Sex and family education International Educational Foundation
Number of marriages and divorces per year in the United Kingdom Marriages Divorces Source: Office for National Statistics; General Register Office for Scotland;  Northern Ireland Statistics and Research Agency Thousands
Births outside marriage in UK Population Trends , Office of National Statistics
Births outside marriage in Europe
Population Trends , Office of National Statistics, Autumn, 2002
DIGEST 4 - Information on the Criminal Justice System, Home Office, 2000
Is  the re a  link between  family breakdown and crime ?
Half the prison population under 25 is made up of people who have been in care One third of all homeless adults were in care
National Longitudinal Survey of Youth, USA
National Longitudinal Survey of Youth, 1996, USA
Effects on a child of  the divorce of his parents Decline in self-esteem  and  self-control   Decline in achievement and behaviour at  school Emotional and psychological problems Personality disorders and problems  Difficulties in forming relationships with others
What has caused the breakdown of the family?
18 th  century R omanticism Feeling good was more important than being good Traditional social morality seen as cold and inauthentic
Secularisation of society Anti-clerical intellectuals rejected the church’s moral teaching along with its religious teaching Freedom from the church was equated with sexual freedom
We entirely repudiated a personal liability on us to obey general rules. We claimed the right to judge every individual case on its merits, and the wisdom, experience, and self-control to do so successfully. We repudiated entirely customary morals, conventions and traditional wisdom.   J.M. Keynes
Kinsey Report (1953) 10% of men are homosexual  (False) That 85% of males have had sexual intercourse before marriage   (False) Nearly 70% of men have had sex with prostitutes    (False) Between 30-45% of husbands have extra-marital  affairs  (False)
Kinsey discredited Abraham Maslow showed that Kinsey’s research was biased: 25% of the men in his study were present or former criminals who had been imprisoned. Up to 5% of the sample were male prostitutes But ended up as a self-fulfilling prophecy
General factors since the 1960s Selfish individualism: the  Me  generation Misinterpretation of Sigmund Freud Widely available reliable contraceptives Sex for pleasure and not procreation  Legalisation of abortion
Entertainment industry Pornography Relaxation of divorce laws Abandonment of fatherhood Sex education in schools The betrayal of the intellectuals   General factors since the 1960s
The sex education movement
Eugenics The study of methods to improve the human race by controlling reproduction. Promoted birth control, compulsory sterilisation, voluntary and compulsory euthanasia Society of Race-Hygiene, Germany, 1905 Eugenics Society, Britain, 1907
After the Holocaust "The Society's activities in crypto-eugenics should be pursued vigorously, and specifically the Society should increase its monetary support of the Family Planning Association and the International Planned Parenthood Federation“ Eugenics Society policy 1960
Family Planning Association Lobbied for abortion on demand and established chain of abortion clinics Promote easy availability of contraception Supported development of the ‘pill’ Promotes sex education in schools
FPA education policy “ An objective of sex education should be the provision of . . . an incentive to work towards a society in which archaic sex laws are non existent."  Freda Parker the founder of the FPA Education Unit
"The basic principles on which the curricula were to be developed was . . . a desire to dismantle the repressive educational approach to sexual morality inherited from the Victorians.“ "The progressive movement . . . guide to sex education curriculum planning incorporated elements of the new sexual politics (including the needs of sexual minority groups [such as homosexuals, lesbians etc.])." Philip Meredith, Assistant Director of Programme Development at the IPPF  in  Sex Education: Political Issues in Britain and Europe , London, 1989
Content of FPA programs "The code of sexual ethics delivered through the teaching courses has included the following principles: acceptance of masturbation as harmless, (responsible) pre-marital sexual activity through avoidance of pregnancy by using contraceptives, and (implicit) support for homosexual rights.” Philip  Meredith
What is in such books?
"In this sense, boys and girls who start having intercourse when they're adolescents, expecting to marry later on, will find that its a big help in finding out whether they really are congenial or not; to make everyday-life comparisons again, it's like taking a car out on a test run before you buy it." Wardell  Pomeroy,  Boys and Sex , N.Y. 1981
“ There are many girls who regret after marriage that they didn't have pre-marital intercourse, because they've come to realize what a long, slow learning process it is after marriage. . ." Wardell Pomeroy,  Girls and Sex , N.Y. 1981
"Swinging or mate swapping . . . happens between couples who are friends and gradually become involved sexually .” Gary Kelly,  Learning About Sex: The Contemporary Guide for Young Adults , New York, 1986
"If you feel your parents are overprotective, their message may not be helpful. If they seem to fear your sexuality, or if they don't want you to be sexual at all until some distant time, you may feel you have to tune out their voice entirely." Bell, Dr. Ruth,  Changing Bodies, Changing Lives , New York, 1980.
