How to be the World’s
   Greatest Mum
     Mother’s Day 2009
Who are mothers?
Who are mothers?
          Mother Teresa
Who are mothers?
People whose role or functions as mother
                     Biological mothers
                     Adopter
                     Step-mother
                     Guardian
                     God-mother
                     Grand-mother
                     Single parent
Proverb 31:28a
Her children arise and call her
blessed;
The seven principles to
be the world’s greatest
        mum
The seven principles to
                        be the world’s greatest
                                mum

            Don’t be a kiasu person
           Kiasuism is self-centeredness




                                                    Be Kiasu
Oxford English Dictionary 2007 = “fear of losing”
The seven principles to
        be the world’s greatest
                mum

Don’t be a kiasu person
   Kiasuism is self-centeredness
   Kiasu mothers produce kiasu children
The seven principles to
        be the world’s greatest
                mum

Don’t be a kiasu person
   Kiasuism is self-centeredness
   Kiasu mothers produce kiasu children
   Kiasu mothers use shame to control
    their children
The seven principles to
        be the world’s greatest
                mum

Don’t be a kiasu person
Speak the languages of love of children
how to fuel their emotional tank with love?
The Languages of Love in Children

               Physical touch
The Languages of Love in Children

               Physical touch
               Words of
                 affirmation
                 Words of affection
                  and endearment
                 Words of praise
                 Words of
                  encouragement
                 Words of guidance
The Languages of Love in Children

               Physical touch
               Words of
                affirmation
               Quality time
                 Being together
                 Positive eye
                  contact
                 Sharing thoughts
                  and feelings
The Languages of Love in Children

               Physical touch
               Words of
                affirmation
               Quality time
               Gifts
                 Grace of giving
                 Distorted gift giving
                 Meaningful gift
                  giving
The Languages of Love in Children

               Physical touch
               Words of
                affirmation
               Quality time
               Gifts
               Acts of service
                 Loving service
                 Only do for them
                  what they cannot
                  do themselves
The world’s greatest mum
knows her children’s
primary love language
The seven principles to
        be the world’s greatest
                mum

Don’t be a kiasu person
Speak the languages of love of children
Don’t expect instant results
Don’t expect instant results
 Repeat, repeat, repeat
 Set appropriate boundaries
 Behavioural modification
   Positive reinforcement
   Negative reinforcement
   Punishment
      Appropriate to crime
      Immediate
      Not out of anger

 Age appropriate teaching
 Teach children to learn
The seven principles to
          be the world’s greatest
                  mum

Don’t be a kiasu person
Speak the languages of love of children
Don’t expect instant results
Be and teach gratefulness
 Be grateful
 Teach gratefulness
The seven principles to
         be the world’s greatest
                 mum

Don’t be a kiasu person
Speak the languages of love of children
Don’t expect instant results
Be and teach gratefulness
Learn to let go
Learn to let go
 Be willing to let go
 Develop spiritual and social
 ‘streetwise’
 Cut the umbilical cord

Proverb 22: 6
 6 Train a child in the way he
should go, and when he is old
he will not turn from it.
The seven principles to
        be the world’s greatest
                mum

Don’t be a kiasu person
Speak the languages of love of children
Don’t expect instant results
Be and teach gratefulness
Learn to let go
Walk in the faith
Walk in the faith
Deu 11: 18-21
18 Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie
them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your
foreheads. 19 Teach them to your children, talking about
them when you sit at home and when you walk along the
road, when you lie down and when you get up. 20 Write
them on the doorframes of your houses and on your
gates, 21 so that your days and the days of your children
may be many in the land that the LORD swore to give
your forefathers, as many as the days that the heavens
are above the earth.

 Our faith is caught rather than taught
 Routine, rituals and telling the Truths
The seven principles to
         be the world’s greatest
                 mum

Don’t be a kiasu person
Speak the languages of love of children
Don’t expect instant results
Be and teach gratefulness
Learn to let go
Walk in the faith
Stay close to the Source
Stay close to the Source
John 15: 5
   5 "I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man
remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart
from me you can do nothing. 6 If anyone does not
remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and
withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the
fire and burned. 7 If you remain in me and my words
remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be
given you. 8 This is to my Father's glory, that you bear
much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples.

