TheTibetan PersonalityTest
The Dalai Lama,Tibet’s
spiritual leader, is said to
have put forward this
personality test for you to
better know yourself.
Tibet is a landlocked country in the Himalayas.
For centuries, the ruler
ofTibet has been a
human incarnation of
the god of
compassion, known
as the Dalai Lama.
The quiz has only 3
questions and the
answers could surprise
you.
There are no right or wrong answers.
This is an honest questionnaire
which could tell you a lot about your
true self.
See if it works for you.
Get out a piece of
paper and write down
your answers.
1. Put the following 5 animals in the order of your
preference.
Tiger, horse, pig, cow, sheep
2.Write one word that describes each one of the following:
• Dog, cat, coffee, ocean, rat
3.Think of someone who knows you and is
important to you. Match that person to one
of the following colors.
• Do not repeat your answer twice. Name just one person
for each color.
• Yellow, orange, red, white, green
4. Write down you favourite number
and favourite day of the week
Finished?
Please be sure
your answers are
what you REALLY
feel... Last
chance....
Look at the
interpretations
below:
Question 1 -The order that you choose defines the priorities in your life.
• Cow: signifies career.
• Tiger: signifies pride.
• Sheep: signifies love.
• Horse: signifies family.
• Pig: signifies money.
Question 2 - Descriptions
• Your description of Dog implies your own personality.
• Your description ofCat implies your partner's
personality.
• Your description of Rat implies the personality of your
enemies.
• Your description ofCoffee is how you interpret sex.
• Your description ofOcean implies your own life.
Question 3 -Colors
• Yellow: Someone you will never forget.
• Orange: Someone you could consider a good friend.
• Red:Someone you really love.
• White:Your twin soul.
• Green: Someone you will remember all your life.
Question 4
Favourite number = the number of partners you wish you'd had
Favourite day of the week:
Monday = you are a workaholic
Tuesday = you are mad
Wednesday = you cannot make decisions
• Thursday = you get paid weekly on Thursdays
• Friday = you are an alcoholic
• Saturday = you are a shopaholic or a football hooligan
• Sunday = you are mad (it's work on Monday), or you are unemployed
"If someone does not
smile at you, be
generous and offer
your own smile.
Nobody needs more
a smile than the one
that cannot smile to
others."
More Personality Tests
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PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
Al John Emmanuel F. Hiñola
Teacher II
Cavite National High School – Senior High School
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
• An important lifelong process.
• A way to:
• Assess your skills and qualities.
• Consider your aims in life.
• Set goals.
• Reflect on your own learning, performance
and achievement.
• In order to realize and maximise your potential
and develop as a 'whole person' in all areas of
life.
The benefits of personal development
• Personal: Increases your confidence in your own
identity, competencies, attributes, aims and
aspirations.
• Academic: Enables you to focus on what you are
learning, how you learn best and how to
improve on your achievements.
• Social: Builds awareness of the needs of other
individuals/groups and the importance of
different relationship and team roles.
• Professional: Helps you to be more strategic in
developing skills for employability.
CAWD Personal Development Training Course cum Team Building
SETTING AND
ACHIEVING GOALS
SETTING AND ACHIEVING GOALS
A goal is:
• your vision for the future
• time-sensitive
• large in nature
A goal is not:
• an objective
• a resolution
• a mission
Why should you set goals?
