Working with Parents

   Class 1 CDA 103 B
Relationship with Parents begins
          before Birth
Our first
    human
 connections
   lay the
 foundation
    for all
   future
relationships
Erikson’s 1 Development Task
              st


• Trust versus Mistrust
• Feeding and Comfort Behaviors
  – Key to development of trust
  – Infants trust when they come to
    expect their needs will be met
  – Balance needed between trust in the
    caregiver & a healthy sense of
    mistrust necessary for self-
    protection
  – Cultural differences exist in feeding
    and comforting practices
Forms of Attachment
Securely Attached
Insecurely attached
 Avoidant
 Resistant

Consistent Across Cultures
Parenting Practices Produce
Attachment
• Securely attached: regulate emotions,
  show empathy & ability to modulate
  and direct emotion

• Insecurely attached: respond
  abnormally to other children’s distress,
  to stranger’s and care takers
View Video Clip on Bowlby’s
     Attachment Theory
http://
www.youtube.com/watch?v=kwxjfuPlArY&feat
Journal 1: Please
       Respond

a. What is attachment theory?

c. What is its purpose of the stranger
   test?
Journal 2: Apply

a. What can happen when there is
   serious disruption in the early
   relationships between parent and
   child?

c. How can we help parents build secure
   relationships with their children?
Play
Builds
Strong
Family
Bonds
Kinds of Play
• Dramatic Play & Modeling
  – Imitation of behavior patterns
  – Interaction using imagination and
    fantasy
  – Playing house, fire fighter, super hero
• Games & Rituals
  – Contributes to learning about rules
  – Experience cause & effect &
    consequences
  – Duck, Duck, Goose to Soccer
Constructive Play
• Helps child
  – Explore the physical environment
  – Test scientific problem-solving ability
  – Negotiate use of shared materials,
    space & tools
  – Complete projects with observable
    results
© Allyn & Bacon 2007
Active Physical Play

–Helps child develop muscle
  strength, coordination, control
  and agility
• Rough-and-tumble play
–Look for a “play face” when
  attempting to figure out if
  child is playing or fighting
Imaginative Play
• Helps child
  – Explore and rehearse social roles he/
    she has seen
  – Test ability to negotiate with others
  – Regulate emotions through
    imagination
  – Examine personal concerns in
    nonthreatening way
© Allyn & Bacon 2007
Functional Play
• Helps child
  – Develop needed everyday life skills
  – Learn & rehearse social roles and
   cooperative routines
  – Set and achieve manageable goals
  – Develop competence in family &
   society
Journal 3:
 How do fathers & mothers play
  differently with their children?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8JP
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4cp
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=axb
Baumrind’s 4 Dimensions of
       Parenting
 • Expression of warmth or
   nurturance
 • Strategies for discipline
 • Quality of communication
 • Expectations for maturity
.



    Baumrind’s 3 Styles of
          Parenting
• Authoritarian—high expectations with
  low nurturance
 – children conscientious, obedient, and
    quiet—but not happy
• Permissive—little control, but nurturing
 – children lack self-control & not
    happy
3. Authoritative – Parents provide
limits, guidance and model compromise
 With this approach, children are
 most likely to be
      successful,
      articulate,
      intelligent &
      happy
Parenting Styles
Style        Control Warmth Discipline

Authoritarian High   Low     Strict Rules

Authoritative High   High    Discussion

Permissive   Low     High    Rare

Neglect      Low     Low     Absent
Recent Studies
• Link between parenting styles and child
  behavior is more complex
  – Impact of child’s temperament
  – Influence of community & cultural views
    on child’s perception of parenting
  – Positive examples of authoritarian
    parenting in urban families
     • Produce high-achieving, emotionally
       regulated children
     • Strict and warm can be successful
Journal 4:
 What are your views on
 parenting?
 As a teacher, how can you
 influence positive parenting
 practices?
Techniques of Discipline
• In deciding which technique to apply,
  parents should ask:
   – How does a technique relate to my child?
   – Child’s temperament/age/perceptions
• Culture is a strong influence
   – Expectations
   – Offenses
   – Punishments
What About Spanking?
• Reasons for parenting variations:
    culture, religion, ethnicity,
    parents’ upbringing
• Developmentalists caution children
  who are physically punished tend to
  be more aggressive
• Domestic violence of any kind can
  increase aggression between peers
  and within families
Journal 5:
•In United States, is time-out a
Developmentally Appropriate
Practice?

