Ultimate goal creation workshop
- 1. WELCOME TO THE ULTIMATE GOAL CREATION WORKSHOP By Farah Siddiqui-Borland MSc Holistic Change Coach, NLPTrainer www.goodnessgorgeousme.com
- 2. This is a condensed version of a live full 1 day workshop I ran, so includes time for activity, reflection and discussion.The best way for you to get the most out of this course is to do the exercises as you go through, take your time before going on to the next.
- 3. Workshop Prerequisites: An open mind Respectful of others goals, as well as your own Judgement free Responsibility for your own outcomes Hydration, ventilation, nutritious snacks Free from distractions Make this an appointment with yourself, one you are on time for A willingness to play full out and challenge yourself Writing materials and note book Lifestyle magazines, glue, scissors, large piece of card Happy background music during the exercises (optional) Prepared to celebrate achievements and share!
- 4. Why are you here? What are your outcomes? Take a moment to write down what you need to do to make this the best goals workshop you can make it be.
- 5. FARAH’S OUTCOMES: My outcome for this workshop is to share some of the training and experience I have had around the area of goal creation and to clarify why goal setting alone, doesn’t work and what is needed instead. Of course, I also hope you enjoy the course, learn some new things, participate by sharing, asking questions and take part in the exercises and feel energised and excited about the future as a result. I’m grateful and honoured you chose to spend time on yourself working with me and I wish you love and light and look forward to working with you again sometime. If you feel others you know would benefit from this workshop, do share the love! Invite them over to the party and direct them to www.goodnessgorgeousme.com
- 6. WHAT IS A GOAL? •n: end of race; object of effort; •Aim, ambition, design, destination, end, intention, limit, mark, object, purpose, target •An outcome, you are doing something to achieve it •Something you want to create in your universe
- 7. SO, TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT WHAT YOU REALLY REALLY WANT
- 8. The goal might be: To meet the love of your life? A new car? Live in a nicer area in a bigger house? Travel, volunteer, live overseas? Present on stage? Have a successful business? Make 6 figures a year? Ask yourself, what does the car, house, money, travel etc do for you? What does it give you? What is the ultimate motivation behind it? Is it reallyTheThing? Or is it the Feeling behind it?
- 9. Everything we do in life, we do at its deepest level to be Happy. To Feel Good.
- 10. 2 WAYSYOU CAN INCREASEYOUR PERSONAL LEVEL OF HAPPINESS: •Be actively engaged in achieving your goals •Eliminate the times when you are unhappy
- 11. Does it mean then, that if you don’t achieve your goals you will not be happy? Consider this: What you receive by accomplishing your goals is not nearly as important as what you become by accomplishing your goals. You could argue that what you become by not accomplishing your goals is many times more profound than what you become when you do accomplish them. Achieving your goals:
- 12. Eliminate the times you are unhappy: 1. Letting go of what is no longer true Release the attachment to the old idea or habit and notice how you feel. What you resist persists. Can you think of something in your life where you are holding onto something that is no longer true? Let it go! 2. Overcoming addictions Chemical addictions, speak for themselves. Emotional/psychological addictions can be even more harmful… Have you ever experienced an addiction to something? That’s your ego talking. Let go of your ego.
- 13. Now is a result of decisions you made in the past. The result of your best thinking yesterday got you where you are today. The Power lies in NOW. You can affect your future today.
- 14. CELEBRATINGYOU!
- 15. YOU ROCK!!! Write as many of your achievements as you can think of. No matter how big or small. Just brainstorm and let it flow. Next to each, write one word describing how the achievement made you feel, or phrases you tell yourself or what it means to you. Take a moment to look at those words and phrases next to the achievements. Draw an image of you, a stick person will do.Write your name, depicting the image. Surround the image with those words and congratulate yourself! Cue happy celebratory music and do a little dance :)
- 16. YOU KNOWYOU CAN DO IT, RIGHT? YOU’VE ACHIEVED GOALS IN THE PAST, SO WHAT’S STOPPINGYOU ACHIEVING THEM INTHE NOW ORTHE FUTURE?
