Power Networking

         P.M.E.T Way!

      P - Prepare before Your Venture
   M - Mind Your Manners in Networking
    E – Experience Sowing and Reaping
   T – Take the Social Networking Plunge
P - Prepare before Your Venture
Identify where you should go.

  All venues are not right for all people.
     You owe it to yourself to do your
 research and find the venues that make
         sense for your business
Make a decision about which
       organizations
 you should join and which you don’t have to join in
 order to gain value from their events. For example,
     does it make sense to join a local chamber of
    commerce, or just go to the events that sound
  interesting and will most likely include people you
                    should meet?
Register for the event and schedule
     it like a business meeting.
   Many people either don’t sign up for
   events or sign up for them and then
               forget to go.
Determine how often you
 should be networking
in a given week, month or quarter.
  This will help you narrow down
    where you should be going.
Develop open-ended questions

  you can use to ignite a conversation. Try
   to find unique questions; don’t ask the
   same old “So, what do you do?” if you
                 can help it.
Attend events with a plan to
   learn something new.
 This will keep you from talking too
   much about yourself and your
               business
Prepare yourself physically and
    mentally for the event.

         Dress appropriately.
         Bring business cards.
 Turn your phone off or set it to vibrate
M - Mind Your Manners
    in Networking
If you go to an event with
        someone.
you know, split up once you get there
Focus before you approach
         anyone.
 When you walk into the room, step to
 the side, take a deep breath and scan
the room. This will give you a chance to
                 regroup
Don’t sit down

Until the program begins. If there is
no program, you can sit once you’ve
     connected with someone.
Sit with Strangers

not with people you know
When you see someone sitting
          alone,
  go to them and introduce yourself. You’ll be
      saving their life! They are alone and
   nervous. You can even take them with you
         to mix and mingle with others
Don’t give your business card to
      everyone you meet.
   Rather, give it to anyone who asks
                you for it
Do get the business card of
   everyone you meet.
Have a firm but not killer
       handshake.
   Your handshake is a key indicator of your level of
confidence. If it’s too weak you are telegraphing. If it is
    too strong you are sending a signal that you are
      probably more aggressive than assertive or
    cooperative. Either way, it doesn’t lend itself to
                   building relationships
Be present.

When you are talking with someone,
look them in the eye and really pay
 attention to what they are saying.
Don’t look around the room

 or over someone’s shoulder when you
are talking with them. It’s rude. You are
letting them know that you aren’t really
           interested in them.
Don’t take a phone call.

If you are expecting a call or have a situation
that may need your attention, let the person
    you are talking with know there is the
   possibility you’ll have to excuse yourself
If you have to take a call,

 leave the room and go to a quiet place. It
  doesn’t make you seem important if you
take a call in the room. It makes you seem
impolite, silly, rude, arrogant . . . take your
                     pick!
Disengage politely.
      How do you get away from someone politely?
                There are a couple of tactics.
You can tell them you don’t want to monopolize their time.
You can tell them you see someone you need to speak with.
         You can excuse yourself to the restroom.
  You can tell them you’d like to continue meeting people.
Follow up (this is critical)!

  If you are going to take the time to network, then
please take the time to follow up with the people you
meet. You can send them a handwritten note or reach
  out to them to schedule coffee or a meeting. This
         depends on how well you connected
Don’t follow up via email unless the
        person asks you to.
Don’t pitch too early.
   Quite frankly, don’t “pitch” at all. When you build
 relationships it will become apparent to you and the
other person when it makes sense to do business with
 each other. Remember, business networking is about
                relationships, not selling
Don’t sign people up for your
         newsletter.
     without their permission
Don’t assume

  that just because you met someone you
  now have license to gain a referral from
them, use them as a resource, or give them
   your promotional and sales materials
E - Experience Sowing and
          Reaping
Focus on giving
Show up regularly and on time.

  When you show up late and/or infrequently, you send a message
                    to your fellow group members:
  You tell them that you only care about yourself because you don’t
               take the time to learn about their needs.
      You show them how you deal with business meetings and
  associates. Why would they trust you with their clients? How can
                  they be sure you’ll treat them well?
Come Prepared

Have a specific list of referral needs.
 The more specific you can be, the
   more referrals you’ll receive.
Always ask for what you need.