“ Any of the farm animals may become a sexual object—ponies, calves, sheep, pigs. . . . If this kind of sexual behavior should ever happen to you, you would be best to keep it from other people." Wardell Pomeroy,  Boys and Sex , New York, 1981.
How has sex education evolved?
Ignorance “ Sex education is not designed to meet the needs and accommodate the cognitive limitations of adolescents.” Wanda Franz, "Sex and the American Teenager",  The World & I , September, 1989
Teenage pregnancies “ Among students in schools that are distributing condoms there has been no decrease in pregnancies and little or no increase in condom use."  Family Planning Perspectives , Sept/Oct 1996
Contraceptives A study of 147 teenagers with unplanned pregnancies shows that 80% claimed to have been using contraception at conception.  British Medical Journal,  23.9.95
STD’s and AIDS Safe sex using condoms is the message J. Thomas Fitch, MD, "How effective are Condoms in Preventing Pregnancy and STDs in Adolescents?",  Medical Institute for Sexual Health, July, 1997
Sex education programmes Human sexual anatomy Mechanics of sexual reproduction How conception occurs About contraception About abortion
But . . .  Sexuality is not taught within the  framework of marriage It based on a m oral relativism  and assumes that all lifestyles are equally valid
Does sex education work?
"None of the [14 contraceptive-based] sexuality courses had a measurable impact on whether or not participants had experienced sexual intercourse. . .or the number of times."  D.Kirby, Sexuality Education: An Evaluation of Programs and their Effects,"  Network Publications,  1984
An increase in sexual activity outside marriage “ There is a 50% increase in likelihood of starting sexual activity among 14-year olds after birth control instruction.“ Deborah Anne Dawson, "Effects of Sex Education on Adolescent Behaviour,"  Family Planning Perspectives , July/August 1986.
Increase in promiscuity “ There is a greater probability of sexual activity associated with contraceptive education to girls aged 15-17."  Douglas Kirby,  Public Health Reports,  May/June 1994
Increase in teenage pregnancy Increase in illegitimacy  Increase in abortion Increase in sexually transmitted diseases
 
 
 
 
 
 
The problem is how can the moral values and traditions of civil society be recovered once they have been lost?
What is abstinence based education?
Men and women are complementary Self-discipline and control encouraged Becoming a loving, caring responsible person Chastity for self-respect and integrity  Vision of marriage as normal Marriage is the place for sexual love Family is the basis of stable society Consequences of sex outside marriage
Abstinence based education Does it work?
"Only 4% of Atlanta, Georgia, students began sex who had taken an abstinence course versus 20% of similar students who had not."  M.Howard & J.McCabe, "Helping Teenagers Postpone Sexual Involvement,"  Family Planning Perspectives , Jan/Feb 1990
“ Only 10% of Washington, D.C., students aged 12-18 in an abstinence program engaged in sex versus 72% of similar students in schools without the program.”  C.Wetzstein,  Washington Times , 22.1.1996
Teach chastity and prevent Unwanted pregnancy Abortion Illegitimate children Unmarried mothers Sexual diseases Anxiety about the above happening Heartbreak, guilt and regret due to sexual relationships Damage to self-esteem and social skill development
What is to be done?
Find out what the school’s sex education policy is Examine the teaching materials used Withdraw children from sex education classes Write to the school governors Lobby other parents
Where can I find abstinence based courses?
Family Education Trust http://www.famyouth.org.uk/ Sex Respect – Coleen Mast  http://www.sexrespect.com/ Silver Ring Thing http://www.silverringthing.com/ Wonderful Days http://www.days.org Abstinence Education http://www.abstinenceeducation.com

Sex and family education

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    Sex and familyeducation International Educational Foundation
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    Number of marriagesand divorces per year in the United Kingdom Marriages Divorces Source: Office for National Statistics; General Register Office for Scotland; Northern Ireland Statistics and Research Agency Thousands
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    Births outside marriagein UK Population Trends , Office of National Statistics
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    Population Trends ,Office of National Statistics, Autumn, 2002
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    DIGEST 4 -Information on the Criminal Justice System, Home Office, 2000
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    Is there a link between family breakdown and crime ?
