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Family Relationship : Why Is It Important ?
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2.2 Family Relationship
From this module of Coping & Competence Research page I choose to discuss part 2.2 in title
“Family Relationship” because for me family relationship is important. It’s what forms and build
our child’s characters, personalities, and how they’re perspective on seeing the world. Families
are the basic units that teach children about relationships. That’s why when a child born into this
world family is their number one source of teaching them knowledge, giving them sense of
secure and safe feelings. As it is said in this page “Our early relationships with parents or other
primary caregivers shape how we learn to cope and become competent. Responsive and
sensitive nurturing sets the foundation for optimal development.”. Starting an Early relationship
can give our child a strong foundation and shape the adult our child will become. We as a
parents or caregivers have to be responsive and sensitive towards the childs need. (“Keating -
parenting (1:31)”) “Whoever the primary caretaker is that's an important thing, and by warmth
it's obviously means kind of general acceptance, a sense of love and affection, emotionally
communicated affection as well as responsiveness to needs as they arise, so responsiveness
that's time sensitive; the younger the child, the more time sensitive those responsiveness needs
are.” For me being responsive and sensitive means that I can detect and understand what my
child wants and how to give it to them. From the moment a child still inside a mother’s womb
they already develop a bond. A bond between a mother and child grows as the child born and
when they already born then the attachment starting to show up. From this module I also
learned the difference between bond and attachment. Bonding describes the parent child
relationship from the parents’ point of view, attachment describes the relationship from the
children’s perspective. Bonding with our children can be by doing anything. We can play with
them, teach them pictures, or even just by sitting and having a conversation with them. While
attachment is build over time by bonding. So the two of them is the starting key on having a
healthy family relationship. A healthy family relationship means your child feels loved, safe,
secure by their family as they grow. It is our duty as parents and caregivers to make our child
feels loved, safe, and secure. By feeling all of those it can help a child learn to grow more attach
to us too. Building a healthy family relationship starts with a healthy parenting style. Although
every parents are different and not perfect. I always tried my best to provide my child a healthy
family relationship. Personally I am more of a Indulgent / Permissive Parents . Even though I have
a low control of my child because most of the day I have work but I am very responsive towards
my childs needs. I am more likely to make my child feels that the parents are more “friends” to
their children rather than parents. So she can feel free to tell my how she feels. A good
comunication with a child is also a must. Having a good communication helps us understand
what our child really needs and feel. Because sometimes a child is rather shy or having a struggle
to tell their parents how they felt and having to buried their feelings and that’s not a healthy
relationship. Having a good communication with your child can be anywhere. Either your at work
or at home. Distance is not an obstacles to communicate with your child. For example, Everytime
I have a break at work I always text or call my daughter to ask her how’s she doing or whether
she already eat or not and also everyday I spend atleast 1 hour or more to sit down with my
daughter after work to listen to their thoughts and feelings and listen how her days went or even
just sit there and watch my child draw because it’s her favorite thing to do and sometimes we
like watch movies together. Another simple little things I like to do with my daughter everyday is
to cook & bake. Everyday after work I always spend time with my daughter to cook for dinner
and after that don't forget to make a dessert to complete our delightful night. Even just for a
minute you spend time with your child it can be really meaningful to them. That's why we as a
parents even in our busiest day, we have to make times for our children. A good communication
is not only can shown by words and expressing how she felt but also it can be showed by a sweet
gesture such as everytime I went to work or got home from work my daughter always welcome
me with a hug & kisses.For me a good communication is the main key on having a healthy family
relationship. That’s why it is really important to me to have a good communication with my
daughter. What I find most interesting is that there are a lot of parenting style. From the high
control and high responsive to the low control and low responsive parents. But deep down I
know that every parents wants whats best for their children, It’s just the way they show their
love and affection towards their childrens that are different. I, myself want whats best for my
daughter and willing to do everything to make her happy, feel loved, and secured. As what I
would like to know more about is “are there any hormones that can produce a feelings of secure
and safe? And how does the hormones affecting the child’s brain development ?”
My question is What types of parenting style do u guys consider yourself as and what’s your
main key of having a healthy relationship? Feel free to discuss by replying this discussion :)