  We are never so busy that we don’t need
 more prospects in our pipeline. If you don’t
 ask all the time, you’ll run the risk of getting
       into a place where you never ask.
Be present.

Once again, be sure you are really listening
to the needs of the group members. Don’t
 play with your phone or answer e-mails
 while others are talking. Really listen and
   think about how you can help them.
Meet with the members
     individually
between meetings so you can get to
       know them better.
Do not try to sell

 your fellow group members when
you have your one-on-one meetings.
Do not expect to get until you give.
    Even after you have given,
 Do not expect to get right away
          It takes time to build the
   relationships with group members so
    you trust them and they trust you.
Consider the other group members
   as resources to you and your
             contacts.
  When you know how they do business and trust
    them, you can use them as resources when
   people mention needs those group members
   can solve. This can elevate you in the eyes of
       your contacts, prospects and clients.
Do give quality referrals and
           leads
 . I knew a man who would write up a referral and put
     “Do not use my name“ on the sheet. That is not
helpful. I’ve also seen a situation where someone gave
 a referral but called the referee later and said, “Don’t
      call that person.” That’s not helpful! Don’t give
            garbage. It’s better to not give at all.
Make sure your clients, contacts
   and associates are open to you
   giving their names and contact
information to your group members.
   One of the worst things that can happen is for you to refer a group member to a
                         client, only to have the client get mad.
     Your job is to know your clients and contacts well enough that you know who
        would be open to taking a call and who would rather not. This doesn’t
       necessarily mean that you can’t connect these people. It just means that,
   instead of passing on the person’s name and contact information, you may have
    to make the introduction. Reach out to your contact and set the stage for your
                                      group member.
Follow up!
 If someone gives you a referral, treat it like gold. You want to be
sure that you follow up on it right away. Imagine how you’ll make
the other person feel if they refer you to someone and you don’t
  follow up in a timely manner. It won’t make them want to refer
 you again. It takes time to build relationships with the people in
  your referral group. Don’t destroy that trust by failing to take a
                         referral seriously.
T – Taking the Social Networking
             Plunge
Decide who you want to be.
   Of course, you should be you! What I mean is that before you say something in your news feed or in a
                   discussion, make sure it maps with how you want others to know you.
I participate on LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter and some blogs. I always think before I write anything. First, I
   want to be sure I am being consistent with my message. Second, I know that my clients and prospects
  come from varying backgrounds and belief systems. I want to be sure that nothing I say will change the
 way they think of me. This is especially true for social networks like Facebook. The intersection of social
   and business is very blurry. Interacting with people in these arenas helps you get to know them on a
personal level. That can work for or against you. So, think about what kinds of conversations you want to
                                   engage in before you write something.
Don’t spam
No one likes spam and that includes pitch messages on
   social networking. Use the platforms as a way to
   continue to build relationships and expand your
 network. Irritating people won’t help you accomplish
                         that.
Limit the self-promotion.

You can let people know what you
are up to as long as that’s not your
    only topic of conversation.
Share information.

People love to learn things. Use social
networking as a way to share relevant
   information with other people.
Tell people why you want to
     connect with them.
 Don’t use the standard connection
      script if you can help it.
Participate.

You’ll get out of it what you put into
                   it.
Don’t assume that being connected
to someone gives you permission to
         pitch. It doesn’t.
If you want an introduction through
   one of your contacts, make sure
    you explain why you want it.
Your online connections are just as
     valuable as your offline
          connections..
         Treat them that way
Take the time to get to know
 people you meet via social
        networking.
  When you engage in a conversation with
 someone, belong to a group with them, or
  read something they wrote, ask them to
connect directly. Then build the relationship.
Pay attention.
Social networking is just like in-person networking. You
  want to approach it as a way to learn things. When
 you pay attention to the chatter, the events, groups
 and conversations you’ll learn an awful lot about the
people in your network. You’ll also learn about people
             you should be connected to.
Don’t sell.
This goes along with spamming and self-promotion.
Sounds familiar, doesn’t it? Of course it does. That’s
 because social networking has nothing to do with
    selling. It has everything to do with building
    relationships so you can grow your business.
You don’t have to connect with
          everyone.
   You can make decisions about who you connect with
  on different platforms. Just be consistent. If you decide
     that you don’t want to be connected to business
   associates on Facebook, then don’t. If someone you
    don’t knows requests a connection to you, you are
         under no obligation to connect with them.
Be a giver..