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    Half the prisonpopulation under 25 is made up of people who have been in care One third of all homeless adults were in care
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    National Longitudinal Surveyof Youth, 1996, USA
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    Effects on achild of the divorce of his parents Decline in self-esteem and self-control Decline in achievement and behaviour at school Emotional and psychological problems Personality disorders and problems Difficulties in forming relationships with others
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    What has causedthe breakdown of the family?
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    18 th century R omanticism Feeling good was more important than being good Traditional social morality seen as cold and inauthentic
  • 15.
    Secularisation of societyAnti-clerical intellectuals rejected the church’s moral teaching along with its religious teaching Freedom from the church was equated with sexual freedom
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    We entirely repudiateda personal liability on us to obey general rules. We claimed the right to judge every individual case on its merits, and the wisdom, experience, and self-control to do so successfully. We repudiated entirely customary morals, conventions and traditional wisdom. J.M. Keynes
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    Kinsey Report (1953)10% of men are homosexual (False) That 85% of males have had sexual intercourse before marriage (False) Nearly 70% of men have had sex with prostitutes (False) Between 30-45% of husbands have extra-marital affairs (False)
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    Kinsey discredited AbrahamMaslow showed that Kinsey’s research was biased: 25% of the men in his study were present or former criminals who had been imprisoned. Up to 5% of the sample were male prostitutes But ended up as a self-fulfilling prophecy
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    General factors sincethe 1960s Selfish individualism: the Me generation Misinterpretation of Sigmund Freud Widely available reliable contraceptives Sex for pleasure and not procreation Legalisation of abortion
  • 20.
    Entertainment industry PornographyRelaxation of divorce laws Abandonment of fatherhood Sex education in schools The betrayal of the intellectuals General factors since the 1960s
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    Eugenics The studyof methods to improve the human race by controlling reproduction. Promoted birth control, compulsory sterilisation, voluntary and compulsory euthanasia Society of Race-Hygiene, Germany, 1905 Eugenics Society, Britain, 1907
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    After the Holocaust"The Society's activities in crypto-eugenics should be pursued vigorously, and specifically the Society should increase its monetary support of the Family Planning Association and the International Planned Parenthood Federation“ Eugenics Society policy 1960
  • 24.
    Family Planning AssociationLobbied for abortion on demand and established chain of abortion clinics Promote easy availability of contraception Supported development of the ‘pill’ Promotes sex education in schools
  • 25.
    FPA education policy“ An objective of sex education should be the provision of . . . an incentive to work towards a society in which archaic sex laws are non existent." Freda Parker the founder of the FPA Education Unit
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    "The basic principleson which the curricula were to be developed was . . . a desire to dismantle the repressive educational approach to sexual morality inherited from the Victorians.“ "The progressive movement . . . guide to sex education curriculum planning incorporated elements of the new sexual politics (including the needs of sexual minority groups [such as homosexuals, lesbians etc.])." Philip Meredith, Assistant Director of Programme Development at the IPPF in Sex Education: Political Issues in Britain and Europe , London, 1989
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    Content of FPAprograms "The code of sexual ethics delivered through the teaching courses has included the following principles: acceptance of masturbation as harmless, (responsible) pre-marital sexual activity through avoidance of pregnancy by using contraceptives, and (implicit) support for homosexual rights.” Philip Meredith
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    What is insuch books?
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    "In this sense,boys and girls who start having intercourse when they're adolescents, expecting to marry later on, will find that its a big help in finding out whether they really are congenial or not; to make everyday-life comparisons again, it's like taking a car out on a test run before you buy it." Wardell Pomeroy, Boys and Sex , N.Y. 1981
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    “ There aremany girls who regret after marriage that they didn't have pre-marital intercourse, because they've come to realize what a long, slow learning process it is after marriage. . ." Wardell Pomeroy, Girls and Sex , N.Y. 1981
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    "Swinging or mateswapping . . . happens between couples who are friends and gradually become involved sexually .” Gary Kelly, Learning About Sex: The Contemporary Guide for Young Adults , New York, 1986
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    "If you feelyour parents are overprotective, their message may not be helpful. If they seem to fear your sexuality, or if they don't want you to be sexual at all until some distant time, you may feel you have to tune out their voice entirely." Bell, Dr. Ruth, Changing Bodies, Changing Lives , New York, 1980.
