Ang konsepto ng tsismis by gerlyn limba
- 1. “BAKIT TSISMOSA ANG MGA PILIPINO?” A theory explaining the gossip as projection of basic life issues. Gerlyn D. Limba MA Developmental Psychology Miriam College of Art and Science: Department of Psychology January 3, 2017
- 2. Gossip as projection of basic life issues The theory formulated in this study will explain, describe, and predict the nature of gossip as a projection of basic life issues. This paper gives perspective into how gossip can be viewed, examined, and understood. INTRODUCTION In the Philippines gossiping were very common especially women and those who are living in the Rural areas. We can find people just about anywhere who to gossip or ( tsimis). Filipino people probably had seen all the celebrity gossip features in the tabloids stress about who’s dating, marrying, separating or divorce, or having a baby. Gossip (usually a mixture of truth and untruth) passed around by words of mouth. According to the Webster Dictionary, gossip is a conversation that’s light, informal, and usually about other people. Gossiped (verb) or gossiping is to talk idly, especially about the affairs of others; gossipers are someone who enjoys talking about other people lives. But no one likes it when they’re the subject of gossip or ( pinag- tsismisan). Gossip or ( Tsismis) is a phenomenon that has been labelled by many as bad. Whenever someone brings up the word gossip, people most certainly would conjure images of wagging tongues and loose lips, of vicious gossipers and poor helpless targets. Common perception of gossip places it on the negative, as evidenced by the terms “small talk”, “shop talk”, “idle talk”, and “backstabbing”. Stereotyped as malicious and hurtful, it has been widely blamed for damaged reputations, relationships gone sour and battered morale.
- 3. History of Gossiping History shows that gossiping has been gleaned as a destructive and deplorable act, one that warrants punishment and a warning to be watchful against. Gossip is a form of reputational warfare and, in the organizational workplace, has been linked to reasons behind employee resignations, ineffective leaderships, and an atmosphere of animosity (Hallet, 2009). Whether you believe it or not, everybody has participated in gossip, and sometimes it is unavoidable for one to be part of a gossip episode. Its continued existence amidst such a negative reputation has only added to its mystery, and has led to become more complex issues of the topic they’re gossiping. However, gossip can be both positive and negative and its effects could also be either good or bad. What motivates Gossip? My purpose to write this paper is to attempts to develop a theory on the reason behind gossiping. What motivates a person’s to makes gossip? And what keeps it alive. According to Foster ( 2004), gossip is an exchange of personal information about an absent of third party that is conveyed in an evaluative manner, and it has a positive or negative social effects. What are the elements of information to be labelled as gossip? First, it must be personal in nature. Secondly, gossip is about an absent third person. It comes in a veil of secrecy thus, making it imperative that for gossip to occur the target of the gossip must not be around to confirm, deny, or defend his side of the tale. Finally, gossip must be conveyed in an evaluative
- 4. manner. When a gossiper passes on gossip, he is also impliedly passing on his personal judgment (i.e. evaluation) on the matter, be it positive or negative. Consistent to gossip’s evaluative nature, Turcotte (2012) held that for one to be less likely gossiped on, one must then adhere to group norms. With this one who violates a norm becomes the subject for gossip. Additionally, Wilson et al. (2000) maintained that in upholding group norms, gossip becomes self-serving, of which the gossipers are reflected on the better side, and targets are pulled harshly. People generally do not want to be labeled or tagged as a gossiper, thus according to Blumberg (1972), the inclination to gossip is essentially a violation of one’s right to privacy. When men get talked about, it is almost always about something remarkable or detestable, thus bringing them either praise or blame. This gives light to both the positive and negative bearing of gossip. Leaper and Holliday (1995), on one hand, found that for both positive and negative kind of gossip, gender differences take weight. A small, albeit important, portion of every day conversation time is consumed by malicious gossip (Dunbar, 1997). Ayim (1994) depicted that the veracity to gossip is established upon the gossiper’s intent. The variety of views regarding gossip’s purpose and the biases society have against it, together with the vulnerability of some people to gossip more than others, have sparked a lot of interest. While others suggest that gossip is essentially a violation of the right to privacy (Blumberg, 1972), others posit that it is far from such. It was also discovered that the more socially distant the source of the gossip is from the target, the less wounding the news becomes to the object of the gossip (Wert and Salovey, 2004). Additionally, it is observed that circumstance is an important ingredient to brew gossip. The setting has to be just right, and the conditions have to be conducive for gossip to thrive (Abrahams, 1970). Looking at a cultural perspective, gossip can be a means for us to learn about
- 5. our social environment (Baumeister, et al., 2004). On the other hand according, to Turcotte, 2012). People may also gossip because they need a pastime, a form of entertainment, or recreation. When they get bored, have got nothing else to do, or simply wish to escape reality and monotony, people often indulge in the guilty pleasure of gossiping. Gossip is fun, enjoyable, amusing, and pleasurable (Turcotte, 2012; Ben-Ze’ev, 1994). On another note, people gossip to belong. Gossip brings together people who share common interests, and establishes a line between insiders ( hindi- ibang tao i.e. us) and outsiders ( ibang- tao i.e. them). People may also gossip because they want to feel that they are special in the organization, that they have “power” that may not be necessarily provided by the formal network. As Foster (2004) posits, gossip is a form of an internal police. Social functions of gossip according to Foster ( 2004) (1) information, (2) entertainment, (3) friendship or intimacy, (4) influence. The theory formulate aims to explain, describe and predict the nature of gossip as projection of basic life issues. Gossip undeniably gives thrill and excitement. However, we are usually unaware that our gossips are reflections of the “ghosts” (insecurities, inferiorities and superiorities) we have in life. Despite the stigma society has bestowed upon gossip, it continues to flourish. In this paper, I adopt the definition by Foster (2004) of gossip as the exchange of personal information about an absent third party that is conveyed in an evaluative manner. The “self” is composed of concepts unique to the individual which embodies the ultimate question of “Who Am I?” A person’s self-concept is shaped by the reactions that he or she receives from significant others during social interaction. One of the components of self-concept is known as