Whenever you can connect people or
help someone with a question, do it
Be yourself.

  Don’t hide behind a persona. Remember
  that people do business with people they
trust. You have to be you in order for people
             to get to know you.
Use your own picture as a
      profile photo.
Don’t carry on private
  conversations in public.
Use common sense and good judgment
and contact people privately when you
      want to have a one-on-one
            conversation.
Go to events

When an online group you are in has an
 in-person function, go to it. Meet the
people you’ve been interacting with. It
     helps to build the relationship.
Suggest a meeting.
     When you connect with someone via social
 networking, follow up and suggest a meeting. The
   meeting can be via phone, Skype or in person,
depending on geography. Don’t let physical distance
get in your way. In this day and age it doesn’t have to
 be a deterrent to growing a business relationship.
Be approachable.

I’m not going to get the chance to know you
  and like you if you are aloof. No one is so
 special that they are untouchable. Besides,
who would want to build a relationship with
              someone distant?
Last Words!
At the end of the day, we network so we can grow our businesses. We meet
 people and build relationships so we will receive referrals from them over
 time. What we’re talking about here is how to do it well so those referrals
actually happen. Whatever business networking venue(s) you choose, make
                               the most of them.
 Although increased sales is the end goal, we don’t participate in business
 networking to sell. We do it to find and develop relationships with people
who we can help and who can help us. When we detach ourselves from the
emphasis we tend to put on selling, we actually improve our ability to build
  relationships. The sales will come naturally from there. Remember these
  guidelines when you venture out of your office into the world of events,
   groups, and social networks. Make the most of the time you spend on
                            business networking.