   Living a life in Christ
   Prayer
   Bible assimilation
The seven principles to
         be the world’s greatest
                 mum

Don’t be a kiasu person
Speak the languages of love of children
Don’t expect instant results
Be and teach gratefulness
Learn to let go
Walk in the faith
Stay close to the Source
Happy Mother’s Day
10 May 2009




to the world’s greatest
mum
…yes, YOU!

How to be the world’s greatest mum

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    How to bethe World’s Greatest Mum Mother’s Day 2009
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  • 4.
    Who are mothers? Mother Teresa
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    Who are mothers? Peoplewhose role or functions as mother Biological mothers Adopter Step-mother Guardian God-mother Grand-mother Single parent
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    Proverb 31:28a Her childrenarise and call her blessed;
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    The seven principlesto be the world’s greatest mum
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    The seven principlesto be the world’s greatest mum Don’t be a kiasu person  Kiasuism is self-centeredness Be Kiasu Oxford English Dictionary 2007 = “fear of losing”
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    The seven principlesto be the world’s greatest mum Don’t be a kiasu person  Kiasuism is self-centeredness  Kiasu mothers produce kiasu children
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    The seven principlesto be the world’s greatest mum Don’t be a kiasu person  Kiasuism is self-centeredness  Kiasu mothers produce kiasu children  Kiasu mothers use shame to control their children
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    The seven principlesto be the world’s greatest mum Don’t be a kiasu person Speak the languages of love of children
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    how to fueltheir emotional tank with love?
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    The Languages ofLove in Children  Physical touch
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    The Languages ofLove in Children  Physical touch  Words of affirmation  Words of affection and endearment  Words of praise  Words of encouragement  Words of guidance
  • 16.
    The Languages ofLove in Children  Physical touch  Words of affirmation  Quality time  Being together  Positive eye contact  Sharing thoughts and feelings
  • 17.
    The Languages ofLove in Children  Physical touch  Words of affirmation  Quality time  Gifts  Grace of giving  Distorted gift giving  Meaningful gift giving
  • 18.
    The Languages ofLove in Children  Physical touch  Words of affirmation  Quality time  Gifts  Acts of service  Loving service  Only do for them what they cannot do themselves
  • 19.
    The world’s greatestmum knows her children’s primary love language
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    The seven principlesto be the world’s greatest mum Don’t be a kiasu person Speak the languages of love of children Don’t expect instant results
  • 21.
    Don’t expect instantresults  Repeat, repeat, repeat  Set appropriate boundaries  Behavioural modification  Positive reinforcement  Negative reinforcement  Punishment  Appropriate to crime  Immediate  Not out of anger  Age appropriate teaching  Teach children to learn
  • 22.
    The seven principlesto be the world’s greatest mum Don’t be a kiasu person Speak the languages of love of children Don’t expect instant results Be and teach gratefulness  Be grateful  Teach gratefulness
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    The seven principlesto be the world’s greatest mum Don’t be a kiasu person Speak the languages of love of children Don’t expect instant results Be and teach gratefulness Learn to let go
  • 24.
    Learn to letgo  Be willing to let go  Develop spiritual and social ‘streetwise’  Cut the umbilical cord Proverb 22: 6 6 Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.
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    The seven principlesto be the world’s greatest mum Don’t be a kiasu person Speak the languages of love of children Don’t expect instant results Be and teach gratefulness Learn to let go Walk in the faith
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    Walk in thefaith Deu 11: 18-21 18 Fix these words of mine in your hearts and minds; tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. 19 Teach them to your children, talking about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. 20 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates, 21 so that your days and the days of your children may be many in the land that the LORD swore to give your forefathers, as many as the days that the heavens are above the earth.  Our faith is caught rather than taught  Routine, rituals and telling the Truths
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    The seven principlesto be the world’s greatest mum Don’t be a kiasu person Speak the languages of love of children Don’t expect instant results Be and teach gratefulness Learn to let go Walk in the faith Stay close to the Source
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    Stay close tothe Source John 15: 5 5 "I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. 6 If anyone does not remain in me, he is like a branch that is thrown away and withers; such branches are picked up, thrown into the fire and burned. 7 If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. 8 This is to my Father's glory, that you bear much fruit, showing yourselves to be my disciples. Living a life in Christ Prayer Bible assimilation
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    The seven principlesto be the world’s greatest mum Don’t be a kiasu person Speak the languages of love of children Don’t expect instant results Be and teach gratefulness Learn to let go Walk in the faith Stay close to the Source
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    Happy Mother’s Day 10May 2009 to the world’s greatest mum …yes, YOU!