 It gives a sense of direction
 It helps to see the bigger picture
 It provides motivation
 It give you greater control of your future
How to set realistic goals at work and in life
Personal goal setting tips
 Consider your passions
 Set goals you can control
 Imagine your future
Tips for setting goals at work
 Brainstorm
 Include everyone
 Ask why
10 tips to achieve your goals
1. Have SMART goals
Specific
Measurable
Attainable
Relevant
Time-bound
S. Have customers complete satisfaction rating
surveys at the beginning of their contract and
again after two quarters
M. Increase customer satisfaction by 15% over
the next two quarters
A. Customer success team to analyze and report
improvements every two weeks
R. Become well-known as a company for our
focus on customer satisfaction
T. The following 2 quarters
10 tips to achieve your goals
2. Write them down
Don’t just daydream
about your goals – put
pen to paper and write
them down
10 tips to achieve your goals
3. Make your goals visible
4. Break it down
5. Develop a plan
6. Take action
10 tips to achieve your goals
7. Keep perspective
8. Identify potential obstacle
9. Be accountable
10. Reflect and adjust
CAWD Personal Development Training Course cum Team Building
IMPRESSION
MANAGEMENT
IMPRESSION MANAGEMENT
 it is goal-oriented conscious or
unconscious attempt to influence the
impression of other people about a
person, object or event by regulating and
controlling information in social
interaction
IMPRESSION MANAGEMENT
 how to make a favorable impression, how
to perceive others and evaluate others on
the basis of:
 dress, make-up, hairstyle
 manner and general behavior
 body language
IMPRESSION MANAGEMENT
 the process of portraying yourself to others in a manner
that creates a desired impression
 goal-directed activity of controlling and regulating
information in order to influence the impressions formed
by audience
IMPRESSION MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUES
 Suppressing Emotions
 Conforming to Situational Norms
 Flattering Others
 Being Consistent
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THE CORRECT AND
INCORRECT USE OF
HUMOR
USE OF HUMOR
 Humor increases energy levels
 Humor reduces negative emotions
 Humor leads to increased interest
 Humor can make others view you in more positive
manner
Situations where humor can be beneficial
 When you want to cheer someone up
 When you want to establish rapport with others
 When you want to make talk that you’re giving more
interest
 When you want to make a project that you’ve worked on
stand out and draw people’s attention
Use humor effectively
 Type of humor
 Style of humor
 Amount of humor
 Timing of humor
 Delivery of humor
Using the right type of humor
 Positive humor
 Negative humor
Using the right style of humor
 Humor generally works best when it’s not too extreme
 Humor works generally works best when it’s not too
subtle
Using humor as an effective memory aid
 Humor generally works better when it’s related to the
information at hand
 Humor can serve as a better attention and memory aid
when it’s unexpected in some way
 Attention to humorous information sometimes comes at
the expense of attention to related non-humorous
information
CAWD Personal Development Training Course cum Team Building
PERSONAL
COMMUNICATION SKILLS
NON-VERBAL COMMUNICATION
 Facial Expressions
 Eye Contact
 Interpersonal Distance
 Body Orientation and Postures
 Hand and other Gestures
 Para-language
 Appearance
ACTIVE LISTENING AND EFFECTIVE QUESTIONING
Active listening means accurately listening to what is being
said, and showing we’re paying attention to what is being
said.
ACTIVE LISTENING AND EFFECTIVE QUESTIONING
 Concentrate – give the conversation your undivided
attention
 Resist the temptation to interrupt
 Hear the tone of the speakers voice as the words being
used
 Demonstrate you are listening by making ‘continuity
noises’ e.g. em, yes, really, aha, etc.
 Be aware of your own facial expressions
ACTIVE LISTENING AND EFFECTIVE QUESTIONING
 Face the speaker squarely
 Adopt an open and relaxed posture
 Lean slightly towards the speaker
 Make good eye contact (but not too much!)
 Ask open questions to get the speaker to elaborate on
particular issues
ACTIVE LISTENING AND EFFECTIVE QUESTIONING
Open Questions begin with:
 Who were you working with?
 What are you going to do about that?
 Where exactly did this happen?
 When do you think you could do this?
 How do you think this happened?
 Why is that important to you?
 Which would you prefer?
Open questions
minimize the
temptation to make
assumptions. They
help understand
more precisely what
the speaker wants to
tell you. Reflecting
what the person has
said can also help.
GIVING AND RECEIVING FEEDBACK
To be effective, feedback should focus on:
 Clear and specific points
 Behavior that can be changed – allow room for action
 Observed facts, not supposed intentions
 What you saw / felt, not judgement
 The most important points
 Agreed purpose / ground rules
 Good aspects, as well as areas for improvement
 Giving value to the receiver, not release for the giver!