Power Networking Tips

  • 1.
    Power Networking P.M.E.T Way! P - Prepare before Your Venture M - Mind Your Manners in Networking E – Experience Sowing and Reaping T – Take the Social Networking Plunge
  • 2.
    P - Preparebefore Your Venture
  • 3.
    Identify where youshould go. All venues are not right for all people. You owe it to yourself to do your research and find the venues that make sense for your business
  • 4.
    Make a decisionabout which organizations you should join and which you don’t have to join in order to gain value from their events. For example, does it make sense to join a local chamber of commerce, or just go to the events that sound interesting and will most likely include people you should meet?
  • 5.
    Register for theevent and schedule it like a business meeting. Many people either don’t sign up for events or sign up for them and then forget to go.
  • 6.
    Determine how oftenyou should be networking in a given week, month or quarter. This will help you narrow down where you should be going.
  • 7.
    Develop open-ended questions you can use to ignite a conversation. Try to find unique questions; don’t ask the same old “So, what do you do?” if you can help it.
  • 8.
    Attend events witha plan to learn something new. This will keep you from talking too much about yourself and your business
  • 9.
    Prepare yourself physicallyand mentally for the event. Dress appropriately. Bring business cards. Turn your phone off or set it to vibrate
  • 10.
    M - MindYour Manners in Networking
  • 11.
    If you goto an event with someone. you know, split up once you get there
  • 12.
    Focus before youapproach anyone. When you walk into the room, step to the side, take a deep breath and scan the room. This will give you a chance to regroup
  • 13.
    Don’t sit down Untilthe program begins. If there is no program, you can sit once you’ve connected with someone.
  • 14.
    Sit with Strangers notwith people you know
  • 15.
    When you seesomeone sitting alone, go to them and introduce yourself. You’ll be saving their life! They are alone and nervous. You can even take them with you to mix and mingle with others
  • 16.
    Don’t give yourbusiness card to everyone you meet. Rather, give it to anyone who asks you for it
  • 17.
    Do get thebusiness card of everyone you meet.
  • 18.
    Have a firmbut not killer handshake. Your handshake is a key indicator of your level of confidence. If it’s too weak you are telegraphing. If it is too strong you are sending a signal that you are probably more aggressive than assertive or cooperative. Either way, it doesn’t lend itself to building relationships
  • 19.
    Be present. When youare talking with someone, look them in the eye and really pay attention to what they are saying.
  • 20.
    Don’t look aroundthe room or over someone’s shoulder when you are talking with them. It’s rude. You are letting them know that you aren’t really interested in them.
  • 21.
    Don’t take aphone call. If you are expecting a call or have a situation that may need your attention, let the person you are talking with know there is the possibility you’ll have to excuse yourself
  • 22.
    If you haveto take a call, leave the room and go to a quiet place. It doesn’t make you seem important if you take a call in the room. It makes you seem impolite, silly, rude, arrogant . . . take your pick!
  • 23.
    Disengage politely. How do you get away from someone politely? There are a couple of tactics. You can tell them you don’t want to monopolize their time. You can tell them you see someone you need to speak with. You can excuse yourself to the restroom. You can tell them you’d like to continue meeting people.
  • 24.
    Follow up (thisis critical)! If you are going to take the time to network, then please take the time to follow up with the people you meet. You can send them a handwritten note or reach out to them to schedule coffee or a meeting. This depends on how well you connected
  • 25.
    Don’t follow upvia email unless the person asks you to.
  • 26.
    Don’t pitch tooearly. Quite frankly, don’t “pitch” at all. When you build relationships it will become apparent to you and the other person when it makes sense to do business with each other. Remember, business networking is about relationships, not selling
  • 27.
    Don’t sign peopleup for your newsletter. without their permission
  • 28.
    Don’t assume that just because you met someone you now have license to gain a referral from them, use them as a resource, or give them your promotional and sales materials
  • 29.
    E - ExperienceSowing and Reaping
  • 30.
  • 31.
    Show up regularlyand on time. When you show up late and/or infrequently, you send a message to your fellow group members: You tell them that you only care about yourself because you don’t take the time to learn about their needs. You show them how you deal with business meetings and associates. Why would they trust you with their clients? How can they be sure you’ll treat them well?
  • 32.
    Come Prepared Have aspecific list of referral needs. The more specific you can be, the more referrals you’ll receive.
  • 33.
    Always ask forwhat you need. We are never so busy that we don’t need more prospects in our pipeline. If you don’t ask all the time, you’ll run the risk of getting into a place where you never ask.
  • 34.
    Be present. Once again,be sure you are really listening to the needs of the group members. Don’t play with your phone or answer e-mails while others are talking. Really listen and think about how you can help them.
  • 35.
    Meet with themembers individually between meetings so you can get to know them better.
  • 36.
    Do not tryto sell your fellow group members when you have your one-on-one meetings.
  • 37.
    Do not expectto get until you give. Even after you have given, Do not expect to get right away It takes time to build the relationships with group members so you trust them and they trust you.
  • 38.
    Consider the othergroup members as resources to you and your contacts. When you know how they do business and trust them, you can use them as resources when people mention needs those group members can solve. This can elevate you in the eyes of your contacts, prospects and clients.
  • 39.