•What are alternatives?
What is the purpose of guidance?
The purpose of guidance is


     Self Control
What is self control?


        Self Control is

becoming the master of myself!
Why is guidance positive?
Positive Guidance
• We are modeling what we want the
  children to learn to do
   – Restrain our first inclination
   – Use quiet voices
   – Look for a solution that helps
     everybody
• If we model disrespect, the children will
  be disrespectful
How do we help children
change their behaviors?
Changing Behaviors
1. Identify the child’s need being
   expressed by the behavior
2. Help a child notice the problem
   behavior that needs to stop
3. Then help the child to identify the
   behavior that will replace the problem
   behavior and will meet the same need
4. Practice the replacement behavior
Self-Regulating Learners

           Journal 6:
  •What helps children become
    self-regulating learners

•What do self regulating learners
           look like?
Self-Regulating Learners

• Know themselves – strengths-
  interests- distractions
• Know and apply successful learning
  strategies
• Recognize & differentiate contexts
  adjusting their behavior accordingly
• Manage their own volition to reach
  their own goals
Emotional Regulation

• 1st we learn awareness of own
 emotions; this is called
Emotional Literacy how to the
 interpret and express emotions
• Next we apply that Emotional
 Literacy to become aware of the
 emotional response of others
The Challenge of Media

• Television & video games offer a
  dilemma for parents
   – Parents find video a good babysitter
   – Parents believe video can sometimes
     be an educational tool
• Research suggests turning off the TV
  to avoid exposing children to video
  violence as it results in human violence
Thomas and Chess:
         Temperament
• Temperament is the
  inborn/characteristic way a person
  reacts to the world.
• Three temperament styles:
   – Easy: 40% of children
   – Difficult: 10% of children
   – Slow-to-warm-up: 15% of children
   – Other (combination) : 35%
            Understanding Human Development by
            Craig/Dunn © 2007 Pearson Education
Rothbart

• Temperament style may change
  through interactions with family &
  other caregivers.
• “Fit” of parent & child
  temperaments
   – determinant of infant-caregiver
     interaction
   – determinant of child adjustment
Recall Erikson’s Model for
building successful human
       relationships
My first Newsletter - CDA Class 2012