GIVING AND RECEIVING FEEDBACK
In more detail:
 Feedback is descriptive rather than evaluative.
 It is specific rather than general.
 It takes into account the needs of both the receiver and
giver of feedback.
 It is directed toward behavior which the receiver can do
something about.
 It is solicited, rather than imposed.
 It is well timed.
 It is checked to ensure clear communication
 Feedback then, is a way of giving help
GIVING AND RECEIVING FEEDBACK
In receiving feedback:
 breathe!
 listen carefully (remember active listening !)
 ask questions for clarity (remember effective
questioning)
 acknowledge the feedback
 acknowledge valid points
 take time to sort out what you heard
COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY
We tend to adopt one of four behavior styles, Aggressive,
Passive, Passive-Aggressive or Assertive. Most of us fall
naturally into one or other of the first three. Most of us
have to learn to become assertive. It is something we need
to work at and practice.
COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY
Aggressive
Putting yourself first, at the expense of others or trying to control other
people’s behavior.
Passive-Aggressive
Appearing to put others first, but actually having an underlying aggression.
Assertive
Expressing your feelings, thoughts and needs without threatening others.
Passive
Putting others first, at your expense
COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY
Being assertive
 A direct and honest communication of your needs,
feelings and rights
 Expressed in a way which doesn’t threaten the rights of
others
 Is focused on specifics & involves negotiation
 Make use of “I” when speaking
 Increases your level of control
 Tends to earn more respect from others
COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY
Tips for being more assertive
 Deliver your message directly to the intended recipient.
 Use statements that make what you want, think, and feel
as clear as possible. For example, “I want to…” or “I feel…”
 Own your message. Rather than saying, “You should…”
try saying, “I’d really like it if you…”
 Be specific and objective when describing the behavior
or situation.
COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY
Tips for being more assertive
 Deliver your message directly to the intended recipient.
 Use statements that make what you want, think, and feel
as clear as possible. For example, “I want to…” or “I feel…”
 Own your message. Rather than saying, “You should…”
try saying, “I’d really like it if you…”
 Be specific and objective when describing the behavior
or situation.
COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY
Tips for being more assertive
 Avoid “why” questions to further reduce the likelihood of
the other person becoming defensive.
 Avoid becoming emotional when describing how it
makes you feel. It may also be appropriate to give some
explanation as to why the situation or other person’s
behavior makes you feel that way.
COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY
Tips for being more assertive
 Be specific about the action required from the other
person, taking into account the rights, needs and
feelings of the other person. If necessary and
appropriate, clearly describe the consequences of the
other person’s behavior not changing.
 Do not be apologetic about your feelings, rights or
opinions. Say “no” to unreasonable requests, also without
being apologetic. Even offering an explanation is strictly
optional.
COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY
Tips for being more assertive
 Only address one issue at a time
 Maintain eye contact (if culturally appropriate) and use
tone of voice and body language to reinforce your
message.
 Display confident body language, think about how you
stand, walk or sit.
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DISTINGUISH THE
CRITIC AND CYNIC
CRITICISM, CYNICISM & SHARPENING YOUR GUT
Criticism is doubt
informed by curiosity
and a deep knowledge
of a discipline related
to your work.
Cynicism is a form of
doubt resulting from
ignorance and
antiquated ways.
CRITICISM, CYNICISM & SHARPENING YOUR GUT
Sharpening Your Gut
 Calculate the credibility of everything you hear
 Separate fear and emotion from logic
 Recognize patterns, but don’t resort to them
 Lear to stomach momentary scrutiny
CRITICISM, CYNICISM & SHARPENING YOUR GUT
Knowing which feedback to embrace and which to discard
is perhaps the most important instinct for a creative
individual to possess.