    Do give qualityreferrals and leads . I knew a man who would write up a referral and put “Do not use my name“ on the sheet. That is not helpful. I’ve also seen a situation where someone gave a referral but called the referee later and said, “Don’t call that person.” That’s not helpful! Don’t give garbage. It’s better to not give at all.
  • 40.
    Make sure yourclients, contacts and associates are open to you giving their names and contact information to your group members. One of the worst things that can happen is for you to refer a group member to a client, only to have the client get mad. Your job is to know your clients and contacts well enough that you know who would be open to taking a call and who would rather not. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you can’t connect these people. It just means that, instead of passing on the person’s name and contact information, you may have to make the introduction. Reach out to your contact and set the stage for your group member.
  • 41.
    Follow up! Ifsomeone gives you a referral, treat it like gold. You want to be sure that you follow up on it right away. Imagine how you’ll make the other person feel if they refer you to someone and you don’t follow up in a timely manner. It won’t make them want to refer you again. It takes time to build relationships with the people in your referral group. Don’t destroy that trust by failing to take a referral seriously.
  • 42.
    T – Takingthe Social Networking Plunge
  • 43.
    Decide who youwant to be. Of course, you should be you! What I mean is that before you say something in your news feed or in a discussion, make sure it maps with how you want others to know you. I participate on LinkedIn, Facebook, Twitter and some blogs. I always think before I write anything. First, I want to be sure I am being consistent with my message. Second, I know that my clients and prospects come from varying backgrounds and belief systems. I want to be sure that nothing I say will change the way they think of me. This is especially true for social networks like Facebook. The intersection of social and business is very blurry. Interacting with people in these arenas helps you get to know them on a personal level. That can work for or against you. So, think about what kinds of conversations you want to engage in before you write something.
  • 44.
    Don’t spam No onelikes spam and that includes pitch messages on social networking. Use the platforms as a way to continue to build relationships and expand your network. Irritating people won’t help you accomplish that.
  • 45.
    Limit the self-promotion. Youcan let people know what you are up to as long as that’s not your only topic of conversation.
  • 46.
    Share information. People loveto learn things. Use social networking as a way to share relevant information with other people.
  • 47.
    Tell people whyyou want to connect with them. Don’t use the standard connection script if you can help it.
  • 48.
    Participate. You’ll get outof it what you put into it.
  • 49.
    Don’t assume thatbeing connected to someone gives you permission to pitch. It doesn’t.
  • 50.
    If you wantan introduction through one of your contacts, make sure you explain why you want it.
  • 51.
    Your online connectionsare just as valuable as your offline connections.. Treat them that way
  • 52.
    Take the timeto get to know people you meet via social networking. When you engage in a conversation with someone, belong to a group with them, or read something they wrote, ask them to connect directly. Then build the relationship.
  • 53.
    Pay attention. Social networkingis just like in-person networking. You want to approach it as a way to learn things. When you pay attention to the chatter, the events, groups and conversations you’ll learn an awful lot about the people in your network. You’ll also learn about people you should be connected to.
  • 54.
    Don’t sell. This goesalong with spamming and self-promotion. Sounds familiar, doesn’t it? Of course it does. That’s because social networking has nothing to do with selling. It has everything to do with building relationships so you can grow your business.
  • 55.
    You don’t haveto connect with everyone. You can make decisions about who you connect with on different platforms. Just be consistent. If you decide that you don’t want to be connected to business associates on Facebook, then don’t. If someone you don’t knows requests a connection to you, you are under no obligation to connect with them.
  • 56.
    Be a giver.. Wheneveryou can connect people or help someone with a question, do it
  • 57.
    Be yourself. Don’t hide behind a persona. Remember that people do business with people they trust. You have to be you in order for people to get to know you.
  • 58.
    Use your ownpicture as a profile photo.
  • 59.
    Don’t carry onprivate conversations in public. Use common sense and good judgment and contact people privately when you want to have a one-on-one conversation.
  • 60.
    Go to events Whenan online group you are in has an in-person function, go to it. Meet the people you’ve been interacting with. It helps to build the relationship.
  • 61.
    Suggest a meeting. When you connect with someone via social networking, follow up and suggest a meeting. The meeting can be via phone, Skype or in person, depending on geography. Don’t let physical distance get in your way. In this day and age it doesn’t have to be a deterrent to growing a business relationship.
  • 62.
    Be approachable. I’m notgoing to get the chance to know you and like you if you are aloof. No one is so special that they are untouchable. Besides, who would want to build a relationship with someone distant?
  • 63.
    Last Words! At theend of the day, we network so we can grow our businesses. We meet people and build relationships so we will receive referrals from them over time. What we’re talking about here is how to do it well so those referrals actually happen. Whatever business networking venue(s) you choose, make the most of them. Although increased sales is the end goal, we don’t participate in business networking to sell. We do it to find and develop relationships with people who we can help and who can help us. When we detach ourselves from the emphasis we tend to put on selling, we actually improve our ability to build relationships. The sales will come naturally from there. Remember these guidelines when you venture out of your office into the world of events, groups, and social networks. Make the most of the time you spend on business networking.