Crucial Conversations
Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High
By: Andrea Lovejoy
1. Ending a relationship
2. Giving a boss feedback
3. Negotiating salary or benefits
4. Dealing with an aggressive co-worker
5. Terminating an employee
6. Disagreeing with employer on a new project
7. Motivating a large group of people towards change
8. **Elevator Speech
Rising to the occasion and why we’re so bad at it.
1. Our default: Flight or Fight
2. We’re caught off-guard
3. Lack of practice
4. Self-defeating
5. Emotional
1. Practice persuasion and negotiation
2. Breathe, come back to it
3. Practice difficult conversations
4. You don’t already know the outcome
5. Think rationally
What you need to know to have more effective conversations
Patterson, K., Grenny, J., McMillian, R., & Switzler, A.
(2002). Crucial conversations: tools for talking when
stakes are high. New York: McGraw-Hill.

Crucial Conversations

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    Crucial Conversations Tools forTalking When Stakes Are High By: Andrea Lovejoy
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    1. Ending arelationship 2. Giving a boss feedback 3. Negotiating salary or benefits 4. Dealing with an aggressive co-worker 5. Terminating an employee 6. Disagreeing with employer on a new project 7. Motivating a large group of people towards change 8. **Elevator Speech
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    Rising to theoccasion and why we’re so bad at it. 1. Our default: Flight or Fight 2. We’re caught off-guard 3. Lack of practice 4. Self-defeating 5. Emotional 1. Practice persuasion and negotiation 2. Breathe, come back to it 3. Practice difficult conversations 4. You don’t already know the outcome 5. Think rationally
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    What you needto know to have more effective conversations
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    Patterson, K., Grenny,J., McMillian, R., & Switzler, A. (2002). Crucial conversations: tools for talking when stakes are high. New York: McGraw-Hill.