- 17. EXCUSES, EXCUSES…. • I really want to do things differently, but I can’t because… • I don’t have time… • Too busy with my job/kids… • Commuting eats into my time… • Can’t afford it… • Can’t be bothered… • Goal setting is selfish. I’m not a self-centred person… • It doesn’t work. I’ve tried before and it’s impossible…
- 18. MORE EXCUSES, EXCUSES…. • Not sure what I want… • It’s not something I can do… • You can’t teach an old dog new tricks… • I’m too old for all that now… • Once I get through this busy patch, I’m really going to sort myself out… • I like spontaneity! It’s boring to plan things in advance… • My spouse/parents/kids won’t let me… • It’s too difficult…
- 19. WHY DO WE DO ANYTHING? Ultimately it’s to feel happy! It satisfies a human need.There are 6 basic human needs.Your feelings from the Celebration exercise will fall in to either one of the following:
- 20. 6 HUMAN NEEDS Needs of the Personality: Certainty Uncertainty Significance Love/Connection Needs of the Spirit: Growth Contribution
- 21. OUR NEEDS CREATE A CYCLE: INTENTION THOUGHTS WORDS / FEELINGS ACTIONS RESULTS INTENTION …
- 22. Something happens: (external event) We process it through our unique internal filters and make a picture in our head (internal representation) which affects how we feel (our state) and our physiology (what we do with our body). That affects what we do (behaviour) and the results we get in life The diagram on the next page shows the cycle
- 24. LET’S LOOK AT HOWTHE WORDS WE USE AFFECT HOW WE FEEL,AND THEREFORE HOW WE ACT, ANDTHETHINGS WE DO, SO THE RESULTS WE GET. OUR WORDS AFFECT OUR RESULTS
- 25. IT’S ONLY WORDS... • Make two lists. • In one column, list words used in everyday conversations which lift you and make you feel positive. Ones which imply a way forward • In the other column list, list word which make you shudder! One’s implying stuckness, negativity or lack. • Listen out to other people’s conversations and notice if they use more of one type of language over another and whether they seem generally upbeat or downbeat. Is there a correlation? Now be more wary of the words you chose and notice how it affects your emotions and the responses you get.Ask someone ‘how are you’...
- 26. USE MORE OFTHESE: Can All Yet Curious Will Everyone Have Solution Trust Lesson Believe Feeback Easy Persistence Challenge Find Passion Fresh Serve Desire Abundant Seize the moment Plenty Action Beginning Complete Sure
- 27. ELIMINATETHESE! Won’t Haven’t Must/ Mustn’t Should Try Hopefully Problem Lose If None No-one Failure End Old Only Can’t We’ll see.. Who knows Need to It’s not my fault It’s not me, it’s you Not bad OK So-So But
- 28. •Every single “I can’t.....” is a creation •Every single “ I’m not....“ is a creation
- 29. Responsibility for Goals When you take 100% responsibility for achieving your outcome and are willing to do it all by yourself, you won’t have to To the extent you are not willing to do it all by yourself, you will have to! When you don’t take 100% responsibility for achieving your outcomes you are not working magic, you are playing with luck! The only benefit of not taking 100% responsibility for achieving your outcome is that you will always have someone to blame
- 30. YOU ALWAYS GET WHATYOU EXPECT (not what you deserve...) Do a little each day Get in line, Stay in Line Ditch, Do or Delegate Lower your standards for success Rewards yourself & Celebrate
- 31. • INTENTION • ATTENTION • INTUITION • CREATION • MANIFESTATION • THANKS
- 32. HOW BALANCED ISYOUR LIFE RIGHT NOW? Health & fitness Intimate relationship Family & home Finances/wealth Emotional health / me-time Spirituality Work / purpose Contribution Social / recreational Intellectual/educational
- 33. Then score each section on how it is for you right now: outside is 10 = perfect centre is 0: a long way to go Mark a line across your score for each section Notice where your strengths are and where improvements are needed. Which area are you going to focus on? What’s the goal? 10 0 10 10 10 10 10 10 10 10 10 First draw a circle, split it into 10 equal sections. Label each section as per the last slide
- 34. MANIFESTATION
- 35. YOUR DESIGNER DAY Imagine your Perfect Day. Where do you wake up? What do you see? Who is with you? How does your morning start? How do you fill your day? What does the end of your day look like? Write down what you see in your Perfect Day. Visualise it as fully as possible, make it vivid, feel how you would feel.Visualisation is a powerful technique, here’s how to do it:
- 36. VISUALISING • Practice! It’s a new skill and takes time to master • Visualise as if you are seeing the event through your own eyes • Connect with your feelings around the future movie • Turn it up! Make the picture bigger, brighter, sharper.Tune into the background sounds, the sensations you feel, are there and smells or flavours which bring the movie to life? “Vision without action is merely a dream. Action without vision just passes the time. Vision with action can change the world” JOEL A. BARKER
- 37. SMART GOALS Use SMART to create a goal you really want and believe you can achieve
- 38. •S SPECIFIC Exactly what is it you want? Imagine telling a 6 year old! Detail. Be clear •M MEASURABLE What has to happen? What do you have to see /hear /feel to know it has been achieved? • MEANINGFUL TOYOU Is itYOUR goal, or things you think you SHOULD set? •A AS IF NOW Express in present tense • ALL AREAS OF LIFE More fulfilling, goals in all areas of life •R REALISTIC & RESPONSIBLE How realistic is the goal for you personally? What degree of certainty do you have that you can make this happen? It has to be 100%, otherwise you have a limiting belief. Is the goal good for you, others and the planet? •T TIMED precise time – day, date, month, year for achieving the goal. • TOWARDS focus on what you WANT, not what you don’t want.
