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Personal standards
Personal standards are the beliefs and behaviors that individuals choose to live by, which significantly impact their self-esteem and relationships. Recognizing and raising these standards can lead to greater self-validation, control over one's life, and improved decision-making. The process involves clarifying expectations, analyzing current realities, seeking inspiration from mentors, establishing personal standards, and maintaining discipline to achieve a fulfilling life.
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- 3. They are theset of behaviours or beliefs that we have decided to live by.
- 4. People who sethigh standards tend to feel very good about themselves. They tend to feel good about others too. They tend to be very attractive to high quality people.
- 5. Standard is notabout having expectations; it is about you and not them. Having standards is not having an endless list of requirements for your spouse, friends, colleagues, subordinates, boss, children etc, but you!
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- 7. We all havea “behind-the- scenes” set of rules governing our conduct and outlook. They are reflected in the quality of our relationships, our work and the way we communicate.
- 8. We reveal ourstandards to people all the time. If you haven’t actively created your standards-then where have they come from?
- 9. SOURCES OF IMPOSED PEROSNAL STANDARDS: standards are imposedon us from the outside from the day we are.
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- 12. Having outside generated standardis a problem because it can be a cause of discontent in our lives
- 13. If you aremeasuring yourself up to something that you have not decide to be true for you, then that makes authentic happiness a difficult thing to achieve.
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- 15. Your personal standardsare reflected in how you treat yourself, and also in how you treat other people. They are also reflected in how you expect to be treated by other people.
- 16. Your personal standards arealso reflected in the promises you keep, in the way you dress and manage your life, health, finances and environment.
- 17. They are alsoreflected in the quality of your work values and communication. In fact, everything you do and say gives others an indication of the personal standards you live by.
- 18. You are thereforealways sending messages about how you feel about yourself, about others and about your life, whether you are consciously aware of it or not.
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- 20. 1. They makeyou entirely self-validating: it takes the focus away from outside markers of success, putting them entirely in the province of the personal.
- 21. 2. Puts youin control: not setting standards would just make you passive bystander. Having clear standards puts you at the steering wheel of your life.
- 22. 3. They create somethingmeasurable to assess your goals and progress against: we have all heard that happiness is in the attainment of goals.
- 23. 4. They area better way to define yourself: defining yourself by reference to the standards you create is far more logical than defining yourself by your gender, background or sexuality.
- 24. 5. They enableyou to make better decisions: knowing what’s important to your happiness and fulfilment takes procrastination out of the equation.
- 25. 6. They willfree you up from others’ misconception of you: we will always be misunderstood at times.
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- 27. 1. Clarify your expectations:your first step is to clarify what it is exactly you want to achieve. It’s after all impossible to set standards if you don’t know what it is you want.
- 28. What do Iwant to achieve? Whom do I seek to become? What traits would I need to cultivate to achieve this goal? What new behaviours would I need to adopt? How would I ideally like to live my life having achieved this goal?
- 29. 2. Analyze your currentreality: your current reality is the life you are living at this very moment.
- 30. Consider what kindof life this really is and the types of behaviours that define your actions and results. Ask yourself:
- 31. What standards do Icurrently live by? What standards do I have for myself in various situations? What behaviours and actions do I partake in within these situations? What standards do I have for the roles I play in my life
- 32. 3. Find inspiring mentors:your next step is to find appropriate mentors. These will be people who are currently living to the highest of standards in specific life areas…
- 33. … that youare wanting to focus on. The purpose here is to use them as inspiration to help you raise your own personal standards.
- 34. 4. Establish yourown standards: it is now time to set some clear standards and expectations for each area of your life.
- 35. In other words,you must identify a set of standards you will follow. These standards effectively become the rules you live by.
- 36. 5. Discipline: thefinal step of this process is to discipline yourself to help instil the motivation you need to follow through with these rituals, and
- 37. …subsequently live your lifein accordance with your higher personal standards.
- 38. Raising your personal standardsis never an easy process. You will need to break old patterns of behaviour and develop new rituals and habits that will provide…
- 39. …you with theimpetus you need to make positive changes to your life. As such, the following guidelines and suggestions might be of some value.
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- 43. Raising your personal standardswould make you more fulfilled in life. Thank you for listening.