THANK YOU

CAWD Personal Development Training Course cum Team Building

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  • 2. The Dalai Lama,Tibet’s spiritual leader, is said to have put forward this personality test for you to better know yourself.
  • 3. Tibet is a landlocked country in the Himalayas.
  • 4. For centuries, the ruler ofTibet has been a human incarnation of the god of compassion, known as the Dalai Lama.
  • 5. The quiz has only 3 questions and the answers could surprise you.
  • 6. There are no right or wrong answers. This is an honest questionnaire which could tell you a lot about your true self.
  • 7. See if it works for you.
  • 8. Get out a piece of paper and write down your answers.
  • 9. 1. Put the following 5 animals in the order of your preference. Tiger, horse, pig, cow, sheep
  • 10. 2.Write one word that describes each one of the following: • Dog, cat, coffee, ocean, rat
  • 11. 3.Think of someone who knows you and is important to you. Match that person to one of the following colors. • Do not repeat your answer twice. Name just one person for each color. • Yellow, orange, red, white, green
  • 12. 4. Write down you favourite number and favourite day of the week
  • 13. Finished? Please be sure your answers are what you REALLY feel... Last chance.... Look at the interpretations below:
  • 14. Question 1 -The order that you choose defines the priorities in your life. • Cow: signifies career. • Tiger: signifies pride. • Sheep: signifies love. • Horse: signifies family. • Pig: signifies money.
  • 15. Question 2 - Descriptions • Your description of Dog implies your own personality. • Your description ofCat implies your partner's personality. • Your description of Rat implies the personality of your enemies. • Your description ofCoffee is how you interpret sex. • Your description ofOcean implies your own life.
  • 16. Question 3 -Colors • Yellow: Someone you will never forget. • Orange: Someone you could consider a good friend. • Red:Someone you really love. • White:Your twin soul. • Green: Someone you will remember all your life.
  • 17. Question 4 Favourite number = the number of partners you wish you'd had Favourite day of the week: Monday = you are a workaholic Tuesday = you are mad Wednesday = you cannot make decisions
  • 18. • Thursday = you get paid weekly on Thursdays • Friday = you are an alcoholic • Saturday = you are a shopaholic or a football hooligan • Sunday = you are mad (it's work on Monday), or you are unemployed
  • 19. "If someone does not smile at you, be generous and offer your own smile. Nobody needs more a smile than the one that cannot smile to others."
  • 21. CAWD Personal Development Training Course cum Team Building PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT Al John Emmanuel F. Hiñola Teacher II Cavite National High School – Senior High School
  • 22. PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT • An important lifelong process. • A way to: • Assess your skills and qualities. • Consider your aims in life. • Set goals. • Reflect on your own learning, performance and achievement. • In order to realize and maximise your potential and develop as a 'whole person' in all areas of life.
  • 23. The benefits of personal development • Personal: Increases your confidence in your own identity, competencies, attributes, aims and aspirations. • Academic: Enables you to focus on what you are learning, how you learn best and how to improve on your achievements. • Social: Builds awareness of the needs of other individuals/groups and the importance of different relationship and team roles. • Professional: Helps you to be more strategic in developing skills for employability.