- 39. Key questions to ask yourself about the goal: Begin by asking yourself: “How is it possible that you haven’t achieved this yet?” 1. “What specifically do you want?” 2. “Where am you now in relation to the outcome?” 3. “What will you see, hear, feel, etc…, when you’ve achieved this?” 4. “How will you know when you’ve achieved this?” 5. “What will this outcome get for you or allow you to do?” 6. “Is it only for you?” 7. “Where, when, how, and with whom do you want to achieve this?” 8. “What do you have now, and what do you need to get your outcome?” • “Have you ever had or done this before?” • “Do you know anyone who has?” • “Can you act as if you’ve already achieved this?” 9. “For what purpose do you want this?” • “What will you gain or lose if you have it?” ⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯ • What will happen when you get it? • What won’t happen when you get it? • What will happen if you don’t get it? • What won’t happen if you don’t get it?
- 40. Future Time-line
- 41. This is a practical, guided exercise best done live. Alternatively stand with your eyes shut, facing the direction where you think your future is. Take a moment to imagine achieving the goal. Breathe into it and notice how it feels. Then turn and face towards now. Imagine a connecting line. Walk down the future time line towards now, noticing the steps and changes which have to occur as you get closer to now. You should be able to identify key steps, and be clear on the first step to take from now. When you get to now, open your eyes and turn back to face your future timeline and the achieved goal. Breath 3 deep breaths, see those steps, feel how you would when it is done. Future Time-line
- 42. Dream Board
- 43. This is a fun, creative and practical exercise! Get out your lifestyle magazines, glue, scissors and large piece of card. Spend some time, around half an hour or more, flicking through the magazines, cutting out pictures, phrases or words which stand out for you, which draw you in and connect with your dreams, the things you want in your life. Stick them on your card, get as creative as you like. Use stickers or glitter, whatever you like, and really have fun creating your DreamBoard. Once done, stick it on your wall, somewhere you will see it everyday.Take a picture of it and save it as a screensaver. Dream Board
- 44. INSPIRE MAKE A DIFFERENCE CHERISH LOVER BUSINESS MOTHER WISDOM TRANSFORMATION BOLD CREATOR GIVE BACK EXPLORER FRIEND TEACHER CHARISMA SERVELAUGHTER RICH
- 45. Dear Darling...
- 46. Now write a letter from your future self to the you of now, telling yourself how wonderful your life turns out to be. Really let go, describe in full detail where you live, who you are with, how you fill your day, how you feel living this life. Advise your younger you, reassure him/her it will all be ok. This can be quite an emotional exercise.That’s ok. Really connect, be vivid and make it real to you. Keep the letter somewhere safe and read it whenever you need it. If you want to share and read it out to someone supporting you on your journey, go ahead. Dear Darling...
- 48. Wow! You did it! How are you feeling now? You did well!! We covered a lot of deep processes and if you followed through and played full out, you should be wanting to blast out the happy music around about now and bust some moves!! Go hug a friend! CELEBRATE!!! You have created your goal! Yaaa!! Now work with the natural universal laws and start noticing what comes into your world to support your goal. Do your bit by taking a little action every day towards what you want and feel how it would feel to accomplish it. Have patience, be consistent and be grateful for all you already have.
- 49. NEXT STEPS • I’d love to know how you got on with this workshop, in this slide format! Please do let me know what you loved, so I can deliver even greater value next time! • Keep in touch and check out more free stuff, or work with me! Go to www.goodnessgorgeousme.com • Post your goal/s publically, declare it! • Here’s a reading list to keep you inspired: • Your best year yet - Jenny Ditzer • Feel the fear and do it anyway - Susan Jeffers
- 50. Why are you here? What are your outcomes? Take a moment to write down what you need to do to make this the best goals workshop you can make it be. Before I go, a moment’s reflection. Were your objectives met?
- 51. I hope you lovedThe Ultimate Goal Creation Workshop as much as I did creating it. Please do let me know how you enjoyed it. For more information contact me, leaving a comment on: http://www.goodnessgorgeousme.com/contact and invite your friends along to join the workshop too! http://www.goodnessgorgeousme.com/goals To your goodness and your gorgeousness, Your Coach, Farah
- 52. Success doesn’t just happen. It’s a by-product of effort, commitment, endurance and obligation to others. www.goodnessgorgeousme.com