DIGITAL SELF
ESTHER SUAN-LANCITA
Learning Outcomes
1. Define digital self
2. Compare real identity vs. online identity
3. Identify the ways on how one presents the self online
4. Describe the impact of online interactions to the self
Purpose of Internet
What is Digital Self?
Anything that is posted online is
considered “public”. Even if your privacy
settings is private, people can still screen
capture and share to unintended
audiences.
Two Identities in Cyberspace
according to William James
1. Online identity – this is what makes you
become “selective”
2. Real Identity – this is makes “who you are”
4 Reasons why we do extended self in a digital
world:
1. Self-revelation - we want others to know about ourselves. We want to share our talents, we
do not want to be left behind. It has a positive and negative side of self-revelation, we need
to make sure that when we reveal, something online, we are responsible to it.
2. The loss of control – this is the downside of being so attached with our digital self.
3. Shared digital possessions and aggregate self – when we are part of an online community or
group, it builds our self-confidence in what we are doing. We are eager to do something
great.
4. Shared sense of cyberspace – we are creating so many accounts in social media platforms.
We are doing that because we want to reveal ourselves online.
Managing Online Disinhibition
T H A N K Y O U !!!
FOR LISTENING
Assignment
1. What is your biggest regret that you
posted online?
2.
LEARNING TO BE
A BETTER STUDENT
POSITIVE
You see yourself
as a
LOVEABLE and
WORTHWHILE
person…
NEGATIVE
You feel uncertain
and uncomfortable
about yourself - - -
you fear possible
rejection
of people with
POSITIVE
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Jump to Look at only one detail
conclusions and disregard the big
picture
Magnify faults Minimize achievements
Blaming others. What better way to Being an overly nice
deny our weaknesses than to blame
others for our problems or for the people
world's problems?
Set ATTAINABLE
List and develop YOUR
goals based on your
personal strengths
WANTS and NEEDS
and abilities
LOOK FOR Recognize what YOU
positive relationships have accomplished
with others each step of the way
Self-concept building habits:
• Reward yourself
• Stop comparing yourself to others.
• Laugh more
• Take care of yourself
• Do something for someone.
• Keep a diary of all the good things you
notice about yourself.
The way YOU THINK
and FEEL about
yourself
Can change
MOMENTfrom
to MOMENT
What is the
difference between
Self-Concept
and
Self-Esteem
Self-Esteem…What is it?
Self-esteem refers to the way we
see and think about ourselves.
Self-Esteem…What’s it made of?
Your self-esteem is made up of all the
experiences and interpersonal relationships
you’ve had in your life.
Everyone you’ve ever met has added to or
taken away from how you see yourself!
The Importance of Self Esteem
People who feel good a bout themselves more
likely to have the confidence to try new health
behaviors
Building esteem is a first step towards your
happiness and a better life.
High self-esteem increases your confidence.
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to
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the bad failure
Good Doesn’t submit
Appreciate
Self to
life
Esteem peer pressure
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to try a threat
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in
self
Feeling
POSITIVELY
about yourself,
your actions,
and your
future
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Feeling
NEGATIVELY
about yourself,
your actions,
and your
future
Characteristics
• Able to accept and learn from their own
mistakes.
• Confident without being obnoxious or
conceited.
• Not devastated by criticism.
• Not overly defensive when questioned.
• Not easily defeated by setbacks and
obstacles.
• Unlikely to feel a need to put others
down.
• Open and assertive in communicating
their needs.
• Not overly worried about failing or
looking foolish.
• Not harshly or destructively critical of
themselves.
• Not aggressively driven to prove them.
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n x i o u s esteem are often drawn to
Feels a he
a b o u t t each other – these
s t e n e r ’s relationships are often
li
s p o n s e destructive – hurtful rather
re
than helpful
Characteristics of People with low self
esteem
1-Self criticism
2-Self diminution:
3-Guilt& worry
4-physical manifestations
5-postponing decision
6-Denying one's self pleasure
7-Disturbed relationship:
8- Set unrealistic goals
9-Exaggerated sense of self
How is self-esteem built &
destroyed?
Building Destroyed
Find a good role model Comparing yourself to
others
Praise & compliments
Putting yourself down
Focus on the positive
Drug/Alcohol abuse
Keep criticism to a minimum
? OTHER ?
Set & achieve goals
Perfect your skills
What can you do to build your self-esteem
when you get out in the “real world”?
Accept yourself:
◦ Stop worrying about the things you can’t
change.
◦ Be more accepting of others and the things
they can’t change.
◦ Your self- worth SHOULD NOT be based upon
what others think of you, but how you feel
about yourself.
Try not to compare with others.
◦ It’s unfair.
◦ You may compare their strengths with your
weaknesses.
◦ Judge yourself in terms of your own growth.
Face your fears
Forget your failures
Know what you want and ask for it.
Reward yourself when you succeed
Don't be defeated
When you hear negative comments in your head, tell yourself you to stop.
Remember that there are things about yourself you can't change
There are two different kinds of people in the world.
The one that says “I wish I had”
and
The one that says “I’m glad I did”
Remember you can have anything in this world if you just believe in
yourself.
Lets Review
Self-esteem comes from every experience of your life.
How you view yourself affects everything you do in life.
High self-esteem gives you a GOOD feeling about
yourself.
Low self-esteem distorts your view of yourself.
Self-esteem can me improved!
Final Thought
You are a unique individual. No one else is like you in the whole world. This makes you special
already!
Our time in this world is limited. Make it happen for you so you leave your mark in history!
