Contents

1 Forgive and Forget

2 Why Prayers Aren't Answered
3 Forgiveness in the Church
4 True Forgiveness
A Sinner's Prayer to Receive Jesus as Savior
 Chapter 1
FORGIVE AND FORGET
And Jesus answering saith unto them, Have faith in God.
For verily I say unto you, That whosoever shall say unto this mountain,
Be thou removed, and be thou cast into the sea; and shall not doubt in
his heart, but shall believe that those things which he saith shall come to
pass; he shall have whatsoever he saith.
Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray,
believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them.
—Mark 11:22-24
People get all excited about these three verses. The verses tell us what
we can get from God, what God can do for us, and how we can use our faith
to receive.
Nearly everybody stops reading with Mark
11:24, but this discourse which the Master started in verse 22,
describing what I call "possibility faith," doesn't end with verse 24!
In the following verses, Jesus makes two more statements that are
vitally important for faith. The first is in verse 25:
MARK 11:25
25 And WHEN YE STAND PRAYING, FORGIVE, if ye have ought
against any; that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your
trespasses.
Jesus ties this thought to verse 24 with a conjunction. If this had been
edited correctly in King James' time, there would not be a period after
"them" in verse 24; there would be a comma and then the word "and"
joining the two thoughts. These two verses were meant to go together.
Most people stop reading at the end of verse 24 and get all excited about
receiving the things they desire. Too many Christians live in this kind of
whoopee-type world instead of the real world. Believers need to get their
feet on the ground in order to get something done for themselves and the
rest of the kingdom.
Notice in verse 25 that the Father calls holding grudges against our fellow man "trespasses."
This is serious. When you study the various translations, you can see you need to forgive so your
Father can forgive you of your sins. Really, it is a sin to hold grudges against people.
 People say, "Well, I can forgive, but I'll never forget what they've done to me." That's not
forgiving. I once heard a man say, "I know I have to forgive in order for God to meet my needs. I tell
you what, I'm going to forgive them, but I'm never going to forget what they did to me."
You have to let it drop, forget it, no matter what someone's done to you. The Amplified Bible
says, "And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against any one, forgive him and let it
drop."
"Yeah, but you don't know what they did to me," some will protest.
Have they killed you yet? Have they hung you on a cross yet? Jesus
said, "Father, forgive them, because they don't understand what they're
doing."
When somebody says something about you that you don't like, you say, "I'm not going to let
them get away with that! They're not going to make me look like a fool and get away with it!" Then,
out of the other side of your mouth, you say, "Oh, thank God, I'm confessing that God will meet all of
my needs."
How in the world can God meet your needs when you're not living in line with God's Word?
Look at what He says in verse 26:
MARK 11:26
26 But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven
forgive your trespasses.
The Lord is not talking to sinners here; He's talking to believers—those
who have the God-kind of faith. Sinners don't have the God-kind of faith.
Only those who have been born again have received the God-kind of faith.
Every believer has a measure of it. Every believer can make it grow by
exercising it and feeding it on God's Word. This God-kind of faith is of the
heart, not the head. But it will not work where there is unforgiveness.
No, we don't like to hear these kinds of things taught. We want to live the way we want to live
and enjoy everything the way we want to enjoy it. We don't want to come in line with the real truth
of God's Word.
The Apostle Paul warned in Second Timothy 4:3 that the day would
come when people would heap to themselves teachers who would teach
what the people wanted to hear because they had "itching ears."
As I wrote in my minibook Itching Ears, it's time you realized there are a lot of other doctrines
in the Word of God besides faith and healing.
I know people who would walk out of the church if the preacher got up
and started teaching on a topic like unforgiveness. They would say, "Bless
God, I'm not going to listen to anything but faith!" They won't endure sound
doctrine.
 Feeding on only one part of the Word will do you harm. You need a
balanced diet for your spiritual man just like you do for your natural man.
When I was a youngster in elementary school, our teachers showed us
drawings of a fellow who ate candy, ice cream, and other junk food all the
time. He started out big and strong, but after a while, he became weak and
wasted. Our teachers were trying to teach us the fact that if we ate just one
kind of food, we'd either become weak, wasted, or fat.
The same is true with "eating" or feasting on the Word of God. If you
don't eat a balanced diet, you will become unbalanced. And do you know
what happens to imbalanced people? Most of the time they go "off the deep
end."