  • 24. CAWD Personal Development Training Course cum Team Building SETTING AND ACHIEVING GOALS
  • 25. SETTING AND ACHIEVING GOALS A goal is: • your vision for the future • time-sensitive • large in nature A goal is not: • an objective • a resolution • a mission
  • 26. Why should you set goals?  It gives a sense of direction  It helps to see the bigger picture  It provides motivation  It give you greater control of your future
  • 27. How to set realistic goals at work and in life Personal goal setting tips  Consider your passions  Set goals you can control  Imagine your future Tips for setting goals at work  Brainstorm  Include everyone  Ask why
  • 28. 10 tips to achieve your goals 1. Have SMART goals Specific Measurable Attainable Relevant Time-bound S. Have customers complete satisfaction rating surveys at the beginning of their contract and again after two quarters M. Increase customer satisfaction by 15% over the next two quarters A. Customer success team to analyze and report improvements every two weeks R. Become well-known as a company for our focus on customer satisfaction T. The following 2 quarters
  • 29. 10 tips to achieve your goals 2. Write them down Don’t just daydream about your goals – put pen to paper and write them down
  • 30. 10 tips to achieve your goals 3. Make your goals visible 4. Break it down 5. Develop a plan 6. Take action
  • 31. 10 tips to achieve your goals 7. Keep perspective 8. Identify potential obstacle 9. Be accountable 10. Reflect and adjust
  • 32. CAWD Personal Development Training Course cum Team Building IMPRESSION MANAGEMENT
  • 33. IMPRESSION MANAGEMENT  it is goal-oriented conscious or unconscious attempt to influence the impression of other people about a person, object or event by regulating and controlling information in social interaction
  • 34. IMPRESSION MANAGEMENT  how to make a favorable impression, how to perceive others and evaluate others on the basis of:  dress, make-up, hairstyle  manner and general behavior  body language
  • 35. IMPRESSION MANAGEMENT  the process of portraying yourself to others in a manner that creates a desired impression  goal-directed activity of controlling and regulating information in order to influence the impressions formed by audience
  • 36. IMPRESSION MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUES  Suppressing Emotions  Conforming to Situational Norms  Flattering Others  Being Consistent
  • 37. CAWD Personal Development Training Course cum Team Building THE CORRECT AND INCORRECT USE OF HUMOR
  • 38. USE OF HUMOR  Humor increases energy levels  Humor reduces negative emotions  Humor leads to increased interest  Humor can make others view you in more positive manner
  • 39. Situations where humor can be beneficial  When you want to cheer someone up  When you want to establish rapport with others  When you want to make talk that you’re giving more interest  When you want to make a project that you’ve worked on stand out and draw people’s attention
  • 40. Use humor effectively  Type of humor  Style of humor  Amount of humor  Timing of humor  Delivery of humor
  • 41. Using the right type of humor  Positive humor  Negative humor
  • 42. Using the right style of humor  Humor generally works best when it’s not too extreme  Humor works generally works best when it’s not too subtle
  • 43. Using humor as an effective memory aid  Humor generally works better when it’s related to the information at hand  Humor can serve as a better attention and memory aid when it’s unexpected in some way  Attention to humorous information sometimes comes at the expense of attention to related non-humorous information
  • 44. CAWD Personal Development Training Course cum Team Building PERSONAL COMMUNICATION SKILLS
  • 45. NON-VERBAL COMMUNICATION  Facial Expressions  Eye Contact  Interpersonal Distance  Body Orientation and Postures  Hand and other Gestures  Para-language  Appearance
  • 46. ACTIVE LISTENING AND EFFECTIVE QUESTIONING Active listening means accurately listening to what is being said, and showing we’re paying attention to what is being said.
  • 47. ACTIVE LISTENING AND EFFECTIVE QUESTIONING  Concentrate – give the conversation your undivided attention  Resist the temptation to interrupt  Hear the tone of the speakers voice as the words being used  Demonstrate you are listening by making ‘continuity noises’ e.g. em, yes, really, aha, etc.  Be aware of your own facial expressions
  • 48. ACTIVE LISTENING AND EFFECTIVE QUESTIONING  Face the speaker squarely  Adopt an open and relaxed posture  Lean slightly towards the speaker  Make good eye contact (but not too much!)  Ask open questions to get the speaker to elaborate on particular issues
  • 49. ACTIVE LISTENING AND EFFECTIVE QUESTIONING Open Questions begin with:  Who were you working with?  What are you going to do about that?  Where exactly did this happen?  When do you think you could do this?  How do you think this happened?  Why is that important to you?  Which would you prefer? Open questions minimize the temptation to make assumptions. They help understand more precisely what the speaker wants to tell you. Reflecting what the person has said can also help.