My first Newsletter - CDA Class 2012

  • 1.
    Working with Parents Class 1 CDA 103 B
  • 2.
    Relationship with Parentsbegins before Birth
  • 3.
    Our first human connections lay the foundation for all future relationships
  • 4.
    Erikson’s 1 DevelopmentTask st • Trust versus Mistrust • Feeding and Comfort Behaviors – Key to development of trust – Infants trust when they come to expect their needs will be met – Balance needed between trust in the caregiver & a healthy sense of mistrust necessary for self- protection – Cultural differences exist in feeding and comforting practices
  • 5.
    Forms of Attachment SecurelyAttached Insecurely attached  Avoidant  Resistant Consistent Across Cultures
  • 6.
    Parenting Practices Produce Attachment •Securely attached: regulate emotions, show empathy & ability to modulate and direct emotion • Insecurely attached: respond abnormally to other children’s distress, to stranger’s and care takers
  • 7.
    View Video Clipon Bowlby’s Attachment Theory http:// www.youtube.com/watch?v=kwxjfuPlArY&feat
  • 8.
    Journal 1: Please Respond a. What is attachment theory? c. What is its purpose of the stranger test?
  • 9.
    Journal 2: Apply a.What can happen when there is serious disruption in the early relationships between parent and child? c. How can we help parents build secure relationships with their children?
  • 11.
  • 12.
    Kinds of Play •Dramatic Play & Modeling – Imitation of behavior patterns – Interaction using imagination and fantasy – Playing house, fire fighter, super hero • Games & Rituals – Contributes to learning about rules – Experience cause & effect & consequences – Duck, Duck, Goose to Soccer
  • 13.
    Constructive Play • Helpschild – Explore the physical environment – Test scientific problem-solving ability – Negotiate use of shared materials, space & tools – Complete projects with observable results
  • 14.
    © Allyn &Bacon 2007
  • 15.
    Active Physical Play –Helpschild develop muscle strength, coordination, control and agility • Rough-and-tumble play –Look for a “play face” when attempting to figure out if child is playing or fighting
  • 16.
    Imaginative Play • Helpschild – Explore and rehearse social roles he/ she has seen – Test ability to negotiate with others – Regulate emotions through imagination – Examine personal concerns in nonthreatening way
  • 17.
    © Allyn &Bacon 2007
  • 18.
    Functional Play • Helpschild – Develop needed everyday life skills – Learn & rehearse social roles and cooperative routines – Set and achieve manageable goals – Develop competence in family & society
  • 20.
    Journal 3:  Howdo fathers & mothers play differently with their children? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8JP http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4cp http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=axb
  • 21.
    Baumrind’s 4 Dimensionsof Parenting • Expression of warmth or nurturance • Strategies for discipline • Quality of communication • Expectations for maturity
  • 23.
    . Baumrind’s 3 Styles of Parenting • Authoritarian—high expectations with low nurturance – children conscientious, obedient, and quiet—but not happy • Permissive—little control, but nurturing – children lack self-control & not happy
  • 24.
    3. Authoritative –Parents provide limits, guidance and model compromise With this approach, children are most likely to be successful, articulate, intelligent & happy
  • 25.
    Parenting Styles Style Control Warmth Discipline Authoritarian High Low Strict Rules Authoritative High High Discussion Permissive Low High Rare Neglect Low Low Absent
  • 26.
    Recent Studies • Linkbetween parenting styles and child behavior is more complex – Impact of child’s temperament – Influence of community & cultural views on child’s perception of parenting – Positive examples of authoritarian parenting in urban families • Produce high-achieving, emotionally regulated children • Strict and warm can be successful
  • 27.
    Journal 4:  Whatare your views on parenting?  As a teacher, how can you influence positive parenting practices?
  • 28.
    Techniques of Discipline •In deciding which technique to apply, parents should ask: – How does a technique relate to my child? – Child’s temperament/age/perceptions • Culture is a strong influence – Expectations – Offenses – Punishments
  • 29.
    What About Spanking? •Reasons for parenting variations: culture, religion, ethnicity, parents’ upbringing • Developmentalists caution children who are physically punished tend to be more aggressive • Domestic violence of any kind can increase aggression between peers and within families
  • 30.
    Journal 5: •In UnitedStates, is time-out a Developmentally Appropriate Practice? •What are alternatives?
  • 31.
    What is thepurpose of guidance?
  • 32.
    The purpose ofguidance is Self Control
  • 33.
    What is selfcontrol? Self Control is becoming the master of myself!
  • 34.
    Why is guidancepositive?
  • 35.
    Positive Guidance • Weare modeling what we want the children to learn to do – Restrain our first inclination – Use quiet voices – Look for a solution that helps everybody • If we model disrespect, the children will be disrespectful
  • 36.
    How do wehelp children change their behaviors?
  • 37.
    Changing Behaviors 1. Identifythe child’s need being expressed by the behavior 2. Help a child notice the problem behavior that needs to stop 3. Then help the child to identify the behavior that will replace the problem behavior and will meet the same need 4. Practice the replacement behavior
  • 38.
    Self-Regulating Learners Journal 6: •What helps children become self-regulating learners •What do self regulating learners look like?
  • 39.
    Self-Regulating Learners • Knowthemselves – strengths- interests- distractions • Know and apply successful learning strategies • Recognize & differentiate contexts adjusting their behavior accordingly • Manage their own volition to reach their own goals
  • 40.
    Emotional Regulation • 1stwe learn awareness of own emotions; this is called Emotional Literacy how to the interpret and express emotions • Next we apply that Emotional Literacy to become aware of the emotional response of others
  • 41.
    The Challenge ofMedia • Television & video games offer a dilemma for parents – Parents find video a good babysitter – Parents believe video can sometimes be an educational tool • Research suggests turning off the TV to avoid exposing children to video violence as it results in human violence
  • 42.
    Thomas and Chess: Temperament • Temperament is the inborn/characteristic way a person reacts to the world. • Three temperament styles: – Easy: 40% of children – Difficult: 10% of children – Slow-to-warm-up: 15% of children – Other (combination) : 35% Understanding Human Development by Craig/Dunn © 2007 Pearson Education
  • 44.
    Rothbart • Temperament stylemay change through interactions with family & other caregivers. • “Fit” of parent & child temperaments – determinant of infant-caregiver interaction – determinant of child adjustment
  • 46.
    Recall Erikson’s Modelfor building successful human relationships