By using simple logic, we could save ourselves a lot of problems, but
for some reason, when some people get saved and filled with the Holy
Spirit, they throw all their natural knowledge out the window.
I make the following statement all the time at RHEMA: The natural and the supernatural
working together become an explosive force for God. Either one by itself can't really do the job; it
takes both working together.
 Chapter 2
WHY PRAYERS AREN'T ANSWERED
Unforgiveness is the reason why many people do not get answers to their prayers. Oh, they can
quote the Scriptures; they can make all the right confessions; they can give you the 25 steps to faith
—but all of a sudden, faith is not working in their life.
I have counseled such people. They say, "I just don't understand it. My
faith won't work. I can't understand what's going on."
I start asking questions to try to find out something about them. I find
they know the Word. They can quote it. Then I begin to check up in some
other areas. I begin to ask them about their lifestyle to find out if they're
living in any kind of open sin we would consider not in line with God's
Word. I ascertain that they're living a good, clean life.
Then I say, "All right, since all these other areas are clear, there's only
one area left: the area of forgiveness and walking in love. Has anybody
done anything that you think they shouldn't have done to you?"
"Well, it's funny you should ask that," a RHEMA student once replied.
"About two months ago, my roommate decided he wanted to move out. We
had made a pact to live together for the entire school year, but he decided he
wanted to live by himself.
"I could not afford to keep our apartment—it was really nice—and I had
to move into a 'dump.' I just don't like it, because he didn't hold up his end
of the bargain. He did me wrong!"
I said, "What do you mean, he did you wrong? Didn't he give you
notice?"
"Oh, yes, he told me two months before the lease ran out on the
apartment—but still we had agreed to live together for the entire school
year."
I said, "But he stayed the length of time you signed the lease for, and
besides that, he gave you two months' notice."
"I don't care. That wasn't right. He didn't do me right. I had to move to
another place, and it's too far from school and a lot of other things."
I said, "I want to tell you something, fellow. You'd better forget about it
right now. If you don't, you're going to get in trouble in every area of your
life."
 He replied, "Well, I'm going to tell you something—I'm not going to forget the way he treated
me. He treated me like dirt!"
I said, "Hey, man, back off."
He said, "Oh, no."
We had to expel that young man from RHEMA with less than a month
of the school year to go. Because he got upset with his roommate and
wouldn't forgive him, he gave the devil a place. He began to rebel against
the rules, saying, "I don't see why they've got that rule. I don't have to obey
that. I don't believe that's in line with God's Word."
Because we're training people for the ministry, we like the men to wear
dress slacks and regular shirts, not jeans and T-shirts, to school. This fellow
started coming to school wearing jeans and T-shirts. He'd argue, "Well, I
don't see why I can't wear jeans and T-shirts. I'm free."
The faculty member who dealt with him said, "The main reason you
can't wear them is because that's one of the rules that's been established at
RHEMA."
He said, "But I don't find that in the Bible."
The faculty member said, "I don't find in the Bible where it says you've
got to have a driver's license to drive, either, but you go out and try to drive
without one. Get stopped by a policeman and see what happens to you."
At the beginning of the school year, this young man had been a very
good student who showed great promise. Then, by holding that grudge, he
allowed unforgiveness into his heart.
What happened to him? The devil got him completely confused,
hoodwinked, and all messed up. He went completely "off the deep end,"
rebelling against everything—and it all started with unforgiveness.
Do you know what happens when you start holding grudges? It's the
same thing that happens in the arteries of your heart when too much fat gets
in. Fat starts collecting around the edges of the artery and restricting the
flow of blood. Once it starts collecting, it builds up and builds up until no
blood can flow at all.
In the spiritual realm, unforgiveness builds up the same way. It starts
collecting in the channel where the Spirit flows, and if you're not careful,
it'll clog the channel. Soon nothing is flowing at all.
Get on your knees before God, take the knife of the Holy Spirit, and cut
out all that unforgiveness. When you get rid of it, the flow can start again.
 You see, it says in God's Word, "And when ye stand praying, forgive." Of course, you don't
always have to go to the individual. Sometimes I have gone to an individual to settle a matter because
I felt it was necessary. Other times, when I stand praying, the Lord brings it to my remembrance that
someone has wronged me and I have not forgiven them. So I simply say, "Lord, I forgive that person.
I ask you now to forgive me for harboring a grudge against them."