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    “ Any ofthe farm animals may become a sexual object—ponies, calves, sheep, pigs. . . . If this kind of sexual behavior should ever happen to you, you would be best to keep it from other people." Wardell Pomeroy, Boys and Sex , New York, 1981.
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    How has sexeducation evolved?
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    Ignorance “ Sexeducation is not designed to meet the needs and accommodate the cognitive limitations of adolescents.” Wanda Franz, "Sex and the American Teenager", The World & I , September, 1989
  • 36.
    Teenage pregnancies “Among students in schools that are distributing condoms there has been no decrease in pregnancies and little or no increase in condom use." Family Planning Perspectives , Sept/Oct 1996
  • 37.
    Contraceptives A studyof 147 teenagers with unplanned pregnancies shows that 80% claimed to have been using contraception at conception. British Medical Journal, 23.9.95
  • 38.
    STD’s and AIDSSafe sex using condoms is the message J. Thomas Fitch, MD, "How effective are Condoms in Preventing Pregnancy and STDs in Adolescents?", Medical Institute for Sexual Health, July, 1997
  • 39.
    Sex education programmesHuman sexual anatomy Mechanics of sexual reproduction How conception occurs About contraception About abortion
  • 40.
    But . .. Sexuality is not taught within the framework of marriage It based on a m oral relativism and assumes that all lifestyles are equally valid
  • 41.
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    "None of the[14 contraceptive-based] sexuality courses had a measurable impact on whether or not participants had experienced sexual intercourse. . .or the number of times." D.Kirby, Sexuality Education: An Evaluation of Programs and their Effects," Network Publications, 1984
  • 43.
    An increase insexual activity outside marriage “ There is a 50% increase in likelihood of starting sexual activity among 14-year olds after birth control instruction.“ Deborah Anne Dawson, "Effects of Sex Education on Adolescent Behaviour," Family Planning Perspectives , July/August 1986.
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    Increase in promiscuity“ There is a greater probability of sexual activity associated with contraceptive education to girls aged 15-17." Douglas Kirby, Public Health Reports, May/June 1994
  • 45.
    Increase in teenagepregnancy Increase in illegitimacy Increase in abortion Increase in sexually transmitted diseases
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    The problem ishow can the moral values and traditions of civil society be recovered once they have been lost?
  • 53.
    What is abstinencebased education?
  • 54.
    Men and womenare complementary Self-discipline and control encouraged Becoming a loving, caring responsible person Chastity for self-respect and integrity Vision of marriage as normal Marriage is the place for sexual love Family is the basis of stable society Consequences of sex outside marriage
  • 55.
  • 56.
    "Only 4% ofAtlanta, Georgia, students began sex who had taken an abstinence course versus 20% of similar students who had not." M.Howard & J.McCabe, "Helping Teenagers Postpone Sexual Involvement," Family Planning Perspectives , Jan/Feb 1990
  • 57.
    “ Only 10%of Washington, D.C., students aged 12-18 in an abstinence program engaged in sex versus 72% of similar students in schools without the program.” C.Wetzstein, Washington Times , 22.1.1996
  • 58.
    Teach chastity andprevent Unwanted pregnancy Abortion Illegitimate children Unmarried mothers Sexual diseases Anxiety about the above happening Heartbreak, guilt and regret due to sexual relationships Damage to self-esteem and social skill development
  • 59.
    What is tobe done?
  • 60.
    Find out whatthe school’s sex education policy is Examine the teaching materials used Withdraw children from sex education classes Write to the school governors Lobby other parents
  • 61.
    Where can Ifind abstinence based courses?
  • 62.
    Family Education Trusthttp://www.famyouth.org.uk/ Sex Respect – Coleen Mast http://www.sexrespect.com/ Silver Ring Thing http://www.silverringthing.com/ Wonderful Days http://www.days.org Abstinence Education http://www.abstinenceeducation.com