  • 50. GIVING AND RECEIVING FEEDBACK To be effective, feedback should focus on:  Clear and specific points  Behavior that can be changed – allow room for action  Observed facts, not supposed intentions  What you saw / felt, not judgement  The most important points  Agreed purpose / ground rules  Good aspects, as well as areas for improvement  Giving value to the receiver, not release for the giver!
  • 51. GIVING AND RECEIVING FEEDBACK In more detail:  Feedback is descriptive rather than evaluative.  It is specific rather than general.  It takes into account the needs of both the receiver and giver of feedback.  It is directed toward behavior which the receiver can do something about.  It is solicited, rather than imposed.  It is well timed.  It is checked to ensure clear communication  Feedback then, is a way of giving help
  • 52. GIVING AND RECEIVING FEEDBACK In receiving feedback:  breathe!  listen carefully (remember active listening !)  ask questions for clarity (remember effective questioning)  acknowledge the feedback  acknowledge valid points  take time to sort out what you heard
  • 53. COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY We tend to adopt one of four behavior styles, Aggressive, Passive, Passive-Aggressive or Assertive. Most of us fall naturally into one or other of the first three. Most of us have to learn to become assertive. It is something we need to work at and practice.
  • 54. COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY Aggressive Putting yourself first, at the expense of others or trying to control other people’s behavior. Passive-Aggressive Appearing to put others first, but actually having an underlying aggression. Assertive Expressing your feelings, thoughts and needs without threatening others. Passive Putting others first, at your expense
  • 55. COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY Being assertive  A direct and honest communication of your needs, feelings and rights  Expressed in a way which doesn’t threaten the rights of others  Is focused on specifics & involves negotiation  Make use of “I” when speaking  Increases your level of control  Tends to earn more respect from others
  • 56. COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY Tips for being more assertive  Deliver your message directly to the intended recipient.  Use statements that make what you want, think, and feel as clear as possible. For example, “I want to…” or “I feel…”  Own your message. Rather than saying, “You should…” try saying, “I’d really like it if you…”  Be specific and objective when describing the behavior or situation.
  • 57. COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY Tips for being more assertive  Deliver your message directly to the intended recipient.  Use statements that make what you want, think, and feel as clear as possible. For example, “I want to…” or “I feel…”  Own your message. Rather than saying, “You should…” try saying, “I’d really like it if you…”  Be specific and objective when describing the behavior or situation.
  • 58. COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY Tips for being more assertive  Avoid “why” questions to further reduce the likelihood of the other person becoming defensive.  Avoid becoming emotional when describing how it makes you feel. It may also be appropriate to give some explanation as to why the situation or other person’s behavior makes you feel that way.
  • 59. COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY Tips for being more assertive  Be specific about the action required from the other person, taking into account the rights, needs and feelings of the other person. If necessary and appropriate, clearly describe the consequences of the other person’s behavior not changing.  Do not be apologetic about your feelings, rights or opinions. Say “no” to unreasonable requests, also without being apologetic. Even offering an explanation is strictly optional.
  • 60. COMMUNICATING ASSERTIVELY Tips for being more assertive  Only address one issue at a time  Maintain eye contact (if culturally appropriate) and use tone of voice and body language to reinforce your message.  Display confident body language, think about how you stand, walk or sit.
  • 61. CAWD Personal Development Training Course cum Team Building DISTINGUISH THE CRITIC AND CYNIC
  • 62. CRITICISM, CYNICISM & SHARPENING YOUR GUT Criticism is doubt informed by curiosity and a deep knowledge of a discipline related to your work. Cynicism is a form of doubt resulting from ignorance and antiquated ways.
  • 63. CRITICISM, CYNICISM & SHARPENING YOUR GUT Sharpening Your Gut  Calculate the credibility of everything you hear  Separate fear and emotion from logic  Recognize patterns, but don’t resort to them  Lear to stomach momentary scrutiny
  • 64. CRITICISM, CYNICISM & SHARPENING YOUR GUT Knowing which feedback to embrace and which to discard is perhaps the most important instinct for a creative individual to possess.
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