I refuse to dwell on evil things that somebody says to me—and I've had
plenty of opportunity, raised in a preacher's home, to hold everything
against everybody! When you're a teenager and you hear people talking
against your father and his stand on the Word, you've got every opportunity
to get upset—or even get in a fight!
I remember the time a bunch of us preachers' kids were up in the
balcony during a convention. Some of the other boys started saying more
than I thought they should, and we got into a scuffle. I was only about 14 at
the time.
Later on, when I really began to get serious with God, I asked the fellow
I had fought with to forgive me. "I shouldn't have done that," I said. "That
wasn't right. I want you to forgive me."
He said, "No way! You whipped me. I'll hold it against you till the day
you die."
I said, "That's your problem, not mine. I've done what God told me to
do. I love you, man."
That fellow's not even living for God today, and I attribute part of it to
his holding grudges, because once you start trespassing (holding grudges) in
one area and give the devil one inch of ground, he'll start to take you over in
other areas, and he'll push you into a corner.
Now, as I said, I do get upset. Anybody with any gumption gets upset occasionally, but the Word
of God says, "Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: Neither give place
to the devil" (Eph. 4:26,27).
There's a difference between getting upset and holding a grudge. I didn't say you couldn't
disagree with somebody. But did you know you can disagree agreeably? There are certain things in
the Word of God that allow room for differences of opinions, and no one is going to see eye-to-eye
with us on everything. We can disagree on certain issues.
However, I'm not going to hold a grudge against someone because he
doesn't believe the same way I do. If he believes in being saved by the
blood of the Lord Jesus Christ, that's what counts. If he truly believes in
salvation and tries to live in line with God's Word, that's grounds enough for
me to fellowship with him.
 A lot of you won't even fellowship with people like that. You say,
"Bless God, if they don't believe it all the way, I'm not going to be around
them."
How in the world are you ever going to get them to see the truth of
God's Word if you refuse to talk with them?
Some of you are going to be surprised at the people you'll find in
heaven. The only prerequisite for getting to heaven is being born again by
the blood of the Lord Jesus Christ. They don't have to believe in healing;
they don't have to believe in prosperity; and they don't have to speak in
tongues! In heaven you will fellowship with people you ignored down here
because they didn't believe exactly as you did.
I've heard pastors say, "Bless God, I wouldn't join that ministerial
alliance—too many unbelievers there." The pastoral staff of RHEMA Bible
Church are very active in our local ministerial alliance. Even when I was
pastoring years ago in another state, I was involved in the ministerial
alliance. At that time years ago, I knew some men in the group probably
weren't saved, but the majority were.
One day we all sat around a table and talked about how God had called
each of us into the ministry. I was really surprised to hear what some of the
Methodist and Baptist ministers had to say. They told about being out in the
woods praying for several hours when God spoke to them about getting into
the ministry. I thought only Pentecostals did that!
 Chapter 3
FORGIVENESS IN THE CHURCH
Most charismatic churches are made up of people who have come out of
denominational churches, and many of you are holding grudges against
your former denomination. As soon as someone mentions your former
church, you bristle, "Bless God, they did me wrong. They taught unbelief.
They had no right to kick me out. I didn't do anything wrong!"
Even if they did you wrong or taught you wrong, you can't hold a
grudge if you expect God to use you. Let that be between God and them.
Do not let yourself be cut off from the flow of God's presence by holding a
grudge or giving a bad report.
Many churches have problems because people in the congregation hold
grudges against each other. They sit out there in the congregation, thinking
they have been wronged and, without realizing it, play into the devil's
hands.
They keep the power of God from being able to move effectively among the whole body of
believers because they're thinking, I can sing better than that! I don’t know why the pastor put her up
there to lead worship. I have a better voice. Listen to that! She went flat on that note.
Or, I wish the pastor would shut up. He's been preaching 35 minutes. He already said that three
times—what’s he saying it again for?
Or, I taught that Sunday School class last year. The pastor should have chosen me! I'm better
qualified!
If you're not careful, this kind of thing will build up resentment in you,
and before you know it, you won't want to go to church.
Instead of getting upset and acting in unforgiveness, speaking an evil
report, you should give a good report. You should say, "Well, praise God,
the pastor must know what he's doing."
You should go to that person chosen to teach your former class and say,
"I taught this class last year. I have a lot of notes and research you're
welcome to use if you would like."