- 6. self-worth or self-esteem. This is how an individual perceives himself, or what he thinks about himself. Another component is self-image. This is important for good psychological health and is an effect of how a person thinks, feels, and behaves in the world. The third and final component is the ideal self. This is a reflection of who an individual would like to be. It is dynamic, and consists of goals and ambitions in life. According to Rogers (1959), the closer the self-image is to our ideal self, the more congruent we are and the higher is the sense of self-worth. Having a distorted self-image therefore brings about incongruence to the person’s total being. Self-concept highlights man’s drive--- striving for superiority (Adler, 1964). The striving for superiority arises because as human beings we feel inferior. At the beginning of life, we are born incomplete and incompetent which activates the feelings of inferiority. These feelings become the motivating force that leads man to growth. A man who has built a stronger sense of self-worth seeks success for all humanity, while one who has not becomes crippled with his inferiorities/selfish intentions. Man is in constant struggle to cope with anxieties. Self-protective mechanisms that address the need to cope against anxieties become a permanent part of one’s personality. Horney (1945) saw anxiety not as inevitable but rather as a result of social forces. As human beings, our essential challenge is to be able to effectively relate with others. However, when a person views the intensive and compulsive pursuit of his satisfaction as the only way to resolve his basic anxiety, these needs become neurotic. Horney identified ten different neurotic needs which lead to three types of coping strategies. The first neurotic trend, compliant personality (moving toward), comprise of those who are needy or clingy, seeks for approval, affirmation, acceptance and love from others. The second neurotic trend, aggressive personality (moving against) are characterized as difficult, domineering and unkind, display hostility and has the need to control other people. The third neurotic trend, detached personality (moving away) are those who are
- 7. labeled as indifferent, cold, aloof and displays antisocial behavior or those with no remorse. Man is a social being. Man is by nature a social animal. With this nature, man will have the ultimate desire to be accurate, making it inevitable not to compare himself with others. People constantly engage in social comparisons. To interpret whether our performances represent success or failure, we often compare ourselves that to the performance of others. We are also most likely to compare ourselves with others who are similar to us (Festinger,1954). Social comparison is deemed crucial to self-esteem because the feelings of competence or worth depend on a large part with whom we are compared, both by ourselves and by others. The structure of the gossip episode includes support. Eder (1991) posits that the life of a particular gossip is dependent on the support it gets from the people it is shared with. It is not so much as the content, valence, or even the intensity of the information being spread but rather on the response it gets from the group that determine whether it continues to be shared. In Eder’s (1991) basic structure of a gossip episode, one can view that after the identification and the evaluation of the target, a “response” is needed. Such responses can take a number of different forms such as explanation, support, expansion, exaggerated affect, and challenge. It must be noted that the mere act of responding already signifies social support. Thus, the life of gossip is hooked to the social support it gets. Relationship ties affect the propensity to gossip. The positive gossip flows among both expressive friendship ties and required instrumental workflow ties. Simply put, personnel do not need to consider themselves “friends” to indulge in positive gossip. The negative gossip only flows among expressive friendship ties. This suggests that a person only shares negative gossip to someone he trusts, and that the said trust is not necessary in the sharing of positive gossip (Grosser et al, 2010). The more socially embedded (i.e. the more common
- 8. friends he shares with a coworker) a person is in the organization, the more likely he is to spread negative gossip. THE THEORY OF GOSSIP The nature of gossip is a projection of the gossiper’s life issues which are basically grounded on his overall self-concept and reflected in his anxieties. The poorer the self-concept is, the higher the level of complexes (i.e. inferiority and superiority). The higher the level of complexes, the more anxious a person becomes. In addition, gossip runs on social support. Without social support, the transfer of information is halted and the gossip ends. Thus, man’s inability to cope with his anxiety levels and compensate for life’s needs and demands, together with the social support received by gossip, increases the propensity to gossip. REFERENCES Berry, Joy (2005), “ A Book About Gossiping” Published by Scholastic Inc., New York ISBN 0717285901 Zeigsar, Cecily von (2006), “ A Gossip Girl Novel: Only in Your Dreams” Published by Little Brown Company, New York ISBN 0316011827 Moss, Marissa( 2006), “ Amelia’s Guide to Gossip” Published by Simon & Schuster, New York ISBN 1416914757 Lampara Publishing (2009) “ Ang Mga Tsismis sa Baryo Silid” Quezon City Philippines