you prefer. Or maybe they simply have different priorities, objectives, or metrics than you do. Whatever the case, try to empathize with their point of view and appreciate their strengths and expertise.

2 Clarify your expectations

Once you have a better sense of your mentor's perspective, you can start to communicate your own expectations. Be clear, specific, and realistic about what you want to learn, achieve, and improve on social media. Explain why these are important to you and how they align with your personal and professional goals. Provide examples, evidence, or feedback to support your case. Avoid being defensive, confrontational, or dismissive of your mentor's opinions. Instead, be respectful, curious, and open-minded.

3 Seek feedback and guidance

After you have clarified your expectations, ask your mentor for feedback and guidance. Show them that you value their input and experience, and that you are eager to learn from them. Ask them questions, listen to their suggestions, and try to implement their advice. Acknowledge their contributions, thank them for their time, and update them on your progress. Seek constructive criticism, not just praise, and be willing to accept it. Also, give feedback to your mentor on how they can help you better, and what you appreciate about them.

4 Find common ground

As you communicate with your mentor, try to find common ground and build rapport. Focus on the areas where you agree, share, or complement each other. For example, you might have similar values, interests, or passions. You might have similar challenges, opportunities, or aspirations. You might have similar audiences, platforms, or strategies. Or you might have similar skills, talents, or achievements. Highlight these similarities and celebrate them. Show your mentor that you respect and admire them, and that you have something in common.

5 Supplement your learning

While your mentor can be a valuable source of learning and support, they are not the only one. You can also supplement your learning by seeking other resources, perspectives, and opportunities. For example, you can read books, blogs, or articles on social media. You can watch videos, podcasts, or webinars on social media. You can join online communities, forums, or groups on social media. You can attend events, workshops, or courses on social media. You can network with other social media professionals, experts, or influencers. You can experiment with different tools, techniques, or formats on social media. The more you learn, the more you can share with your mentor and enrich your relationship.

6 Be flexible and adaptable

Finally, be flexible and adaptable in your mentorship. Understand that social media is constantly changing and evolving, and that you and your mentor may have to adjust accordingly. Be open to new ideas, challenges, and opportunities. Be willing to try new things, make mistakes, and learn from them. Be ready to revise, update, or change your expectations, goals, or plans. Be respectful of your mentor's availability, preferences, and limitations. Be grateful for their generosity, patience, and wisdom. And be confident in your own abilities, potential, and growth.

7 Here’s what else to consider

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