That's acting in love. That's the way it should be, because then the
enemy will have no room to get in. Then the power of God can move. Then
your words won't snare you:
PROVERBS 6:2
 2 Thou art snared with the words of thy mouth, thou art taken with the
words of thy mouth.
The Book of James has a lot to say about this. James talks about the
wagging tongue. He talks about having faith. And he wonders how your
faith is going to work if that tongue is always wagging.
(That's what's the matter with a lot of people. God couldn't move if He
wanted to because they're never quiet long enough for Him to say anything
to them.)
Words are filled with something. They are containers. They are either
filled with hate, doubt, and unbelief, or they are filled with love, joy, peace,
faith, and goodness. You build an atmosphere with words.
It's the same in the spiritual realm: Forgive and keep a good report. Let whatever flows out of
your mouth be good!
If you have all the "formulas" right, but your prayers are not getting
answered, the first thing to do is check to see if you're holding a grudge
against somebody. There's nothing wrong with the power end (God), so the
problem must be on the receiving end (you).
If you're tuning in a radio station and the signal's garbled, you don't call
the radio station and say, "Hey, your signal's no good; you need to check the
transmitter."
It's not the fault of the transmitter; something's wrong with your radio.
You have to do something. Either the tuner's not working properly, or you're
too far away from the signal to pull it in with the type of antenna you have.
So when your faith's not working for you, you'd better start fine-tuning
at your end of the line.
Never permit anything said about you to remain in your memory. If you think on those barbs
long enough, they will begin to affect you. The devil will jump on your shoulder and say, "If I were
you, I'd wait for an opportunity to get back at them!"
Many people have trouble like this on their jobs. They may feel they've
been wronged or passed over for promotions, so they try to get even with
the person they believe wronged them. When they see that person making a
mistake, they make sure the mistake is noticed by everybody.
That's harboring unforgiveness to the point where you begin to sin
against your fellow man.
The other day as I was walking across the RHEMA campus, a young
man came up to me and said, "I want you to forgive me."
I said, "What for?"
 He said, "Don't you remember? The other day we were over at the
recreation center and I said such and such."
I said, "No, I don't remember."
He said, "I do."
I said, "Well, now that you've started bringing it up, maybe you did. But
I never hold anything against anybody. Yes, I forgive you. Go on."
I make it a rule if somebody says something to forgive them that very
moment, and I never even think of it again.
GALATIANS 6:1
1 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual,
restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou
also be tempted.
Many people get into trouble when they see somebody doing something they think is wrong
(whether it is or not). They may say something like, "My goodness, I can't believe it! Look what he's
doing. I don't believe that's right."
Even if it is wrong, Paul didn't say, "People, if a man be overtaken in a fault, you who are
spiritual get on the telephone and tell everybody about it."
Paul didn't tell you to say, "Do you know what I saw So-and-so doing?
That isn't right. We ought to do something about that. We ought to go tell
the pastor. We ought to bring it up before the church. We ought to expose
him." That's holding ought against your brother.
No, the Bible says, "Ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness;
considering thyself lest thou also be tempted."
When you stand praying, forgive those who have done wrong to you or
others. Do not allow unforgiveness to get hold of you. I didn't say it would
be easy, because sometimes it's not easy to forgive or forget.
Whenever I have trouble forgiving, I go back in my mind to Jerusalem,
to Golgotha, a place by a garden outside the city walls. Many believe that is
where Jesus hung on the cross.
I remember the words He uttered as He was dying. He was stretched between heaven and earth,
the bridge on which man passes from sin to eternal life. He said, "Father, forgive them."
If the Son of God can forgive like that, I can forgive, too! When I find it
hard to forgive and forget, I remember that Jesus forgave—and it becomes
quite easy.
Nobody has put a crown of thorns on my head. Nobody has beaten my
back bloody. Nobody has put me to death. If Jesus can forgive, so can I. All
I've had to endure is a little tongue-lashing.
 The Holy Spirit will help you forgive. The Amplified Bible quotes Jesus in John 14:16 as saying,
"And I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Comforter (Counselor, Helper, Intercessor,
Advocate, Strengthener and Standby) that He may remain with you forever."
The Holy Spirit is a Helper. He is with you. If you choose to forgive and forget and to keep a
good report, the Holy Spirit will help you. But until you choose to forgive, the Holy Spirit cannot
help you. Oh, He wants to help!
He wants to place a hand, as it were, over your mouth and say, "Don't
say that! Don't think about that! Don't say that evil! Don't listen to that!"
