Family Circle Presentation
- 1. FAMILY CIRCLE …for when your loved one is finished with Treatment
- 2. WHY IS IT THAT… Our clients go to 5, 10, 15 treatment centers and still drink or use? After treatment almost nobody lasts very long without a relapse?
- 3. TREATMENT VS RECOVERY Treatment is when they are in a facility. Recovery is what they do for themselves when they leave …meetings, get a sponsor, work the steps, etc.
- 4. IF YOUR FAMILY WANTS TO COMMIT… We can show you how this will be the LAST treatment center your addict/ alcoholic ever attends
- 5. 1. Go to Sober Living for 90 days: We want a structured place to live where they can get jobs, education, etc 2. We want to get you, the family involved in Recovery and we are going to guide you through this After Treatment:
- 7. There is a group of people who almost never relapse in the years following treatment. Total relapse rate is 7 percent after 5 years vs 80 - 90 percent of everyone else.
- 8. Normal relapse rate: 80 - 90 percent This group’s rate: 7 percent …and that’s measured after 5 years These folks are some of the most difficult addicts to treat. They used to relapse at the same rate as everyone else.
- 9. We are going to show you how with you, the family, we can head toward similar results. You will do what that winning group does.
- 10. WHAT’S A FAMILY TO DO? We have found that the Family is clueless as to what works and what doesn't after treatment. We can fix that, but first let’s look at the Family.
- 11. Addiction turns the family into the adversary. Families think they have no power because they have just been mistreated, and hated by the addict.
- 12. But the addict/ alcoholic desperately needs the family for recovery after treatment… I am saying that your loved one can ONLY be sober with your help.
- 13. TREATMENT IS… RECOVERY IS… Treatment is detox and 60 days in a treatment center Recovery starts after Treatment… going to meetings, getting a sponsor, working the steps, etc
- 14. If you are willing, we are going to place your family smack-dab in the center of Recovery I’m going to show you how Family Circle changes your family from chaos to healing
- 15. 12 STEP GROUPS There is a group called Al-Anon which is for families. When the founders started Alcoholics Anonymous, the families were left behind with no support, so Al-Anon was started for families
- 16. I WANT THE FAMILY TO CHANGE… TO BE IN RECOVERY Alcoholics and addicts don’t respond well to more words, but actions attract their attention. When the entire family is practicing Recovery—not telling the addict what to do but doing recovery themselves—they will see that something has changed
- 17. With everyone in recovery, the family …which now includes the addict begins to feel safe Two Hours Per Week… 1. Dedicate one hour a week for a group (a meeting over the phone with your family) about Recovery. 2.Dedicate one hour a week to an Al-Anon meeting. Family meetings (#1) happen via conference calls. If the addict is in residential treatment or a sober house, he can still participate.
- 18. THIS IS WHY IT WORKS… When the addict finds himself part of a recovery family, he no longer feels like the odd man out. When the entire family is working at recovery, attending Twelve Step groups, discussing what they’ve learned and how they’re improving, Recovery becomes the family norm. The addict feels the warmth of belonging, something he has not felt in a very long time.
- 19. The family starts by attending Al-Anon and they start soon after the alcoholic /addict enters treatment In a few weeks, the addict joins in the group and is right at home. Family Circle isn’t punitive or judgmental. The family focuses on themselves, NOT on the addict/ alcoholic. Everyone in the family finds where they have power and where they are powerless.