But the choice is yours.
It's your choice to speak faith words—loving words—and not say anything evil. You control
what comes out of your mouth. You can choose to talk about how badly you feel, how bad economic
conditions are, or how badly somebody acted toward you.
You can choose to talk about those in authority and bad-mouth them all
day long, dwelling on their bad points, but if you dwell on these kinds of
things, they will become a giant and eat you alive.
On the other hand, you can choose to talk about God and how great He
is. You can choose to say good things about people who have wronged you.
You can choose to talk about the goodness of
God, how great it is to be alive, and what a wonderful day God has
made.
It's your choice to hold a grudge or forgive.
It's your choice to speak faith words (positive words) or failure words
(negative words).
I personally choose to be positive and keep a good report coming out of
my mouth. I refuse to hold ought against anybody. If somebody wrongs me,
I forget it—I let it go—and I pray for them.
 Chapter 4
TRUE FORGIVENESS
Paul said in his writings, "Faith worketh by love." Love isn't bothered by trivial things. Love
overlooks them. Love forgives them. Love lets them go.
When you truly love somebody, you forget their failings and mistakes.
That's what the Word says God does with us. It says that He forgives us of
our sins and He forgets them—it's as if we never had sinned.
When most people see their children doing something they don't like,
they correct them, but they don't hold that mistake against them every time
they make another. But there are some people who dangle a previous
mistake in front of the child, saying, "Remember what you did last week?"
Once you've corrected a problem and dealt with it, forget it and go on. Don't
bring it back and hammer the child over the head with it.
A lot of you do that when it comes to forgiving someone. You say you
forgive them, and you let them back into fellowship, but if that person steps
out of line the least bit, you grab them and say, "Hey, remember what you
did before? This is the second time I've had to talk to you about it." How
much forgiveness is in that?
Some people hinder their own prayers by reminding God of their past.
He's forgotten it— He's forgiven you—so don't remind Him of it.
You see, true forgiveness is acting like it never happened. That's true love: never thinking about
it.
If you want to be strong in faith, you've got to be strong in love and
forgiveness; especially in forgiveness. I realize this is not an "exciting"
teaching—it doesn't make you want to jump over benches—but it will give
you a foundation that will stand in the midst of the storms.
I know that most of you already have all those verses in the 11th chapter of Mark underlined,
but you ought to underline in purple ink where it says "And when ye stand praying, forgive." That
ought to be foremost in your mind, your heart, and your spirit. Without forgiveness it is impossible to
make your faith work.
The person who wronged you has to answer to God. You don't answer for him or her; you
answer for you. The only thing you can do for them is forgive them, pray for them, and go on. You
control you.
If you want strong faith, learn how to forgive when you stand praying.
 A Sinner's Prayer to Receive Jesus as Savior
Dear Heavenly Father ...
I come to You in the Name of Jesus.
Your Word says, "... him that cometh to me I will in no wise cast out" (John 6:37), so I know
You won't cast me out, but You take me in and I thank You for it.
You said in Your Word, "Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved" (Rom.
10:13). I am calling on Your Name, so I know You have saved me now.
You also said "if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine
heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth
unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation" (Rom. 10:9,10). I believe
in my heart Jesus Christ is the Son of God. I believe that He was raised from the dead for my
justification, and I confess Him now as my Lord.
Because Your Word says, "... with the heart man believeth unto righteousness ..." and I do
believe with
my heart, I have now become the righteousness of God in Christ (2 Cor. 5:21) ... And I am
saved!
Thank You, Lord!
Signed_
Date_
 About the Author
Rev. Kenneth Hagin Jr., President of Kenneth Hagin Ministries and
pastor of RHEMA Bible Church, teaches from a rich and diversified
background of more than 45 years in the ministry.
Rev. Hagin Jr. attended Southwestern Assemblies of God University,
graduated from Oral Roberts University, and holds an honorary Doctor of
Divinity degree from Faith Theological Seminary in Tampa, Florida.
Rev. Hagin Jr. has served as an associate pastor and traveling evangelist.
He organized and developed RHEMA Bible Training Centers in Broken
Arrow, Oklahoma, and in 13 countries around the world.
Rev. Hagin Jr. is the International Director of RHEMA Ministerial Association International. He
can be heard weekdays on Faith Seminar of the Air, broadcast on stations throughout the United
States. And his television program, RHEMA Praise, can be seen on every continent.