- 20. “In the past ten years, my mother relapsed multiple times. As a family, we all stood outside the circle, passing judgment and pointing fingers. Now we’re all inside the circle, holding hands, doing recovery together.” FROM THOSE WHO HAVE TRIED THIS…
- 21. BACK TO THE WINNERS GROUP I BROUGHT UP EARLIER If you are a pilot, lawyer or doctor and you want to keep your license, you must agree to a five year monitored plan of recovery This is the only group in the world that has over a 90% chance of staying sober We know what they do… so we will simply duplicate what they do… and we do it for one year
- 22. WHY PILOTS, DOCTORS AND ATTORNEYS SUCCEED 1. Treatment 2. After treatment, sober living 3. Assignment to a solid support group which understands recovery 4. Heavy involvement in AA or NA 5. Testing 6. Monitoring
- 23. GETTING STARTED Each family member has to commit to one hour each week on the phone for the Family Circle meeting plus one hour for an Al-Anon meeting
- 24. OUR COMMITMENT TO YOU We will set you up for your meetings, hand you a different subject for each meeting We are available to guide you through the process and for consultation for anything at all There is no charge for any of this but there is an obligation… that you commit for 90 days as a trial
- 25. HOW TO GET STARTED Fill out a simple information sheet so we get to know who will be in your Circle Sign the contract that you will continue no matter what for 90 days
Editor's Notes
- #2: Our family program is called Family Circle and it is about getting the family involved with the recovery of your loved one.
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- #5: I want to get the definitions straight READ SLIDE Someone is in Treatment for 60 days. Then, in order to not relapse, Recovery starts and an addict alcoholic needs to be in active Recovery, for the rest of his/ her life. We used to hold our clients and families responsible for their recovery once they left. WE THOUGHT, WELL THE FAMILY CAN TAKE IT FROM HERE… …AND the result frankly was massive relapse. So we changed some things…
- #6: READ SLIDE Let’s get right to it…
- #7: So…. first let’s talk about after Treatment. There are just two things we want to accomplish… READ SLIDE I do want to tell you that there is good news…
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- #10: Let me repeat that… The normal relapse rate after treatment is 80-90%. This group has a 7% relapse rate And that is after 5 years! You may think, well these are special people… they aren’t. They are actually more difficult. READ LAST PARAGRAPH
- #11: READ SLIDE More later about this group…
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- #14: READ SLIDE I just need to give you a definition again…
- #15: Again, this is the difference between Treatment and Recovery. READ SLIDE When I say we want the family involved, there will be NO contention and NO discord in your involvement. We will show you how to do this.
- #16: READ SLIDE Before we get any further, this is included with treatment, There is no charge for what we do.
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- #18: PERSONALLY I WANT THE WHOLE FAMILY TO BE IN RECOVERY through Alanon and one other way. READ SMALLER PRINT LET ME EXPLAIN FURTHER…
- #19: READ TITLE …so this is how we do it… Family Circle has two components, and you will only spend two hours a week on this. READ SMALL PRINT
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- #21: READ SLIDES Where else does the family talk together like this, work together like this? LET’S LOOK AT WHAT PEOPLE SAY:
- #22: READ SLIDE Now I want to go back to that group I was saying has so much success… over 90%
- #23: READ SMALL PRINT Here is a synopsis of what they do:
- #24: Treatment. They go to Treatment. After treatment, the pilot, lawyer or Doctor goes to a structured living environment. FOR YOUR FAMILY MEMBER, THIS IS SOBER LIVING. Doctors, Lawyers, Attorneys are accountable to a solid support group which understands recovery. They pay to be in groups. For those who can’t afford to pay for a group, this support group is the Family. He goes to 90 meetings in 90 days meaning if he can’t make a meeting he must make up for it the next day. HE GETS SIGNED OFF BY THE MEETING LEADER Testing… this is a urine test that he has been doing three times a week while in Treatment, it will happen randomly twice a week. Monitoring: The group knows where the Doctor or whatever is at all times, he is accountable to the group he is assigned to. In your case, THE MONITORING GROUP IS THE FAMILY.
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- #27: (CONCLUSION): This works, and it is the only thing that I have read of or heard of that works. The reason it works is because it’s a lot of work. No more wishing, hoping, worrying… just working. But think about it, it isn’t that much work, just a couple hours per week. Your Family Member has been prepared for this for quite some time and expects to come into your family with Family Circle already started.